Drea Nicole
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I went on a rampage. You got to go on that rampage. What you mean the rampage? I know what you mean about a rampage. Look, he took. Bitch, I was... It was fucking... Couches. The woods? The woods? Yeah. Oh, my God. Lord, I got woods. Girl, no, I was living in North Carolina. It was like a little... This way, we was in the woods. And...
He said, uh... Oh, for real? Oh, it got big.
Oh... Yeah. You know what? Yeah. You want a silent shot? They do. And people always say that the G-Spot is in your... It is. It is. Oh, it is. A real? It's up in there. Why you asking us? I don't like all that. You don't like it? You don't like a little butt play?
We gonna get into that later.
Oh, baby. I didn't get into it. We got Santana. Santana. That's right. When that song dropped, I was in Miami. I was like, you ain't f***ing me for free. Why you lying?
Take a shot if the... 50 shades of gray, what do that mean? What is that? The BDSM. BDSM.
You know what I'm saying? I'm going to have to see it in my head. What about the little nip... They have, like, the nipple... Nipple clips? Yeah, the nipple clips. I don't think I would like that.
Because I'm hard. My nipples sucked hard. Ooh, okay. Yeah, don't be too rough.
I don't like all that rough stuff. They got to be sensual.
Honestly, though, I can't take a shot or not because I... Honestly, I don't know. Do you ever feel like... Ooh. Do I feel like a guy I was dealing with once? Yeah. Do you ever... My best friend will just call me right here. Ooh. Carisha. Oh, hello. We said hi, girl. Come on the show. Let me see the scene. Girl, this is too messy. It's too messy. Because why would you ask that?
It's just a take a shot if you f***ing with a man and f***ing with another man and all that, girl. Wait, I got to ask you something.
I'm telling you about the Poor Minds podcast. We playing Risha Roulette, girl. Telling all about your business. Ooh, I'ma call you back, boo. Now you're calling out his name. She's too messy. She's too messy. Again.
Hula, hula, hula. I'm Hawaiian. You know what, though?
Well, I don't know. But I've definitely had relations with a man who I thought he was bisexual. Absolutely. For real? Yeah. But honestly... Was you okay with it? It didn't bother me because it wasn't... I don't want to offend anybody, but it wasn't a situation I was taking serious. I'm like, okay, we having fun. You go have your fun because I'm having my fun. We're not, like, locked in like that.
So if you like a little bussy play, go do what you do, bookie. I appreciate that because a lot of girls do fuck with bisexuals and act like... Like, they don't want to, like, claim it. Yeah, yeah. Because I got an ex-boyfriend. One of my ex-boyfriends is bi. Mm-hmm. He f*** with... He likes, like... Oh, what's his name from... Who? Tyrone? Well, no, I was talking about Zayl. That was not bye.
It's crazy. I want to get back to that, like, my next project that I'm doing. Uh-huh. I'm naming it Back to Basics.
Oh, okay. Bye-bye. Trick me. So, um, what's next? No, Tyrone... Bye-bye-bye-bye. Tyrone is like... He's like, I'm like, well, I don't know. When, when, when, when they in jail, I never see no... Okay. I don't went through that phone. Mmm. I ain't see no... Okay. When I went through Tyrone's phone, there's transgenders in there, and there's... Okay. That's the busiest. He like it all. Um, who?
Tyrone was before him. Tyrone was like one of my first boyfriends, like real hood. So, very much Trey when I first started dating him, but it was so sickening to me because he was like the Trey, but he wasn't. Like, I'm all with him. He was here around my waist. I was like, what? But, so, when I was with him, I really seen, like, he really still does date girls.
If he don't hide, you know, the fact that he Still with him. Yeah. Like a couple of months ago. So they knew what he was on. A couple of months ago, probably like earlier, like in the summertime, he was up here visiting me and I was cooking for him at home and I was on live. And one of the girls that, he live in Jacksonville, one of the girls that he with, I guess was on my live and was like, oh,
Because I want to go back to, like... Where you started from. To my fun, like... Yeah. I feel like now, like, when I be rapping, I be popping in and burping Chanel and... But I just want to go back to saying, like, my girl... Who the... Think of that?
You with Santana? Girl, she went and busted windows out of his house. Mood. I'm like, yo, you have a gang of shit going on.
But I know bitch really be that's buying. Yeah, I have a friend, she only dates bisexual men.
Because she's bisexual and she says she just feels like they understand her more. Uh-huh. So it's easier for her. Okay. So she just only dates bisexual men. Yeah. But I feel like a lot of times women, like y'all be, I'm not saying that you have to or don't have to, but a lot of times y'all be messing with bisexual men. Y'all don't know. They don't even know it anyway, so shit.
Might as well be cool. Okay, last one, then we gonna get to the drink. Okay. Take a shot, because this is childish. And because I know nobody but Shay picked these. Take a shot if you shit on yourself. Uh-uh. Well, like a little... Y'all ain't never like... Like a little sharp. Yeah, like when you, you know, doing the business. Like if you think it's a... Wait, what?
Or maybe... Like when y'all... Oh, uh-uh. Or what if you think it's a poop and then it's like... Why you... No, just period. I feel like everybody that did a little sharp in there, but like a little... You running, you... You trying to make it to the... Oh, my God, man. Shut up. You were just talking about that. Ain't nothing like... Well, you're running... And don't let it get close to home.
Yes, girl. As soon as you... Girl, yes. I feel like everybody done did that. Like, you barely made it.
So, you might have a little skid mark. You got a little dookie in there. You got a little skid mark. A little dookie in there. I love these people. Got a little skid mark. I feel like everybody done did that.
So, you never did that? I just said I done been sick before. You sharted. I'm going to regret telling this story. Tell it anyway. Let me tell y'all what happened, because I got tipsy already. Let me tell y'all. It wasn't me, though. So the guy I was dating, this was like, I thought this was going to be my husband. I was like 20. We living together. So I used to buy these granola bars.
And y'all know granola bars are already high in fiber.
He smashed that whole box, because we used to be smoking or whatever like that. Yeah. He smashed the whole box. So then he got sick. Like, he had the runs. And I was telling him, babe, if you feel like you have to fart, just go sit on the toilet because you're going to fart, you're going to think it's a fart, you're going to shit on yourself. And I kept telling him that. So he was like, okay.
He was like, oh my God, you right. Every time I think I got to fart, I end up shitting, whatever. So we go to sleep that night. All of a sudden, I hear... All of a sudden, I hear... Huh? You say what? He got a fart.
Yeah, like... Build up for my... Yeah, like, if you feel... When you have... When you have diarrhea, when you have the runs, you feel like you have to fart, but it ends up, like, you're going to the bathroom. Okay. So, I kept telling him that. So, all of a sudden, like, I'm sleeping. I hear, oh, my God. Oh, my God. Y'all, I woke up. This man was in his sleep. You know when you sleep and you...
It was all over my leg. It was everywhere. Oh, it was everywhere. On your leg? It was all over my leg. Like, literally, it was everywhere. He was just like, oh, my God. How much dookie did he have? Girl, please. That's on your leg? It's crazy. Girl, Doodoo Brown. I was in a heart attack. Get out. That's when I knew. I would have all hit up in them sheets.
Because you always had the mindset.
Javi, we naming this episode Doodoo Brown. It was so bad. So I think actually that's probably as bad as being on yourself as being like, it was so bad, y'all. I was like.
Yes, and he was so, and I was embarrassed. It was awkward. He was embarrassed. But, I mean, we were deep in our relationship at that point. But he probably was sleeping a couple of times. I woke up on the third one. I didn't think about that. He should have come first. I was on the third one. Imagine when you were sleeping, you farted and just let him out. Yeah.
But I like the fun raps. Yeah. I think, like, the Birkin and Chanel raps are phenomenal. Yeah. Because when you had that Red Bull freestyle, it don't. Yes. Like... I did. Your key game is not to be messed with. Thank you. But I will say, like, that first project that you dropped... Oh, what a shisha. What a shisha, yep. What the f*** name? Keisha. We used to be on that project.
So he probably every time... He was like, oh, I'm in the free. I'm in the free. Like, I did it. Hold on. That's love right there. No, that's really love for real. That's real love. I would have never... I would have got my
Cause they not gonna let me let us down.
That's love, though. Okay, okay. We gotta get into the first topic.
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And, like, she just always seemed to get the short end of the stick. Yeah, but even if he lived that long, how many hardships he had during all them years. Was he lonely at the end of his life from being a terrible person? No, he had six kids. Yeah, you got kids. I mean, yeah, your kids, so it's kind of unconditional, but... Yeah. Did you really have family? Was you really happy with yourself?
So, I feel like karma is real. Whatever you get... You know why I feel like karma is real? Why? When I used to boost. Ooh! When I used to steal... I used to steal, but it was awesome. I always, like... This, I got to pay this. I lost this. This happened. This happened. But, bitch, I'm boosting, and I'm still, bitch, I ain't paying for shit. Girl, everything in life was free. Right.
If it could fit in our purse, it was going. Yeah. We at the tie shop, bitch, everywhere. Tie shop, stealing ties is crazy. Girl, whatever could fit in this purse, it's going. Yeah, yeah. So, literally, we was walking around, life was free. Yeah. Yeah. But it was so many hardships that I was like, I'm just going to stop stealing. Yeah. Because you felt like you was getting your karma.
Because I was getting it back. And I never stole from people. But a department, a store, anything we feel like is a company or like, you know, like, I feel like stealing from somebody else, stealing from a person is more personal.
Dog, we used to run that project. I was just literally in the studio. And, um... You know I'm getting ready for the vibe.
tearing down the mall, tearing down the... This is reparation. Y'all got a budget for... Yeah, they do. Laws, prevention, and all that. You all right.
But I remember... Back in the day. We did, and I used to always be like, you know, we live a free life. We don't pay for nothing, but... In real life, it was coming back. Yes, it was just always something. It was just always other hardships. I was like, I just want to stop stealing. I was glad that I became so popular and famous that I couldn't steal. No more.
Because everywhere I went, I remember one time. Your pictures was in the stores. Yes, we was walking around the mall. I was with my mama, and my mama was like, why do the security? Girl, because I tear this mall down. Yeah. They just never could catch him. They could never catch him. But they know when they see me coming, watch that. My picture used to be in Old Navy. In the back, yeah.
Oh, my God, kids had school. Old Navy. Y'all childish. Y'all childish. High school, my picture was in Old Navy. I'm not going to lie. I do not believe in karma. You don't. I don't. I think when bad things happen to you or whatever, it's just life is lifing. I truly believe that there are people who do horrible things to people and they do not reap the benefits of it.
I'm like, okay, where my lip at? What is that? Hey, what a shisha. Yeah. And you was like, ooh. What a sound. Bars. What a shisha. Looking for a thing. Keisha. And I was going to say looking for a thing named Carisha. Ooh, that would have been cute. That would have been cute. I was like, let me just say Keisha because Keisha just get a beat. Get a beat. Yeah, it do. It do. That's Keisha.
I think sometimes it be a good person that lives a good, perfect life and bad things be happening to them because it's life. So say, like, you have a woman who got married to a man or a man that got married to a woman. They have an outside baby and everything is horrible or whatever. Right. that person can move on with their life and nothing happens to them for the rest of their lives.
Or, let's say 10 years later, that person remarries and somebody has a baby on them. I don't think that's karma. I just think that's life because that happens to good women or good men all the time. It does. But I'm happy on you, Rick, what you say.
I feel like life gone... Life gone live.
I just feel like life just lives. Life is gonna life regardless, but I feel like you gonna get out what you put in. Right.
And give me his bed back there, because when we got back there, it was a little bitch. A pallet on it? And a pallet. Girl, I said. A pallet and a what? And a little bitch. Hey, how many people you bought back here?
Like, to me, that shit is malicious.
your homegirl's perv. Yeah. Like, I never gave that. Yeah. Because to me, that's malicious intent. And it's not that we advocated, because I feel like we got to be clear when we say these.
Yeah, keep your hands to yourself and stuff.
We're not saying boosting is okay.
Like, okay, like you said, the example you used, you walk up in a millionaire's house, whatever, you hold up a gun, and then the repercussions of that is, like, you're going to jail or you're getting charged, but that's what happens when you move like that.
But you don't even know what... You don't even know what people going through that you don't see. Yeah. Like you said, you could see from the outside looking in, it may look like they happy. A bitch might wake up every day and hate you. Miserable. Yeah. And you don't even know it. Mm-hmm. Because she making it look good online. Because she making it look good. Mm. Yep.
Thick Keisha from, you know. So I was like, let me just say Keisha. So let's start with the music. Would you say music is your first love? Um, no. I, um, I didn't even, I never had dreams of, like, being a rapper or anything like that. I always was just witty and had a way with words. Yeah. Um, growing up to me, my daddy used to rap, like, when I was a kid.
So I'm like, I'm such a person. And now look at me. I hate myself every day when I wake up. Well, you don't know.
You ain't never at peace.
And the peace of mind is priceless.
I still don't believe in it.
No, I learned that stand when my grandma used to get up and nag every day. I used to say, I got to get out of here. Yeah. You about to run me. I was fresh out of high school. You keep running me. Hush. Hush. Old people just stuck in their way. Yeah. I got to get out of here. Yeah. To run me up a wall. I got to go.
Yes, girl. I'm making a square up with my grandma. I got to get out of here. For real. Yes, girl. For real. Man, me and my girls used to be laying. My grandma used to be like, for real. She's just too old and miserable. For real. You used to be telling people that. Girl, yes. We used to be laying. My grandma. Oh, my God. It was so fun.
I remember like, okay, first of all, but Ty, what are we drinking? Yes.
I like that. I'm going to break with Carisha, please.
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All my homeboys used to rap in high school. I used to think music was a joke. I'm like, if you ain't Drake or Lil Wayne or somebody, like, boy, I know so many in the hood. Still, when I go back home, they be like, you... Yeah, you the rapper. I grew up with Homeboys in high school. They used to be rapping. They used to be shooting their videos and everything.
I want to get into something before we get into the second topic.
When you went on College Hill, first of all, I watched the season. Of course, it's Carlos. Star of the show. Shout out to Carlos. Did you see Carlos out there? Yeah, I did when I came in. So, you definitely, like, made it interesting. Star of the show. I feel like between, like, you, Carlos, and Nick, that dynamic was hilarious.
Like, so, you're supposed to be there for school. I did go to school. I want y'all to know that y'all are watching TV.
We were in New Orleans for 30 days. Y'all only seen eight episodes. Okay. So, I did go to school every day. Every single day I went to school. Mm-hmm. I did not go to every class.
You would miss the morning class. Yes. And it's able to, 30 days into eight episodes, it's able to edit like, that never in school. But I did go to school every day. But I did go to the club every night. Okay. And so, you know, sometimes those little first and second periods, girl, I didn't make it. And I just felt like, I just wanted to give a different experience.
Some people, I grew up with strict parents. Mm-hmm. Very strict all the way up until you graduate. Yeah. You know how many kids grow up with strict parents and when they get to that freshman year of college, they bust their a**hole loose.
Exactly. Like that. They bust loose. It's frat parties. I'm smoking. I'm drinking. I'm skipping class. I'm cussing the teachers out. Nobody can call my mama on me. Ain't no parent-teacher conference. Kiss my ass.
That was my... I gave that freshman experience. It was enough prunes on there to be serious. Who you didn't like? You know all of us was like family.
They sat us down and said, y'all need to fight. Because we was like, we bonded. But you was mad about the baby. Yeah, I did cuss that out about my mother's baby. Because you know why? They had my baby. I'm sorry. They had my baby in my head. I had my plan. Yeah. I said, I'm going to be a single mom. So when I'm not going to class and stuff, I got kids. Because I'm taking care of my kids.
You know what I'm saying? I had everybody watch my baby. They hid my baby. Like, day three. I said, oh, y'all want to do bad girl snub? Let me know. Okay, okay. That makes sense. Because we can really get out there.
Y'all want to f*** with me? Yeah, okay. I see what you're saying. You supposed to hide your baby day 17 and stuff like that. Well, I don't think you supposed to hide your baby at all.
But I feel like you so witty, though. Like, how witty? That's how it started. Me and my friends had a podcast. Girl, please. This is back, like, in the days. We was on Facebook. We just used to line up in the studio and go live on Facebook. But we was like, we need a theme song. Yeah. So we ended up going to the studio and making a theme song. And we put it on SoundCloud and stuff.
But still, don't come f***ing with me. We just got here. So do you and Claudia get along or not? Yeah, now to this day, I love Claudia. Okay. And I think it was a situation to where... That's why I'm the type of person... Excuse me. I don't speak on celebrities or influencers or whoever publicly. Yeah. I'm going to call Carisha and we're going to lay. Okay. That's what we do. That's what we do.
But I'm not in shade room comments. I'm not in neighborhood talk comments. I'm not in comments inserting my opinion or anything that I got to say. Yeah, I agree. So... Um, especially when how the world is now, you know that we consume 15, 30-second clips and don't get the whole context of what the fuck we watching, but we gonna comment on them 15 seconds. Yeah.
We gonna, you gonna watch a 15-second of me saying, fuck you, bitch. And they like, oh, Santana, why you say fuck her? No, watch the minute and see what she said to me, why I said it. we don't get to see that. A lot of times, once you see a viral clip, you don't even go figure out what was the rest. You just go from there.
And so, I felt like when I had... When Claudia came in the house, I had always seen Claudia on the internet just running her mouth about me about off of clips. About you? Yeah, off of clips. Off of clips. Mm-hmm. And one of the... One of the... Clips that she has said, and I'm going to tell this to y'all because y'all girls. I was at a gay pride event. Mm-hmm.
And, you know, I'm bigging up the crowd. I'm like, you know what I'm saying? Y'all, we gays. We do this. We run the motherfucking world. We the motherfucking blueprint to this. Mm-hmm. And I could say, fast forward, blueprint, when I said blueprint, I didn't mean as in... Because blueprint is like the original. Right, right, right.
So I wasn't saying that we're the blueprint to women or to the world. But I was hyping this up because gays have a heavy influence.
Like, they don't like to give y'all that. Yes. We have a heavy influence. And sometimes... I just was watching Kiki Palmer. I seen the clip or whatever. She didn't know that gag is. She didn't know where that came from when she had first started saying it. And you know what I'm saying? Us as gays, sometimes we get hostile or... Because we like, y'all don't give us nothing. We don't get no credit.
We don't... So, anything as far as we... Yeah. I had somebody curse me out one time. They're like, you need to watch Paris is Burning and learn your history.
I said... Yes. And I did watch it.
We get a little overprotective.
You know what I'm saying? Sometimes, or even sometimes when it was time to cancel the baby for whatever he said, Gaze was like... Yeah, because it's like you finally felt like we got some type of position of power. Because we always looked at as being a gay boy for men, you looked at as, oh, you soft, you're a f***, you're feminine, you're a punk. You know what I'm saying?
Even us working in the industry, gay boys are normally the hairstylists, the makeup artists. You hold my dress, hold my heels, do my nails, you're behind the scenes. You the new boy. You know what I'm saying? You behind the scenes or you might be an accessory to... Your homegirl like, oh yeah, we want the gay boy around. He gonna make us laugh and make us do this.
And then when he pisses us off, he's... And so... Because that happens a lot. Or we can steal the lingo.
And so, I'm literally at a gay pride event. I'm talking to a crowd full of gay people. Right. And I'm just really bigging us up. I'm like, you know what I'm saying? We got so much power and so much influence. Don't never let them tell y'all that. You know what I'm saying? We ain't it. Don't ever stop being yourself. Because now, where we at today, gay is a lot more normalized. Yeah. Mm-hmm.
And I was living in Tallahassee at the time. Everybody was living for my love verse. Yes. So that was like, keep going. So I was like, okay. So I started playing around. I freestyled. To Blueface Tatiana. Okay. That went viral. So they started playing it in the clubs in Tallahassee. They wanted me to come to Quincy. Hey, Vanna, they playing. They want me to perform a song in the club.
And, you know what I'm saying, just the impact that we have that I see, like, you know what I'm saying, when it comes to 50-inch wigs, that shit that we seen from drag queens because it's extra.
It's not, the average woman ain't walking around with motherfucking, well, unless you, the people who we chopped their hair to get the bundles. Yeah. Unless you're one of them.
Yeah, yeah. Even how makeup is now. These pitched noses. Oh, I love it. All this high blush, overline, big drag. Like, it's drag. It's drag.
Um... How we getting our bodies done now? Little bit of waist that was snatched up in the corset. I remember the drag creatures stuffed pillows. Yes, and they hips and they... I told y'all, watch me. That's how we look now. Yeah. Let's take it to men.
Skinny jeans was gay in high school. Mm-hmm. Not any. Everybody had skinny jeans. Thanks. Shorts above the knee was gay. Yeah. Now you got a hoochie daddy. Hoochie Daddy shorts. You ain't lying. That was my roommate that made that go viral, Hoochie Daddy shorts. Jazz made that go viral. So it's like, I ain't stop. I'm like, but I'm like, I ain't even putting it on women. I'm like, it shock us too.
Yeah, yeah. We talking about, um, what's T? That's a money bag, yo. I remember, a money bag. I live for him. Money bag.
He says the lingo in here.
Yes, he does. It was so funny one day. I remember my daddy was like, what's to see? I said, huh? He was like, what I said? Y'all can't say that. He had a whole song called Let Me Find Out. Yeah. And so, it's giving. Yeah. Yeah. It's giving. Clock that. Yes. The shade. Oh, he throwing shade. Mm-hmm. I'm like, y'all... I said, when y'all... Do y'all know where that shit come from? Yeah.
Yeah, that's true. That's very true. So, I'm just like... I was like, you know what I'm saying? And that's all I was saying. But she took it. She took that and... Was like, oh, ain't no man with no beard and no nails finna tell me... I'm like, girl, if that's even all that what I was given, you didn't even research what the f*** he was looking at.
And so once we got in the house, I gave... We had literally the same conversation I just had with y'all. And she was like, you know what? I could understand now what you're saying. She said, all I judged you off was that clip. And... we had got cool and we were smooth sailing the whole time. Like, I love Claudia. And you know what?
Learning, being around Claudia for them 30 days, Claudia is a sweetheart and she mean well, but the shit that Claudia say, you have to know her to be like... She didn't mean no harm. That's Claudia. I'm glad you said that because I like Claudia. Me and Claudia follow each other. I have met Claudia because during quarantine... You know how you got that friend you like, girl? Yeah.
She mean, that's her.
I know Claudia is like my brother. So I didn't like that she kept calling Carlos old. They're the same age. Claudia is great TV. She's like, Carlos old. So I was like, I had to Google.
Yeah. When you go into TV world and you sit down and do that confessional and that producer say, turn it on. You got to turn it on.
I was like, oh, hold on. Let me sit down and think of something. So that's when I made Walk Him Like a Dog.
I feel like with children... Yeah. Children are innocent... And you children should be making whatever decision they want to make when they're of age. Mm-hmm. So even, like, as for myself... I wouldn't want a gay child. Really? Not because nothing is wrong with it, but because I know everything that I've been through. Right. A lot of gay people.
My child might not be strong enough to endure that, but if my child did turn out gay, I'm going to love you no motherfucking less, and I'm going to teach you how to serve these bitches. Same thing. But, you know, I feel like just even... I feel like children are children.
Whether it's showing them gay shit, whether it's showing them guns, whether it's showing them drugs, whether it's showing them whatever. They kids. That's the point of rated PG, rated PG-13, rated R. It's just about the maturity of their mind. Let a kid be a kid. When it's time for them to get old enough and start seeing these foreign shit, they'll find it. You don't have to...
I wrote that song in my bathroom. I went to Orlando and recorded it in my homeboy closet. We put it on SoundCloud July 4, 2010. 19? Uh-huh. It did a million streams in seven days. Oh, my God.
Because I think with anything on a cartoon show, I don't want to see a woman and a man kissing. I don't want to see none of that. Why would they need to see that? Because it's sexual. No matter if it's a man or a woman, two men, two women.
All of that is sexual, and it all needs to go on a children's program.
So I'm just saying, if you going, whatever the inclusivity, that's cool, but y'all need to take all of it out.
Yeah, I don't agree with that. Gay is when you're of age. When you're old enough. I remember when I was in my mom's house.
I knew that I was gay, but I was still figuring stuff out. When I was 18, I thought I wanted to be transgender. Yeah. I got off all my facial hair. I had bras, panties, everything, wigs, hair.
Yes, I cut off all my facial hair. I had one that bought me, like, three wigs. I had bras. I still wear panties. But, you know what I'm saying? I had bras, panties, everything. And then three weeks later, I was like, bitch, I don't want to be transgender. I'm just girly.
I like my hair cut. I like my nails. I like a beat face. But I'm a n***a. Yeah. But imagine if it was promoted and you seen me. And just even right now, with kids that are underage, Going transgender and whatever the case is, you too young for that. Your hormones ain't kicked in yet.
You need time. Yeah. You might think like, oh, and then it's like, oh, shit, I don't want to be this now. You got to decompress it. Mm-hmm. You know, y'all, I go deep in my TikTok holes. There's a whole side of TikTok they talk about.
You can go back, but it's just a whole decompressing. Now you was taking estrogen. Now you got to take testosterone to break it back down and all that. But I feel like all of that, I respect my mama for that now, being grown. When you move up out of here and you graduate and you're an adult... Mm-hmm. You can make your own.
Because I think that's the same thing with, like, being, growing up, like, as a straight woman and knowing, like, I like men or whatever like that. All that stuff takes time. You don't need to be having sex and doing all that stuff. You don't need to be seeing all that stuff. Because, honestly, if I could go back, yes, I would have waited to have sex.
Like I said, I think it's the same rules for gay, straight, whatever. It's a lot being pushed on the younger generation in general. That's how I feel.
Yeah. I had my mother's Aldo bag with my jewelry. And we was team. And we was team. The boy that shit on me bought me some Aldos. That's what I'm saying. And I thought I ate. We wasn't even worried about no Chanel or even feeling like we wasn't the one because it wouldn't even get right here.
But, see, JT always, like, she grew up on this.
They wear Chanel's like everyday bag.
She always wants... Yeah, yeah. I never did. I was just... I fell into it. Yeah, I fell into it. And I'm like, okay, well... Yeah, you know, gay boys got superpowers. Yeah. So, I always knew how to read it. That's what I'm saying.
The bodycon dress with the blazer. In the club. Yeah. Don't get me started on the Jeffrey Campbell without him. I used to live with my cousin Deirdre. I always tell Carisha how me and Carisha is now. That's how me and Deirdre was growing up. Deirdre was the baddest in the world to me. Storm through the club with her Jeffrey Campbell. No heel with her body. Oh, my God. 22-inch wavy hair. Oh, wait.
With the Keisha K. Orr blue lip. Oh, that was Deanna. The blue purple lip. I had a group. We was called Kid of the Dolls. I was kid, and all of my homegirls was older than me. Everybody fab. Kelsey was the first. And our city with 30-inch funnels. She had a pink Chrysler with 30-inch rims. I know that. That's right. Deanna was the, Deanna was the weird one, the blue lipstick from Kisha K. Yeah.
Deanna was the makeup girl, she not do her makeup. Deirdre was the, Deirdre was like, ah, Nicki Minaj. Oh my God. Trying to bang her, Jeffrey Campbell Hills. We had Tiffany, Tiffany come through. Great context, girl. We was raw. It was the context. I'm a gay boy with the motherfucking blonde hair. Yeah. Girl, we was raw. Oh, my God. It was a time.
Because, you know, you remember, like, and this was before, like, nobody gave a **** about social media. We just used to be outside having a good time. I used to have the lime green eyeshadow. All these bright colors. All the way to the top of your ass. Oh, my God. Way up here. And just like, yeah, I ate that. We was cutting up. It was just a good time. Speaking of being a bad bitch, though. Yeah.
Being talking shit, talking slick on the beat. That's how I looked at it. And I'm not kidding. I always said this. Like, when you first started dropping music, I'm like, y'all really not listening to him. Is he really saying something? It's so witty, and it's so cute, and it was so fun. I'm like, this is what the girls is missing.
Because that's going to bring us to the next topic. We had to talk to you about this.
Okay, so I feel like... The men that I date are attractive.
Like, I date attractive guys. Like, I feel like... She love a cute... I love a cute man that look good. But it's the difference between a man that's fine and he looks good, but there's a difference between that and a bad... Uh-huh. I think it's an epidemic of bad... That, and I'm not talking about, like, there is a man that I'm thinking about, and I'm not going to give any clues or nothing.
This man is gorgeous. Beautiful. I mean, from head to toe. He looks so good. But his attitude is like, he's a bad... Like, oh, he walks in the room, he like, yeah, I'm here. I've arrived. You know what I'm saying? Like, he wants, like... But he a straight man. He's a straight man. He's a straight man, but he feels like, I'm so f***ing bad. I'm the prize. I'm the prize.
So, I want to talk about bad... Because they're here. They're here. And they're ready. How do you feel about them since then? I got, I got, I got one of them on my roster. Okay. You do? And, and, and I had to break that down. Ooh. Like a mother. How did you do that though? Um, I'm different. Okay. So, um, and see, this is where like my boy instincts kick in. Yeah.
So, I look at how he treat the other that he talked to, I look at how they lust over him and how they going for anything. Yeah. Like, we ain't going for nothing. Yeah. So, I'm like, oh, this is why you got that, that, or because, mind you, he fine as hell. Mm-hmm. Ooh, baby, he fine as fuck. Yeah. And so, I know that he know he fine as fuck. Yeah. And then, Gassed him so he know that he's honest.
So, then on top of you being fine and stuff, the bitch is smooth, charming. Oh, that's even worse. Double whammy. Because usually bad bitches be lame and corny. Charming. And know he charming.
A vibe. And know he a vibe. Mm. So, he know he got it. Yeah. So, and then it's crash out records about him. Mm. So, I almost... You know what I'm saying? When I came... You know, when I got on the roster, you know, I get big mama when I talk to... Mm-hmm. Who? Excuse me? Mm. I don't even play that. Yeah. So, you know what I'm saying?
Because honestly, you could have a whole... You would be a multi-billionaire by ghostwriting for these girls. Yes. Seriously. Have you ever thought about that? Have you ever thought about starting to write for people? I never. I always felt like I just feel like with me being a gay boy in hip-hop, I want to accomplish everything that I can for my thing. That's fair.
I came in, and I came in like, if he got a roster, I'm at the top.
And the... You know what time it was. But... I started as, like, you know what I'm saying? When I first started talking to him, and I really like him, I'm coming in as wifey. What you be doing? I'm coming in as wifey. You're playing your role. I'm coming in as wifey because I'm a savage.
Oh, not because that's what you want to be, just because you... No, I'm coming in as wifey because, you know, when you first started talking to a bitch, I like you, I love you, I'm in love with you, you're the man of my dreams.
So, I'm coming in as wifey. I'm going to show you What you can get. And when you with me, I'm going to show you what these get.
I'm going to show you why Monday through Tuesday is five of y'all.
I'm going to show you why you just left me and you wouldn't. What happened? I thought you said you was going home. I wasn't ready to go. I've always seen that side of you. I've never seen the wifey you.
I've always seen like the saddest. I don't advertise wifey because you know what I'm saying. Okay. So, but that's how I come. Yeah. Ooh, I need to take a page from your book.
I come in as wifey. And so that's how I came in with him. I came in very much. We together every day. Can't even get enough time with him.
Because he with me. It's giving. And he's a gentleman. When I'm with him, a dollar don't leave my purse. You know what I'm saying? As it should be. And so... I'm a smart bitch, you know what I'm saying? When you make him feel good, he's going to make you feel better.
So, you know what I'm saying? Now I'm doing my little onesies, so it's like, you know, let me just, let me do this with my nigga right quick, just so the son can say. Because every time I'm with him, he makes sure I'm straight.
So I'm coming in as wifey. And then I see, you know, I always, I always used to tell my cousin, man, we have a, I call it a comfy seat. The comfy chair. So once you be with a bitch long enough, and you know, like, all right, she locked in. I got her. Now it's time to take this bitch for a ride. Oh, my God. So once I started seeing, this bitch taking me for a ride.
I'm like, oh, he like, yeah, what? And I'm very observant.
So just how he talk.
Yeah. Ain't no, ain't no, yeah.
I'm him. I'm here. I'm here. Oh, my God. So I'm like, oh, girl. So now I'm finding myself at home with Carisha. I'm like, oh. And Carisha, she's like. She's taking me down through there. Yes, and Carisha, like, not you. She couldn't even sympathize with me because she's like, not you.
I'm telling you this. I said, you know what? Hold up. Yeah. Get it back together. I went, I had stopped talking to him. It was so funny how I did it. And to this day, he don't know why. I told him I would never tell him why I did it. So y'all don't talk no more? No, girl. No, he said he took it.
Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's how I mean it again. But I, me and him was together one day. And after I left him, I just never answered my phone again.
Ever. For, like, what, a week? Three weeks. Okay. You strong. I can't do that. Oh, my God. You sound like Carisha. That's not what I'm talking about.
Before I get the sauce away, bitch. I mean, that's fair. The only person that can get a little something out of me is probably Carisha.
That's not what I'm talking about. I cannot do that. I be doing it. So, it was so crazy. But this was, like, my main. Yeah. Like, the top of the roster. So, three weeks is. A long time.
It is. It's a long time. It's hard.
Girl, it did get hard. I say I do it. Uh-huh. But it's hard. It's hard.
So I'm like, he calling, calling. She blowing me up. I'm going to ask her. Mm-hmm. He blowing up. I'm going to ask her. He texted, I'm going to say, emergency. I'm over there at my dog. I don't hear. He told you that? He texted me, like, emergency. Oh, he did?
Yeah, but emergency. I don't give a fuck.
Wait a couple days. He calling it. I ain't answering. But in my head, I'm like, I don't watch it. So then we got mutual friends. Oh yeah, he see you had posted this. I'm like, I don't care. So, it's going and going and going as three weeks over. I just come back around like, what up? So, you the toxic one.
You thought you was bigger than the program. You ain't finna treat me like that. Okay, that's fair.
So do you be right for Carisha? I have did. Like, I did her verse on Shisha. Okay. And just certain stuff, we'd be somewhere, I'd be like, or like, you know, just us being in the studio.
You thought she was big in the program? Okay. So, when I knew, when I knew that, I knew Mission Reconfliction when we started, he was like, he was like, me? Me? He said, me? He said, you did that to me? Yeah. And I said, my exact words, I said, yeah, I said, you think you bigger than the program? He was like, what that mean? I was like, nothing, keep talking.
He was like, yeah, like, I just want to did you like that. Like, he was like, out of everybody, me? Yes. You.
And he remember, I didn't even know he counted. He was like, you ain't talking to me for three weeks. Yeah, he was counting babies. I was like, ooh. I spent three 11 days. I was like, he was like three, like he was like, he was like, man, he was like, don't never do no like that. I said, okay. Yeah. I just had to, cause I know you, you, you, you had a little bad to you. You do.
That's what I'm saying. I feel like I enjoy being around men and women. Like, it's okay to know you're attractive and have confidence. But it's a different thing to be like, yeah, I know I'm fine. I know I'm bad. And I can act however I want. And I can treat people however I want. And I want to get away with murder.
I think that's why people... Period.
But I think that's why people judge, like, poor minds in the beginning. And I'll even say with Carisha. Because people always felt like, oh, she's not talented. She's just used to being a beautiful girl, having her way. But, you know, when JT went to jail, she carried...
I'd be like, no, sis, you coming like this. Hold on, I'm finna... Yeah. Hey, go spit that right quick. You know what I'm saying? Just on some best friend.
Because it doesn't matter how beautiful you are. Can you get on that stage and entertain us?
She got on that stage. She rapped. She had videos. She was on live with you.
Like, she did what she had to do, and that's beyond beauty. And then got pregnant in the midst of it and still was rocking it. Yep. And now I do want to talk about friendships. Because when Carisha stopped doing Carisha Please, and it was like, we didn't know where it was going to go because obviously everything that was going on with Diddy. And when she came back, you did the first episode.
We get caught up in, like, people get caught up in, we hood. We hood. We hood.
Yeah, but I don't be giving the sauce away, baby. Uh-uh.
Like, you dumb or something. This ain't that. And, you know what I'm saying, at the same time, you know, me and Carisha was cussing me out during that interview. And she was like, she said, you interviewing me.
Because I'm not going to lie, I do think you did an amazing job. Uh-huh. But I feel like it was a lot of stuff, like, that's why when I watched it, I watched them full. And at the end, I'm like, hmm. Because I, Santana, you be going in. So did you do that interview as her friend? I did the interview as the interviewer. And... I think he gave it. No, he did a great job. Of course that is my friend.
So... You know what I'm saying? I'm going to ask you everything. And you're going to answer... Once you feel comfortable, as best as you can. And Carisha actually answered everything. Yeah. Everything that I asked, she answered.
She is an overthinker.
Some things got taken out.
Yes. Oh, my God. I mean, but also... And especially in that moment, the whole world turned their back against my best friend. They did. So she was scared to say Apple because everybody had... Whatever. Whatever. She's orange. Everybody had a problem. Yeah. Every mother. Oh, man. Yeah. So, like, you know what I'm saying? Like, we really got into some tea and got into some things.
And, you know, it was just like, I'm like, she was like, she's like, it was so funny. She said, Santana, for real, you acting like an interviewer. Okay. I was like, you know what I'm saying? We still at work.
Period. You know what I'm saying? We still at work. Yeah. And the reason why I asked her everything, and I want her to get it off her chest, because I went through that whole thing with her. And that's what I wanted to talk about, too. You was there, yeah. Because...
Certain things be happening, and like I said, Poor Minds is a big podcast, but it's not, like, on the level of, like, we got millions of people judging us.
And just even the LGBT part of it. Like, me being a gay boy in hip-hop and rap, this shit ain't normal, and it's not easy. So I'm like, everything I can get off my pen because if I decide to, you know, stop rapping or whatever the case is, I want to be easy for the next gay boy to get through the door versus like, oh, it was Santana and after Santana stopped rapping, we ain't seen that.
So sometimes we'll have things go on, and people will be like, oh, Drea, Lex said this. How are you standing behind her? But one thing about it, we can argue behind closed doors, but in that, we are an army front. If you dissing Dre, you dissing me, vice versa.
And keep that. Keep that. Because I grew up, like, all I did was hang around girls. And I know girls have that in the bottom of them, the little caddies. Yeah. I mean, we do. We do. Yeah, we have our moments, but we're family. Keep it strong. Keep it solid.
I'm not being mean. I came outside to have me a motherfucking drink. I'm trying to loosen up. You know what I'm saying? If you know you got that little cornerstone right there by your house. My bar. Yes. My bar. I'm... in here. This is two minutes from my house. Yeah. I got no flip-flops. That be me. I got no do-rag. Right now, I got a boss in my head. Boom. I don't want to take no pictures.
So, friend, you don't ever feel bad about that? No, I'm human.
Oh, my God, can I take a picture? Not right now, baby. I'm so sorry. I look ugly as hell.
No, you don't. No, you don't. No, I don't feel good today.
But it's nice to meet you. Yeah. You can't get mad at me for that. Sorry. I need my space. I think that's a healthy boundary. My friend just went to jail the other day. That's the one who be jumping.
For a suspended license. He didn't even know. He sat in jail for nine hours that whole day.
irritated when he got out he went to a he went to one of his favorite restaurants by his house i've been in jail for nine hours i just want to eat and go home yeah and you know he eating he asked to sit somewhere secluded fans still knew he was in there and they and they want to come take pictures and i was like how you felt in that moment he was like i understood what you said he was like
I had a long day. I just wanted to eat. Yeah. And go home and just... Yeah, and just be normal for a second. And I said, and it's okay to say, I love you so much. Not today. And that's what I wanted to ask you. I've been feeling so bad, y'all. I have to work on that. Because I literally always feel obligated.
But like you said, just how humanized Carisha, you got to make somebody... You are a person still. Yeah. But that's what I wanted to ask. Imagine your grandma, God forbid, I don't know, your grandma just died or something, but you got to run area.
And that's what I'm saying. That's why I wanted to give you your flowers and really tell you, because, like, I'm not trying to be funny because you on the show. I really listen to your music. No, when you just did that, I know you do. And you be having... No, we both do. You be having the anthem. Yes. Okay. Okay, so this was, like, I can't remember.
She crazy. But say your grandma or something traumatic just happened. Yeah. But... You got to cook dinner tonight so you in the grocery store. Yeah. With everything on my mind, but I still got to, or I got to go run here or something. Anything. I'm going... You don't even know what I'm going through right now mentally. What if at home we don't know? Every day you go home depressed.
You don't like yourself. We don't know.
That's from poor minds. We live for you. But I could be having a bad day. You're going to give me that. You're going to give me that. Because how was that, like, being there for her doing that? Because I know it was... It was to the point where I don't know Carisha. And it was on, like, I'm looking on Twitter and I'm looking at the things that they are saying.
I'm like, bro, y'all acting like she was the one doing it. It was hard.
Who wouldn't fuck with Dee Dee? I'm about to fuck with Dee Dee. But even outside of that, you know what? You know why this was mad? Because... Whatever, whatever allegedly he did before we became, it came in. I remember when we, when she first, we used to laugh. We like, this old man Christian, how you bumping into Diddy? Yeah.
I was like laughing because he was long.
Yes, he used to call her a queen. Not Grand Rises queen. Yes. And we used to be like, ew. It was just so funny. But he treated her well. So good. Yeah. He treated her so good. And he was still dating other women, like, when she first started talking to him. And he was honest about it. He's like, yeah, you know, I got other lowest names. But my girl ain't playing. My girl's sitting in the paint.
And she washed everybody out. I said, girl, ain't nobody but you left, babe. Yeah. But she was mad because that wasn't her experience. Mm-hmm. He never put... First of all, Carisha has been through domestic violence twice. So that's not even something that... He plays with. At all. He never put his hands on her. Even, I remember she got so mad trying to sell that card game.
Do you like going to showers? And she said, yeah. And I remember her mama cussed her ass out. For real? Yes. Why? She was like, girl, what the fuck you talking about? And Carisha have never had to go to shower. She just, I'm on my show. Let's make a viral moment. Yeah.
I was in Miami, like, some years ago, and they was, like, literally on the ox. I'm like, oh, y'all ain't heard nothing yet. And then I put on that song, and I'm not... Everybody was like, okay. I'm like, yes, you can really rap.
You know what I'm saying? But... I can honestly say, even, like, being around, he was so loving to her, and he treated her so nice and so well. But you just had no idea? Whatever that he could have done before, it didn't give that. It wasn't that way. I didn't see that. I wasn't in no mother freak-offs. I wasn't forced into no mother drugs. I don't know. Y'all see how we was living? Yeah.
I was happy. I was having a ball.
Do you know how much they used to piss me off?
Girl, I used to be on YouTube like, hell. I'm like, first of all, I don't even motherfucking play that. We ain't doing that. We ain't doing that. Okay. We ain't doing that. And Carisha ain't fucking with nothing that's gay, baby. She don't even play that. Okay. So it was just like, I'm just like... And that affected me. I'm like, that's corny. Why are y'all saying that I'm f***ing my best friend?
Like, come on. What is we doing? I'm not f***ing with you, T. Like... Yeah, but I'm not... I was f***ing with you. Yeah, but I'm not f***ing my best friend. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Because he is out here. So, I do want to talk about... But, you know, I'm not giving it. Yeah. Um... Like, the aftermath and the backlash she got because you are still wrapped up in that drama. You in academics. Uh-huh.
That started because you were taking up for her.
And, like, you was willing to take a bullet because you were like, she not a nigga, but I am. Mm-hmm. Type. You know what I'm saying? I've always been. Right. So, how do you feel about, like, you kind of like her, I don't want to say bodyguard, but in that situation, she has men with mics. We all know how... Men with mics, they be like, oh, put the mics away.
So men with mics were so powerful and they were so vocal about her. But I think a lot of the backlash she got was because how she looks. I think when women look a certain way, things are harder on them, especially as a black woman. Because I think, and I want to be careful with my words here, but I do want to say, I think a lot of the backlash Carisha got was because you a hood from Miami.
So I just want to give you your flowers and say, don't stop. We need that music. Because you are going to open so many doors because you actually can rap.
You're not supposed to be on a yacht living this life. That's what I said. So it was like, how dare you have the audacity to dream this big or do this big? And then even when people used to be like, ah, you thought she was up here. That girl is paid. Yeah. The deals that she starts, baby. Karisha go and buy brand new cars and don't even post them for y'all to see. Right, yeah.
That's for my best friend right quick. Right. Period. This is going to go by crocodiles and all this other shit. Don't even post it. Yeah. So do you feel like she handled the situation like she was supposed to? I feel like she could have been more vocal, but that is just Carisha. Yeah. I got to prove to y'all, I think what you want. Whatever I say. When we did the interview, everybody got so mad.
I said, how are y'all mad at her about the truth?
Of the truth. No, y'all mad at her truth.
Y'all mad because y'all wanted to say, oh, he beat me. No, he didn't. Sorry.
It doesn't take away from what he has done and what we have seen.
People wanted her to say what they wanted to hear. I agree. People wanted her to say because even... It was just so funny. Like, even to this day, and I don't know what he did in the past or whatever the fuck. I don't know. But a lot of things that I see was making weird comments, show us around. Mm-hmm. And then it was them show at them parties. I mean, we saw what he did and we know what we did.
I think there's a lane, like, not everybody wants to be a deep conscious rapper. You don't want to do that.
It's there in black and white. Like, we know who this person is at this point. We only saw the video of him in that hotel. All of these other things that people keep saying still to this day is not proven. They keep denying the bail, but nobody's bringing no evidence. Like, it had got to a point where you could wake up and say, Diddy did this to me? And it was set in stone.
But even still, when I started seeing people started lying on Carisha and started saying she did it, I was like, I said, oh, I said, so this is a trend now. Yeah. Yeah. And that's why I said, I'm not going to lie, I never defended any. I think it's unfortunate that she's just been associated.
Leave her alone because now I'm like, oh, it's just a trend. I could say, well, since you was the girlfriend, I could say you did this. They put Carisha Cousin in it. Somebody said the cousin. Yeah, I remember that too. So, I don't know, maybe being on our side, it's like, wow. Yeah. And you know how the internet is. You see a comment a thousand times, you believe it.
And that's really my vibe. Yes. I like turned up, see? I like turned up music. And make the girls feel good. And turn up, baby. Yes! Man, so yeah. Okay, so I want to get into the friendship that you and Karisha have. Uh-huh. Because I feel like that's how I was introduced to you, by, like, y'all be going on live. Yes, y'all be going on live. Y'all be going on live.
If I post a picture and a hundred comments say I'm ugly, you're going to be like, oh, he is kind of ugly. I'm going to start thinking I'm ugly. Because I saw it so much. And so I just felt like she was just mad because her honest to God wholehearted truth was not what may have happened to previous women he dated or whatever the fuck that could have been in the past.
The nigga that she met, I didn't experience that.
This could have happened to these women. We mother... That is his mother... Yeah. Yeah. You get what I'm saying? So... We don't know. Yeah. But I know that she dated at his age now and whatever he might have overcame, been through, I don't know. That was her experience. Yeah. And I respect her for being a solid bitch. Yeah.
Because you had a lot of people in here saying, you need to get your ass in that podcast and say he whooped your ass.
And not even that verbatim, but... They was telling her to, like, monopolize on it, basically. You need to... Basically telling her, you need to say what people want to hear. Yeah. And I'm not going to lie. I do, and I agree... Let's start right there. I agree with you on that because I got into it with my friend about this. I do think they... I don't know, because that's your friend.
I'm not... So I do think they had a real relationship, but at the time... Diddy realized that was a PR move. Diddy is Diddy. Yes, we know that. But he was in the blogs every day when him and Karisha were dating. It was a business move for him. So I think her experience and what she went through is like, okay, this man, nobody was drinking Deleon. You need some more friends?
Nobody was drinking Deleon. Let's be honest. Like, we weren't. But, like, you know, she started posting it. It was like she was a walking billboard. So I think, like... I think initially, yeah, when he seen Carisha, it was like, okay, this is City Girl. She young, hot. Because it started from P-Party. And they took a picture.
And then the picture went viral. Once he started dating Carisha... He fell in love, but he fell in love. Yeah.
And I feel like he just wasn't so... And I wouldn't even say it was a PR move, but of course, that's just like, you f***ing with a n***a, that's a billionaire. Yeah. I know I'm going to reap the benefits. Right. So, I got a lip. Ask any n***a if you want a lip. Yeah. Especially, you a billionaire, you a legend. Right. I want me a lip. So, you know what I'm saying? One hand, watch the other.
We laughed. I told y'all, we used to laugh and be like, oh, my God. This all been great. Like, you know what I'm saying? But it was like, yeah, I didn't want him a lit bitch. You know what I'm saying? Okay, but let me ask you this. Do you feel like, because I know what she said on the pod. Do you really feel like that relationship is what was like the ultimate demise of City Girls? No.
So is there anything, like, you've ever said on live where you was like, oh, my God, I shouldn't have said that? Like, I embarrassed my friend, or she embarrassed me? Um... No. We literally treat live like... It's like a FaceTime, I guess. Yeah. And y'all just there. Have we ever said anything that you, like, regret? Like, that went viral or something, and you was like, ooh, I don't like that.
You think it was problems before that? No. Diddy, that wasn't that. Girls, it's girls. That's what I just told y'all. Yeah. Girls, it's girls. And then you got to think both for them. Had it going on. JT over here with her. She got a rich rock star. She over here with Uzi. Karisha over here with her. Like JT lived in LA. Karisha lived in Miami. They don't go to the studio together.
People's style changed up. JT is more Rick Owen and just real emo, edgy. Karisha is very, you know what I'm saying? See through. Fashion girl. Fashion girl. Yeah, like... Yeah. And so, Carisha just went to JT's birthday party yesterday. Okay.
I wanted to hear that. Like, you know, like... Yeah. We family. Right. Them sisters. I ain't gonna lie, though. If Drea moved... You just... Yeah, but it's like... Not that I'm your neighbor. No, if Drea moved with her and you got your here... I'm... I need my friend.
I couldn't wait to move next door to you. Yes.
But I'm about to move to her building with my lease up.
I'm going to move into her building with my lease up anyway. Every time I walk out to the pool, I be looking up at your window.
It's real. I love you, girl. It's two people on this earth that I'm obsessed with. It's Dre and my sister. But that's me and Karisha all day. For real. You see, we sit here. She was already calling my phone. What you doing? Girl, what? Karisha, I just told you. I better go do a podcast. If Dre don't answer my phone calls, I'll call, like, three or four times. She be like, Legs.
Yes, Clarisha will start texting to say, Santana, for real, you ain't here for me. Period. Because I'm finna have a crash out. And that's so fucked up because I can't take no time to myself. No. No. Clarisha watched my location, cussed me out when I'm at the club. She knows if this, oh, you at this, it say you at this address, oh, you at that house.
Oh, it say you here, oh, you at that, where that nigga work at. Oh, you here, oh, yeah, you at Taranga City, oh, you...
Because you trying to lie to me. And that's why now you don't know where the fuck I'm at. I'll go up and be like, can I go up to the ninth floor?
I don't. It be pissing me off. Because I was like, it's getting too creepy. Because I said, she said she was leaving. Why is this location still right here? Thank you. Us. Don't play with me. Like, no. What's up, y'all?
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So we have been on this train of talking about, like, pussies.
We have. So the clip we just posted today that Shay told us, except we were talking about pussies, we talked about pussies with Supa. But I wanted to kind of talk about something different. Because I feel like a lot of times we've been talking about, like, you know, the gay topics and things like that. We're going to get into the busies. Don't get into it.
But I do want to ask, is it offensive when, like, straight women or people be, like, asking men if they're, like, a top or a bottom? Like, is that, like, something that's, like, rude or offensive? It's not. No. So, are you talking about him? Um, I don't, I don't really, I don't really like to, I don't really like, I wouldn't really say the, the, I don't get into the label thing. Okay.
No, I don't think we never... We never had, like, none of those moments. We just... And I guess that's already our culture, too. Like, us being from Florida and shit, like, we just go, you know what I'm saying?
I feel like, um, okay, this is the thing, because I don't, I don't give a fuck. Okay. Um, I would, in, in, in a relationship, like, I would be the bottom. Okay. Hmm. But I don't like to get fucked.
Exactly. But, 9 times 10, I don't want to talk about it either. Why, bro? Because you a man. So you like manly men. Yeah, like, I like, like, my niggas is niggas. Okay. But, you know what I'm saying? I'm grown now, so all gay boys got a little sissy in them. Yeah, yeah. My ex-boyfriend, D, used to wear purses and wear, like, put, like, little natural makeup on.
Zell used to have a blonde dress, too, as well. Everybody gay. Yeah. Yeah. But I look at my as my man, my man, my man.
So ideally, I don't want to fuck you in your ass. But I don't feel like all it. It hurt too bad. Oh my God, we was just talking about that. But Santana, I just talked about this on the last episode. I'm like an oral. Okay, that's what I was asking. So you're more of like the oral pleaser. You'll get hit all day. But you don't like doing the bending. No, girl. I will. If you have to. Yes.
I mean, I will. I will. Do you remember a long time ago when somebody had, like, an OnlyFans video and it looked like you? Uh-huh.
Oh, my God. You thought it was you for real?
I didn't think it was me, but I was so... I said, look at that beard and them lashes. You know what was so funny, though? That was me and... Karisha, first, like, big fallout. Oh. Why? Over that video? Over that video. I felt like I was JT, too. It was all us. Because I was so mad that everybody thought that was me. Yeah. I had just signed the RCA. Mm-hmm.
And we know how to talk in cold. Yeah. And even if we want to be messy, we know how to just sprinkle a little for y'all.
I didn't know what they was going to think. Because that was viral. It was. You could Google that. Yes. I was like, oh, my God. I just signed to a major label. They finna think I'm a motherfucking porn star. Like, and then... Started disrespecting me. Yeah. Yeah. I could go for a cute thing, you think, or whatever. The case is, you bad. You bad.
Started getting the DMs like, yeah, I want to fill you up.
And I'm like, excuse me? I don't even play that.
Who the fuck is you talking to? Yeah. So I was so just, I was disgusted about that. And here go Carisha now.
telling you throwing that back i'm not trying there's no way everybody don't believe it's me because my best friend is on here being funny okay i'm sorry that's not funny but it is i could have oh my god we stopped talking i think we we stopped talking and then we started we started back because it was that birthday she invited me to her birthday party that's how we started being friends how y'all
I was like, girl, I customized. I was real f***ing mad. I was so f***ing mad. Because first of all, I didn't even play cameras in the bedroom. Bitch, I'm famous. I know, that's why. Every moment of that video got pulled off. You was like, I'm famous. Yes. And that was even before I'm here now. Anything we doing in here, I promise you it's going to live right here.
I give them too much. Yeah. I feel like we like that too a little bit.
Because my definitely got videos of me. I promise you it's going to live. And see, I don't know. Gays get a little malicious sometimes. Did y'all see? Yeah, they do. I'm not going to get into that. You know what I'm saying? So I'm like, anything we do in the bedroom, I'm serving. You got to remember. You got to remember right here. Yeah. I didn't even record... So why did you and JT fall out then?
Because JT... JT was in the comments too, like... tell that you was serving. Everybody just was making jokes. I'm not laughing, but... Everybody was just making jokes about it, and I was so... You was making jokes.
I was spotting the internet. I said, I got a tattoo on my hip. Go look at the video.
We don't be going live. Because I think our FaceTimes are too messy. Yeah.
I remember actually watching y'all and I was like, oh, that's not him.
I'm like, motherf***er, look at his nails. Y'all don't know what my real fingernails look like. You've never seen me in no fingernails, so I'm gonna play that. Say hello, please. I said, if we be honest, I don't even take it. You know who that was in the video? I know the top in the video. Okay, but you don't know him for real. Okay. That's so... You know what?
I played so many games, I started talking to the top. You... After? Uh-huh. Saying, saying goodbye. Because what if he would have... I started talking to the top. Then the video would have been real. Because, no, you know what? You know what made me respect him, though?
The top actually came out and this didn't go viral because... Yeah, of course. This is a negative narrative. The dude who was in the video that was f***ing the boy was like, that's not Santana. He said, actually, this is my video somebody's thrown off my Snapchat. That's me f***ing my ex. The tea is hot. And so I retweeted him. I retweeted, hey, everybody look at this tweet, right?
They don't f***ing want to hear it. That was you. They wanted to see you throwing that s*** up. They don't want to hear it. Oh, my God. I remember this gay boy retweeted it. I was like, where is Shisha looking for a thing named Keisha? Girl, I got to f*** him. They was fucking with me about that video. They was fucking with me.
And the boy was like, that's me. And I was like, damn, I appreciate you for being a real nigga because you ain't even have to clear that up. And then he was like, hey, Buki. And then, uh, I had sex.
We be like, y'all be tripping out the shit. We say, I'm live, baby. If you get on this phone. If you seen the phone. If you get on this phone. If you get into them DMs when we sharing posts back and forth. The shade. We will be canceled. Yes. Never seen this before. Y'all ain't seen on the hill.
I was like, dude. Girl, next time I know, we was in L.A. and stuff, but... Yes.
You just, like, even here. This is... Girl, I did not say that. You did say that.
Y'all said that. Y'all said that. Y'all said that. Y'all said that. Y'all said that. Y'all said that. Y'all said that. Y'all said that. You know what's so funny? You know the type of s*** I get? What? And I love me. Uh-huh. I get pleasers.
So that's good for you. That works. It works for me. I get pleasers. You are like a pillow princess. Yes. Yeah. Okay, it gives it. I get pleasers, but I'm so thick, I do get s***. They be like, girl, you're getting s***. Yeah. I want to see that. What you talking about? Yeah. But you say you don't like it because it hurt. I don't, I don't, I don't like it.
You'll give up that pussy if it's the right one.
He goes in as wifey. He said that. And you know what I like? I like boyfriend. What's that? Oh, you like making love. No. Y'all know what boyfriend is? What's boyfriend then? Making love.
Boyfriend is the size. Boyfriend. So big definitely not boyfriend. That's not. That's not. You already know. I done had big and you are not a boyfriend.
Boyfriend is a little.
Yes. Seven, eight, nine. What's the number seven?
Nine is huge. Seven, eight. Yeah, seven, eight. Six, between six and eight. Okay, that's fair. I've never heard that. But that makes sense because I'm the same. Like, the man I marry is going to have an average size. I can serve. I can ride. What? I'm Hawaiian. I feel you on that. I do not like that. Hey, baby. I like being Hawaiian. Girl, you're breaking me down.
So, oh my God, I've never heard that term. Boyfriend. I like boyfriend. I like boyfriend. I do. I do not like a big, meaty, girthy... Like, sometimes I be having to get like... A boyfriend, you could... You could... Yeah. We could have a good time.
I can turn a car wheel. Yes. I can... Rain line. Y'all know what I'm talking about.
That is so... You can have fun with a boyfriend. So that's why I'm like, girl, a vagin- a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-
But I think it's so funny because it just is a testament to how witty both of y'all are because Carisha Please came from you being like, I'm Carisha Please. Like, that's a whole brand for her now. Yes. Like, that turned into a brand. Yes. Like, y'all left you for dead. Like, it's so many little things.
Period. Okay, so we got to talk about that. I said that pussy do get wet. I wouldn't say it get wet. It starts starting from when you get wet. And first of all, if you, as a gay boy, you need to use lubricant. I don't want to hear nobody saying that they just wake up and all that. Girl, no, it's not. You need some lube. Use that lube. Okay. Okay, it's fair.
Okay, but do y'all do, what's it called when they clean out the booty hole? What is that called? Yeah, a lot of gay boys do that. They dush the booty hole, so you're supposed to do that because you don't want to paint the town. Yeah, a lot of gay boys do it. When I first started, I didn't used to do that. What would you do? Because I didn't, I didn't, I didn't know nothing about that.
I went to my hallway to tell me, but I was like, what is that? But I just always, like, either went to, like, you know, use a bathroom or something. Okay.
You know, and, bitch, I never had no problems. But I guess I always get afraid of the residual. I never, I never, no, I never had, I could call him. Okay. I never had no residues. I never had no nothing. So what be happening when people be shitting on they self?
Once it get in there and the strokes start serving, it do feel good. But that's how you need a boyfriend.
Because, That can just be big and go deep. It go too. You and the intestines. Hitting the wrong arteries and stuff. Arteries and stuff. Girl, you're hitting the wrong arteries and all that. And the bitch probably ain't doing it. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Oh, my God. Or she probably ate some Chipotle. That's what I'm about to say. I eat Chipotle, so... Uh-huh. We gonna have another.
Okay, okay, okay. So let's move on. Let's move on. Okay, so now... Oh, my God. Wait, he... Oh, it's me. It's him. Y'all good. Let me tell you, Javi has been what I call uncomfortable. This is light work now. They done heard worse. They done heard worse. They done been to our live shows and everything. They all right. They done seen it all. They all right.
But do you, because I will say that, you're very aware. Mm-hmm. Because, like, when you did College Hill, you were, like, very aware of, like, you know, not wanting to make people feel uncomfortable and make them feel comfortable. But I'm still with myself. You're going to still be yourself.
So how do you navigate those, like, areas when you're, like, with straight men who are like, hold on, bro, hold on, bro. Like, how do you do that? So, you know, I used to, like, really be in the trap. I used to, like, really sell drugs and stuff. You did? Mm-hmm. And so, I was around. Real life. I did, yeah, I did. Santana! I was a real hood bitch.
My name was my, my, my, um, before it was, that's how I got the name Santana. Oh. One of my, um, one of my, like, you know how you got, like, in the hood, you got your cousins. He wasn't my real cousin, but, like, my cousin. Nah, this not me fear. This is my cousin. We can answer that too. We can answer that too. But, no, my cousin, his name was Rico Montana. Okay.
And Santana always like, my band, my band. My man, my man, my man. You came over here asking for my man to cook. You came over here hungry. Oh, my God.
That was just a trap name, so I was like, that's serve. I was like, don't be a trap name or whatever. Yeah. I was like, okay, mine's going to be Santana. And so it was, my first name was Sissy Santana. And so... How you came up with Saucy? My cousin gave me Saucy.
So, it was Sissy Santana. And I used to... This was back in my trap days, but I was kind of Facebook. I always been... Everybody always loved me. Yeah. So, I was kind of like Facebook popular. So, I remember one day me and my cousin, we was going to pick up... I was going... We was riding to Madison. That's where my plug was, which I'm going to pick up my little stuff.
And we was stopping at City Trends. So we in City Trends. The girl was like, oh my God, hey, sissy. And he was like, did you look at her like that? I said, what? She was like, no, you sissy Santana. I was like, oh. I said, baby, you have to say the whole thing. Like how you say the stallion. I said, you got to say the whole thing. So I call her Meg because that's my sister.
Yeah, but you know, like, you got to say the whole thing.
Yeah, okay. And that day I was like, I don't like that. I don't even like how that made me feel. Yeah. And so one day... She was ready to square up. Yeah. And so one day, you know what I'm saying? We was going... We was finna go to the club. She was like, hey, sissy. You was like, ba-ba-ba. I was like... I don't know how I said what. She was like, no, we was ready to fight.
You sissy Santana from Facebook. I was like, oh. You bragging. I said that the whole day. So we was finna get ready to go to the club one day and my cousin was like, oh, she was sassy. So it just stuck. you.
I can be saucy Santana.
But I grew up around, even before my trap days, I grew up around it. Yeah. And then being in a trap, um, something, something? Something, something. I heard something. Please try again. Oh, um, Siri, E dropped out of me. She being nosy. So, just even being around and, um, I always, I'm mean to boys. Because I'm always doing that. Oh, he was looking at me. Yeah. Like, you're not even my type.
You're not even attractive. Almost everything that I'm cool with, they embrace me first. Yeah. I don't even speak.
You can never say, oh, that punk tried to, what? I don't even.
You straight? Yeah. All right. And that's that. That's why me, Carlos, and Nick was together. Y'all carried. We was the closest. Like, when you and Nick was getting to it, and then Carlos was like, hey, man. We was known as, and then we was the bros. Because why? But Carlos is a cool nigga, though. Like, he really is.
What he said? When you say spooked. He didn't say nothing. You just don't know what I'm finna give. Okay, yeah. You see these interviews. Like, imagine if you could judge me off this interview right here and never met me. Right. Because they be thinking you're going to go in and spark it on somebody.
Yes, these long ass everything. He ain't know what's finna give. Ain't know what I respect about college. This is my highlight. I don't think they air this. This is my favorite part. Because this is a full circle moment every time I have homeboys. He was like, you a real. But they didn't hear that. Yeah. I was like.
I said, why you say that? He was like, because. He was like, you yourself. He was like, but you know how to carry yourself.
You know how. He was like, and you steal you, mother. You steal you. If you want to go upstairs and come out there with a two-piece and skirt on or whatever, you still going to do that. But... Because your pajamas, you had on. You was... Yes. I was so mad they showed me and my mother... They did! I said, BT, I'm too messy. Oh, my God! Hey, what's up, baby? We had an act. Did I see you? Hello.
But I do remember, like, because when Carlos got back, I remember I called him because I was, like, I told him how proud I was of him.
Still, a slap moment was when you was on Funny Marco's show, and he was like, yeah, Carisha said your bags was fake. You called her. You was like, oh, Carisha, you said my bags was fake. She was like, Santana, they would.
I think that he did a good job of, like, representing him, his brand. Like, he didn't... He was Carlos.
And he went on there arguing with the instructor, and people took it as him being ignorant, but he was telling how he felt. Carlos smart as hell. He is smart as... And when he being older, he wise. Right. Carlos is... That homeless thing that was eating him up about, he was right. Why don't the government? He wasn't wrong. Carlos, to me, Carlos was unk.
Like, Carlos is like one of your... All the n****s in the hood, you respect, like, that's unk. And then, like, when I called Carlos after, I was, like, giving him his flowers. I was like, oh, you need to reach out to Santana because we don't have him on the show. He's like, man. He's like, man, that's the coolest. He said that about you.
I was like, oh, it must have been, like, because I saw it on the show.
But you never really knows what goes on behind closed doors.
You always gave main character.
But that's how I got a lot of respect in the industry. When I first started rapping, you know, of course, they like, whoa. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? I remember it used to be boys and stuff, Carisha and them go around, they used to be like, you know, I'm their home, I'm, you know, they're gay friends, so they don't want to say it, but it's like, we going with the rich, but...
I'm going to call you back. Now, why you call her when you knew that, though? I don't know why I had faith in that girl that day. I was like, you said, she was like, Santana, for real. I'm like, you know what? That's the word right now. It's okay because they real now. They real now. Play with me. Clock that T. Yeah, exactly. Okay, so I want to talk about some more stuff.
You know? Yeah. And so I'm like, okay. Like, I didn't care because I know how shit be. Yeah. It is what it is. But once we started being in certain places and, you know what I'm saying, niggas was around me, started being like, oh, that's cool. And then even when we talking, um... I know all of them know. Yeah. We could talk drugs. We could talk gangs.
We could talk... Like, what you want to talk about? We could do the whole thing. I remember Gucci Mane, my favorite rapper, my manager took me to his concert for my birthday. Mm-hmm. And shout out to Reese. Reese got me on stage with Gucci.
And so when I first got up there, I had on a black A black Balenciaga soupy sweatsuit. My big yellow Rick On Shade. My yellow Chanel bag. My motherfucking makeup done. My motherfucking nails. And all the hood niggas up there. Zone 6. All the rappers, they looking like, what the fuck? We got on that stage. I rap every Gucci Mane song. Word for word. This is like, I started seeing this like. Yeah.
Okay. I'm like, yeah, what y'all thought this was? Y'all thought I was going to get up here and bust into a split? No, bitch, I'm a trap. Yeah. A real, real Gucci head. This is my favorite after since I was a teenager. What we talking about? Yeah. So it's like, you know what I'm saying? But I'm always just being myself.
You're not doing too much. I do feel like I can take accountability for us as gays. Sometimes, we do have our gays that get around Mm-hmm. Ooh, I want to suck it. Make it uncomfortable. Ooh, I want to fuck it. Horny, I want to fuck it. And it's like... Yeah. Relax, girl.
Or you just get around to it, you want to... It's like, no, be yourself. Be yourself if that's how you is. Right. But it don't take all that. We hate horny people. We always talk about extremely horny people.
Because girls do that too. Yeah. So it be on the, like, why are you always talking about, like... Why are you always so sexual? Uh-huh. So before we move on, I do want to ask you, do you feel like... Candy was coming at you because you be in these, like, spaces and you are easily more accepted. You feel like that's what it was? Jealous. Jealousy? Mm-hmm.
Because I know that wasn't the first person. Another thing that we have in our community, um, is maddening them. Okay. Well, speak on it. Uh-huh. Maddening them. Hey, you on the phone. You know what I'm saying? Um... That's one thing I love about Big Sexy so much. I love Big Sexy. I love Big Sexy. I have never seen that bitch. And one thing about me, I see comments.
When bad stuff, when negative stuff is posted about me in the blogs, I go through the likes. Yep. Who like the comment, everything, I see everything. Big Sexy, I never felt that bitch doing anything shady, no comment. Yeah. Even if you say something bad about me, Big Sexy, I'm following you.
That's why you talk about me. Yeah. And so, um, gays, we have a thing where everybody want to be mother. Yeah. Everybody want to be the it girl. Everybody, you know, it. I feel like in my career, ever since I came out, Walk Him Like a Dog is a video full of gays. Cherry Da Boom was in it. I had Cherry Da Boom in the main scene with Suki and Camellia. She was one of the main girls in there.
All of the dancers was trans, cunt girls, and feminine gay boys. I had CJ the Trainer on top of the thing. CJ the Trainer be shaking that. I had him on the top of the truck twerking. I have poetic drugs. He do? Man, what? That can really dance. This was Welcome Like a Dog, my first video. This is how I came out the gate. Yeah. My video, you ain't from a hula hoop. I'm Hawaiian.
But first and foremost, we got to play.
Have you ever seen the music video to that? Have I? The music video was at the end of the music video, it say... Black trans lives matter. Yes, yes. Black gay boy lives matter. Everything I do is for my community. Right, right, right. And so really the encounter that made Kenny not like me was because we was in the club, she had a manager at the time, and the manager asked, could she sit with me?
I said no. Well, why did you say no? Well, why did you say no, Santana? Girl, I'm the type of person, I like to be around. Me and my people. Okay, that's fair. We've talked about boundaries.
Karisha, no, I ain't going out with Karisha. For her birthdays and ritual parties and stuff, ew, it's 50 years since I've been like, y'all need to go. It's too many people. She know I'm leaving the party. See you tomorrow, call me.
When I go outside, I'm a Libra. I'm a popular loner. I would be in a club looking so weird with me and my security. I got a big... I got a big... I don't order two bottles. It's me and my security. Yeah. Everybody's looking like, you a motherfucking weird bitch. Y'all got this big sex shit bitch. Two or three bottles, there's three of y'all in here. So, I don't want to be around nobody. Yeah.
Okay, period. I know that feeling by heart. We got to play Richa Roulette with you. It's only right. Who picked these cards? Them, because they missed. I think I can tell y'all. I think so. If I can't, oh well. Richa Reloaded is coming very soon. Also, it's a new game. Someone send us a box. Uh-huh. You know what I'm saying? Okay, I'll send us one. Hopefully, I don't get in trouble.
I want to vibe with my people. Okay. I'm drunk, I can say what I want to. No, I ain't take nothing out of context. You ain't got to worry about somebody recording you.
Nobody ain't take nothing out of context. You recording ugly videos of me, girl, I ain't sucking my stomach and stuff. Move. I just don't feel like that.
And I'm not at work. Okay, that's fair. When I'm at work, when I'm at a show, when I'm at a festival or something, I post to engage and stuff. And it's no shade. And actually, because I ride for my people, I got on to her manager at the time. I said, hey, I said, when you got him coming outside, coming outside, that's your client, you call the club. Atlanta will humble you.
They don't care who you is. But, you know, I'm that girl, so I don't get humbled in Atlanta. Wherever I pull up, they, Santana, move, move, move. Start a show. Period. But, you know what I'm saying? I was telling her manager at the time, I'm like, hey, I'm like, when Shorty coming outside, you need to tell them, hey, I got my client. He was on Love & Hip Hop Hollywood.
He's on Wild N' Out currently. He's of a stature. Mm-hmm. He has status. Mm-hmm. Can we set him up a section? Mm-hmm. Also, when she asked to sit with you, she was trying to find somewhere for him to sit. Yeah, his manager was trying to find somewhere for him to sit because the club was sold out. Or whatever the case was, it wasn't a section for him. Okay. And I'm like, I mean, it's no shade.
I don't feel like all that. But, hey, you his representation. Make sure he represented when he outside. Yeah, okay. I didn't know that's how it started. That's what it was. Okay. So then that just turned into, okay, the... I don't know, you think I'm bad, I think I'm better than you, I think I'm whatever. It was just a lot. I don't know. I'm set up and I'm sanctioned. Yeah. So... It was a lot.
And I was like, ooh, I just didn't want you to respond. I didn't. I just didn't want you to respond, so... I didn't. Yeah, because... But that's good that you didn't because you already knew what it was. I did. Yeah, you did. I responded in my song, Berserk. Yeah. And I responded in Shoot Up the Club. Yeah. Because she was like, I'm a lapdog without... Karish and them. Yeah.
So I said, if a bitch feels tough, she can leapfrog. I'm grown. I can never be a lap dog. I can never be a flunky. Never been a floozy. I carry these bitches. Baby Mama Coochie. I carry these bitches. Mood. And my mom berserk. I'm like, I'm too mad because they can't get in the party. That's why you pissed off. She was mad because you getting in my 60. Okay, that makes sense.
Feed me rappers or feed me beats. Can't clock me. Audemars made this piece. I'm a hot girl giving 500 degrees ready to pop it on you. You don't want this grease. Hey, you ain't got this things. Can't jot my flow. Gotta stay behind the scenes. This is not your show. Try no glow. Bet you know. Can't first of all me. I'm the one uno. You got some captions. One. You got some captions.
So I gave it back. You ate? I gave it back to you. You didn't eat. Because I don't know, I think she thinks she like a battle basement rapper. Y'all know how to rap. Yeah. But my hits are more, let me see you walk.
Arrogant, yes. Those are my hits. Yeah. But if we want to pull out a pen, we can do that. Can we go to the studio? Yes. I can't rap or I can't. But my only thing was what was corny about it was, what was corny about it was, like, you paying the blogs to post, like, I'm like, it's not even giving. I'm like, you got to pay the blogs to post your diss for somebody to even care.
Because that's how I saw it. You know what I'm saying? It's like, girl. I'm sorry, Santana. I don't mean to interrupt you. You got something to say? She mad because I want to go to... Every time somebody sit on the couch... I'm not mad.
Okay, we love it. It's a fun game. No, I like the new one. I like the concept.
That's what I be saying. But I be like, but what are you going to do in the studio? But you know what? See. See what? In a body of work, she could be a skit. She could be an outro. We have been a skit. Y'all better look up Max O'Cream album. I've been on a skit before.
Or you could be on an outro. See? But she be talking about being in the studio on the song, on the track with you. But you'll be surprised just that I go in there and say whatever. And you'll be surprised off of four bars. I could say, oh, I'm going to slice this up in here. Now I got to hit it. You on it. I'm on the outro. See? She sent me the song. I was like, what you want me to do?
So, you like the new one better than this one?
She said, just sell out.
I was like, okay. I'm eating lamb chops in your favor. A lamb chop.
Because this one is some tea. The new one is some tea. I like it. It's fun. It's a little variety. It's cute.
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All right, bye, y'all. All right, you right. So since we speaking of music, now it's time to get into the bop. Hey.
Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow, bow, bow. So the bop is our music that we've been jamming this week, so. What you been listening to?
WizKid dropped an album. Oh. From there, Wizkid. Oh, my God. No, not, like, I love Wizkid.
Oh, my God, he dropped an album. He got this song with Jasmine Sullivan called Bad For You. And when we talk about vocalists, y'all need to stop leaving Jasmine Sullivan out these conversations. No, that bitch don't play no games. 11 years old, you can see her on Apollo. A real singer.
Because we don't have to take a shot, but you do have to take a sip of the drink. I mean, I do feel like we should take a little sip of the drink. Or I can take the rest of my shot.
Like, sometimes when she sing, I be like, oh, my God, is that me or Jasmine? I can't tell sometimes. Oh, for real? Mm-hmm. Tell them the scenes. I'm scared. Go ahead, Legs. Go ahead.
Did y'all go see Wicked?
I have been obsessed with Wicked. So, you know, we took that picture at the Media Girls event, and I had on red, and you had on green. They was calling us Glinda and Elphaba. Oh, my God. But in the movie, I want to be Alphabet. I was Alphabet? Yes, you was Alphabet. That's fine, because I think people will be thinking I'm the mean one. Facts. Yeah. You should be Alphabet. I should be Glinda.
Who's the mean one? Glinda is like... In real life? In real life? You. No. No. Dre is the nice one. For real? I would have thought it was you. I'm nice. I got humble because I thought I was a nice one until we asked everybody. It was like, Lex is the bitch.
That's why I ain't talk to nobody today. I said, hello, staff.
But I think people be thinking I'm the mean one. Ooh, speaking of bobs, Santana, why you was twerking to Tupac? Oh, my God. You know what's so funny? Let me tell y'all the motherfucking story. Let me tell y'all the motherfucking story. And you know what? That's why I love me, and I just feel like you being yourself, you can't get motherfucked. Because I must have been gone after that.
No, you wasn't, though. Because I don't think it was on purpose. No, this is why I did it. I had... It was... This was during Black Lives Matter. It was. And it was me and Cliff and our friends.
Do you got somewhere else to go after these? Girl, nowhere but to a man.
We had... When they did our signs, we had put on our motherfucking black... I think Cliff had gave me a... Max... Malcolm X, Koofy and... We had an all-black everything. I said, all lives matter on my sign. Mm-hmm. Yeah. Because everything I do, I do for the gays. Yeah. And so I know so many black transgenders that are dead. Nobody cares. Nobody solves the mystery.
I know so many black gay boys that go home and commit suicide because they bullied at school. They've been kicked out by their parents. They not love their home. They ridiculed for being gay. And so I'm coming from a place of if all black lives matter, don't forget about the gay ones. Apparently, all lives matters was the white people. It was.
So you prepping me, baby. You need to be a little tipsy. You prepping me, boo.
I ain't going to hold you on my hood if y'all don't be in politics like that. Yeah, yeah. I said, I don't know if maybe I should have said all black lives matter.
I should have put the black in there?
Okay, so. And then maybe they helped my poster was white or something. So, I don't know. All I know is I'm on the internet trying to take off for the gays. At least if you put All Lives Matter, it should have been like a rainbow flag on it. Okay. Yeah. So, I got cussed out. And I was like, I'm talking about motherfucking gays. I'm talking about the gays. I said, y'all saying black lives matter.
I said, when these transgenders die, y'all say that and that and that. That's what they get. They're freaks. They should never treat nobody. Nobody cares. When that young black gay boy go home and commit suicide because he bullied every day at school, his mama don't believe him and nobody there for them. Nobody cares. I was one.
I didn't ever think of committing suicide, but I remember in school getting drunk by boys because I was gay. I remember getting my gay bash. And I just always been a strong. But I'm just coming from an LGBT standpoint. So I said, well, bitch, you know what? Y'all need to change y'all motherfucking life. You need to change y'all attitude and change y'all motherfucking mindsets.
Bitch, I put on my Nike two-piece and I cut out a two-pie. He was dancing hard. He was like, need no changes. I wake up in the morning. You was twerking. Oh, bitch, I think I had this. It was the look on your face. Because he wasn't laughing. He wasn't joking. He was like this. My stomach hurts, so I'm looking for a purse to sleep. No, he was dead serious.
He was like, and you know, I remember my manager at the time, he was like, no. Because I couldn't believe it either. He was like, no, I said yes. I ain't deleting shit. What's up? What up? You didn't delete it. Santana, you was cutting up. Oh, no, it's still every day going viral on Twitter. Every day I would get somebody be like, y'all ain't gonna let me forget Santana.
I'm like, can y'all just let it go? No, absolutely not. Honestly, that was like around the COVID time.
So people always bring up, do y'all remember COVID? And then they'll post like the video of Santana dancing. I was a part of COVID culture. You were a part of the COVID culture. Because we was like Santana. What? I see no changes. That's the problem. Period. That's just the way it is. That's what's that move. What up? Okay, Dre, what you been jamming?
Real Houston. She went very Houston.
What you been listening to since then? Um, I feel like... Where am I? Let me look at my thing. Is this the karaoke part? No. Do you know what song you want to sing? Yeah, I saw them. That's how I was making sure. I've been listening to... I don't know if y'all know Blakey Anna from St. Louis. I don't. I heard her. Her song is... It's called Bing Bong. Okay, I'm a kind of sexy red.
But I'm listening to Blakeyana and I love Bigger in Texas by Magna Stallion. Yeah.
Childish. Childish. I don't play with rubber bands and all that.
He looks so good in that video, too.
I'm going to talk about my game. I put Carisha and I put Mitch on that song. Mitch was like, you always be doing the good music. Yeah. I just like, she was popping that. Yeah. Yeah. Because they be sleeping.
Self-made, asexual. And I'm always on point like a decimal. Oh, yeah. I'm talking about being in Texas right now. Oh, my God. I'm glad you made that show up.
Literally last night, somebody just asked me, they said, would you do a song with Megan? I said, yes, that's her. Yeah. Megan is that girl. And people don't like to give her her thing, because like I said, her thing, but come on, girl. She can rap. She's rap. I mean, she freestyles. We known for freestyling in Houston. Like, that's what Texas people do. We freestyle.
That's how I fell in love with Bonadio. I love that. Oh, Mona Leo. She's this big. She's like, I stopped the shit out of you. And bust you in your face. Oh, she's aggressive. And cut your tongue out and make you eat it. She's going crazy.
What about... Oh, my God. Yes, I did.
She got a song. I talked about it the other week. She got a song with Sauce Walker. That's so hard.
Yes. Ken the Man just dropped a new song. Shout out to Ken the Man. You know who Ken the Man is? Yes. Yeah, Ken the Man. I don't give a fuck. Don't give a fuck about it because it's just a nut. Yes!
See how quick you lie? Oh, my God. I was young. Ew, I was young. I was young. So you gave hair or you was getting it? I gave the boy hair with the condom on. But why? Just young and just like... I don't know. You know how when you young and first are having sex, it's a big thing about condoms.
Oh, that man from Houston, too?
He pop it like that.
And what was the other one? Because all them was flowing crazy. But what was the other Kappa Beach Party song? What you mean? Going to the Kappa. Oh, it was another one that came out during that time. Oh, it's a brand new dance called the Hooga Hooga. It's a brand... You remember that song? That came out during the Kappa time. I didn't know that was Kappa, though. I thought that was Dallas.
No, that was... That was Houston. Hooga Hooga. Hooga. Everybody was on... Keati was on that song. What? You know, that was a Houston song. But anyways, shout out to the girls, the H-Town girls. Yes. Y'all be wrapping y'all ass off. Per usual, item of the week, I got on my crowns of love hair. I got me a little flip over, a little one-two. Shout out to Rich Look Hair for doing my hair, but yeah.
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Okay, so we're going to get to our favorite segment. Do you feel like you give good advice? Yes. Okay. That's what I am used for all day motherfucking long. This is pour your heart out. So are we doing both questions or what? Yeah, because mine is short. Okay. So if you want your question answered on the show, make sure you email us at This says, hey, Sexy Lex and Sexy Dre.
Sexy Dre, that's a new name. I'm a 20-year-old virgin, and I just want to know, how long should I make a guy wait? Like, should I wait until he asks me to be his girlfriend, or is it cool to do it during the talking stage? I don't... I don't know when the right time is, but I really want to... He did not say that. I'm for the guy. And it's big. She said, I really want to...
You know, like, all that stuff. I'm like, boy, I ain't gonna do that. I'm protecting myself.
I think... How do you know you want to f***? Girl, that f*** get wet and tingle and stuff. Girl, you know you ready to get served. But I've been serving for a long time. I'm 35. I've been serving for 20 years. I've been serving for 20 years. I'm 35. I think that by her being a virgin, she should be a little more delicate with the virginity. Because you've waited this long.
You've waited this long. He waiting, girl.
Wild out. Yeah, but wait. That's what I did. Your first time should be special. You waited a long time? I never had sex until I was 18. Have you ever had sex with a girl? No. I did, like, a little one-two, but I wasn't considering, like, having sex. But I did go in there. You put it in? Uh-huh.
Because it was, like, girl, a little one-two. But you didn't like it? Like, it wasn't. It was cute. Okay. Y'all had a moment. Yeah, she had, like, the macaroni and cheese. Now she has that gushy gushy. And y'all got like a muscle thing. Yeah. So as I'm coming out, she... Rip that thing. Yeah, I said, hey, girl, we just playing. Santana, she was a hoe. Was she 18 too? No, she wasn't 18.
But what I was gonna say... I want that.
No, I had sex. I never had sex with... I had sex with a boy at 18. You talking about when you had sex? When you had sex with the girl, how old was she? We was like, I think like 23, 24 or something. Oh, okay. But it was my homegirl. And girl, it was a trial and error just to see what it give. Girl, you had started confusing me and stuff. I was like... You liked it a little bit.
I thought I... I like that group. Girl, it was somebody.
When I was coming out, I was like, oh. Hey. Girl, what's wrong with you? Let me up from this mic. but you been to have a baby. That's why I said she was... It was literally like two minutes. So that's why I said... Yeah, you don't count it. Yeah, but I said, okay, I can see why... I can go for that.
No, we wasn't both 18. Because you got...
That's a seasoned group. Yeah, because I was coming out, but I thought I was coming out. I was coming back in. I said, what the f***? Mm-hmm. He's looking back in. The mac and cheese. I said, oh, hey, girl, you working out? That's my girl. Are y'all still friends?
Okay. So, yeah, the virginity question. Girl, just wait. Don't rush it. Take your time. Yeah, it's your virginity. Be delicate. Now, once you fuck him, you can serve. Because I didn't start having sex until I was 18. I had sex with a boy for the first time when I was 18. And after I fucked him when I was 18, I went on a rampage. You got to go on that rampage. What you mean the rampage?
I know what you mean about a rampant. Look, he took. Bitch, I was in the woods. He was fucking in the couches. The woods? The woods? Yeah. Oh, my God. Lord, I got woods. Girl, no, I was living in North Carolina. It was like a little, this way, we was in the woods. And give me his bed back there, because when we got back there, it was a little bitch.
And a pallet. Girl, I said. A pallet in the woods? And a little bitch. Hey, how many people you bought back here? I still did it, though. He bought that bench for that. He came out there looking like Winnie the Pooh. I was young. I probably was like... I think I was like 18 still at the time. And you went to the woods? No, I didn't lost my opportunity to the woods.
I lost my opportunity to this dope boy. I thought I was too raw. This was back then. It was an Uber shack. Yeah. He had ordered me a little taxi. Uh-huh. But it was tea because the taxi was $80. $80 there and $80 home. So you was like, she's spending money on you. And I get there. She got a perp just back in the day. So I'm like, she got a perp. Bitch, we done smoked four blocks of perp.
You... I... And so then, bitch, he saved his mama some. His mama at work, his sister in there. So now I'm feeling like, bitch, because, boy, you gonna be your sister in the next room. You ain't scared. Me and his room, that first week that I watched TV, I had on my mother's phone. I had on this little new phone. I was ready to get served.
So, after, after me and him, after me and him, after whatever, girl, we, You know, help me. We watch your TV. Like, you know how you get put out. Yeah. Y'all help me and stuff. You know? You don't do that. He was holding you from behind. You help me and stuff. And we watch, you know, TV. Y'all was in love.
And then, um, your sister started doing the most so I had to hide in the closet for a little bit. And then, you know, she called me another taxi and I left. And so, I left. I remember he gave me his Ed Hardy shirt. And I just remember, like, on my way home, just... I was so in love. That's beautiful. And my pussy was throbbing. It was ringing like a doorbell. But I didn't even care.
How do you feel about that? You know how when you put it in your mouth, you know, pre-came and stuff.
Because he didn't have a boyfriend. Girl, no. Oh, my God. And that was my first time, too. So, I remember the next day, I had a call. I was calling his cell phone. He didn't answer the cell phone. So, I had the house phone number, too. Yeah. So, now I'm calling the house phone. And every time, I always, my voice always had been like this. Yeah.
So, like, I even remember my mom used to cuss out people at McDonald's. A girl told her, give me a girl toy. She's like, that's a boy. Like, you know, as a kid, I'm ordering my food. Like, I want a Happy Meal. And I'm like, okay, a girl toy. She's like, no, a boy one. I'm with you. So, on the phone, I'm like, you know, on the phone, his mommy asked her, hello.
So I'm like, let me think of a girl name that's coming. Hello. Yeah, this Shay. Yeah, he there.
This my name, Shay? It's coming. So he got on the phone. I'm like, hello. Click. I'm like. You thought you ate that. I'm like, wait.
No. No, the mama didn't clock. He got on the phone. I'm like, hello. Click. I'm like, you were scared. Oh. No, he get on the phone and hung up. No, he got on the phone and hung up.
Yeah, I'm not. Okay, I'll call back the next day. Hello? Hey, this is Bree. Can I speak to him? Be on the phone. Hello? Hello? So I go the next day, I call. I forgot who name I used that day, but I think that name, he wasn't going. So he just never answered. He didn't get on the phone that day. And I just remember being with my cousin. I was crying so bad. It's a song.
Yeah, the pregnancy thing. And then it's just different, like, you know, when the nut and the pre-cum. It's different things you can catch, like, you know. That already came in your mouth, though.
Girl, me and my cousin, we used to sit there. I used to play this song off my iPod.
Boo-hoo cry like a... You can't make your heart feel something. You can't make your heart feel... I used to boo-hoo cry. I was like... He don't love me. You don't do that. You don't fuck nobody and hug and hold them and all that and just stop answering the phone. No. And so now in my head, I'm like, the pussy ain't hitting. Like, I must be wasn't serving.
And being a gay boy and dealing with down low men, I realized that it wasn't me.
Niggas be so psyched out in they head, and that's why transgenders get killed and do things. That as soon as they bust that nut, they like, ugh. Get away. What the fuck? Post-nut clarity. Because at Strike People, we get post-nut clarity. So imagine when a man is down low. I have took a fucking job. Like, hey, don't you tell nobody. Hey.
So is he open now? Is he openly gay now? I don't know. I don't know where the mother is at. And I'm telling this story because you need to reach out. You owe me. I need closure. I need reparations, nigga. I need closure.
No, he didn't. Like, if I'm giving him head, and it's like the foreplay.
A long time coming up. We have social media influencer, rapper. Mm-hmm. The pin game don't lie. Thank you. Don't play with him. Don't play with him. You ain't f***ing me for free. Why you lying? Why you lying? Hula, hula, hula. I'm Hawaiian.
What? People don't be typing right.
That's what he was saying.
I told her, you don't like any of the dudes I date. And she said, all the dudes I date are bums. And this one has to prove to her that he's worthy of dating me. Is it jealousy? Stop hanging with that. Exactly. So wait, y'all.
But different... Like, something can enter my bloodstream through my vagina and not through my mouth.
Keep doing what y'all doing. I love y'all so much. We love you, too. And get that hate off around you. I always say this. As long as he not beating on my friend, mind your business. I'm talking business. Who is that? Hello. It's giving baby, can you help me? Help me. I'm coming. I'm almost done. Yeah. He busy.
He walking. They say I'm good. Let me see what he look like. He working. Let me see. Look.
You know who he look like? I don't trust you. I don't trust him neither. He look like Sean Bankhead. He look like Sean Bankhead. Yes, he do. No, he do not. Girl, she crazy as hell.
Sean Bankhead is cute.
That's the bad. Oh, that's the bad. Okay.
You said it. He the one that's going to be like the best. What's that? He know that. He know he T. He is cute, though. Yeah. Okay, I see it. I get it. He know he T. I get it. He is T. And I get it. He like, yeah, who them girls was. Yeah, you see how they was. You see how they. My voice.
but that's what that's what when people see it they like oh he give that so he already know it yeah thank you when you talk to him later he definitely gonna be like them girls said that i was fine that's my man i love him okay santana let the girls know where they can find you what you got coming up all that good stuff you can find me at big.com uh wait i'll stop okay What's the name thing? T.S.
Madison? Shout out to T.S. Madison. You know we got on the show.
It's tough. It happens. Well... I'm not going to lie. Like I said, I've definitely given head raw and then put a condom on. I don't know. I don't know. Maybe it's more of the pregnancy. All of that stuff, I got to protect from all that stuff. But the pregnancy, that don't scare me. You know my kids. They is up there. R.I.P. Hallelujah. Hey. Okay, okay, okay.
That's the realest one of the realest I know. Love her.
I don't know about the moon signs. I have a Libra rising, so I love, like, I love Libras. Y'all do be lying, though. Libras lie to Y'all a lot of everybody. No, we don't. The thing I hate about people saying I'm a lying Libra because I'm not a corny bitch that lie about... Stupid stuff. Yeah, like... But you'll be lying. To a... Yes. I lie like a rug. I love a good lie. Yes.
But I don't, but I just, like, you know how people that just lie? Yeah, all the time for no reason. You just be lying about stupid stuff. You just be lying. Oh, yeah, I just hit a dick on this boy. Oh, my God. Well, I just let this boy grow high, but he gave me $20,000. No, he gave you $20. He didn't give you $20,000. I hate girls. That's crazy. $20 and $20,000.
Bitch, I know bitches that lie like that. Be like, look at this bag you bought me. But my mom is a Libra, too. When is your birthday? October 8th. My mom's birthday is October 18th. For real? Yeah. I don't want to say the birthday, but yeah, I dealt with a Libra. October 8th? I don't understand his birthday. He got the same birthday as me?
No, he doesn't have the same birthday, but it's when I say close. Oh. It's either the 7th or the 9th. Because what's the name? Me and what's the name got the same birthday? Who? Nick Cannon and G Herbo. Oh, my God.
Yeah, because we Libras. You think all Libras are narcissists?
Do you think you're narcissistic? I think he knows, but he knows he has his ways. I'm not mad at that, though. To me, that's real that you can look at yourself in the mirror and be like... I just said, you know what? I'm 31. Yeah. I want to go to therapy. You should.
I just want to unpack it.
You also need to journal every day because journaling literally changed my life because I know I have my ways too. So I was able to look back on things and how I view things and I was able to grow from that because I'm like, okay, two years ago, this is where I was and this was my thought process.
And why is this, why am I handling things this way? It has helped me so much. Journal and go to therapy. Your life gonna change.
I agree. I said, I just want to unpack this. I just got to talk to somebody. Somebody. Somebody that you don't feel judged, that's unbiased, that don't know you. But at the same time, is that like... Is that like what I do with my best friend? Because me and Carisha tell each other.
Like, I feel like... But you know what I... You know what I... What? That take everybody's side but mine's. Or do you be wrong? No, I don't be motherfucking wrong. No, he be wrong. No, I don't. And Carisha will always take the nigga side. But you don't need a yes man. No, you don't. That's what I'm saying. Yo, he got me f***ed up. She be like, yo, what you do?
I got a lot, because I used to be that way, too. I remember I asked Dre advice one time. I'm always like that with her. To the point, people be on the show, people be leaving. I was like, oh my, you didn't even say what I wanted to say.
Yesterday, but just being a real, and being a real, because yesterday I had, me and Christian talking about something, I was like, I said, I got to be her best friend right now.
I was like, you got to eat that one. Yeah. This is your fault. You need that, though. You know what I'm saying? Like, and so I get that, but I said, baby, with a therapist, it's like just more of a professional setting. And unbiased. More of somebody that don't even know me and be like, come on. Like, well, why is you like that?
And then you can... Why did you do that?
This may be affecting your relationship to people. Uh-huh. So, I don't know. I think it's a good idea. But what's your real act? So the girls can follow you. Oh, my real ass is the one Saucy Santana on Instagram. I think it's Saucy Santana on TikTok, Saucy Santana on Twitter. And what you got coming up where the girls can look out for? What are we looking forward to in 2025? You know what?
I always, when I get asked that question, I always like to tell people to stay tuned. Because... You just never know. And I'm very, like, spontaneous, even my manager know, like, sometimes the phone just ring and be like, hey, we want Susanna to come. I be like, ooh, okay. Yeah. Like, I literally, like, I'm blessed, even in seasons when it's slow, I just feel blessed that the phone rings. Mm-hmm.
What you mean they're turned around?
And I love that for you. And I just be caught for... All kinds of shit. But I like that you said that because, honestly, I hate a fake busy bitch. Uh-huh. I hate a bitch that's always dropping an announcement. Yeah. Girl, you ain't really doing nothing. I ain't got shit going. You always got an announcement. Baby, calm down. You don't got an announcement. I'm not going to lie.
Let me tell you something. I, my friend has a whole business. She always dropping new products, and I'm finna promote that shit. I have things that I'm working on, but it's moving a little slower, but I'm my own person. But I don't feel the need to be like, oh, y'all stay tuned. Uh-huh. I got this coming. Sometimes I be like, hey, I ain't gonna lie.
Like, things pop up for me, and if you see me, you see me.
And then, so what if I didn't say nothing about what I got going on and you didn't say nothing about what you got going on, but our announcements are already playing at the same time?
I might be coming out with a... Finna drop a new song.
And Mitch might be finna drop... a new product line.
And we didn't say... I didn't tell you that I'm dropping my song on March 4th. You didn't tell me you was gonna drop your new product line on March 4th, but here we are. How was that... But see, to me, how was that weird? How was it weird? We didn't know. I mean, it's different if, like, we didn't know. But I'm talking about the people that be like...
somebody announced something, and then, like, the same day or the next day, you announced something, but we don't even know what it is.
Like, you turned around, and your turn around gave me back to back. He said it's given two days later. No, no. It could be like, if you f*** somebody and you f*** their friend, oh, yeah, then that means I need to take a shot. I never f*** somebody's friend. I definitely... I didn't hit girls because... Fuck somebody's employee. That's even worse.
You're just like, oh, y'all, I have a special announcement to make coming soon. Weird. Just because the other person said, I got these going on. So that's what I'm saying. Sometimes when you're in this industry, sometimes you have times where you're booked and busy all the time, and sometimes you have a little slow season, but trust and believe. It's coming. Just stay tuned. Stay tuned.
That's honest. Because even, like, next year, I already got, like, Somebody just hit me up the other day and was like, hey, I'm producing this new show, blah, blah, blah. Like, I don't even know what the hell it's called. So I'm like, I don't know. We're going to see when we... I think you... When we get there. You wouldn't have it... I'm not going to lie.
You didn't do like a reality TV, but like something about you. Like a camera needs to follow you around. The ideal TV show that I wanted for myself is... I want a show... Based around me and my friends. Yes. That would be perfect. Me and my everyday friends that's not famous. And my famous friends can, like, hop in.
For episodes. But I want to show, like, the fun side of shit. Yeah. I feel like with TV, we got enough drama. I'm tired of seeing people throw drinks and fight. We got Zeus. We got love and hip-hop. We got now this TV. Mm-hmm. We got all that. Yeah. I want to really show, like, how is the... Do y'all know my best friend's hair position? Bitch, do y'all... Yes.
I just said, you and Mitch are hilarious. When he came out your closet with them Rick Owens boots on. Oh, my God, yes. Pride. I want... He was the one... Remember when I sent you that video? So, y'all have a video where he was like... He was like, all up on... He was like, why you in my space? I'm like, this is me, Andrea. I be like, Andrea, like, what you doing?
I be like... Move. That is me and Mitch. Oh, my God. Get the f*** back. And so... He love you down. She love me down. I be like, f***, move. And what about it? But I want us to have a show, like, kind of like that. Yeah. I feel like you will be... People love to laugh.
You will be surprised. And I feel like laughter really heals a lot of stuff. It does. And I get so many DMs like, whenever I'm having a bad day, I go to your TikTok. I love you and your best friend, Mitch. I love you and your best friend, Carisha.
I love, I just, and I'm like, I want to get, I want to get a show where it's like, what I want us to do is, I want me and Mitch, and I want us, I want us sometimes to other friends. I want us to be like, like Paris Hilton and show.
So what I really want is probably like eight to ten episodes in a series. Mm-hmm. And I want us to do, try different jobs and different activities each day. Yeah. So imagine me and Mitch going to be zookeepers. Yeah. That'll be sick. And a llama spit in our face.
Or work at a call center. Yes. Yeah. Or a motherfucking tiger getting to run into a cat. Yeah. Girl, we done threw everything... A sea world or something. That would be fun. A big dolphin, a jump. Like, I want to do fun stuff. We need to get back to having fun.
I don't know how to cook. I go, today, Santana, go be a chef. Yeah. I used to go live on Instagram, cooking in my house. Girl, I almost burnt my house. I remember that. You seen that?
So what do you think is hard about cooking? Girl, it's too much. Like, girl, you got it. You just got to know. You got it. You got it. You got to know. I'm very, I can cook simple. Okay. Like, what's y'all, what's y'all number one recipe?
I feel like that's still shot words.
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He worked for him. Oh, you're a boss. Yeah. Thank you. Yeah. That's my girl. Yeah, period. Now I got control over your job, so keep it cute. Keep it cute.
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I like that DDG's Bamba Claude. Bamba Claude. Hey, hey. Beat that up. When a real one hold you down, baby, you supposed to drown. You ain't never with no boss. I turned you out. Period. You won't catch me in no shark boot. I brought them out.
Ooh. Ooh. Ooh. Ooh. Ooh. Ooh. Ooh. I talk a lot of shit. He like, who you think you is? Not your brokey. Not your brokey. I think he got one up on me the whole time. This shit like 3 and 0. Twin. I be going in. Clearly want my life and it's so evident. Could clean it from right.
What I look like asking him about another bitch. Huh? Might tell you once, won't tell you twice. If you don't shut up, we'll be all right. See, y'all gonna tweet and I'm gonna fight. Facts. Yeah, these hoes sweet as apple pie. Ain't got no car, so I'll ride. But bro, say, y'all can't even do that. Why? How? When? Where? Just let me know how you want to play it. You know I'm there.
If it was smoke, then I would say it.
Left our panties at his mansion like a souvenir. With a real one, how's you down? You supposed to drive. And you ain't never with no boss. I'll turn you out. You won't catch me in no shark booth. Your birth amount. Bitches gotta wait till their birthday to go out of town. Out of town, Rocky. I talk a lot of shit. Yo. Be like who you think you is. I should be. Rocky.
And I sure think he got one up on me. How time this shit like three and now? Mrs. Can't be fucked with. I ain't talking about nothing. Every time I look up, I'm the topic of discussion. I'm in a fast coupe. You in a bad mood. You left your in the bathroom. You gonna meet him halfway. I'm the type to make them wait. You're the type to give it up. It's hard for me to give a fuck.
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You're going to let them plead this case. A bitch like me can't go for nothing. Noah sent my cup. When I leave the club, consider that. When you mention me, don't forget Richard. Squeaky clean, but I got junk up in the trunk. When a real one has you down, baby. You supposed to drown. You supposed to fuck with no boss. You won't catch me in no short boot. Y'all burnt them out.
Gotta wait till their birthday to go out of town. Broke it. I talk a lot of shit. He like, who you think you is? Not your... Broke it. Not your... He think he got one up on me. Her time is shit. Like three and all, twin. I fucked your daddy. I fucked your cousin. I took down your homeboy. And I'm still not your wallet. This hoe's half... And I got something to say, too.
I got your account number on my light bill, baby. Yeah.
Thank you. I want to feel like three and oh, and I got it. We got to close it out like this. You ain't me for free. Why are you lying? Who the hoop on it? I'm Hawaiian. Thank you. I'll see you next week. See you. Poor mine.
Oh, girl, that's easy. Yes, he called. I just got off the phone with him. You want to see him? You want to see him? He said he going to meet somebody. Tanner! I want to see another man by the dog. Okay, okay. Walk him like a dog, baby. Thank you. Okay. What's yours, Lee? Oh, this is so funny. Because I know... Take a shot if you ever put your finger in a... He liked it.
I have a lot of terrible decisions. It was terrible. I don't know why I did the shit. Really? It ended up... I mean, it was cool because it was beneficial. You know what I mean? Like, he was doing a lot of stuff for me. But... Ultimately, I think that when somebody do me wrong, he did me wrong the first time we dated each other. So I feel like I wasn't fully over it the second time. Yeah.
Yeah, like I wasn't fully over it. And I don't know why I had convinced myself, oh, I could deal with him again because he was always pretty beneficial. So it was like, okay, I could deal with him again because of what he doing.
Like, I'm not going back to my baby daddy.
I just think I wasn't, I didn't feel the same way about him no more. That's the hard part about spending a block.
Yeah, it's like, it's not as fun as I thought it was going to be.
You be knowing this some bullshit. Like, I remember one time I was just like, oh my God, why am I here?
I feel like with Ashanti, though, that's one of the very few scenarios where spinning the block work. I feel like spinning the block don't be working a lot of the time because it's a reason why you and him... You saying it work because she pregnant?
No, no, no. I'm saying this is one of the very rare scenarios where two people decided to spin the block with each other and it looks like they're going to have their happily ever after. Okay.
That's what I'm saying. It didn't work. Because the thing with J-Lo and Ben Affleck, it was a reason why y'all broke up the first time. Y'all should have left it where it was. And I feel like normally that's how it be with spinning the block. It's a reason why me and this nigga didn't work out the first time.
A distraction. And that's okay, too.
And don't come back no more. No, bitch. Because at the end of the day, because I had tweeted this on Twitter and it ended up going viral. Because somebody had posted that clip from the Ray movie. And I just, even though you watch stuff as an adult, it don't hit the same as when you watch it as a kid.
Yeah, so I seen that clip on Twitter, and I was like, you know how motherfucking mad I would be if I'm spazzing on a nigga, and I tell him I'm pregnant, and he needs to be with me, and he don't want to leave his wife, and I'm going off on this nigga. Yeah. And he start writing a song, mid-breakdown. I'm not going to let you. Bitch, I'll knock all this shit over.
I could do anything to you right now, and, nigga, you can't stop it. You can't see.
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It was a girl who went viral on TikTok a few days ago, and she had the new drop from Kim Kardashian and the Dolce & Gabbana drop. She had on a two-piece set, and then she had on the big Balenciaga boots that looked like the Uggs. Okay. And this guy went viral because he was going in. And he was like, y'all not even dressing it up. Y'all not even putting that shit on. And it was more than him.
It was a black girl that had it.
Everybody not a fashion girl.
That heart is wild as hell.
And I just feel like if something look fun, if something look good, why we wouldn't want to do it too? Yeah.
At this point, you can't be, I'm not going to say you can't be an originator, but it's like everybody have, like, it's already somebody that's done it before. Right. It's okay. But you can make it your own. Right. You can do it, and you gonna do it different. It's fine. But, like, I don't know.
Really? I think that's a little ghetto.
But it depends if you got it all on the plane. If you wearing that whole thing in the airport, that's a little ghetto. But if you got, like, an overnight flight, if you got, like, a 10-hour flight... None of that matters.
No. She get a... No. She sat in the airport. No, because you in the car. Like, if you leaving your house and you going pick your kids up, whatever, you coming right back home. I'm not gonna lie.
So that's ghetto to me. Put the cheeks up.
The lingerie. With no stockings on. The lingerie. With nothing. Your whole ass... Where are you going?
It depends on the environment. It depends on the environment. Like, yeah, if you're going to a club, if you're going to an adult club, whatever, that's fine. I got a problem with being in Walmart with it on, though.
With her dish. In my defense, that was my first stop. I had somewhere else to go after that. I ended up not going because my... You had to be all the way drunk. Yes, I had somewhere to go afterwards. That was, like, my first little stop, but I ended up not going because my friend was like, oh, it's okay, you don't got to pull up because I feel sick. But I was supposed to go somewhere else.
That's why I... She was cute. Put on the whole outfit. If she was going to see them bitches, I would have wore some Uggs, too.
I didn't say I would do it. I'm saying I don't see nothing wrong with it. To me, it's just dirty if you don't have nothing between your feet and the ground. Your toes out in the hotel. Where germs is touching your feet and stuff. I agree. If you got socks on, it's a barrier. Yeah, I agree. And especially if you just going downstairs real quick, get a key, going back.
For the first five minutes of the show. Y'all sound like me. Girl, I know this. Look, I sound like a sailor. Yeah.
I feel like a nine's not that big.
But I think it's always the classy case of, like... wanting what you don't have. Yeah? Yeah, because when I was younger, I feel like I always wanted to be taller.
But see, so it is more so that like I was like, damn, I wish I was like 5'8". But when you have heels on though, you gonna be 6 feet. You know what I mean? You still gonna be taller than a lot of these niggas. So I really used to wish I was taller. Like I used to be like, damn, like I'm really not gonna grow no more. I really used I really used to be upset about it.
I was like, damn, I'm really... Yeah.
So, speaking of... Y'all, I was on Twitter yesterday. No, I was on TikTok Live the other day. Uh-huh. And somebody was like, Dre will be sounding like Future. And I was like...
And they love it. They love their soft side. And I think niggas think I'm going to be a certain way, and I'm ghetto. Yeah. You more ghetto than me.
Yes, no. I grew up around hood, the hood, the hood people, the churchies, all that. Okay. I'm definitely a little more ghetto. She be like... I can't relate.
But the crazy thing about me, though, is I grew up in a hood, but I went to private school until eighth grade.
I had the best of both worlds.
It makes you feel around you. Yeah.
But see, I used to date people. Eat him up.
What point? He do love to say that. Girl, where you from?
Exactly. But I used to date people when I was in high school, though. This is like my first boyfriend that I was like super in love with. He was from the West Bank. And he was like, people always say the West Bank ain't really New Orleans.
That's what he was saying, yeah.
That's what happened though. He moved to Houston. That's how we started dating in high school. He moved when Katrina happened.
Everybody was in Houston. Oh, my God. I know.
I was the cool lady. That means you was in high school, too, right?
Yes. You knew it was a New Orleans nigga. Exactly.
She used to be so... Can you show her that picture of you? When you were in your emo phase. Oh, I had an emo phase.
They was getting the Houston niggas for sure.
Literally. You ever heard of Orange, Texas before? No. It's not that far from Louisiana. Yeah, it's literally... It's not close to New Orleans.
This is real messy. Speaking of, I feel like this is a good segue into the second topic.
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Oh, I know he does. How many niggas y'all think me telling people, oh, I used to fuck with Super? Bitch, a lot. Oh, I used to fuck with Leg? A lot.
Yeah, she really could have.
Probably coming to somebody as a woman. Really? Yeah. Like calling a bitch? Yes.
I knew, like, my nigga, I knew he was, like, fucking with this girl. I knew he was fucking with this girl. This was high school.
Bitch, duh, you bought some views? No. Money? No. Bookings? No, no. Because you got to know me, though, Super. I'm, like, extremely private. Like, I don't like people... I don't like people in my business. So I'm never going to really talk about it. Like, I'll say little stuff here and there about my relationship or, like, my nigga and stuff, but I really don't talk about my business like that.
This nigga made me so fucking mad. And Lex is fucking terrible because she fucking egged me on. I turned her head. I said, now, what'd he do, girl? No, I'm talking about you egged me on to talk about it on the show.
Express yourself. I said this nigga name. Oh, no, you didn't. Yes, she did. And this was like somebody that people know. They left it in? No, we deleted it. No, we deleted the actual. This old, though. This is like an old episode from like 2018. Girl, we had like three viewers. Okay. But I was still mad.
They still be talking about it to this day. Yes.
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So, the topic is being dumb in love. Do you feel like it's a such thing as being dumb when you're in love? Or do you just feel like, I'm in love. Like, anything goes. I feel like I'm that type of person. I feel like anything goes when I really love anything.
I never had a Blackberry.
It was. It was like, I was on Yahoo chat. Y'all wasn't gay.
Are you talking about the hotline where you could call and date people? And they used to be like, you got a legal voicemail? Yes. You got a message from? And I was 14.
It's not. Oh, that's not that bad. Well, now, what I mean is... It's not. What I mean is we're not gonna act like... It's not. ...20-year-old niggas that used to be picking girls up from high school.
They did. At that time. And granny, now that we're grown, we know that shit was wrong.
Because one thing about me. We was just on the phone.
I wasn't expecting to get my cherry pop. Until for you, it wasn't conversational. I wasn't expecting to get my cherry pop.
Always been popular. Always. The party line was lit, though. I remember those days.
That sounds like fun to me. Y'all remember Crush? I was a pie. Who? Crush Pie. No. It was another little website before Facebook that everybody used to be on. It was like one of the first... It was like one of the... Yeah.
I've been crashing out and wilding out for a long time.
Because who had their tongue pierced in high school? Now that I'm thinking about it.
Yeah, I was like 19, 20.
Girl, she tried to kick me out the house. She locked me out the house. She did not want to let me in. It was only because of my daddy that I ended up getting in the house that night.
Oh, bitch, your tongue ring was infected. Why was pus?
We have a brand new show dropping. Yeah, so we have a brand new show dropping, y'all, on Patreon. It's going to air on September 2nd, and it's called Porn Chronicles. We're going to be doing so much stuff on there. We're going to be doing challenges. If you can't go to Belenose, where the hell could you go? If you can't go to Bella Noche, where the hell can you go?
We gonna be doing talk to me, chit chat with me. We gonna be spilling a little tea. Oh, my God. No, you didn't.
Into the bed. Out. The bed.
The bed. Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. How did we... First, real quick, though. How did we start talking about stinking tongue rings when we were supposed to be talking about being dumb in love?
All right. For the sixth topic, we want to talk about using lube. And does using lube mean your coochie trash?
Do y'all feel like you and a person have to see everything the same in order for y'all to be together? Do y'all feel like when people be like, oh, opposites attract, that's like really a thing? Or do you feel like if you and a person are so opposite, y'all can't make it work?
You said this was a fake face.
I'm used to mac and cheese with spaghetti noodles. With spaghetti.
It's basically like... It's basically like... It's basically like a cheesy Alfredo, and it has, like, peppers and chicken in it.
Kinda, yeah. But jambalaya don't got cheese in it, though.
That was seven months ago.
I haven't smoked hookah in, like, almost a year. But, no, I was... It is a long time. But I didn't used to like the way it would make me feel the next morning. I didn't like the way my house was made. That's why you hoes need black smoke. So you be smoking black smoke? Yes.
A little pork chop ain't never hurt nobody. A little black smoke ain't never hurt nobody. Exactly, bitch. A little black smoke ain't hurt nobody. No, so y'all, this is the question that I had. Because me and Lex had a conversation about this years ago on the show. We was talking about squirting. And we was like, if you squirt, it's your granny's fault. It's your who's fault? Your granny's.
Yeah. Is it? Yeah. Yeah. I only squirt it.
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I had a long night last night. I had every intention on bringing you some of my cosmetics line because I have a lip gloss line.
The queen. I need to get your mail in. Yeah, send it to me.
I am. It ain't got no nicotine. Not no nicotine. And no tobacco. Really? No tobacco. It just tastes like fruit. Fruit.
Okay, so what if I... But no, yeah, I'ma send you some Muse, though. I'ma send you some Muse. Okay.
Ty, what are we drinking today? Leave it to me to take those cares away, okay? Yes. This one is called the Wazam Soupa. Wazam. Okay. All right, so we have spirit of choice in this one. We have some grapefruit, some pomegranate. We have some lime, a little bit of that ube that we talked about before. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Because it's winter. Yeah.
Because I think even when I think about getting brand ambassadors and stuff, because I was just talking to my social media manager about that earlier this week, and I was just like, I think, you know, 2025, I really want to focus on trying to get brand ambassadors. But we're thinking about all of these, like, big people. Yeah. That I should start sending products to and sending PR boxes to. Yeah.
But did you feel like when you did work with them, you got a big influx of orders? No.
I feel you on that, though. Because I was just... Because, you know, Black Friday, Cyber Monday just passed not that long ago. And I made a lot of money from Black Friday and Cyber Monday. But it was... I didn't even do, like, no real promotion. Right. Like, it literally was from the ad that we inserted in the show. Your podcast. The podcast.
Me getting on live every day for the whole four days, Thursday.
Yeah. Basically. Right. That's what I'm saying.
That's pretty good, right?
They bringing the most money. So what's next for you with Crayon Kites?
I think foundations would be dope. People always be asking me that. They be like, well, you eventually want to come out with foundation and stuff. And I always be like, yeah, I do. It's just hard. It is. Foundation hard. They don't understand that. Yeah, it is. Because I feel like you really got to come up with a good formula.
You don't want people putting shit on their face that's going to break them out.
So it's just hard. It is hard. Do you eventually want to get into, like, stores like Sephora or to... I was in Walmart.
No, they use other people's money.
I'm trying to get in the room that I'm not in. I'm telling you, literally, our social media manager, she in here right now, me and her was just having this conversation the other day. I was like, 2025, my goal is to, like, gain more capital outside of my money so that I can really scale the business for real and really have more money to invest, have more money to pay people.
brand ambassadors and influencers and buy way more inventory because it's like, how far can you go when you're really just funding it by yourself the whole time? But then, like you said, people will look at you like, if you sell to Sephora or you sell to Ulta or you sell to any of these, like, bigger brands, they be looking at you like you a sellout.
But it's like, people really don't understand how much it takes to really run a business and to scale it and to fund it if you don't have my help.
People be thinking, oh, you made $100,000? Oh, that's for you. Oh, that's for you.
Because now it's way more people watching. It's way more people buying.
It's okay. It's okay. So all of that topped with a little ginger beer, and then we roasted a grapefruit on top just to give it a little bit of that by the fireside. We know y'all like to be by the fireside.
But you won't give that man, never mind.
And it's your girl, Dre Nicole.
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Cheers, y'all. Thank you, Ty. This is delicious, per usual. You did your big one. Okay, so we didn't even get into the game. We said we're going to play the game for the icebreaker. Yeah, let's do the game. Yes, let's play the game.
Chat GPC, bitch. Keep it to a minimum. Okay, they said, Hi, ladies. First, I want to thank y'all for creating such an honest and open platform. Speaking on real life, relatable things, I will forever give y'all y'all flowers for that.
So my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost six months now, and things are starting to get super serious. He is literally the guy I've always dreamed of and wanted. Now, here's the kicker. He has a son, and the mother of his son and I went to middle school together. We were cool and hung out in school sometimes.
I've known both of them for about the same amount of time, but I was always closer to him. However, we never dated or anything like that back then. Fast forward six years after graduating, he and I started hanging out, keeping in touch, and eventually really hit it off. We've been together ever since. Nobody really knows about us because we're super private.
But I told him I think his baby's mother should know since I'm around their son a lot. His son is six years old, going on seven, so they had him pretty young. When he explained to her that we're in a serious relationship, she was very upset. She feels like I owe her loyalty because we were once friends in school.
Only me people right now, they be like, I was cool with Dre in school. I be like, were we?
She said that in a message. She said she feel like I owe her loyalty because we were friends in school. But then she was like... She also mentioned how we're acting like we've always been friends this whole time.
Were we not friends or are we friends if you feel like I owe you loyalty?
Because if they 20... I don't see... Yeah, she didn't say, but she said that they had... They son young, so that means... She said that the son is six going on seven, but they had him really young.
I definitely think baby mamas be pulling that card.
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They would hang out, like, a few times. But she was like, they wasn't friends like that.
Yeah. I agree. I agree. When they just come into play, though, it be a different set of rules.
That's not us. Got like 250,000 followers.
I gotta make sure they saw it.
I'm going to play this game y'all called the situation shoot. So, okay, I'm going to go first. The first question is, why did your last relationship end? Oh, girl.
Do you feel like it was very different from dating a black man? I like the...
Right, right, right. First of all, let's talk about it. But I had a bad... I dated a white man one time.
Okay, so... It's terrible experience. Zero out of ten. Do not recommend. Really? No.
Which part? Girl, he got mad at me because I didn't want to have sex with him, and he left me in Miami. He tried to leave me stranded.
Yeah, because then later that year, that's when I met you at Opulence. Yes. In 2017.
Oh, my God, I love her. I said, great times. Yeah, great times. I posted that video for your birthday. Do you remember, Dre, we was... Two turned up fighting, and you took my wig off.
We wasn't fighting for real, y'all. We was, like, wrestling. Play fighting.
But Kellyn got this video in her phone of us rolling on the ground, and we both don't got a wig on.
We was back in the room. Oh, okay, okay, okay. We was in the room.
Please. She don't bring up the beans.
Talking to y'all friends.
Like, my little ass invited my... Shout out to my other best friend, Jasmine. We love Jasmine. I invited Jasmine on stage, and we was doing the South Side. Yeah, like... Like, everything is zero. Most of it is done. It was just real ghetto.
Good times, though. Okay, Ty. So we've been having such a good time. We didn't even get into what we're drinking today. What you got for us?
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be about 20 questions a lot of the questions that y'all sent me were kind of similar so i merged some of the questions together and um yeah i'm gonna let y'all get in my business a little bit let y'all be a little a little nosy i know i don't normally do that what did you learn from your early to mid 20s i just lost my dad i'm 21 i'm not sure how to keep going any tips on how to keep going
Hey Dre, asking a genuine question. Do you get lip fillers? Okay, this is another question I feel like I answer all the time, but I don't mind answering it again.
I never really been the type. Are you making a personal YouTube channel because poor minds is changing or canceled? Let me clear the air with that.
So, basically, we're going to give y'all some scenarios and you're going to say either yes, I'm judging or no, I'm not judging.
Okay? All right. Vastly different political views. For example, dating someone and finding out they voted for Trump.
Because why are you dating this bitch? You're just as dirty as he is. You are dirty.
You know what I'm saying?
You need a black light when you come to my house. Might have to shake the wall. Yeah. Whoa.
The wall. This next time y'all come over, don't touch nothing. Why is that thing being broken?
Well, let me say this, guys. I be washing my sheets before y'all come over. So it's clean sheets. Mm-hmm.
Every time. Me and Lex would look at each other and we would be like... Every time. Not the feet check. The feet check every time. And our dumb asses will still go barefoot. That's what I was about to say. Why are y'all taking y'all shoes off?
A dish might be left with me. I ain't even gonna lie.
Looking for a job. Looking for a job. Before the employers are there.
I agree. But yeah, friends, not so much just because, you know, somebody is going through something like Lindsay and then they need to go back and live with their parents and they have the luxury to do that. That's great because a lot of people don't even have that option. Like, a lot of people got to get it out the mood.
They got to figure shit out and make ends meet because they don't have nobody that they can go live with. So, you know, life happens. But my man...
This is a good one. Painted fingernails. I know this is a trend, but everybody has their opinion on it. How do y'all feel about dating a man with painted fingernails?
No? No. Like, you is not about to put your fingers in my coochie with polish on them.
We know what you like. She said a little aggressive no.
That shit be too shiny.
Lynn is my girl, man. Because why? Because why you had to polish me?
Why are your nails dirty? Like, I feel like nails will tell you so much about a man. Amen. Why is there dirt underneath your nails? You didn't take a bath today. You cannot come in here and take a bath.
And unless you a mechanic, and he was not.
You don't know what that man had to do. Okay, yeah, I know that he didn't take a bath. I know he didn't have time for that.
Well, that has happened with a few of our guests as well.
We got one more. We've never had musty women, though.
Yeah. Why are you quoting Kevin Samuels to me?
Is everything okay at home? Like, what is going on? Okay, I do got one more.
I ain't never seen that. I ain't never seen an acrylic on a big toe. He got his square shape.
Because what if he has acne? You like the dead skin on your pillow.
And the main ingredient is the same active ingredient that's in Ozempic and We Go Vee.
We're exclusive. You not dating nobody. I'm not dating nobody. Unless you're into an open relationship. Right.
I let my man do it.
Or spend it with your booze? Because we've seen a tremendous rise in women, you know, doing Galentines every year with their homegirls. And a lot of people like to say, you know, that's beautiful that you can spend time with your friends if you don't have a man. Or are y'all just like, look, I want a man. I don't want to hang with you hoes.
Girl, fuck that. Your friends are the ones that love you. I don't want to talk to you bitches every day. Oh, my God. No, your friends are the ones that will love you when the man is gone.
But I knew you was going to say that. I love, I don't know. I appreciate having friends when I don't have a man. Yeah. Better than being alone on Valentine's Day. Yeah.
But what I'm saying is... Because now that I think about it, we've never had a Galentine's. I don't think I even... Have I ever called you on Valentine's Day?
She not, y'all. She probably should stay at home and watch movies. She ain't gonna call.
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We're going to be doing talk to me, chit chat with me. We're going to be spilling a little tea. Oh, my God. No, you didn't.
Yeah. Don't wear the muumuu.
But, yeah, I agree. Some men like the little razzle dazzle. Like, they be wanting you to wear the lingerie or, like, a little costume so they can take it off.
That's a really good idea.
This is the sprinkler. No, it is fun, though, because you can literally go with him and, like, see what he like.
Let him pick out stuff that he like versus you just buying a toy that you think y'all might both enjoy, you know?
I be like, hey, sit your ass down. He is cute. He fine. The material. I be like, I need to see him. Show me a picture. I'll show you, girl. He look like Lauren.
Yeah, it's like you can, they can control it from wherever they are. That's the one that I have. So if they're out of town or whatever, you have it.
Their robot coochie.
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It's so funny because it's so funny because that happened to me earlier. I had tripped over there, too. But yeah, I think anything that Drake and Party Next Door do together is just always going to be a classic. So, you know, I feel like it's... It's going to be a good album because it's supposed to be an album. Okay. Drake loves a collab. He does love a collab.
But, yeah, in height of Beyonce announcing the tour, I've been listening to Cowboy Carter. Again. Again. Because it's not that I ever really just stopped. But I haven't, I will say, I haven't listened to it a whole go-round for probably a few months.
Yes, thank you, Ty. Do y'all feel like y'all give good advice?
Okay. Y'all sound a little unsure.
Everybody thinks they're funny, though.
So we're going to ask some questions. I think you give good advice, too. I think you do.
If you have any questions, send them to askpourminds at gmail.com. Send us your questions. Send us your testimonials. Because, you know, sometimes we be giving bad advice, too. Question number one. Ooh, your question long.
Maybe we shouldn't. Question number one. Hey, ladies. First off, let me say I love y'all down. The show is amazing, and I look forward to always watching.
So I've been cool with this guy for five months and everything between us works. We get along really well. So he's going out of the country and is going to be gone for a month, which is fine. However, since he's been away, I haven't really heard from him.
She said... I mean, I can't... She's been cool with him for five months.
Don't worry. On vacation. I'm about to blow that phone up. What, you're on a jet ski? I would be blowing it up. What, what? Because if he on the jet ski, pull up next to him. What are you doing?
Cold world. They've been going... He's been going for a long time. Why the hell I haven't heard from you one time? Because you know what I'm doing? What if I'm not okay? Right.
Haters. But like I was saying, I just feel like, yes, if this man really fucked with you like that, you would have heard from him at least once, you know? And that's bare minimum. I think you just need to let it go because I don't think his feelings going to be that hurt.
Oh. We remember.
He be there. I'll be there. I'm here. You see me.
Okay, let's move on.
She did that because I be saying the letters be too long, and that shit still long. Girl, you're married with a family. I can see it from over here. It's like five paragraphs. It's still too long. Tomato. They both weird. You're a loser.
But also, as a married happily, because you said happy, happily married woman, why are you even worried about what's going on? Like, I would just cut her off.
What? She did have a poor mom's shirt on. Well, this is what I will say. I used to pull up, and it used to be business up top, chilling at the bottom. So underneath the table, I used to have flip flops. Yeah. And sweatpants. But then at the top, I would have on like a little corset, something sexy.
Yeah, I just think that it's too many men in the world. Like, yeah, I'm happily married now. But why the hell do you need to go date somebody?
I care because you're a weirdo. Why would you go and fuck somebody that you know I used to fuck with?
Okay, wait, wait, wait, wait.
Not technically, because you didn't fuck him first. So, it was my mom first.
I'm next, bitch. And you ain't getting them back. I just feel like if you gotta do all that explaining, just let it go. I'm next. Because the shit getting confused. You finna write in about me. I'm like, what? Who was that?
We need a photo of the man. And we need a photo of this man. We need a photo. So Licks can find him on Facebook.
Stop. But this has been... So fun, y'all. This has been so fun. I love y'all. I'm so glad that y'all came. We love y'all so much. We love y'all too. This has just been so great. We've never had our friends on the couch with us. Like she said, outside of killing. And that was like six years ago. So I'm so glad y'all are here. This is so great. Yeah.
Lauren... I said, hey, Lauren, I don't want no smoke. Come and just get my little wing and head on out.
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I was like, thank you. I didn't want no chicken. By the way, though, I was fucked.
I had a two-piece with the two-piece piece. And I think somebody said something to Laura. I can't remember who it was.
Was it 50-50? Ooh.
You do have a good ear.
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Like, I feel like all three of y'all are very, very supportive friends. And it's so important to have those type of people in your corner. Because one thing about y'all, y'all going to pull up to the event. Y'all going to pull up everywhere. Y'all going to pull up to the event. And in different cities and stuff, too. Facts. Facts. Because, Lynn, you came to the Miami show last year, I think.
I can tell he's been lying and he needs some talk too. Girl.
Girl. I'm trying to play with this. This the bootleg version.
But the funny thing is, Lynn not even quiet. I just feel like she just be observing and paying attention. But then she say stuff that you would never think she would say. Like, she always be saying stuff. And I be like... Why would you say that? I always say Lynn's Twitter is my burner account. Literally. Because she say everything I'm thinking.
And you know, that situation was crazy, too, because the whole weekend... We was there. I've been la-la-ling. I don't even know. People don't like me. I don't even know. They having issues. They feeling no type of way. They telling Lex, like, you be running up behind Dre and all of this crazy stuff.
Honestly, if shit shut down right now, I'm good for about a good seven, eight months. Same. In seven, eight months, I can figure something out.
Your eyeliner is sharp as fuck today.
If you have real friends and community, go make an Instagram or a Facebook. Like, you can keep in contact with people. I get it, because I've made friends from the internet.
We seen it already. It's the wild times and we live it in. Okay? Mm-hmm. All right, so let us know how y'all feel about the TikTok, man. I know y'all probably finna get on our ass in these comments, but it is.
So y'all know I've been going to acting classes and y'all know I'm big trash. Well, I'm medium trash now. Don't say that.
So I feel like I'm getting better. I feel like I'm getting more confident. That's good. So, yeah, I've been keeping up with that. And I have been really focused. And I have been doing so much for, like, Love Lex P. I've still been ordering equipment. Oh, my God. So, obviously, I'm filming Love Lex P at home.
But with that being said, I forgot how hard it is to shoot and produce your own thing. Because, you know, we haven't done that in so long. Yeah. So it's really taking me back to the Wind Down Wednesday days when I used to be, and we used to be trying to figure out how to connect this to that, why this sound like that.
Mm-hmm. So, speaking of traveling and doing nice things, you had a tweet the other day about luxury.
So, we're going to define. Let me look it up so I don't misquote you, child. Thank you. Thank you.
So, yeah, I feel like it's been a good start of the year. Yeah.
That's fair. I like that. I think I'm the same way. I'm like, luxury to me is just being free. Debt free. Fuck nigga free.
Gwen Stefani said, we're loaded and we're not going to play. That was a good song. That was a good song. He was on the read.
Bow, bow, bow. You want to introduce me?
I think that it's crazy because I think it's still a thing that people believe to this day because this is more so like opinion. Maybe not myth, but this is like an opinion type thing.
I think it's crazy that people swear up and down like sex is taboo and it should not be talked about because we had a clip that just went viral with us with Janiece and we were talking about, you know, like giving head or whatever and
Because that's something I'm like, after going out of town, we went out of town, I was like, okay, I have to learn Spanish. Yeah. It's getting ridiculous.
It's low-key kind of hard to get pregnant, low-key. Easy? Like, especially as you get older. I don't know. I don't be trying.
I have one. I used to think, like... I won't say it's a myth. I just think it's something stupid and silly. But I used to think, like, if you had, like, a hickey, like, you were a whore. Like, girls that had hickeys... Oh, my God. You were a nasty slut. You let somebody kiss your neck?
He did. He did. Oh, you are trash.
A 16-year-old is a child. Yeah. So, you know, we're just talking about all ages 0 to 17. Zero? Zero.
I used to be on that pacifier like... Okay.
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I was talking to my old self. That was just me talking to my old self, champ. All right. Hi. I guess she wants her name to be said. She lifting in the... Hi, I'm Kiora.
I love the podcast. What you got for her, Drew?
Girl, the type of man you like in six years is going to change. So don't worry about it.
But yeah, I just want to shout out to everybody that subscribed. We got 30,000 views in the first 48 hours. Okay? So, but yeah, y'all make sure y'all tune in Monday. It'll be episode two.
I'm about to rack up on them jelly blushes.
Okay, so speaking of drinks, because I got my little drink here. I don't know about y'all, but I'm going hard for 75 days, all right. 75 hard. Okay.
It's delicious. And you did because, y'all.
Yeah. And can I say something, y'all?
So I want to do a quick check up with everybody. Y'all leave comments. Have y'all been keeping up with your New Year's resolutions so far? We are getting towards the end of January.
Make a little snow cone. Don't do that. But anyway, okay, let's get to these topics because I am so ready to talk about this. I have been dying to talk about this.
As a woman, maybe everything get wet.
Hey, we got to wrap this up. And then I did this. You ate it? You ate it? You ate it? And then you didn't see me. You didn't see me. I was over here like... What did it taste like? Spicy. A little saucy. Gotta decrease my sodium intake.
She look like she gonna shoot out. A shoot out. You gotta rock like to be a soldier girl.
At the top of the world, me and my girl, we just got to make it. Cut that cane. Cut that what? He said cut that cane. But what was that?
Yes. But Lex, that was a hit. See you. See you. For what you really are. Baby girl, you are a star. And I can't help but well.
Do I make your body go crazy? Oh, when you catch me in the magazine, baby. I hate this. Do you rip me out of my pants?
Are you my super one? No, I'm not. Are you? Well, then why you know all the songs? Somebody that hate him so bad.
To fat white women.
No, he did not. You know what? Most black women are splitting rent with their man. Most black women... Facts.
Because you're more successful than her.
Yes. Yes. Of course.
That's giving Dominican.
That's all them. You seen that throwing napkins?
You ain't... I'm telling you. You ain't woke up shit over here.
To fat white women.
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One day, all them bags gonna get in your way. So, peg light.
Don't I be with J Money serving everybody?
Can I get another drink?
He said, I have seen you before. I have seen you. You are very, very good. I have beat off to you before. You are very good. I know the pounded yam.
Yes. That's a lie. I got all my teeth.
And what about you, Lex?
I ain't gonna hold you.
Behind the knees? You know something.
A deep diving pool in that motherfucker. I was like, I have never seen a thin person with a deep belly button like that.
Pool full of liquor and we driving.
And you know when men get hot, you know when men get hot, they balls start to hang more. They do? Yeah. So when men get hot, they balls hang extra long. Is this true? When they cold, they be... Somebody research the department. When men... No, I'm telling you.
When niggas be hot, them balls be long. I know it is. Yes. I didn't need you to read it. I didn't need you to read it. I know what my nigga balls do. And they be hanging low when he hot. And when he cold, I can tell because they be... Do your balls hang low?
This is how your fingers should look. This is for the middle part and this is for the side parts.
Let me say, let me do that again. My coochie always smell like water.
Well, how did I know you was cooking if you didn't tell me?
You don't not care. No, I definitely care.
That Taurus and you be jumping out. Taurus's love a good meal.
Now, what happened next? Now, what you did after that? You be liking that tea.
It's Lex P. You got cellmates one, two, three. It went down. I want to know who sucked head and gave the meat. That ain't.
K-Kamp and fucking Fetty Wap. We don't get hits like that no more. Mm-hmm.
I'm finna say who it is, so I'm gonna... Don't.
When that came on, the dancers would run to the... And they would shake and pop that pussy like their life depended on it.
Stay tuned to see where we at next.
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Cause when I look at you, I feel something tell me.
I want to be down with what you're going through. I want to be down. I want to be down with you. No matter the time of day and night, it's true.
If all you need is my time that I got plenty of, I'll dedicate all my love unto you only, baby. I want to stay by your side, be there to cool you out, and let you know everything will be all right. Yeah, with what you're going through, I want to be down. I want to be down with you. No matter time, day and night, it's true. I want to be down. Okay, all right. We're going to see. You know what?
Cut the cameras. Cut the cameras. It's time to go, bitch. We'll see y'all next week.
Say it. What were you about to say?
I think we should talk about the drink. The drink.
No, I'm going to get in the booth, bitch. Y'all didn't. I'm not done with y'all yet.
It is, Yvette. And Yvette can cook. Yeah. She's a abueleta.
Alejandro, Alejandro. Do y'all remember that song by Lady Gaga? Alejandro.
You can watch Smart Guy. Life is about to end. Or does. She's a smart guy. Why does she sing that intro so bad? She sang really bad on that intro. Who was that?
We're singing that today. I ate that. Thank you, Yvette, because y'all be bullshitting with me.
Then you always gotta... I'm your biggest fan. I'll follow you until you love me. Papa, paparazzi. The hits.
And I ain't going to do it. What did your mom say?
And my mom used to be like, he look fat, look at him, he ain't dry.
Because I'm scared. You been cutting up today. What did I do? Because you done cracked about 30 jokes. You done cried. You done cursed me out. Who the fuck am I?
I'm going to take my time to make it real clear. I'm sorry for May.
And see, niggas was laughing. Dre was like, oh, let me call Lex.
When I load my AK, you bitch niggas gon' lay. He meant that shit. I hate you, bitch.
Y'all niggas don't have to fuck with me. Cause I can do better than just being one dick.
I was like, what with that DDG? Bamba Claude. Bamba Claude. Oh, oh. Oh, caught in a bad romance. Oh, caught in a bad romance. I want your ugly. I want your disease. I want your everything as long as it's free. I want your love. Love, love, love. I want your love. I want your drama, the touch of your hair. I want your leather studded kiss in the sand. I want your love. Love, love, love.
I want your loving. I need a lover's revenge. You and me could have a bad romance. Oh, oh. Oh, caught in a barrel, man. Oh, caught in a barrel, man. Ra, ra, ra, ah, ah. Ro, ma, ma, ma, ma. Ga, ga, ooh, la, la. Watch your barrel, man. I want your horror. I want your desire. Cause you're a criminal as long as you're mine. I want your love. Love, love, love. I want your love. Yeah!
It's all right. Caught in a bad romance. Oh, caught in a bad romance. Sing it! Ha, ra, ha, ha, ha. Ra, ma, ra, ma, ma. Ga, ga, ooh, la, la. Want your bad romance. Ra, ra, ra, ma, ma. Ra, ma, ra, ma, ma. Ga, ga, ooh, la, la, la. Want your bad romance. Walk, fashion, baby, work it. Move that bitch, it's crazy. Walk, walk, fashion, baby, work it. Move that bitch, it's crazy. Walk, fashion, baby.
Work it. Move that bitch. It's crazy. Walk, walk, fashion, baby. Work it. I'm a free bitch, baby. I want your love and I want your revenge. I don't know how this part goes. I don't want to be friends. We love you. One over all, man.
A big head nigga couldn't even imagine.
It's too easy. It's too easy. Even if you got your own nigga, when your nigga be mad at you... It's so easy to get your man to not be mad at you or to get your man back or whatever the case. Men are just easy.
Oh, no, that's not weird.
Because you know, you said you wake up on 10. Oh, I wake up on one every day.
We are. We some yappers now. We be over here chatting.
I love to talk. I love to talk.
I give up too easy. We lucky. Oh, this is... You getting all the easy ones.
You didn't have a naked mom growing up.
That's not what she want. That's not what she want.
It's too easy. It's too easy. Even if you got your own nigga, when your nigga be mad at you, it's so easy to get your man to not be mad at you or to get your man back or whatever the case.
I will beat your motherfucking ass. Like... You... Is you serious?
That's why I went back to my old school. Like, my last relationship, I mean, I won't say last because it's kind of still. But I use my old school thing. You know, you go through and like they pictures and follow them. And they be like, ooh, she fine. That's my new thing. I like to do, that's how I pick them. That's how I rather do the choosing now.
So you don't spin the block, though.
I love Santana! The one where he was shaking his titty. Yes! He...
He is so funny. He is so funny. Y'all need to do some more stuff together.
Uh-huh, uh-huh, uh-huh.
She said something about Glow said she like her niggas medium ugly. Uh-huh. Uh-huh. I said, he said she wouldn't talk about me. Fine, though.
I know that's right. I do. Let me stop. Let me stop.
I do. You can ask me. Who is my celebrity crush?
I wanted to make the face to see if he knew. We gonna move on.
Oh my God. Don't forget. We done. We done gone for you.
Okay, y'all, let's get into the tea with Love Lex Peep. Mmm, tasty. Okay, okay, okay. Now it's time to move into our favorite segment of the week.
All right, bitch, I won't say nothing then.
Okay, now my girl went all over the place.
My vagina keeps jumping like it's craving something inside.
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Hey. Oh, good. When I see you. When I.
Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, yeah. Always on my mind. Hey, baby.
Come around and get shot. Woo. When I see. You're so sexy, boy. So sexy, boy.
My girl said, this is so chaotic. Damn.
It was my shots. That was my bad, y'all. Y'all know I be off beat. We'll see y'all next week. Woo. I heard it.
Gang me, okay? Oh, my girl did her piece. So, talk about you and Jada's friendship and how that came about. My girl did gang me. Yes.
Yes. Social media influencer. A meme god. I got like six memes of you on my phone. No, you don't. Oh, I do, okay? And I don't know if you call your... But you a comedian to me. Funny as hell. We have... The one and only Big Sexy and the Baddest!
I love the shoe. I love the high-low moment. Thank you. When Fashion Nova say how you want to pay, Klarna.
No, go ahead. So let me, look, I'm nosy now. Uh-oh, come on.
Mm, months. Rent do not.
Oh, I remember.
It don't matter.
And see, I love that.
You only did one bundle.
Right, yeah. Like,
Right, yeah.
Oh, so you just do like a little... You know, I burn.
She empty, honey.
Drinking all that juice like they do.
Right. Yeah. Of course.
I didn't know. Shit. We're trying to be respectful. I'm like, day, can we get them?
But you know what?
Y'all want me to answer mine? Yeah.
I know you got to go. Yeah. Because if you do my hair, I'm going to go like this. Right. Uh-huh. I'm going to say, I was already doing it.
What's your answer, Dre? You.
In the group.
We're going to have a little drink. Oh, shit. Okay.
Let me see. She just went down J-Hut. She got my wig on? She probably do.
Go to Orange, Texas.
Bitch, you started it with me.
Yeah. They'd be like, let's stop doing that. I'd be like, they said my wee wasn't happening.
I'm not going to lie.
Yeah. And a sixth.
That's not right.
Your aunt, okay.
That's a virgin. I want to break it in.
Yeah, she's strict.
It don't matter. It don't matter.
You a baddie.
I think everybody's famous. I'd be like, hey, Camila!
That pussy has not been touched.
She gets down. For real.
They do. And I be scrolling, too.
I'll be damned.
Yes, you're very little. Yes, yes. Okay.
That's what I said. They gonna look at me and be like, it's her. That's the one that got the nut.
And I flipped $505,000.
Oh, my gosh. I'm glad you said that.
He flipped the door, honey.
Don't give that man no money. We ain't stop giving him no money.
He deserve, though.
He gonna take care of it, right?
You know what I'm saying?
flush it out.
It's going to give, like, oh, my God, I'm so shy.
He don't got time to make music. Yes, y'all.
What you been listening to?
Right. Yeah, look. You know I know.
Rather old school. Uh-huh. I love it.
Oh, yeah. He did.
Oh, my God. Next topic.
Above all odds.
Right. One of the girls. Yes.
Right. Hello?
I'm going to go check on them, too. Right.
That's true.
We don't need that kind of express hair. Uh-uh. Yeah.
But that's for like a full lace. Yeah.
All right, let us know where we can find you and all that good stuff.
Yes. I love it. We're having a lunch now.
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Ooh, ooh, ooh. Ah. Ooh, baby. Ooh. Come on, sir. We vibing now.
And there's no other man that gives me what I want. He makes me feel this way.
No, I'd rather be with you. I love the way you look at me, stare into my eyes. What do they say to you? Boy, don't be shy.
I know my soul. Oh! Oh! Oh, my goodness. I forgot the lyrics. Oh. Oh! Oh! Oh!
I like how you hit that low note.
You didn't get in the studio.
Hello, Grammys. You heard it here first of all. Right. I need to get in the studio. Grammys. Y'all give it up for Alonzo. We'll see y'all next week. Yes, period. That was cute. Dre said, I'd rather be with you. Right, she did.
Right. The pointy one.
Just sitting there. You got to really curl up. I'm telling you, I be struggling. Okay, so before we get on, because I know I'm going to forget because I'm the only one drinking today.
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That D'Ussé, it does.
I don't like to be too high. Right. You probably have a little Reggie. Right, look.
Did you decorate your house? You got a tree? What's up?
Like if you have any type of learning disability. Disability, well, you with nobody. But no, sometimes people find out later down the line that their kids be dyslexic and stuff like that.
They just need a little extra help in math. They need a little extra help in reading. Yeah, doing bad in school and just being bad.
Yeah, they been bad all year. No, no. Not even whooping? Now, y'all ain't got me away from whooping kids. So, this is a nice little... Now, let's see. That's what I'm saying. You not getting whoopings, and I'm showing you, and you still... If you been cutting up all year, I do believe that, honestly, Christmas, birthdays, all these things are earned. Mm-hmm.
You gotta show... Because what do we say about Santa? You naughty? Like, you nice hoe-ass nigga. You been naughty. Mm-hmm. You been naughty! I'm telling you, one thing I do, this is what I do to kids, especially because I do this to my nephews. Why did you say naughty like that? You're naughty! Naughty, naughty! I don't think that's how Santa says it. But this is what I do. I promise.
And it... I do this to my nephews. I do this to, like, if I'm dating a guy and he got kids. Baby, when they start acting up, I'm like, I'm calling Santa and you're not getting nothing. And they be... Your antler feel. It did. Yeah. It's gone. It feel down. That's because it was... It's getting sad because I'm talking about them badass kids. Yeah. Y'all gots to call. Y'all gots to call Santa.
And you know they got the YouTube videos. So it sound like Santa picking up the phone. And I'll be like, oh, who? He answer. And then I'll get it off the YouTube app and I'll be like, Santa. Yup. I don't think she need a gift either. Mm. And then you're like... Yeah. But you got to call Santa year-round. See, y'all only want to play the Santa game when it starts getting cold.
Okay. So, yeah. I thought you've always had a wreath on your door. Huh? I thought you've always had a wreath on your door. Well, I put it up for Christmas, but I just left it up year-round because it was a neutral color. And that's what I'm saying. It's nice. Yeah, but it's a Christmas wreath. Oh, I didn't know that. But, yeah, so I put it back up on my new door.
So this ain't no surprise. I just don't want to hurt my kid feelings like that. Maybe I'm going to just be a little soft because I'm like, damn, he need at least, he or she need at least one little gift. Then be good.
What if it's some clothes? What about clothes, y'all? Little stuff like that. I think kids should have a good time at Christmas. No, they should have a good time. But I also want to teach my kids the purpose of Christmas. Correct.
Because I feel like growing up, oh, my God. I loved Christmas. Mm-hmm. My family would come in town. Mm-hmm. We having a feast. Christmas is about family. It's about love.
And I want to say this, too. Christmas, just be Christmas without the ones you love. Okay. You heard the harmony? I heard that. I've been working on it now. Mm-hmm. I feel like let's... Now, I feel like for the adults, we can do expensive, nice gifts, but let's get back to sentimental gifts, too. Mm-hmm.
When I think about all the gifts I've gotten in the past from, like, men, don't get me wrong, I have a beautiful closet filled with beautiful things. But you know what's crazy? When I think about people, I think about the sentimental things that they got me. Always. Always. So I feel like we need to get back to talking to people, understanding what they want, what they like.
Like, don't get me wrong. The girls still want bags and shoes and diamonds and cards. Y'all do that. But if you can do that, you can figure out deep inside what's something that's going to touch her, that's going to make her remember something or make her... You know what I'm saying?
Santa finna get that dick sucked. Santa finna get this coochie. Them chestnuts about to be roasted. Okay, now. I feel you on that one. That's what I'm saying. It don't always got to be something super expensive.
Y'all, yesterday, my man put the storage cabinets in my garage. He did. I had to order, and I couldn't do it. And it's really a two-person job. I was so turned on. It was some chestnuts roasting on that open fire last night. I know that's right. Period. That's why that hat say, Jolly!
Jolly. You got some dick yesterday too. No, I did not. Yes, you did. No, I'm not. I'm not doing it. I'm trying to be like stiff right now. Why? Because nigga ain't been good all year. You ain't been good if you spending Christmas with him. I didn't say I was. I didn't say I was. I'm going, most likely I'm going home. I'm going to be still. Not you, though. What was I going to say?
But I did not put my Christmas tree up this year, y'all. And I'm, like, very much a Christmas person.
I ain't going to lie. It's so hard because I do not stand on business. Not it's so hard.
Anyway. It do be hard to say goodbye.
Don't even get... I won't. It has been a crazy, crazy past. It's been a lot. Yvette know. Why she know?
I don't know what y'all heard, what y'all thought. I don't give a fuck what I said. I'm not mad at it. I mean, sometimes that's how it be. You know, you gotta work through the motions.
Relationships are not... Always easy. But you know how I know I'm growing? Peachy. Your antler is killing me. Where my head at? It's okay. Fuck that. No. I couldn't hear anyway.
I couldn't. Oh, because they really earmuffs. It's not really a headband. We just should have got what you got in college today because that's cute as fuck. What's cute? Her headband. We should have just got that in college. I didn't see.
Well, I had... Okay, so let me explain my outfit, because you look very Christmas. Ty looks very Christmas, and I don't. You look cute, though. I had a very cute... Thank you. I had a very cute green outfit on, and I had, like, some red little accents, but I was putting Earl on my legs, and it got all over my dress, and it stained it, so I couldn't wear it. It was silk?
Yeah, it was like that silk material. Yeah. One thing about that silk material, you cannot play with no oil. Er, you can't play with that er.
Yes. I put my outfit on. I still put it on after. Because I like to put it on the parts of my body that's exposed. Right, right, right. Because if you put it on before, it's going to leave them streaks on your outfit. So what I did was I oil, I put it on, then I oiled up my legs. But guess what I did? I was fixing my hair and I went over. And it was all over that titty.
Yeah. Yeah, that makes sense. That makes sense.
It was all on that titty meat. You ain't even have time to go wash that hand. I didn't. That's crazy. Damn, I was about to say something and I totally forgot. But, Ty, what are we drinking today? What are we drinking? What are we drinking? Because I'm almost done with mine. Oh, I'm getting lit today.
Hold it. I got to eat me another cookie. Shout out to this. Oh. Oh. Uh-oh. Got an exposed us. Did you cut hers?
I think these are kid hats. These for Pini and Jax. Is that okay? Come on now. Help me out. Ty, what are we drinking? So this one is called Jingle Juice. All right, we jingling all the way.
And then we garnished it with some cranberries and rosemary. So what I did is just put kind of the cranberries and rosemary throughout the ice, and that way it's just a natural garnish for the cocktail. I know that's right.
Hello. I don't think I saw a question.
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And then I'm one of them people, I like to have my tree down in January. You know, people be leaving theirs up for Valentine's Day. Well, you're supposed to leave it up for New Year's and then afterwards you're supposed to take everything down. Yeah, yeah. So you can have the lights, you know. And that's how it always was in my family growing up.
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Do cranberries soak up anything? Because there's a TikTok recipe going on right now where they're like poking through the cranberries and they're soaking it in orange juice and covering it in powdered sugar. Yeah. And all that stuff. But I'm like, does cranberries actually soak up juice?
So, when you open it up, yeah, it can just kind of get in there. Just like a strawberry or any other berry that you might have. But we did the sugar-coated cranberries last year, too. Yeah, we did. See, they copying off of Ty. Y'all ain't know that. Y'all saw it here first. Y'all just don't remember. Yeah, but see, cranberries, the thing about cranberries for me is they be a little too tart.
They're so tart. But that's why they cover them in the powdered sugar, then they pop them in the oven for like five minutes. Oh, they put them in the oven. And it like kind of soaks up that sugar. Okay. And you can buy those at Publix. They have like in the little packages, like in the deli section is under where you get the sandwiches.
But it's like a little pack of cranberries that are, I don't want to say pickled because it's not briny, but it's like a sweetener to that point that you can just buy them as a snack. I love cranberry. Maybe I need to try those. Y'all remember how Eve was on Barbershop? Who drank my apple juice? That's how I am about cranberry juice. You do love cranberry juice. Oh, I love it.
I... I love... But it gotta be... See, you know what's crazy? I just take cranberry peels, because I just... No, you gotta have it raw. No. The real thing. Well, because, you know, cranberries are good for your urinary tract.
Because the way... But see, you like ocean spray. No. No. You like real cranberry? I like... No. Yes, I like... So, I used to, when I was younger, drink that one. Now, if I'm stopping at the corner store and that's all they have, I will grab it. But the stuff I buy at my house, the ingredients have to say... And that's it. And that's it. I like it tart. So you like it tart. I like it tart.
But some people be leaving theirs up in like February and they be making it like a Valentine's tree. That's tacky. That's tacky. I think so, too. It's so tacky. I like it's a little tacky. I like when people actually have those nice homes and decorate them for each holiday. But don't try to carry over your decorations for each holiday. I agree.
See, for me, I think most people drink the ocean spray cranberry juice.
Yeah, that's not the real cranberry. That's not real cranberry juice. You ain't no real cranberry drinker. Yeah, you're not a real cran drinker. But neither am I, because I don't like the tart one. It don't have no sugar in it. Yeah. So I just take the pills. But what I'll say is this, though. This coochie ain't seen a UTI in years. No, mine neither. I know that right. Yeah.
But I feel like it's because I take... You take the... You ought to do something to supplement it. But when I said... I said... I tweeted that. I said, I love cranberry juice. And they was like, oh, yeah, the cranapple, the cranpineapple. I said, see, y'all ain't... No, I don't want that crangrape, cranapple, pineapple. I don't want that. Crangrape used to bust, though. It did back in the day.
In my household. That went number one, triple platinum in my household.
I'm serious. Me and my mama used to fuck up some creme. No, we did too, but as I got older, like, I wanted pure. And when they came out with that creme mango, I said, ooh. See, I want that pure cocaÃna. I like my cranberries. Well, I mean, that's what it is with you over there drinking. I don't know. Like, how you feel about people that don't like to drink water? Because nothing trumps water.
I've been influenced. I was influenced so bad. By who? Can I have another one, Ty? Yeah, absolutely. So, this is so off topic. Y'all know, if y'all don't, well, if y'all don't know this about me, I love. I know, we over here cutting up. I love horror movies. Horror movies? Horror. Oh. Not whore. I just said whore. You have a lot of whore movies in your phone. Me?
You know, I do a little one, too, but you know that's between me and my phone. But I love horror movies, so I love scary movies, and every time I either have friends, none of my friends like scary movies. I don't. None of my people that I usually have dated in the past would ever like scary movies, but my girl, B. Lynn, loves scary movies. For real? That's how we first got really, really cool.
Because we were talking and I was like, oh my God, you love scary movies, so do I. So anyways, me and Belen went to the movies and we seen that movie Smile too. Okay. So fire. So fire. If you haven't followed The Smile, it's only on the second one. But you got to go back. Did you watch the first one? It's like an 11-minute short film that inspired everything. Oh, it's so good.
Now, I want to say this to the man who directed it. I can't think of his name right now. Please change how the monster look. I don't like how the monster look. But anyways, I got influenced, right? Okay. I'm not a person who is easily influenced. Like, if you post something and I go buy it, you did your big one. Smile 2, the whole movie was sponsored by Boss Water.
Not the regular plastic bottles, the glass Voss waters. Because every time she was, like, panicking, she would drink Voss water in the glass bottle. And it just looked so refreshing. And then it looked so, like, nice and neat in the fridge. And Voss water in the glass bottles is expensive. It is. I'm not going to lie. I'm going to need y'all.
Like, if you won't do it, you got to be one of them DIY girls. What's a DIY girl? The light-skinned girl. She's been on YouTube for years, and she used to do, like, makeup, but now she does all DIY stuff. She's so good. Like, she has a deal with, like, Home Depot. Oh, my gosh. I cannot think of her name. I have to look up her name because I really want to shout her out because she's so cute.
I have an Amazon wish list that I'm going to do this year for, like, little things that I want. So what I want you to buy me... It's my barista pods. That's what I want for Christmas. I need some barista pods. Why I'm on barista pod duty? Because that's what I want, but I want like a whole bunch, like at least $200 worth. But they have to all be vodka-based drinks. I'll send you the link.
But we doing cheap for Christmas. Expensive for birthdays. Girl, $200 ain't cheap. Yes, it is. No, it's not. That's how we know you don't have $3 anymore. Because $200 is not cheap for a gift. Well, I feel like for me and you, it is. Because the stuff that we usually get each other for Christmas. You just bought me, like, a $2,500 camera. I did. And me. Love Lex P coming soon. Anyways. But. Yeah.
So the Voss water, I decided I'm filling up my fridge with Voss water. I am. So I'm going to put like an Amazon. So y'all can send me the bottles. Singular. All of them if you want. Whatever. I'm busy. Amazon wish list. I want to fill up my fridge with glass Voss water. I have to. I have to. Why? It just looks so good. Because of how it looks. I was influenced. Yeah.
And then Boss Water is actually good water. No, it is. It tastes great. It tastes great. But I'm just not spending it for no glass bottles that I'm going to throw away. That's why I said I'm going to do an Amazon wish list. But no, I'm probably going to save my bottles and refill them so it still looks like that. I don't have to. Not you going to. Not you going to.
Not you gonna do what we did in college and put them on top of your counters. I mean, on top of your cabinets. She gonna have Voss water bottles all around her kitchen cabinet. But I will say this. The Voss, if anybody is watching that works with Voss, I'm serious. Holler at us. We can work something out. Boss water is good.
My Stanley Cup is somewhere. Oh, it's right over there. Are you like, you're a Stanley Cup girl. I absolutely am a Stanley Cup girl.
What's up, y'all? It's your girl, Lex P. And it's your girl, Dre Nicole. And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Minds. Ho, ho, ho. Ooh, a remix. We ain't got no guests today. We rocking down the hill in the sleigh. Oh.
Like, it's hard to just do that in a regular water bottle. Well, I say, are you like the Stanley Cup girl? Like, you're at Target fighting for your life. They had the Wicked Cups. No. They had the Tyler Cups. They were in Target fighting.
Okay. You don't collect them? No. Why do I need more than, like, two? Okay. Because that's what they do. I mean, in no shade. In no shade to the people who like to collect Stanley Cups. Like, I think everything, you know, different people have their different hobbies and their different collector's items that they like. Yeah.
Um, I personally just like Stanley cups because like I said, for me, I put supplements in my water, especially when I go work out and it's just easier than having like an actual, cause I used to just drink my water out of like the Trader Joe's water bottles that they come in or the Whole Foods water bottles that they come in. Now I pour my water in there and then I put my supplements in there.
Okay. That's really it. But like some people do collect them. Yeah, they collect them. And they be bedazzling them. And sometimes they'll resell them. Yeah. For like $100 and $150 and they be buying them. The ones that are limited edition. Yes. Now, I will say this. I did see the Tyler Stanley Cup, and it was super cute. Super cute. Because it was like a tiger print or something, right?
And I used to watch her videos all the time. But I'm getting a little bougie, I fear. Mm-hmm. What do you mean? Because, yeah, it's giving. I'm not putting no Christmas tree up and taking it down no more. So, ever? I think I'm about to start hiring somebody to come do my Christmas tree. Mm. I'm not mad at that. Starting next year, yeah. I think I'm going to start hiring somebody.
What you think about Tyler? Because you know they say that she's the... The new Rihanna is what they're trying to give her. What you think about that? I like Tyler. I like Tyler, but I hate when people compare people to other people or say they're the new anything. Like, it can only be one Rihanna. Right, right. I agree with that. Rihanna is Rihanna. Like, nobody can be Rihanna.
It can't be a new Rihanna. It's one Rihanna. So, this is the difference between Tyler and Rihanna to me, though. Tyler is... She's fucking good. Y'all think Rihanna is good? Bro, I am a Rihanna. I am in the Navy. Yeah. I'm the captain of the... I am the captain of the ship. I am the captain now. I am a... What I'm saying is Rihanna came up in a time where social media was different.
So I feel like people try to drag Tyla a lot. But her team is doing a good job because they make her keep quiet. And I'm not saying that she says crazy things. But nowadays, you can say one thing like us. We say one thing wrong. We be on the couch drinking drunk, having a good time. They be like, "'Cancel them!' Kill them! Drag them!
Remember how they was... When Shrek was in the woods and they came to kill him? That's how they be doing me and Drea, right? But I feel like... That's how they be trying to. But what I'm saying is... Key word. Try. I think it's a good... Her team is doing a good job. Tyla is really... Like, Tyla... Listen to me. I don't care what y'all say. Tyla has the components to be a huge superstar.
Like, major. Like, literally for years and years to come. So, I want them to keep her on this path. Don't do interviews. Don't come on part of mine because I'm going to make you say something. See, I just have, like, a... Well, not like that, but... Well, no. I was just going to, like, kind of going back to what you were saying.
Now, but if Rihanna would have started in 2021... It would probably be a different story because cancel culture is so weird and it's crazier now.
I know what I'm saying. We don't.
Because I'm not going to lie, that be the thing, too. Like, last year, I will be. Sorry, Raven Elise. Oh, okay. Raven Elise is so good. I've heard of her. She's so good. I just had to get her name because I feel like our platform is a little too big to not be giving people props. Yeah, so Raven Elise, she has good DIY for the black girlies, everybody. But I love when the black women be doing that.
Cardi B came out after Rihanna. She very much started kind of getting popular and stuff around, like, 2019. Right. Cardi B be... saying whatever the fuck she want to say. But that's because that was in the beginning of her career. I'm not going to lie. And I'm a, I'm part of Bardi gang.
I'm a hot, I'm everything. So this is not, but I'll say this. I am very interested to see what that album does though. Because it's been a lot of craziness going on. I'm going to listen. I'm going to support. I don't care if she's talking about sitting on the toilet and taking a shit. I'm going to jam that hoe because I'm a Cardi fan. But what I'm saying is I don't know how other people are.
A lot of times people can't just consume the art. That's all I'm saying. I mean, and that's fair, but I feel like people who cannot consume... I think I'm the type of person where it's like I want the people...
But I also think we need to go back to media training. Let's go back.
I think that's the issue. Do you? That's the issue. Why? I should not be able to say... So say you are a famous pop star. I should not be able to tweet you and get a reaction out of you. I should not. Why though?
People are human, but I want to go back to the Whitney Houston days. I want to go back to the Toni Braxton days where we looked at these people because that's what made the music more good and you could just feel something because you didn't necessarily know. Now, when a person drops a song, Everybody trying to decipher it and break it down. How much did it sell? This stand. I'm a stand of her.
I'm a stand of her. Man, shut all that shit up. This is why we not getting good music. Because y'all are more concerned about who they fucking and who they dating and who they like and don't like. I don't disagree, but I also just feel like it's unrealistic though to think that way because you got to get with the times.
That's why LL Cool J... Everybody still had landlines. That's why LL Cool J had to make Head Sprung. Why? Because he had to get with the times. When Head Sprung came out, he had never made music like that before.
So that's, yeah. So, go ahead, go ahead.
I had the man reimburse me. No, he was serious. But that was a good song. It was a great song. Because everybody used to be, we be up in the club. That was a good song. But when I'm talking over there, I'm talking about some... It was a good song. Not a little sway. But what I'm saying is he got... I'm agreeing with you because you're right. He got with the time.
So we got to get back on these Christmas topics. Why? I like this topic. I thought it was a good topic. But yeah, I just feel like... The South got something to say. Because I just feel like, I don't know.
It's hard. It's a hard area to be in. Because it's like, on one end, I do want to speak my mind and say things, but at the same time, and I feel like I do to a certain extent. You don't know. You don't really know more, though. Not as much as you used to. Oh, absolutely. But I feel like I'm the same way.
Like, I got the idea, but this is what I want you to do. Right, right. But, um, I just don't be having the patience. But like I was saying, I'm gonna keep it real with you. Last year, I probably kept my tree up till, like, the end of January. Okay. The end of January not bad. But that's a little... I thought you was about to say March. No, no, no, no. I...
It's like if I'm on the phone with you, I'm going to just say how I feel. But now, obviously, we know the climate does not permit that anymore. We was on the phone maybe like two weeks ago for like seven hours. And when I got off the phone... We what? Yes, literally. I can't remember what day it was. Yes, we was on... Maybe not seven. It was probably, like, maybe five. We used to... We did.
We really used to be on the phone for seven hours. No, but I'm saying... It was literally, like, two weeks ago. I was like, damn, we ain't been on the phone. Like, we be on the phone for, like, two, three hours. But, like, we was on the phone maybe, like, two or three weeks ago for, like, six or seven hours. And I was like, damn, we ain't been on the phone.
But I was just cracking up because I'm like, if they can hear this... Yeah. Bruh. But it's so much shit we just can't say. It's just, we can't. That's why we started the show, because our conversations were so... And I think that's why a lot of people be like, oh, the red and black background. Because it was only like 20, 30,000 of y'all tuned in. Now it's like 100,000, 200,000.
And it's like, we say something and a lot of people don't get her humor. They don't get my humor. I'm not gonna lie. That was a comment the other day. I hate when people try to clock our tea of what's going on with us. Somebody was like, oh, you can tell Dre and Lex not fucking with each other. I said, goddamn it, the one time I ain't made her mad in months. Y'all tea is cold. Yeah.
Like, what are you talking about? Just hang it up. Just hang it up flat screen because you're never going to know whenever we're getting along and when we're not. I agree. And it shouldn't even matter to you. Do you get along with your friends? How are your relationships in your life? Because when you get one... Because when you get one, focus on the present. Focus. Focus on you.
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Ain't no way it's springtime and the pollen is out and I still have my Christmas tree. You know, people be frosting their tree white. If your tree turn yellow from the pollen, bitch, take that shit down. Ain't no way the pollen and the bees is out and my tree still up. It is. It's no way. But people be doing that.
Like, it's going to happen when I'm ready for it to happen. And when I am with child and when I am engaged, y'all will be the first. Them cookies smell so fucking good. They do. I'm sorry. I cannot fucking focus. They do smell good. But go ahead. He said they sweet. They fucking good, right, AWOL? They are good. If you let these cookies out, Santa's finna give you a fucking G-Wagon or the Bentley.
Mm-hmm. Jesus. Oh, you do? Don't. Wait, can we read at the end? Because I'm going to cry. I'm emotional today. Oh, for the cookies.
I love Christmas cards. I love Christmas. She said, hold on, bitch. Bitch, it ain't that type of card. Okay, keep going. Keep going. I was just saying that... Don't clock my tea. Yeah, I was just saying, like, I don't like that. Like, don't ask me. If I want to share, that's what people be having to realize. Family or not, auntie or not, mama or not, it don't matter who.
Hey. And I knew the lyrics because... Hey, I'm Kendrick Lamar.
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They been married to Uncle Leotis for 50 years. Leotis is crazy. You ain't never met nobody named Leotis. Leotis? I met a Leo. You from Orange, Texas. I met a Leo, and I met an Otis.
Well, I do think so, but I also think it's easier when you have help. So, like, if you have, like, a roommate or you live with family or you live with your partner, y'all can help each other put up. It's a family event. Y'all can help each other put down and decorate. You know what I'm saying?
I like more English. Old English? No, old English names are the best. Bartholomew. Bitch, who do you know? Bartholomew eats down. Yeah. I thought that was a dog name. Old English names be eating y'all up. I thought Bartholomew was a dog name. I only ever met a dog named Bartholomew. I had a dog because it was my dog. I told that story and I used to call him little B. But I actually did meet a dog.
I never met your dog. No, you never met my dog. You never met my dog. You didn't know nobody named Bartholomew. Cinnabold. You never knew nobody named Cinnabar. Baldwin. Would y'all name y'all kid Baldwin? Edmund. Edmund eats. Edgar.
Bro, this, I don't know what that was doing with William Shakespeare, bitch. Godric kind of cute, though. That's probably where Roderick derived from. Black people always got to make some shit our own. I'm telling you, old English names, when I name my kid, he's getting a, oh, this is a good list. Ooh, Althred. I've never heard that. Let's get creative with it. She said Althrid, not Althrid.
My mama used to watch Alfred Hitchcock. Oswine? I'm fucking with Oswine. Yes, I am. I am. Oh, my God. This shit is so good. Eldred? I know. No, I do. I do know a nigga named Eldred. Okay, that shit eats. I do know a nigga named Eldred. No lie. Bro, I'm telling you, these names... He lived in Houston.
But... Okay, sorry. Back to the topic. But let me say this, though. Because let me give it to it on the opposite end. I have a little cousin. Her name is Ariana. I never say her name on show. Sorry, Ariana. I'm finna embarrass you. Because I love my little cousin. I think she maybe just turned 20 or 21. And when I tell you my cousin is gorgeous... Gorgeous. I'm talking about model-esque gorgeous.
Like, if she really would focus and, like... hone in. She could really model. Yeah, no, I've met her. She is really pretty. She's gorgeous. Like, I felt like I used to be the Beyonce of the family. Ariana's the Beyonce of the family because sometimes you got to pass the torch, right? So, I'm the auntie of the family now, right? I'm the rich auntie that comes around, whatever.
I'm not gonna lie, like... I never decorate my house for Christmas. I was going to do it this year.
I feel like sometimes when I'm asking, if I'm looking at my 20, 21-year-old cousin and I'm asking her about her love life, I'm not asking to be mean, though. I'm asking because let me help you so you don't make Lex P went through that so you ain't got to go through that.
So I feel like sometimes the older generation is asking us to either warn us or help us, but it's not about what you say, it's how you say it. I think it's different when you're asking somebody to, like, inquire and give them advice.
I was like, I really want to get in the mood. But honestly, like, I haven't decided what I'm doing for Christmas. I'm either going to stay here with that man or I'm going to go home with my family.
You in my coochie lips. You in a lot of business if you in them coochie lips. You in my uterus. Like, worry about yourself. Worry about you. Like, I don't like that.
Don't give me no unsolicited advice that I didn't ask for, auntie. All right, but you don't know you need this advice, because guess what? And I'm not going to listen still. I wish. But I say this all the time. I think me and you are different, though. I wish. You didn't listen either. I didn't, but guess what? Because I didn't have a Lex P. I didn't have a Dre and a Cole.
Because we know how to say it. And we know how to like, because we older, but we still a little cool with it. I can beef it up. That is not cool. It's not? No. What the kids do? What is that?
Ariana probably be like, man, hell no. I'm cool as fuck. I'm cool as fuck, bro. That's all I be telling. I say, niece, I'm cool. I'm cool. That's not my niece. That's my cousin. But anyways, I say all that to say because I didn't have a Lex P though. I'm not hip. I'm really not. But I don't try to be. But I know, I know enough.
to let you know because at the end of the day, I may not be in tune with the 20-year-olds because I'm not supposed to be. But, bitch, I'm a bad bitch. I get some money. I know what the fuck goes on in this world. You need to know what the fuck going on. I didn't have that. You do if you come ask me.
We trying to make it a merry fucking Christmas, bitch. I hear you. You the one that said you was single on the show. Now, look, I called Harvey to take it out. Now we got to take it out again.
You all up in my business. But I do think this, as black people, we need to stop being scared talking about money, though. No, we do.
So the reason I say this is because we have another cousin. And I never want to make my younger cousins feel the way that I feel like some of my family members have made me feel.
So I'll say this. The reason with me, this is how the conversation started. I'm like, y'all in my family business. So I had another cousin. She's closer to Ariana in age. And she had a boyfriend at the time. And he came to the house. We really didn't like him. We really didn't approve. Everybody was being friendly. Now, my cousin Ariana, like I said, I can shout at her. She don't love this shit.
She was really like not feeling him, asking him questions. And my older aunt... my mom's sister had to tell her, like, Ariana, like, calm down, like, you know what I'm saying? And she was like, no, because I want to know. And then, so she had, when I came, she put me up on T. And she was like, this is what's going on, girl.
So the reason I felt comfortable, because it's like, you being vocal, so let me be vocal to you. I just want you to be smart, because... But she 20. Like, a 20-year-old don't know they plays. She don't, but I also feel like if I, at 20, the woman that I am now...
No, bro. Ty, come get a cookie. No, you got to get that miso with the seeds on them. I want that chocolate chip. Come get it. The chocolate chip is good. Ty, come get it. And when you get over there, you got to talk about it because I'm going to be finished and we're going to move. All I say is this. If you can guide your younger youth
but do it in a good way that's received well, we have to change the generations. Our aunts, I think, our aunts, our grandmothers, grandmother, they were trying to warn us and tell us about things, but they don't know how to say it. So I'll give them that grace. Now, I'm 35 now. If I go home for Christmas next week, don't talk to me about nothing. I got this. But I feel like we are the aunties now.
She said, oh, hey, girl. I said, uh. Mm-hmm. I already be knowing. That's why when you said that, I side-eyed you from the couch. Ooh. Girl, I ain't gonna play. But yeah, I feel you. Maybe you'll do it next year. You know what? I'll say this. I am, but I feel like, honestly, next year, I'm gonna be living, I am getting, I'm getting in my family bag next year.
We're not old, but we are old enough to tell these 20, 21, 22-year-olds, even the girls that are listening to the show, y'all my nieces, y'all my nephews. Because I'll talk to the boys, too. Because there'll be girls out here that be trying to do X, Y, Z. You know what I'm saying? So I feel like it's not about what you say, it's how you say it. Yeah, that's fair.
And the older that I get, the more and more I realize, even my granny ain't know what the fuck she was doing. What none of us do. Like my granny didn't know. My mama still don't know. My daddy didn't know.
so I just I don't know like I even try to like I said unless someone comes and asks me I really don't be trying to give people advice like that because bitch I don't know I don't know I don't even know how I ended up here to be honest yes the fuck you do What I'm saying? No, I don't, though. I really don't.
Because when I was in my 20s, I was very much a person who I did what the fuck I wanted to do when I wanted to do it. If I didn't want to fucking work a job no more, I was going to quit.
Yeah. You're 100% right. But to be completely honest, that's like some anomaly shit. it's not going to work for everybody. So, and to be honest, I did not, like, yeah, I knew we had a good idea.
When I was 25 and I decided to move to Atlanta, I didn't know that I was going to end up doing this.
Hard work beats talent. Every time. There is a lot of people who are making a lot of money that y'all be like, how, how, how? Because they're going to outwork you. So the reason I feel like it's my duty to sit on this couch and tell you young people, because I swear to God, if I had a Lex P to look up to, because nobody sat me down and said...
That was cute. You know? That was cute, but yes, we're a drunk mind. Speak sober thoughts. All right, now. Let's get the party started. Let's get this party started, y'all. Merry Christmas. Merry Christmas. It is our annual Christmas episode. You know, everything is Christmas today. And I have to start with this. I did not have... I don't know. I ain't never seen that dress in my life.
work, put out the content, or go do this, focus on this. I was focused on partying. Now, have fun, but if I would have went hard, baby, I would have had my Oscar by now. I would have been, I would have been, like, so what I'm saying, all I say is, like, we are in a position to tell people Have a little more balance. I didn't have... I don't know about you, because we weren't friends then.
I don't know who, if it's, you know, I'm not saying with who or whatever. I don't know. But I'm going to be in a home next year, too. Like, I think once I get in a home, I'll be more in the spirit. Because I definitely want to start hosting. Like, I want to be that person where everybody comes to Atlanta, come stay with me. Eh. And, you know, like, I want to do that.
I didn't have no balance. It was party, party, party. Let's all get wasted. I'm wasted.
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I don't care if we met two hours before Christmas. I want a gift. Well, if y'all met yesterday, if y'all met on December 23rd and y'all had a fire date, what kind of gift do you expect, though? Give me a little gift card. How much on it? A little spa, spa date. How much on it?
It's the thought that count. I don't care if I met you and we had a fire date, nigga, I graced your present. Give me a motherfucking present. I feel like we are in a time where people just don't want to be nice. Why don't y'all want to be nice to people?
Christmas is two days from now. Why would you not want to get me something? You can Uber Eats. I say this all the time. You can Uber Eats roses. Literally. Or some jerk chicken. Anything. Anything. If I said on the day, oh, my God, jerk chicken is my favorite food, and then on Christmas Day, now, you know I'm eating, but don't send no jerk chicken for real because you know we eating.
And I feel like I'm so, I'm setting up my 2025 to be so good. Like, I'm going to put myself in the position to be hosting Christmas next year. For, like, my family, my friends, whoever wants to come. Because I do want to do that. Because my mom used to do that. So I really, really want to do that. So I'm like, okay, I'm going to be in a home next year, hopefully with my family.
But if you just sent some flowers or something. You can still send me some. Anything, though, because I feel like I'm going to get you a card. Let me tell you one thing about memories that are so good. If you sat down and bought a card, a Hallmark card or whatever card, and wrote a pair, hey, I know this is early, but we had an amazing date.
And no matter where this goes, where this leads, I just know we had a fire first date. You're special to me, and I hope you have an amazing Christmas. Now, say y'all end up five years, six years from now getting married.
You have that card. Later than you. Later than you. You have this card. That means so much to you and your spouse. This is something that you can look back on forever. Memories, sentimental gifts. I don't care if it's the first date. Take pictures.
Thanks. Thanks. I've been working. I've been working on my range. But yeah, I think that you should. I think if you just started talking to somebody, we need to get out of this era of feeling like, oh, this is corny. This is corny. There was a little guy who went viral the other day because he was like, oh, I got a first date tonight. I bought flowers.
And it was so many men calling him corny for getting her flowers. Mm-hmm. It's okay to court women, but women, it's okay to be nice to men too. And friends too. Like you can meet a friend on like the 20th and then it's Christmas.
Yvette, let me tell you something.
A vet made me some shepherd's pie one time and I ate on that bitch for two, three days. And somebody tried to call me out in the comments. They said legs don't... Because you like peas. I don't. A vet. Exactly. I said that. I said a vet doesn't put peas in her shepherd's pie because I don't eat peas.
But anyways, I said that because I was like, oh my God, she took the time out and she did that for me. Be sentimental with your gifts, but I absolutely believe, I don't care if you met me a day before Christmas.
A card. It's four, oh, I said four. Three, four dollars. A hypnotic. Get a card. The hypnotic analysis.
And, you know, my other family can come in and we can have a time. Mm-hmm. But, you know, we gonna see how these holidays go. You know, the holidays be a tricky time. Then everybody be announcing, you be finding out. I didn't even know have these people had girlfriends, boyfriends. They posting in the matching pajamas. You gonna be posting in matching pajamas this year? Who, me? Yeah.
So it's cool. I agree. I agree. I think do something. We just met. It only been five days, nigga. I'm not sending you no Cartier bracelets. Right, right. But I think we should get back to being nice and doing nice things for people. It's so funny. Let me tell y'all a story. Let me tell y'all a story about how I was dating this guy. And I didn't have no money at the time. And he did, right?
And I don't care if he see this or not because I will never forgive him to this day because you weird. Oh, brother. To this day, like, okay, he used to, like, you know, fly me out, whatever. But he knew I didn't have no money. I was always very honest with the guys at the time I used to date. So his birthday came around. I didn't have no money, y'all. None? Nothing. No, I didn't. Zero?
I mean, I had a little one, too, but it wasn't enough to do nothing big. So I sent him like this little basket of like his favorite candies and little things like that. So he decides to get on the Internet and was like, I done bought this girl X, Y, Z, sent her this amount of money, did this and that, and she sent me a basket full of candy. And it made me so mad. It hurt my feelings.
I was like, that's all I had the money for. And I sent him a message. I said, you know what? I said, this is fucked up because this is all I had at the moment. I was trying to be sentimental and be nice and give you something. But you know what? It's cool. It's cool. To this day, to this day, this nigga fell off. Nigga went to jail for scamming. He probably still eating that candy.
Still, because he has to now. Because that's all you got to eat. And to this day, this man still DMs me. I'm so proud of you. You should have did me right, though. You should have been thankful for that basket I sent you. Because now, I really could see you a G.Y. Gold or a Bentley. But you ain't never getting... Okay, I'm not sending... all that. But you know what I mean.
He's still eating them sweet tarts. Because I'm up now. That's why you don't treat people like that because all the girls, all the baddies you was messing with, probably none of them ain't never got you nothing. At least I tried to go out of my way to get you something. They sharing them sweet tarts. Y'all eating them sweet tarts together, whole ass nigga.
I swear to God, that happened so long ago and I will never forget about it. Because that's so ungrateful. That's so ungrateful.
Okay, that's different. That's different. Like, if that's your man...
It's okay. I'm not going to lie, though.
I'm not posting them in until I'm engaged. Okay, well, are y'all gonna be in matching pajamas?
No, no, no, no, no. Don't do that. I'm clocking that tea. No, you can't clock my tea. Because I feel like when your birthday rolls around, I give you whatever you want. So if it's a different holiday, like a Christmas, and I send you a basket of candy or something... No. Because I don't even eat candy. If I send you a basket of oranges, bitch... It's the thought that counts.
If I send you some oranges and some smoothies... It's the thought that counts.
I don't even eat candy. You like oranges. I like oranges, but don't send me that. I can go to Whole Foods. It's the thought that counts. Now you don't got to go to Whole Foods.
You have everything in the house that you need. I don't. What if I want to switch up my decor? Okay, I'll do that now. That's what I'm saying. And that's not super expensive.
Right, but like I said... If you know them. But if it's somebody you just met, it's the thought that counts. It's the thought that counts, but also... Because if you send me some candy, I'm on your ass. Right, but if you send me some candy and I know you don't have much. At the time, I didn't have much. But you sent me candy, you wouldn't send me no vegetables? Well, no.
You wouldn't send me a little salmon? It was... A little steak? A little sirloin? It was like a gift basket and it was wrapped up and it had a bunch of different stuff. It was cute. It was thoughtful. Yeah, I want some Hershey Kisses for dinner and I don't got no fucking food. Well, you got food. And I'm talking about you. Talk about you knew he didn't have nothing.
So you sent him some candy? No, no, no, no. I sent him candy. He had money at the time. Oh. He had money. He was... So he thought it was funny. Like, bitch, why you send me this? And what your other bitches sent you? And what them other bitches got now? Because why you blowing on my phone? Stop talking to me. I don't have nothing to say to you. Because you tried to play me when I had $3.
Now he would be grateful if you sent him a little basket of green canned green beans and corn corn. He want them pinto beans. He want them beans. So I got them good cans. I get the exclusive. You know how they be sending them boxes every month and you got a subscription service? You can't send a can of pinto beans. You got to send a dry one. Man, I got a subscription service to a bean company.
So I get a basket of beans with assortments. You have a... You're lying. Hey, mind your business. All I got to say is this. You have a subscription to a bean company? You in my business? Do you like assortment of beans? Have you ever had... It's like something... It's called like 12 bean soup. Bitch, 12 beans is being 12. That's 11 beans. Too many beans. I only need one bean in my soup.
It's like a soup and it has... Why the fuck is it 12 beans? It's got beans, greens, potatoes... All I need is a little pinto, a red... A lima. You can't put lima in there. You gotta choose one. Lima is not the same. That's categories. You can't put lima beans.
Well, I didn't mean, like, you don't have to post it on socials, but a lot of times, like, people will take pictures and they don't post them. They'll post them, like, either in their close friends or they're just for them, for memories. Oh, are y'all gonna take pictures in pajamas?
But I'm saying in the soup. Why the fuck do I want 12 different beans in my soup? It's gonna be like white beans, black beans, pinto beans, red beans, chili beans. Them farts about to be astronomical. Let's move on, because you finna piss me off. Literally astronomical. You ate them. Because what?
No, that's what Lex P gave to me. What the fuck do a bitch got a fucking bean subscription box? Okay, bitch. Let's move on. Now, it's time to get into the bed. Bow. The bed. Bow. Bow. Bow, bow, bow. So, the topic for the bed today is sneaking away from the holiday party to have sex. How do you feel about that? I love sneak peeking. You a little sneak dicker? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I think... For sure.
I think sneak dicking should be reserved for, like, seasoned couples to keep it exciting and fun. I think, like, if you're at a holiday party, and this is, like, the second or third date, and y'all are just now getting to know each other, that man might be too lustful. Because this is only our second or third date. Why are you trying to, like, get away from the party and go have sex?
But now, if we've been in a relationship for like over a year and a half, two years, oh, it's exciting. It's fun, but it gotta be quick. See, this is the problem with sneak dicking in the party. You cannot want to go all out and be doing... You gotta be able to slide in the bathroom. Mind you, it's a half bathroom. If you at a house party, it's a half bathroom, right?
Yeah, but I probably still won't post it on my close friends, because, I mean, it's still people in my close friends that I just feel like, you know... But it'll be for you. But you're gonna take... Y'all gonna take pictures or it'll just be for you and your memory? I don't know. The weird thing about close friends is I just be feeling like, are these really your close friends? Like, 60 people?
They just got a toilet and the sink in there. That's all we need. You got to be able to bend over the sink, lift your dress up. You got to do your quick pumps. If you know you ain't finna... If you been drinking Hennessy all night, I hate Hennessy dick. I hate Hennessy. I don't really like drunk sex, though. I like it, but sometimes when men get too drunk, they can't nut.
The holiday parties, the sneak dicking, it needs to be quick. So if you ain't finna nut, we ain't finna sneak away from the party. We ain't finna fuck. We ain't. Baby, welcome to the party. Not that one. Yeah. Yeah. I just feel like it definitely needs to be a quickie. But, you know, it's not just reserved for holiday parties. It's not, but it's the holidays. But it is the holidays.
I think it also is dependent on where you are. I'm not sneak peeking at my grandma house.
Or the work party. That's disrespectful. I'm not sneak-dicking in my auntie bathroom. Yeah, I agree. I agree. Not her little plaid towel accent on the floor. You wiping it with your cookies. Using that for the nut rag. The ho, ho, ho. Merry Christmas rag. Come on, now. Be respectful. Have some decency. They gonna go in the restroom the next day. Why are these so still? Ooh. I'm too mad.
Now, who the hell got... Who in there that did this shit? Gotta throw my damn rag away. No, she just gotta wash it. Mm-hmm. But I think, too, in the work, if it's a work party, your coworkers do not want to hear that either. Well, let's say this first. You got to be quiet. Sometimes the coochie be loud now. It's getting too loud. Stop beating it up in a bathroom. We supposed to be quiet.
The cheeks should not be clapping. But what if you can't help it? Then spread them cheeks and tell him to slow down. Spread them cheeks. They can't clap if they spread. You gotta grab that. But it's still gonna be the... No, that's the... Now, that's a different sound. You talking about... That's not as loud. The music... I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about... The mac and cheese.
We got to get technical. We got to get technical. So we can tell them how to have sex at the holler. Now that mac and cheese sound going to happen. That's when you play. It might. Act like you on your phone scrolling. Oh, I'm taking a shit. Whatever. What kind of coochie you got? Me? Yeah. Me? Yeah, compare it to some Christmas food.
What kind of mac and cheese, what kind of, not mac and cheese, what kind of coochie you got? Compare it to the Christmas food. What kind of coochie you got?
in my close friends now I do know everybody and have met everybody in person but um I don't know you like that you might screenshot it trying to show your friend I used to have a lot and then once I started posting yeah you used to have a lot of people and then I literally it's like 30 people in there now it's like nobody in there but I never posted my close friends to be honest so I don't see myself doing it for Christmas yeah okay
You could have cornbread dressing. Ooh, that's a little dry. That's a little dry. But when you add that Ghibli gravy, it's a little moist. But you could have that ham. That ham be juicy and meaty. I got a ham. I got a ham. You got a ham. It's juicy and it's meaty. Oh, you know what? I might got yams. It's a little sweet. It's a little sweet and juicy. That's what I'm saying. My shit is meaty.
What's the frozen dinner roll? It's an option. I really don't need to eat it. Madam Super. I don't need to eat it, but I take it because it sells. Y'all got the yeast roll. I'm going to put it on my plate because you feel like you're supposed to have a roll, but I really don't need this shit. It ain't that good. Yeah. I don't need a roll.
Y'all got that cranberry sauce because I don't need that neither. But cranberry sauce, it ain't wet, it ain't dry, but it's like, it's cool. The cranberry sauce, I like. I don't know, though, because every time I ever go to a Holiday Avie and they have cranberry sauce, it's still there. And it's always still there. Cranberry, and this is coming from a bitch who love cranberry.
You don't eat cranberry sauce. I don't. I will take a little bite sometimes, but... I'll say this. I've had cranberry sauce one time, but it was homemade. And it was really fucking good. But most of the time, people get it from the can. And they could eat. Yeah. A lot of y'all got that cranberry sauce. Yeah, I think cranberry sauce. It's wet and it's juicy, but niggas ain't fucking with it.
green bean casserole getting ate. It stinks, though. But that's what... See, this is how... And niggas will be eating it and it be stinking. No, this is when you trying to get in an interracial relationship. The black girls who got the green bean casserole is the one with the bad wigs because they can pull the other ones. You know they say they only date us when we got bad wigs. Shit.
Green Bean Casserole Coochie, they going on the ATV rides. They in Dubai. I disagree. Nah, I'm telling you that Green Bean Casserole Coochie. I think the girls with the bad wigs, I think they got that hem.
Not you, but I'm saying I think the girls with the bad wigs got that hem.
No, they don't. You don't think white women got good coochie? Y'all don't think none of them got good coochie? I don't think they know how to put that dang down, flip it and reverse it. Okay, but this is the thing. We've talked about this before.
Right. Knowing what to do with that thing. I think more of them have good sex than good coochie. I agree. Y'all don't think they got good coochie? Y'all don't think they just got that, let me just lay the... I... Sometimes I know what I got.
Yeah, same. I got that, baby, baby, please. You know I got that baby baby. I know. Baby baby please originated from me. I'm telling you, you gotta have that baby baby please. Why are you letting me say ass legs? That did originate from me. That's what I'm saying. I do not think, and this is, and my ex said that. He was like, baby baby please.
All I'm saying is, this is not, I swear y'all, let's please say something. Wait, I'm trying to tell... I'm trying to tell them what the baby... Because if not, I got the video in my phone. All I'm saying is... Of you. All I'm saying is... Y'all have to understand there's a difference like she said. But I do not think that the women that date outside, I don't think they got that ham.
That makes sense. That makes sense. So, speaking of... Since we on the topic of Christmas, can I tell y'all something I just found out? What? Can I... I need y'all to say we listen and we don't judge. We might. Judge. Come on! Depends on what it is. We got to get in the spirit. Say, we listen and we don't judge. Y'all say it. We listen and we don't judge. Thank you. Okay, so... Huh?
I think they got that green bean casserole. And the green bean casserole is green bean casserole. I like green bean casserole so I can speak because I'm an expert. But niggas who like green bean casserole, they green. So you might go find a nigga that like green bean casserole, but he a square ass nigga. He don't know about them yams. He ain't had that good ham. He ain't had that mac and cheese.
So he like, oh, this green bean casserole busting. I know he don't know nothing if he like that. But... Because you know why though? It's very few people that really make green bean casserole with a real... We not doing this again today. We are.
Because people be using the canned mushroom and the canned... If somebody can make green bean casserole with the real shit and busting it down, they making it with the roux, with the flour, and they doing it with the chicken stock, and they're actually cutting up the mushrooms and adding it in there. That's how you really make a green bean casserole. They don't know about that. It's okay.
We can keep not knowing. But what I'm saying... But I think that's crazy that y'all think a whole population of people, nobody got good coochie. Ooh, we finna get canceled, right? Because of that? I'm finna get canceled? Okay, I'll say who I think got good coochie from them.
That bitch ran a whole 14 mother different countries. That was a tourist queen. Shay's talking about it was messy. Don't matter. It got the job done. She probably had that green bean casserole. It don't gotta be good. It gotta be edible. It don't gotta be good. Is it edible, baby? That was a word, Liz. I'm telling you. It don't. That's why y'all get caught up in all this good coochie shit.
She outlived her nigga. She did. You know how bad, you know how stressful men are? That coochie would kill them. You know how stressful men are? To outlive a man is a feat. No, it's not. We always outlive them. These men are stressful. They be running the women into their grave. Okay? You know who they do that to? Us, though. I'm talking about us. I'm not talking about them. They outlive them.
Why? They coochie. No, it's edible. It's edible. It ain't good. It's edible. Okay? But I was good, so why would I live this? Because we do too much.
Ham is good. But sometimes people be like, oh, I don't want ham. I don't know. I think coochie is good currency. Coochie is valuable. It is valuable. But it ain't the only thing you can get your nigga for Christmas. It ain't. It ain't. Stop bringing it back. Circling back. Stop giving y'all niggas coochie for Christmas. Because you can't give that nigga coochie every Christmas.
He done got that same coochie 18 years in a row. And then you still not even mixing it up. You don't put a little bow on it. You don't do nothing. You do nothing. Nothing. You just lay there, same position. But I feel like, man, y'all need to start making y'all women come. Maybe that'll solve some problems, too. Y'all not making y'all women come enough and they lying to y'all.
We a little bit... We do be judging a little bit. And I don't care because I still be talking that... Okay. Okay, so y'all know the song, I Saw Mama Kissing Santa Claus or whatever, right?
I promise you that girl didn't come. I don't care. She didn't. I feel like niggas don't really know when girls be coming out. learned that from watching porn. The girls be faking. No, well, first of all, niggas be like, ooh, yeah, it's creaming, and that be yeast. Ugh. The rolls. That be the rolls. That be the rolls that they be baking. I be like, that is not no cream. But I will say this.
I think it should be more black women, too, since we talking about the race thing. It should be more black women in these awards. Because the white girls, they be, you can tell when they faking. You can't really, the black girls, they be, it be seen in more real.
Come on, Becky. That's what black girls be doing. No. But it's a different variation. They be like, yeah, nigga. Who you watch? Yeah.
Get in there. Because that's what we say, though. Get in there, daddy. That's what we be saying, though. We do, definitely. But it be softer. It be like, you know, yeah. That's why I didn't do. That's why I did the... We changing this subject. Time to move on to the bop.
Growing up, I never liked that song because it made me feel uncomfortable because I was just like... The mother's a whore. How dare you? Like, what are you doing? I didn't know the purpose of the song was the daddy was dressing up as Santa. The tea was hot.
I thought I was fine. You know, we see you. We see you.
I know. I've been scared. I'm ashamed. Okay. So, y'all, because I know y'all probably can't hear Jack, I just started my acting classes. And I'm not going to lie. Like, I guess I'm just used to being, like, good at things. Like, I played volleyball growing up. I was doing this and that. I was in class. I used to do all.
So, when I went to the first acting class, I was like, oh, I'm about to kill this shit. I'm about to eat it up. And I'm big not good. I know y'all be like, Lex need to do stand-up and she need to do... I'm going to do it. I'm getting there, but I have a lot of work to do.
How dare her? Drea, why would you text Jack? I got sidetracked. I was at the gym. So nasty and so rude. I didn't mean to. You know he is. A liar. Okay. So now it's time to get into the bop. The bop. The bop. Bow, bow, bow, bow. I have completely messed up this. That's why we need the cards back. I'm going to get some cards made. Well, it's Christmas.
Oh, so you're going to do a Christmas song because I'm not. I am. Okay, what's your Christmas song?
It was good. Thank you. She's been practicing. I don't got to practice. But, um, what you say if it is?
Because it has been number one on the charts every December. See, I know that it was tart. I know you want to be like... No, I don't. This tastes like the juice I drink. Do we? Let me taste mine.
And she's a millionaire already. Because you got to realize, this is Miss Shake It Off. This is Miss Honey. Mm-hmm. But off of that one song alone, he makes so much money. And every... Every year. Imagine knowing every year. But you know what's so good about it? Because the new generation gets it. One thing about it, the new generation loves to disrespect people.
And I say this because LL Cool J, since we was talking about him earlier, did an interview and he was like, I'm one of the top rappers of all time. And people was like, what, what? If you really know... If you really know hip-hop and rap music, you're not going to... You lied. It's not Tarte. It's been sitting in my dream. You lied. It's Tarte? Yeah. Sorry.
But anyways, if you're a fan of hip-hop music and rap music, you know that LL Cool J is literally one of the pioneers. He's one of the first. So he should feel that way. Just like us when it comes to surgery. When I say I'm the BBL pioneer, put some respect on my motherfucking name. Y'all ain't seen no ass sit naturally like this and you didn't know. Is it? Is it? Is it?
Y'all wasn't asking that until I came on the scene. They wasn't asking. And never will again. And never will again. You one of one. They still asking. I know. I'm still asking. And I know the seed. One of one bitches again. Hey. Hey. See? Okay. Okay. All right. So my song. So your song is Mariah Carey. Yes, it is. Great Christmas song. I don't have a Christmas song. This is for my sad bitches.
This is for my true bitches. This is for my this pussy depressed bitches. Jesus. This is for my country girl bitches, though. If you love a country, a good country, sad tune, there is this song called Indigo by an artist. His name is Sam Barber, and it's featuring Avery Anna. Now, I was more in tune with Avery before because she's an amazing country artist.
And I'll say it's not necessarily just country. I'll say it is alternative country. And this is a song about how when you see yourself and you used to be so happy and then like you're kind of going through like a dark, dark phase. And I think that's relatable because a lot of times we can look at ourselves like maybe a year ago or six months ago and be like, man, I was so happy.
I was like, what a whore. How did you know that word? What? Whore. When I was little? I didn't know that word then. But, like, growing up, I just did not like the song. Because I was like, in my head, I'm like, Santa is cheating on Mrs. Claus. And the mama's cheating on the daddy. Like, because I thought, I mean, obviously at this point, I thought Santa was real. Mm-hmm.
What happened to me right now? But it's also like... It don't rain forever. You get on the other side. You know what I'm saying? So it is such a good song. It's called Indigo by Sam Barber featuring Avery Anna. Because I feel like that's been me. Like, I've been in kind of like... Every year, that seasonal depression hit me like some jingle balls. Bells. Like, blinks. Yeah.
And, you know, now I'm getting on the other side of it. You know, I'm crawling out.
So, what is that? So, that's my bop of the week. Item of the week. Hair has been provided by... Jeezy the Snowman. I make it winter time.
Yes, dinner time. Remember we walked out to that song? Yes. No, it was Gucci Man. We so ghetto. We are so ghetto. It was Gucci Man. It was dashing through the... Oh, yeah. Oh, my God. We was cutting up so bad last year for the Christmas... Aw, we didn't do a Christmas show this year. That was a year, Ty. That was when Ty was on stage with us. We had a time. It was a good time. It was.
So, the item of the week this week is Crowns of Love hair. Make sure y'all buy y'all bundles. Y'all know if you buy a bundle, she donates a bundle, so it helps a good cause. And it's some cute hair, you know, little ones, too.
You still need to listen to what I said. I know marketing when I see one. Okay. I believe you. Maybe next year we'll add you to the marketing team. I'm telling you, I can do some... Okay. So now it's time to get into our favorite segment of the show, which is Pour Your Heart Out.
Aren't these so cute, y'all? Like, Shay got us these little... She did, but they didn't have our initials. They didn't. But my name is Mex. Your name is Mex. My name is Raya. Raya's cute. Raya is cute. Mex is like... I mean, all I gotta do is take the D off. Period. All right. Girl, go ahead. Go ahead. My nail broke and it hurt. Can you...
Oh, my God. I did bite you. I did bite you. You snatched it. Y'all, it was already sore. Now it hurt even more. I'm sorry. Let me rub it. I'm sorry. I don't need you to rub nothing. Back up. We just ate too much. You going first? Yes. Okay. I'm sorry. Hey, Licks and Drears.
So as I got older, I just never paid attention to the song anymore. Yeah. And then I saw something on TikTok, like somebody had made a skit, like, you know how they be doing the skits and being funny. And, you know, they were like, they had their little kid in it and they were trying to be cute. And they're like, I saw mama kissing Santa Claus. And then turn around and it was his dad.
Mine... Mine either, but mine is eating down. Look at the little Christmas ornaments on it. And a little side phone. It is. It's like... And then your booty peeking out. Your booty peeking out a little bit. One thing it's gonna do is that thing be poking. One thing... Javi does the fool with the A.I. She do. I got on my Santa belt. This is cute. It's cute. I love it. It's cute. Thanks, Javi. Um...
His mama's baby. He's a mama baby. His mama's baby's him.
But am I wrong for wanting to feel like I'm the number one woman in his life? Am I overreacting? Thought. I hate mama's boys. I hate mama's boys. Me too. I don't fuck with it. I don't like it.
And I also think, like, it's important, though, to whenever you're dating somebody and y'all are serious, just from my personal experience, like, I like having a close relationship with the guy I'm dating mother. Like, so I can go, girl, I got this. Let me do this. I got... Or so they feel comfortable, like, I know you're going to take care of my son and da-da-da-da.
But I don't want no real relationship because I also feel like mothers that do too much in their son's life are weird. Facts. Are weird as hell. You weird as fuck. And I've never... Like, I had one situation like that. Like, you're 65. Like, girl, and you got a husband. Like, take care of your man so I can take care of mine. You know what I'm saying?
But also, that's why I think it's important to have communication. Because I feel like... If I felt weird in the situation like I'm in now and like where his mom was like doing too much, I would be like, come on, Sue, can I, you gonna let me? Like, I feel comfortable talking to her about stuff like that. But that's why I think it's important for, like, communication.
And not everybody's going to be in that situation where they feel that comfortable. But I also think that you should tell, you know, your spouse that you're uncomfortable. And if he really cares about you, he'll have a conversation with her. But I also think it's natural. Like, okay, my mom used to do this, but my woman can do this now. You know, and vice versa.
And he was like, oh my God. And I was like, this is so good. I said, this was really good. And that's what it meant the whole time. Yeah, I figured that. I didn't know that. Yeah, I mean, all of our daddies was Santa Claus. Well, I didn't have no daddy. That's why, God damn it. I didn't know.
Oh, for a woman, my dad used to do this, but now you can do this now. So I think that's a part of growing and starting your own family. So if he's not leaning on you or she's not leaning on you, maybe they don't see a future with you like you think they are.
Because one thing we know, men will, and women, people in general, will have a placeholder to that real person that they want to start a family with comes along. So I think maybe you should probably look deeper and understand why he's not leaning on you like he should. Gotta be willing to go to war about it. In war with anybody, including your mama. Yeah. Agreed. That's just how I feel.
And I think it's just a maturity thing, because I've dated people that my... For example, my sister didn't like. But she wouldn't overstep those boundaries. She's like, okay, she finna be with him. I'm gonna let her do her thing until she decide what she wants to do. As long as he not hurting her and making her... Whatever, I'm gonna let them do it, and I'm gonna let the shit play out.
Let shit play out. Leave people alone. Because what y'all don't realize... This is for everybody who out there be dirty macking, hating. The more you try to split people apart, the more that's going to draw them together. The more they draw closer together. Because they be wanting to prove people wrong, I think. And not only that, because it's just like... Okay, babe.
No, you're not going to tell me what to do. Because people hate being told what to do.
The more they make it obvious.
Her auntie told your cousin. And now the whole hood's buzzing. How you listen to a girl that don't want a man? Tell me this is the true place you want to be.
Sit to the mic, Kanye. Why would he say that? Okay, thank y'all so much for tuning in. I said I was going to keep this at an hour long, and I didn't. Cookies. Yvette, where can they find these cookies at? In the drawer. www.getthegoodsatl.com. I'm not lying, y'all. These cookies are fire. They are. Yvette done made me some shepherd's pie. Yvette can cook for real.
I had no daddy around when I was growing up. Only Santa's I knew was at the mall, hoe-ass nigga. I didn't know Santa was supposed to be your daddy, bitch. Girl, goodbye. I love you. Oh, my God. Oh, my goodness. See, this is why we need fathers at home. You didn't have an uncle or nothing? Hell no. So who did you think Santa was? The nigga in the mall. The man in the mall. The white man.
And these cookies are so good. These miso cookies. I ain't never had a miso cookie.
Are all the cookies gone? That's crazy. There's one left. That miso one's good though. You tripping.
No, wait, don't start it from the beginning though, Javi.
I really thought Santa was just like, I didn't know people's fathers dressed up as Santa. Mm. I really thought Santa was, like, coming in my house. I didn't know my mama was doing all that. Yeah. And then my mom never brought men around. Yeah. Like, never. So it was never like, oh, this mama friend. You never had no Uncle Leroy? No. No.
My mom dated one guy from, like, when I was, like, young, like, very young, like, pre-K until I was in, like, fourth or fifth grade. And, like, but when they broke up, he never, like, dressed up like Santa Claus or did anything. None of that.
No, he had a nickname. I can't say his nickname. Of course, of course. And orange. You know orange. They're going to clock that T. But no, I used to call him by his nickname. I used to call him by his nickname. So it was... And my sister hated him. Kids be bad. Why she didn't like him? She used to lock him out the house. She used to like... Very tourist Cody.
You know what my sister made me do one time? So we used to have this playroom upstairs, right? So we had my room, my sister's room, then we had the guest room, and then we had a loft. It was our playroom. She made me sit there with her, right? And it had to step up and it was carpet. And we sat there and we put bobby pins in the floor one by one. And she was like, scream, scream.
And so she was like, scream and call his name. So I screamed and I called his name. He came running upstairs and he stepped on them bobby pins, bro. Barefoot? Barefoot. Oh, they was fucking with each other real tough while he was barefoot in the house. Oh, I mean, he used to be at the house. But my sister was, like, not playing. Like, she was so bad.
Like, when I think about that... Y'all did Mr. Leroy wrong. We did Mr. Leroy wrong. We did. Locked him out the house. Like, it was so much stuff we used to do. Y'all ain't right. And when I think about that as an adult now, like, if any guy I dated, like, their kids did that to me, I'm not coming back.
Imagine you just, like, running up the stairs because you think something wrong, and then you step on a whole bunch of bobby pins. I will come back. I will come back.
Girl, bad kids are bad kids. Kids are bad. But I feel like some kids, you got to play they game. I'm not playing no game. I'm not doing that. You got to play they game with some of the kids. What you going to do back to a kid? I told you I'm going to hide the toys.
You can't do that with what? I was about to... Look. Oh, oh. Yeah, I mean... A terrorist.
It's like how I said when I was younger, my mom, I used to bite people. And so one day, my mom bit me. You did look like you used to bite people. No, I didn't. Because I did not have silver teeth. No, I didn't say you had silver teeth. It's not... Okay, so... And I think that's who looked like they used to bite me. No, no, no, but it's not about... It's just like you looked bad. I didn't look bad.
So, it's Christmas time. How are you feeling?
Yes, you did. You were a very cute child, but you looked bad. You know they have this thing right now where they call them low-income... How do you look bad? I'm telling you. So they have this thing on TikTok right now. Y'all, I be scrolling. They call it low-income eyes, right?
I forgot I wasn't supposed to turn to the back. Oh, that's all right. They're going to be like, uh-uh. The back of my head. Okay, Dre, let me ask you this. You're about to see all that. Are you in the Christmas spirit?
So they say it's like a certain look that certain white girls have, and they just look like they low-income from the trailer part. Mm-hmm. So what's the girl's name that played on that movie, Hustle & Flow? Yeah, she was on Orange is the New Black. Orange is the New Black. She's a great actress, A-list actress, but they say she got that. That's why she always plays them roles.
They say it's like it's just a certain type of look and you cannot escape it. Like that's just what you look like. I think certain kids, you just look at them and they look bad. Penny looks bad. He is bad. He looks bad. They just got a certain look in their eyes when they smile. It's something in them eyes. I don't know what it is. Well, I can confirm. I was very bad. Yeah.
I didn't think that shit was funny no more. So you want to put bobby pins down, I'm going to hide your toys. So let me ask you this, though. But do you believe in not giving a... If the kid has been bad all year, they doing bad in school, they acting up, cutting up, do you believe in not giving them Christmas presents? No. I would probably still give my kid at least one Christmas present.
I think I'm not going to go all out for you if you've been cutting up in school. Hell no, because you don't deserve that. Okay, okay. You don't deserve a grand Christmas. A grand Christmas. You deserve the bare minimum like your ass was doing in school. Ooh. You gonna see... That's one thing about you. You gonna be eating your kids up. I am. I am.
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Here he is. Oh, that was a great intro.
It's like, but that's not... Because I'm out here grinding. Remember that song? Wasn't that DJ Khaled? Sheesh. No, for real. But we was out here grinding. But that's what I'm saying. Overworking yourself is the stupidest shit ever. It is. I'm all about working smarter and not harder. Like, that over... So, that was a great point, Ty. We actually talked about this the other day. Wait.
What we talking about? We talk about a lot of things. I know, but I hate this. And I don't care what y'all say. Because I used to do this in my 20s, in my early 20s. And this is embarrassing for me to admit, but I'm being real right now. What? Sleeping in your makeup. Oh. And you be thinking you can wake up and maybe like touch it up and it's okay.
You know I busted down. You did bust it down. I broke it down. You broke it down. You didn't play no games.
I'm telling you right now, as a skincare girly, I love skincare. I'm super into my skincare. and a makeup girlie, I can tell if your makeup is from yesterday. I don't care how much you freshen it up. I don't care what beauty blender you got, what brushes you got. I don't care if you got Charlotte Tilbury, Patrick Starr, whoever, whatever, Patrick Todd, whatever. I'm sorry, I said Patrick Starr.
That's a SpongeBob. Y'all know what the hell I mean. Wait, no, Patrick Starr is somebody in the beauty industry. Patrick Starr is SpongeBob. It's Patrick Starr. No, it's somebody Starr. Who's star? Jeffree Star. Jeffree Star, yeah. I knew it was somebody's star. And we don't talk about him. We don't, we don't. But I just was trying to remember who it was.
It was a star. Patrick Ta. Bitch, this is the birthday episode. I'm the star. You okay? Watashi wa star, bitch. Watashi wa star. But yeah, sleeping in your makeup is a big no-no. So let me tell y'all something. Sleeping in your makeup, it ages you. It makes your skin, you start to get layers of dead skin because it's trying to protect your skin from that stuff.
And then if you keep doing it, that dead skin is going to be hard to get off. So eventually you're going to have to like laser it to get it off. And a lot of people can't afford laser. sleeping in your makeup literally will age you and it always looks dirty. It looks dirty as fuck. There be some makeup pictures I look at myself when I was younger and I could tell, bitch, that's old makeup.
Okay. Another year. Another tourist season. Another tourist season. You see we got the birthday cupcakes. It's your 34th year on this earth. And if y'all didn't know, April 22nd is also Earth Day. It is. It is Earth Day every year. April 22nd is Earth Day. So you're 34 years on this earth. How are you feeling? You just ended your 75 hard. You've done an amazing job. Thank you.
Yeah. I'm not making excuses, but I used to. This is the grind shit. I used to have to go to school. So I used to go to school in like the afternoon and the evening. I would get out of school. By the time I get out of school, go home, maybe do a little homework. Then I would have to go to Dreams. I would have to go to Dreams. I would be there until about 5, 6 in the morning.
Go home, maybe get a little two hours of sleep. Then I had to be at TGI Fridays. Then I got to be there. We would open on the weekends at 10 o'clock, 11 o'clock.
I'm telling you, I used to go to school and work in two jobs. So I used to be like, oh, I can just freshen up my makeup. And then I didn't understand the beauty of no makeup. We didn't have no makeup looks then. This was when it was blend. Eyeshadow had to be bright, orange, pink, blue. Brows, like... And I'm not mad at that era because that's how I really learned how to do my makeup. So...
But it wasn't an era where little light mascara, light concealer, and lip gloss and go. It was never giving that. I used to work in the club, baby. And I'm talking about the club at its peak era where you sitting at work on a Wednesday night and Young Jeezy walk in.
So, yeah, bitch, I used to sleep in my makeup because I used to be like, okay, do you want to get some rest or do you want to, like, stay up and rewash your face? Because it used to take me like an hour, hour and a half to do my makeup, realistically. Mm-hmm. Um, so yeah, I used to definitely sleep in my makeup. And at the time, it worked. For the time, because people, Lex, do my makeup, Lex.
Lex, your face so beat. But looking back, I was like, bitch, you look dirty. You look dirty. But honestly, in 2025, I still see some girls doing that. I still see some girls sleeping in their makeup.
This is unbelievable to me, literally. I cannot believe that y'all are not washing y'all face every day. Yep, yep. You have to wipe that makeup off. You're going to get in your pores. You're going to end up getting blackheads. And maybe because when I was younger, I really started getting into makeup when I got older.
Like, I feel like when I got into, like, what, my, like, mid to late 20s, I started really kind of getting into makeup. So, like, when I was in my early 20s, I used to be washing my face every day. But I thought that's what is the norm. No, girl. When we was at Dreams, I'm telling you, we used to literally, like... No, that's crazy.
That's why it's problematic. But I think the lifestyle that we lived, working at Dreams, because like I said, Dreams was like the poppin' strip club. If you was not there living it, it's hard to explain. Yeah. Because it was me, Jazz, my girl, Kiara. We literally used to leave the club 6, 7 o'clock in the morning.
We would always go stay at one of our apartments, whoever was closest, and whoever wasn't drunk, they could drive. And, like I said, by the time I laid my head down, I had to get back up because I was in school and I had another job. So, like I said, I used to have to decide, do you want to wash your face and go to work with no makeup on or do you want to get some rest? I'm 23 years old.
I'm going to sleep, bitch. Like I said, it's not something I'm like, oh, yeah, that's what... But, bitch, that's what the fuck it was. You had to, yeah. And we wasn't living in a time where, you know... Cute. But you're so cute without makeup. I feel like you would have been okay. No, 23-year-old me didn't know that, though. Because 23-year-old me didn't see that.
75 days, no liquor, working out. You got a six pack now. I do. You're looking good.
I didn't see girls showing up to the club with no makeup on, with lip gloss on, looking cute. We saw the black chinas with the middle part bust down, with the lashes on. That's what we saw. So we had to look like that. Because this was the era of the girls, the bartenders had to start looking like the dancers. Y'all didn't live that era.
Y'all got to bartend before that or after that? You had to be a bad bitch to bartend, so I got to compete with a bitch who got a spaghetti thong in her ass. And I got to look something. The bartenders is still like that. I think it's worse now. Oh, yeah, it's worse now, but I was at the beginning era of that. Mm-hmm. So it was a lot more pressure. Like I said, nowadays, if you cute, you cute.
Because I used to be going to work, no makeup.
Y'all going to get this natural face. By the time, like, when I moved to Atlanta and, like, I was still kind of working in the club, oh, yeah. It was, I'm showing up. I can do a little lash. Yeah, a little lash. But when I was 23, that was what? That was 12 years ago. 12, 13 years ago. Baby, it was a different time. It was. Okay.
I feel great. I feel amazing. Like, I feel so unstoppable. I feel so empowered. I was just saying this the other day. I just dropped another vlog on my YouTube channel. Well, not vlog, but a video. And it was kind of like a life update. And I was just saying how empowered I feel and unstoppable I feel from doing this challenge.
So, for me, I would definitely say being out all night and then getting up early. That's one that was cute back then, but I just can't do it now. I be so grumpy if I don't get at least seven hours of sleep. Like, I need at least a good seven hours. I be so grumpy, and you could tell. Like, I'm not trying to be here. Which, well, I take that back. You can't tell.
But I just know myself, and I feel like my temperament be a little off when I haven't got enough sleep. I think I do my best to still be nice and pleasant, but I need my sleep. I can't do it. But when I was younger...
I'm talking about be out till 6 in the morning, go to the club, go to the strip club, go to the after hours, creeping in when the sun coming up, and then got to be at work at 8 o'clock. That's how I used to be living. I can't do it no more. I really cannot. I love to be in my bed, tucked in, getting rid of bedtime stories. By 10 p.m. Yeah. I agree. I think being a homebody is okay. Yeah.
In your 20s, like, people make sense. Oh, you always want to be at home. Yeah, it's peaceful there. I'm safe there. In your 20s, though, I do. I feel like that's a little... You know... You're supposed to be outside and having fun. Yeah. I think about balance. Like I said, if I could go back to my 20s, I would be just a little bit more focused.
Because if I was focused in my 20s like I am now, I would be a millionaire by now. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? But to be the devil's advocate, it's people who was focused in their 20s and they still not millionaires, if that makes you feel better.
Yeah. I guess I just feel like I should have had more balance in my 20s. Oh, for sure. Because if you was out every night, you definitely needed some values. The nights I wasn't working, because mind you, I work at the club. So you would think on my days off, I would take a day off. Because I'm already in the... Baby, no. I'm like, oh, I'm going to work tonight. I'm going out.
That's why I say I was living a wild life. But I also think that was our culture too, right? Yes. When I was in college, it was all the way turnt up, swag, serve. Yes. All of that stuff, that was bottle serving. Rockstar lifestyle might not make it. Come on. We were in the club, clinking bottles together. We was leaving. We was wasted. Yeah. I'm wasted.
Man. That was the times. Now people are a little bit more cognizant. I don't wear tight jeans like the white boys, but I do get ready to like, yes, man. So now people, now they're a little more cognizant on what they're putting in their bodies, how they're acting in public. Yeah. The new generation is more into drugs and other things, not necessarily getting lit and turnt up like we were.
Yeah. Oh, Lord have mercy. They be doing all them drugs and shit.
Ain't nobody got time for that. See, we loved some good old Hennessy back in my day. A little Four Loko. That's where we was going to take it.
But y'all be taking it too far. Y'all be taking it too far. Because I'm not even going to lie. I grew up with the white boys. you did y'all used to be cow tipping yeah like we used to be drunk but like the drug scene like I'm not gonna lie the coke yeah but I'm not gonna lie I'm not saying that coke is normal but coke that's they used to do that at uh what's that club called in New York
So many people, when I posted on Instagram, like it was my 75th day and I was done, was like, oh, let me see your before and after photos. And I feel like I could post my before and after photos like physically and show people what my body looked like before and then now.
What was the drug? Studio 54. Studio 54. Like, that's an old school drug. No, yeah. Coke was like the drug of the 70s, the 80s. That's what I'm saying. But y'all, the shit that y'all doing now, like, it's a little different. They got some names I ain't never heard of and shit like that. Y'all on some different types of shit. They be wildin' these days. They be wildin'. The kids be wildin'.
Bitch, what? Back in the day, you see, right, though, they would do it in private. The only way people would know you come out, you got a little... Oh, my God. No, listen, because that was a... Like, when the black girls started doing it, it was like, oh, my God. So when we used to be at Dreams, like, it was like, oh, let me look out for you type shit. Like, it was so...
down low because it was like, oh, my God. She do cold? Yes. It was like, oh, my God.
It was such a big deal. But nowadays, it's like, oh, you got a pill, bitch. Yeah. And they be like that, too. Oh, you got a pill? You... What you got that thang on you? And they be like, they be doing it out in the open. Like, baby, we was ladies back then.
And I'm not going to lie. Personally, I was always too afraid to try coke. Like, I just was always scared of what it would do to me. So I never tried it. But I did, you know, I popped a little. A little molly. Popped a molly.
Definitely. But it was the influence.
It was. It was, and we probably shouldn't have said that on the show. I mean, I think it's life, though, but we're living, but we're teaching y'all that this is not something... I'm not going to lie to you.
Did I try a little... Yeah, I did. But I didn't do it no more, but I'm telling you... Everybody knew. Straight over there looking shocked. I knew. I just wasn't going to say it. Because I don't have nothing to be ashamed about. But I say that to say it wasn't like something I continuously did. Because let me tell you, the people that continuously do it, they not doing this right now.
I got my shit together. I literally, I was like, I'm not, like I said, to this day, I don't drink every day. I don't go out every day. I knew that that environment that I was in, because let me tell you, I took some time off from dreams. And I started, I got a regular job, and then I had to go back. And when I went back, I said, I cannot do this. This is not where I want to be.
That fun, fast lifestyle is something that was a short period of my life, and I'm glad I lived it, but I knew... I don't want to be like y'all. There was nobody in that club that I was looking at like, wow, girl, you made it. You did. You ate that up. You ate that. It wasn't nobody. I didn't have nobody to look up to. It was like, oh, my God, you did it. You made it out.
But I really feel like it's not like a huge drastic change just because I already was like an avid gym goer before I started the challenge. But for me, it was more of a mental thing. Like, it was a mental challenge. Because not drinking for 75 days is a lie. Like, in my adult life, I'm going to be honest, the longest I've ever went without drinking is 40 days.
It's a few girls that were working in the strip club that I see now that are doing well for themselves. And when I say few, I'm talking like one or two. That's what I was going to say because that's all I could think of. We talking about the club you was at. Yes. I could literally think of two women that were dancers or bartenders or anything that are doing well for themselves. That's it.
That's accurate. And there was hundreds of them there.
That don't matter if you don't got your head on straight. And that's one thing I can say. I thank the club for teaching me what not to do. Oh, for sure. I always say that, too, though. But I think that was always a goal that I had for myself. Even looking back to, like, when you moved to Atlanta, I remember I used to tell you all the time.
I used to be like, Lix, I'm not going to be 30 working in the club. You did say that. I used to always say that. I used to be like, I don't know what the fuck I'm going to do. I don't know what I need to figure out, but I'm going to figure out something. Because I cannot be 30 years old still working in a club. And again, it's not no shade to the women who are there, who are still working.
Because sometimes you got to do what you got to do. People be having situations. They be having children. You got to put food on the table for your kids. You have to do what you have to do. But for me, it was just something that I just knew I didn't want to be a part of because it's just so...
hard to not get caught up in that life especially with that fast money like you before you realize it it'll be five six years you done been working at the same club and you done got so used to making that fast money and because you're making it so fast and you know you're gonna make it every week you're not investing you're not saving you just blowing money fast literally I think I'm big meat.
I definitely thought I was Larry Hoover. You could not tell me. Okay, this is funny now. We can laugh at it now. I showed it. All-star weekend, y'all. All-star weekend. I think I made like, I don't know, like $7,000.
I had $7,000 in my pocket. I'm, like, 25. Bitch! Like, I'm thinking... That's a lot. This was the weekend Teyana Taylor dropped them Adidas shoes.
I had a friend that worked there. They had them on the side for me. I'm walking past the line. Me and Jazz, my friend, my bartender, we like, yeah. We dropped, like, we really thought we was cool. That's what I'm saying. Y'all did what y'all did. Three pairs. Because Kiara wasn't there because she was still asleep. I was like, oh, I got Kiara's shoes. Yeah.
In the new Teyana Taylor drops, bitch. We thought we was it.
But I'm saying... What a simple time, though. We used to be so excited. Y'all were so excited about them Teyana Taylor shoes. These days, if you ain't pulling up to the club with your Chanel sneakers on, you ain't doing nothing. No, not even the Chanel sneakers, because did you pull up in a Rolls Royce or not? Did you pull up in a Rolls Royce? Did you pull up in a G-Wagon? Hold up, Bentley.
If you didn't, bitch, if you pulled up in a Prius, shame on you. Girl. Do they even still make Priuses? Yeah, they do. Yeah, they do. Because I was in an Uber one other day. Oh, I remember I used to want a Prius so bad. That's what I'm saying. A simple time. Oh, I used to want a big coupe. Because... Oh my God, I wanted a priest so bad when I was in my 20s because I just thought it was so cool.
He said I'm 23 years old and I ain't riding in a priest. And after that, I didn't want one at all. I was like... But you got Shane. Not the priest. But I say all that to say, even if you... And I'm not trying to talk We're not trying to talk down on people who are in their 30s working in the club. No, yeah. I think it's all about your mentality.
It was really hard, especially I feel like now our careers and where we're going, we're in a space where we always have to go to events. We always have to mix and mingle. We always have to be social. And I ain't going to lie. I don't have no friends around me that don't drink. Everybody drinks. So it's definitely a challenge to be in these spaces and places and not...
The goal should be to get the money to invest it or to do something else with it so that you're not 30 in the club. It's not nothing wrong if you are, but I personally just think that's not ideal.
Being 30 in the club is not a life plan. That's not where you should be, in my opinion. It's okay if you are there, but I feel like if you have been doing this for five, six years already, you should be out the club after year five. I was going to say year three. Year five, you should be out the club. You got to have an exit plan. And the money in the club is not how it even used to be.
Not at all. Oh, the niggas is not Big Meech or Larry Hoover no more. And Big Meech got out, and he been chilling. He don't even like how the club seem. Yeah. It ain't the same. The streets is dry. The streets is dry.
You niggas just... But I will say, people are trying to figure out how to get the legal money because we've realized it's no longevity in there. I'm not going to lie to you. I thought for a while, I was like, being a bartender is it. You wanted a trapper. What? I was like, I'm finna find my nigga. I'm finna be like the bartender.
Because you got to realize, that was a time where the Vegas was popping. And it was like, if you can make it to Vegas and bartend, it's a career out there. I'm like, they're clearing six figures a year. I was like, I can do that. Because not only am I fine, and I know how to work in a club scene, I can actually make drinks.
So even with that, I still had a bigger vision, but it's like, girl, get your old ass out the club. When I moved to Atlanta and I turned 30, I said, and they gave me an outfit to wear. I said, hey, I'm going to have to go. When they tried to give me the little spandex outfit, I said, hey, this was my last night working. I said, hey, you know what? It has been a fun time. I said, I can't do this.
That was probably my favorite thing, though. The outfit? Like, I feel like you could dress up and be cute and, like, couldn't nobody judge you for it.
I did that. We did that at Dreams. Like, we used to wear... I used to be behind the bar. I used to be in the phone. Oh, I remember you. I used to see you. I remember when me and Lex first became friends. I was like, oh, I done seen you before.
She be like, hi, girl. She used to love coming to the bar, give her her shrimp. No, that wasn't until we became friends. I'm talking about once we became friends. Oh, before? You're talking about before? See, I don't remember that. I used to be like, okay, girl, I see you.
Girl, shut the fuck up. I was like, okay, Lex P. I had all the local rappers. All the local rappers. You did.
Dreams was really like, that's a, that's one, but that's what I'm saying. That's one of the things about getting older where it's just like, I do feel bad for the youth. They didn't get that. Because they didn't get to experience it in our dreams clothes. Baby, I got woken up on a random Monday morning by my boss and said, get dressed. I'll get the girls together.
We got something happening tonight, baby. We went in there. It was Drake and, like, his friends. And it was, like, four or five dancers and just us. And it was a time, bitch. Like... We couldn't bring our phones in. But it's like, if I said this, they'd be like, you're making that up. No, I'm not. But if you knew dreams, this is what we used to do. I mean, and people have to understand, like...
succumb to wanting to have a drink plus life be life and we all know life being hard is f-u-c-k a lot of the time and it's been some things that had happened during my 75 hard challenge where I really wanted to go have a drink but I was like no girl you have a goal you made a commitment you're making a sacrifice and I really am a person who I feel like God rewards you when you be obedient
Back in the day, I feel like it was easier to be around celebrities because everybody wasn't, like, recording. Yeah.
Think about when we was at primetime. Drake sitting right here.
DJ Eric. Rest in peace, though. Tho was DJing. Yeah. And nobody was doing none of this. Mm-hmm. Because we wasn't worried about that because that wasn't the thing to do back in 2013.
That's what I meant. Well, we was trying to get us one, but we was also working. We was working. Like, we was really trying to get our money. Like, you're not worried about... Because this is before you could get popular from clouds. Yeah. From recording people in a blog, picking it up. Blogs wasn't even looking at that type of stuff back in the day. They was posting real celebrity content.
That was the night I met... I forgot his name. We used to have him a name. One of my old babes. Oh.
We really used to be having a good time. No cameras. Everybody was having a good time. Everybody was getting lit, turned up. You wasn't worried about trying to get posted. And it was just great. Now, they be taking your phone. They be putting, what they got, that little shit that they put your phone in? Oh, my gosh. They lock it. You can keep your phone on you, but you got to have it locked.
Like, what type of shit is that? What's that man name that was on the BMF show? What man? Not... Little Meech? Not Little Meech. Who was his... Da Vinci. Da Vinci. Child, Da Vinci had a comedy show. We go to the comedy show, he made everybody lock their phones up. And don't get me wrong, the show was good, but we didn't have to lock our phones up for that, Da Vinci.
No, so I went to Dave Chappelle's comedy show in Houston two years ago, and he made everybody lock their phones up, too. Okay, that's understandable. But that's what I was going to say. To me, no matter who it is, I understand.
Because it's like if you have content or you have jokes or whatever it may be that you don't want to be out yet or you want people to actually pay to be able to see the show, it makes sense to me why people provide that service at their shows because they don't want their content getting leaked early.
Well, I think it's more so about people editing content to make something that they said and twisting their words. Because I'm not gonna lie, I don't give a fuck if you record at Poor Minds. I might tell the joke again, or I may deliver it in a different type of way. We have a different crowd every night, so we interact with our crowd. Yeah. Those two Poor Minds shows are the same.
But with Dave Chappelle, a Kevin Hart, people like that, it's a little different. The only reason I said about Da Vinci, because I think it was more so of... He gets very wrong with his shows, so I think it was more so like he don't want somebody to record something, and they try to, like, twist it and make it seem like he was trying to say something that he wasn't. Yeah, yeah.
I think it'd be a little bit of both. I think sometimes they just want to be able to publicize their content the way that they want or monetize it the way that they want to. They can control the narrative that way. where people are constantly recording everything.
Like, you know if you have a show nine times out of ten, it's going to end up on the shade room or it's going to end up on Neighborhood Talk or one of those websites before you post anything because it's going to be thousands of people in a crowd that's recording. Something that people didn't have to worry about 10, 15 years ago. Mm-hmm. You know, what a time it was, really.
And I feel like God was telling me that this was something that I needed to do and that I needed to stay consistent with. And I'm just very proud of myself because I feel like it just shows a lot of discipline. I feel like that's something that a lot of people don't have. One thing about me, I'm a disciplined girl and a resilient girl. I can do whatever I put my mind to. So...
I stay with all the time. I got a video. I have a photo, not a video. I have a photo in my phone of Beyonce. We were at the club together. We didn't come together. But you can say y'all did. I can't lie about it because y'all don't know. Y'all was not there. It was 10 years ago. And I was literally, like, she was right there and I was right here and I took a photo. Period.
And I still have it in my phone. Because this is back in the day when people was in the club, not recording stuff. We was at Griffin in New York. It was All-Star Weekend 2015. And me and my best friend Jordan, we was so lit. Because we was like, is that Beyonce? And she was right. She used to be outside. She did. And I could say I was outside, too.
I remember the time when... Y'all don't go out no more. Y'all remember the era? Like I said, I used to work in the era where Kim Kardashian used to host clubs. This the old bitches episode. They gonna be like, these hoes old bitches. She was out when Beyonce was out. That's... That's crazy.
I was outside when Kim Kardashian was outside because I remember at one point, like, the clubs in Houston was trying to book her, but they couldn't afford it because she was taxing, like, at that time, it was like 100K. But she used to always be at the clubs in Vegas. And that's why we used to be like, oh, my gosh, imagine bartending a party that Kim Kardashian is hosting.
You know that chick finna be crazy. So, yeah, we was outside during the time where the It Girls was really outside. Like, we had the It Girls. Lady Gaga used to be performing in the clubs during this time. Literally. I ain't never been in a club with Lady Gaga. No, I ain't never been in a club with her, but during this time, Lady Gaga was in the malls performing, in the clubs performing.
Like, the gay clubs, she was there. I know. She was outside. Like, I lived an era. Me too. We was at the club when they premiered. Sorry. Sorry. I got excited.
We was at the club. That was when... You was late. What else happened? What a time to be alive. They revealed that Drake and Future was coming out with a collab album, and they played that album. We was in a club when it happened. Ooh. It was wild. Thank you. And that's actually one of my favorite albums ever. What a time to be alive is a masterpiece. World premiere. We got that world premiere.
Let's take our shot. Oh, Lord, I'm all right. Yeah, you was turned up reminiscing. She's trying to get white girl wasted today. Okay, but let me say this before we take that shot.
She's trying to get white girl wasted. This is what I have to say about Big Legs P. Oh, okay. Come on, Big Legs P. Not gonna lie. In junior high, high school, I played volleyball. I was cold. My jersey's still up in the gym. Class clown, been that girl. In college, I did my fucking thing. I had a show on TSU Network. I used to do the radio, and I worked at the most popping club.
Now I got Poor Minds, the number one podcast with the girls. I've been that bitch for a very fucking long And it's hard to be relevant as long as I have been. Cheers. So, cheers to that. Cheers. That's how I be feeling. I don't want to go down my resume, though, because I feel like... Yeah.
I'm just really proud of myself that I got through it. And then also physically working out for 75 days. I ain't never worked out. Have anybody ever worked out for 75 days straight without taking a break? You know, I feel like that's a big thing. So doing that was a big deal too. And out of the 75 days, I only didn't meet my 10,000 step goal three times.
You know, I think I'm getting to a point to where I'm a little Google-able. Ooh, ooh. Come on, big Google. Come on, big Google. Ty, what are we drinking today? But, yeah, because... Oh, but I feel like I've lived so many different lives, like from high school to college to my early 20s to me moving to Atlanta. That was a whole nother era.
And then now in my 30s and I feel like my 30s have been some of the most amazing years of my life. Like. So much abundance, so much growth, so many blessings, and so much anointing from God. Like, I'm just super grateful. God is so good, man. God is amazing. He really is. Amen. So, yes, y'all.
I wrote something special for my girl, Dre. Aw. Don't make me cry. Please, I want you to. Let's get them tears rolling. Don't cry, Julian. Let's get them 30s flowing.
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I love you, Ty. Oh, my God. My earth sign. Earth sign.
Yeah, because the bitch ain't me. I sure don't know what... I was going to say, can you spell it? Hell no. She felt the spelling bee. It's okay though. But no, that was really so sweet. And I love everything that you said. I love when people call me witty because that's how I always describe myself. Like that's how I describe my humor. I feel like I'm very witty. Yeah, you a silent sniper.
Yeah, I think that that's like a really, everything that she said, I feel like that really kind of embodies who I am. And it's so dope when you feel like you're around people. Because for you to write that, and I feel like that really describes me. It makes you feel like, wow, people really be paying attention to people really. It's good when people can really see you. How that song go?
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No, I only, I only did it. The way you used to be walking around this motherfucker. No, yeah, but I only didn't meet it three times and then I made up for it the next day. Yeah. So, yeah.
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We have the mascara and the liquid eyeliner. Right now, shop Muse Beauty Collection dot com and get everything you need. Love y'all. No, but no, I'm saying a testament to what you were saying, though. It's so good when people really see you. Like, they can get past the hoopla and what everybody, but they really see you and who you are. Oh, for sure.
But I think that it's easy to see that about us or whatever.
Well, I feel like it's easy to see that about me. I do. Like, people that are around us on a daily basis, I don't be giving a damn. No disrespects. But I don't be really giving a damn what people who, like, watch the show, who have never met me in real life think about me. It's always about the people that are around me. Right, okay.
And really feel my energy and can, like, see my spirit and really get to know me for who I am in my core. I don't think it's hard for people that are around me and get to know me to tell who I really am. You're right. I think that maybe for people on the outside looking in, because you're not able to really witness the energy, you're not able to have, like,
conversations with me, you're just watching me from a TV screen or whatever, but I don't know. I think it's definitely different, and when people are around you, they can feel your aura. If you have, like, a magnetic energy, they can feel it. No, yeah, I agree with that. I was... That's what I was saying.
I was like, I think a lot of times people misjudge both of us just from watching, but you're right. But they don't know us. Yeah, the people that are around us can really, you know... They can pick up on who we really are, and, like, since... Our real personalities, since if we being fake, since it's like we really giving off who we say we are.
Because I think a lot of the time people try to say that they one way. But when you around people, they can't fake the funk.
You're going to pick up on what's real. You know what I mean? And I think a lot of the time people get away with that because it's easy to portray yourself a certain way online. But when people are around you... You can't fake that phone. They gonna sense it. You can't fake the phone. So, yeah. So, now it's time to get into topic number two.
Does your relationship with your body change as you get older? Ooh, this is interesting. I think it does and I think it also has to. And I'm talking from a perspective of thinking of you just being a little girl to your body changing to being, you know, a woman. You know, we're in our mid-30s now. Your relationship with your body absolutely has to change.
You have to change how you view yourself and understand that things change. You know, I can't eat how I used to eat when I was 16, but I also have to understand that it's okay. to have a jelly roll. It's okay to have textured skin. It's okay to have stretch marks. It's okay to have cellulite. I think that in our younger years, you know, when you're 15, 16, baby, body was tight.
I feel like it did wonders for my mental health. And I feel great. I think it's something everybody should try at least once in their life. So what are your goals for this year? My goals for this year? The 34th year. What are your, you know, birthday, new year, new me goals?
Body was smooth, flawless. In my 23, yeah, I could go to sleep with my makeup on and wake up. And then when I did wash my face, skin was still clear. Because I was 23. You could, but you shouldn't have.
I'm not saying that I should have, but I'm saying. 35-year-old, if I went to sleep with my makeup today, which I haven't done in years, but if I did that today, baby, I'm waking up with a pimple. I'm waking up with my nose bumpy as fuck. Everything just congested. I can't do that now. So I think your relationship with your body...
It has to change as you age because if it doesn't, you're going to lose your confidence. I just think aging is such a beautiful thing. And I can't believe that at one point in my life, it was something that I really was like so terrified of and ran from. It's really a beautiful thing. Like, yeah, you're going to have those changes, but you have to embrace them because you only get one body.
And the thing about your body is you can always make it better, right? you could put more effort into taking care of yourself, being more healthy, like the foods you consume, what you're actually putting into your body. And then also working out, taking better care of your body physically, taking better care of your mental, your mind, reading books, meditating.
Just you have to put pride and value into yourself because I think that's something too, as you get older, you do realize like, I'm going to be me regardless. I'm only going to ever get to be myself. I'm never going to be able to be anybody else. So I need to put my all into making myself a better version of myself.
I think certain changes with my body that I've noticed as I've gotten older, like child dimples, cellulite in places that it should not be, stretch marks in places that it should not be. And I used to always say when I was younger, I hated moles. And I feel like... But I don't have none.
And it was so little when I was... I mean, it's still kind of little. But I feel like it's bigger.
I know. I saw that, too. But it's okay. I'm going to get it burned off. Don't worry. But why? What you mean, but why? It's not ugly. It's not. That's what I'm saying. If it gets bigger, if it continues to grow, it will be gone. If it stays this size. If it stays this size, it's fine.
No, I don't hate getting older. No, you know what? I hate 13. We need to contact Issa Rae. We need to do a black version of Death Becomes Her with me and you. Really? Have you seen Death Becomes Hard? I have seen it. But I feel like I don't hate getting older. Like, I feel like I get fine as fuck. Like, I just get finer and finer every year. I don't hate it.
It's just certain things that come with being older that I just be like, ew, get this away from me. And that's one of them.
Thank God, no, I don't. Now, I did find one on my coochie one time, though, but not on my head. That means you're not getting enough sex. That means what? You're not getting enough sex, or usually you hadn't had sex in a while. Yes, and maybe that's what it is. That thing is crying for help. Maybe that's what it is. That thing, that thing. It had a hair.
I seen it, and I pulled it, I plucked it, and I said, I rebuke you. With the name of Jesus. But guess what? It didn't come back. It didn't grow back. So that was the one time I seen a gray hair, but I don't have any gray hairs in my head yet. Knock on wood. I feel like I'm a gray late though, to be honest, because, you know, everything is about genetics.
And when I think about my family, like my mom and all her siblings, they didn't start getting gray hairs till like they was like in their 50s and 60s. So I think I'm a gray late. I just feel like the relationship with your body, like I said, I think we need to give ourselves grace as women, you know? I don't know if y'all are fans of this show that comes on HBO. It's called White Lotus.
Be more present in the moment. I'm a person who I rarely ever pat myself on the back when I accomplish things. And like a lot of my friends tell me this about myself and they're like, you just always be glazing over accomplishments like it's a small thing and you be doing big, amazing stuff.
I'm a big fan. Yes. Oh, did you watch this last season? Absolutely, I did. Okay, so White Lotus. I love this guy. Walton Goggins. He's a character on White Lotus. He is the older guy with the younger girlfriend. Oh, okay. And he is hilarious. If y'all Google his name, y'all will know who he is. So anyways, on the show, he has, like, a receding hairline. And a patch. And a patch, right? And, um...
They wrote an article, I want to say maybe in Cosmo or someone, People Magazine, they were like, oh, receding hairlines are hot now. Check out Walton Goggins in White Lotus. And I'm just like, it's so crazy because they did this a couple of years ago with the dad bod of men who have bellies. We will change what the beauty standard is to fit what a white man looks like.
But when it comes to women, white, black, Mexican, whatever, we gotta have a 23-inch waist, 40-inch hips, no cellulite, no stress marks, no wrinkles. We got to put Botox. We got to plump up the lips. We got to make sure we got all our edges. Oh, my God. You know what I'm saying? The beauty standard never changes for us. And speaking of, I have a Botox appointment tomorrow.
Oh, I need to hit mine up, too, because mine is getting a little... Yeah, I said before the premiere. Yeah, it's right. I need a little re-up. I do need a little re-up myself. It's going to hit right before that. Because they see the comments, let's stop touching your face. I haven't seen Helen in a year and a half, bitch. Leave me alone. So it's time for my re-up. Who be saying that?
Who be saying that? They be in the comments talking about let's stop touching your face. I'm like, I haven't gotten anything done in a year and a half. Like, literally. Literally. they just be looking at old episodes.
Because, baby, face card, it does not decline. All right, all right, all right. But anyway, but again, like I said, your relationship with your body does have to change because... your body is going to change. It's natural. You gonna gain weight. You gonna lose weight. Like, it's okay. And like I said, the media and social media is easier on men than it is on us.
Because, like I said, I love him, but who wants a receding hairline? Not me. Just go bald. Yeah, his haircut is crazy. And that's genetic, too. And it's, like, long.
I think that I never really take the time out to just be present and just be like, wow, I really did this and live in the moment because I'm always on to the next thing. Because I'm not where I want to be in life, where I know my goals are at. And where I see myself being, I think that I'm always just like, okay, it's cool that I did this, but what's next?
I want to see the photo. And he got a ball. Well, he doesn't really wear this in real life. Does he wear it in real life? That's how it look on this picture. It does look like this on this picture, but this is how it is on the show.
It's way back then. It's a bald spot in the back. But mind you, he's an amazing actor. And I feel like there be some people, we're not here for the way you look. We are here for your talent. And he is one of them. He was in The Hateful Eight. If you are a fan of, he was in Django. If you are a fan of, what's his name? Quentin Tarantino. Quentin Tarantino.
Y'all know I love me some Quentin Tarantino. Quentin loves him down. But he's been in a lot of movies. He's an A-list actor. He's actually really fucking hilarious. But I just think it's so funny because since when is receding hairlines attractive? What are we talking about here? So, yeah, people will change their views on stuff. You should change your views on yourself. Be confident.
You get this body. This is what you're in. So, do you feel like confidence in your 30s is more about what you look like or how you feel? I think it's a mixture of both. Because you got to... I hate... It's a little gray area. But you got to look good to feel good, if I'm being honest. But that's why I agree with you. You think so?
Yes, because I got in the gym... Like, I used to be... Like I said, I played volleyball year-round. And when I got to college... I just started to get into more media stuff. So I really stopped going to the gym. I didn't start getting back into the gym until, like, a year ago. Two years I've been in, like, the gym. And, like, I work out.
And now how I feel about my body, like, okay, I go to the gym. I know what the gym does to my body. I'm like, okay, so this is what my body looks like. I done been laid on the table. I done worked out. I done dieted. I done ate everything. This is what my body is. So it's like you come with that acceptance. And I'm like, bitch, I look good, though.
I'm 35 years old and I look like this? Hell yeah, I look good. But it also comes with, I do take care of myself. I drink a lot of fucking water. I don't drink every day. I go to the gym. Even if I'm not lifting weights, like I said, I kind of fell off of the gym, but guess what I was still doing? I'm still getting up and I'm moving my ass. And that's one thing the girls don't do.
Y'all have to realize, if you don't get up and move, Your body going to stop moving. I think for me, I have, like, my mom was beautiful. She died at 48, but she was gorgeous. Like, she was the mom that every, all my friends would be like, damn, your mom a fine type thing.
Your mom was beautiful. I had good, I felt like I had good genes, so I didn't feel like I needed to work out all the time. So, really, last year was the first time that I actually started going to the gym and being active, but I could feel my, like, my hips would be tight.
I was just very lethargic a lot. And it wasn't until I started going consistently that I started to feel more energized. I had just a little bit more get up and go and feeling more focused and Like you said earlier, laser focused on what I wanted to do and what I needed to accomplish.
So I do think that you actually getting active, moving your body, that not only contributes to your fitness goals, but also like your mentality, your focus, you're more clear. And I feel like a different person than how I was before I started going to the gym just last year, in just that time. And now I walk by the mirror like Meg said, be like, damn, okay. Period.
Because I got to get to this goal of having this net worth or accomplishing this specific task. And I don't take enough time to appreciate the things that I've already done and how far I've came. Especially for me to only be 34 years old, I feel like I have lived a lot of lives and I've done a lot of things. Dope stuff.
I'm going to go flat flat ass on fat fat. Exactly. I 100% feel you. I just did a video on my YouTube channel. Where I was talking about things that I feel like you should know when you get into your 30s. For the girls that are still like in their 20s and maybe even like early 30s too. But I was just like, I'm so glad that I started my fitness journey.
But I wish that it was something that I took more seriously when I was in my 20s. Because I think, yeah, when you're in your 20s, you're just like, oh, I look good. I'm fine. My metabolism is slow. And I'm always going to be like this. But then when you get to your 30s, you realize, okay, it's slowing down a little bit. Things ain't in the same place. Gravity is taking place.
Her things is hanging over. No, for real. And that's what I said earlier about the dimples and the freckles. And I feel like every day I wake up, I don't know about y'all, but every day I wake up, I feel like I got like a new little freckle or something on my body. So it's just something that I wish that I took.
more seriously when I was in my 20s because I feel like not only do you look better and you feel better, but it also really helps your mental health as well. And I'm glad that you said... It's a discipline thing. I'm glad that you said that earlier because you were like, people were asking you to post a before and after and you were like, it was more a mental thing and that's what it was.
I realized for me, like... I be getting, like, in my little dark places sometimes, and I realize a lot of that... Like, I was talking to my therapist. She was like, when was the last time you worked out? Like, this was, like, a conversation that we had in December. I was like, damn. And that's what really motivated me.
Like, girl, even if... I'm not saying that you got to go to the gym... Go for a walk. Go for a walk. You just got to move your body every day. I got a walking pad, so even sometimes when I'm sad as fuck and I don't even feel like going to the gym, I get on my walking pad. You have to move around, because I'm telling you, when you stop moving your body... Your body going to stop moving. Yeah.
And I feel like that's the thing. I've made it a habit. Like, to me, it's more of a lifestyle thing now. Because you're not going to always... I think a good word that I can give people is that you're not going to always have the motivation, but that's where your discipline comes in. Exactly. Because you're not going to want to do stuff every day.
Like, it's hella days that I don't feel like working out. Like, even yesterday. Yesterday is a prime example. I went and worked out at 8.30 at night because all day I was procrastinating. But then I was like, okay, I got to get this done. That's where your discipline has to come in because I knew I had to do it. I knew I had a goal to reach. So you just have to do it for yourself.
And you have to think about how you want to look. Like, I don't know. I like looking fine. I feel naked. I like looking good. Because summer is coming.
Summer is coming. I like all of that. So I just feel like, yeah, it's a mental thing. And... you have to prioritize your health. You have to prioritize your wellness. And I always be thinking about, like, damn, when I was in my 20s, if I would have took my fitness journey more seriously then, my body would be even more teet. Crazy. Even more fire right now.
So it's just like, you know, it's something that you have to prioritize. It's about... Do you want to be the same? Because we all might live to be like 70 or 80, but what do you want to be doing in your 70s and 80s? Do you want to be a person that can walk around, that can move around on your own without assistance? Or do you want to be somebody that has to have a walker?
And I don't really ever just take the time out to smell the flowers and be appreciative of where I'm at. So I would say being more present. And then as far as business goes, of course, like I want to take poor minds to the next level. Like I'm hoping that we end up getting better.
Do you want to be somebody that has to have somebody exhorting you everywhere? You have to think about those things. Tennis balls on your walker. And so that's how I think that I try to discipline myself. And so even going back to what you were saying, like when people ask me to post a before and after, I am going to post my before and afters.
But I think I'm more so going to post my before and afters from when I first started my fitness journey in 2022 to now. Because I feel like it's much more of a drastic change from then to now that people can see me. from January when I did 75 hard to now because my body was already T when I started the 75 hard. You can definitely see my abs more now.
I was going to say, your abs are definitely more defined. My abs are defined. Thank you. Thank you, y'all.
They are. They're definitely way more defined now, and I think that's probably the most physical change that you can see. But, I mean, as far as, like, my shape and my waist and stuff, I feel like it's the same. But from 2022 to now, it's a big difference because I've lost, like, 15, 16 pounds. Yeah. And I think for me, even like I said, at the beginning of the year, I weighed 200 pounds.
When we filmed Travel Queens, I was literally, when we left, I was 202 that morning. I was like, what the fuck? I'm so mad at myself because I have to film this shit and I'm big. Well, not big, but I carry my weight a little different because I'm taller. And then like right now, like I weighed myself this morning, I'm 172 right now. So I pretty much lost 30 pounds since from January till now.
And I say that because it's not like, for me, it's not more so like the number and the scale thing of feeling fat and feeling small, but I know how I feel in my clothes. Yeah. And I know I had to get to a point to where I'm like, okay, I feel confident in my clothes and I know what I feel like. I know what makes me feel good. It's not for how y'all look at me. Because one thing about it...
I can be 150, and it'll be people in the comments like, ooh, Lex, what you, ooh, Lex, you need to do. It's not about how y'all view me. It's how I view myself and what makes me feel comfortable. So I think that's another thing. Like, me losing this weight, it wasn't like something I'm just like, oh, yeah, y'all, I lost another pound. I lost another pound.
Because y'all ain't going, y'all ain't finna do nothing but critique me anyway. So I think as we get older, you have to find what's comfortable for you. 170 is comfortable for me. I don't give a fuck what y'all see or what y'all like. So we have to change how we view ourselves and what's comfortable to us and what makes us feel good and how you look in the mirror.
Okay, let me say it again. So one thing about me is like, we gonna get it together so I can look in the mirror and I can feel good about myself. And I can feel like, you know what? I like how I look. I like how I feel today. So yeah. All in all, I feel like your views on your body should change as you get older, and that's a healthy thing to do.
And I feel like they should get better because with wisdom and age, you care more about your body. Like, I feel like I care way more about my body than I did when I was in my 20s. Thank God that he allowed me to live this long so that I can take better care of my body now because I was not taking care. I was treating my body like whatever when I was in my 20s.
I'm talking about I was eating bullshit every day. I was drinking all the time. Ben's drinking all the time. Smoking. Ooh, that hookah. Hookah. Smoking hookah and weed. Both of them.
Clothes. Did y'all remember that? I just smoked black in my house. I was talking about this. I was a real thug. She was. If it ain't love. I'm loving it. I was out here thugging in these streets. I was smoking Black and Miles, the wine flavor. Oh, you was a real good bitch.
But no, for real though, yeah, I used to be doing whatever in my 20s and like, yeah. Thank God for growth. Thank God for growth. And this is the show, that's why I said, we're not judging anybody what y'all do, but we're just trying to tell y'all what we did so y'all can do better. And y'all can look like us when y'all get in y'all 30s. Me, Lex, and Ty. Period. What's up, y'all?
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I was like, at first... At first, I just thought she was screaming. It's your birthday song, you know I want to ride out. It more easy as we sit up on my couch. I know when he was in the studio that day, he was like, I'm killing it. Feels good, but I know you want to cry out. What? What? Now, remember Trey Songz did a remix. Trey Songz used to love remixing people's shit.
That's why R. Kelly did it. Girl, you know I. There she go.
She loved. She did it. Y'all gotta start keeping count. We need to start having a Robert Kelly counter. Put a compilation together.
Every. Now, let me tell y'all what be going on. Nobody. Every. Licks. R. Kelly. Yeah. She love bringing up R. Kelly. No, I was saying that Trey Songz used to love remixes, but R. Kelly didn't want him to remix Trapped in the Closet, and he made the character gay. That Trey Songz was... Right. You love R. Kelly now. I really don't.
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You really... We're going to find out which facility, which correctional facility R. Kelly is at. I'm going to set that bitch on fire. No, she not. She's going to come see you. She's going to set it on fire, all right. I do not. She won't come see you. And the only reason I feel okay talking about him now is because he's locked up and I know he's not getting out, okay?
Because she don't want him to have access to the other girls. I'll find out where he's at. We gonna find out where he at so she can be his pen pal. Yeah. J-Pal.
Yes, you do. You bring him up every episode.
What do Trey Songz and R. Kelly got to do with each other?
Okay. Because he thought he got out. But those are fun facts that only you know because I really was like, he said that.
No, I didn't even know Trey Songz did the remix.
I love Kelly. Are you an R. Kelly head? Trey Songz got out of the closet, and on his remix, he was like, when he got off the top, he was like, Trey Songz, you put it on. That's what he said. And R. Kelly came back with Trapped in the Closet Part 2, and he made that character gay.
And everybody was like, oh, he did that because... Everybody or you.
I used to wake up every morning. They was like, you know what I'm saying? Waking up in the morning to get on Media Takeout is wild. I used to wake up and check Media Takeout and Nicole Bitchy. That's why I love Lex P. It's so good. The people that... You a real nosy bitch. I am nosy. That's why I love Lex P. Like, the girls be like, oh, my God. First.
No, thanks, because you be saying stuff that I just would never know unless I watched Love, Lex P. That's what Clay said. Clay said, I didn't know. He was like, what world do I be in? Because I did not know what was going on.
I actually reported on him a few weeks ago. Yes, I did. And you wrote him. Don't forget that part. Drea? Lex? Kelly? Miss Kelly?
I don't like him. Then why did you report on him? You should not want to talk about him at all. A podcast did an interview with him. Remember that podcast? What podcast? A pod named Kickback. Remember when we went on there? Fun times.
And yeah, like in my personal life, I just want to have a healthy, happy relationship. And same thing with my friends. Like, I just want to have healthy, happy relationships, peaceful relationships. I don't want no drama with people, no weird energy. And I'm very intentional at this point in my life of cutting off any bullshit. Anything that I don't like, I'm just not dealing with.
Anyways, I reported on R. Kelly because a podcast had called in to R. Kelly's jail cell. Mm-hmm. And he was singing on the phone and I said... Oh, residuals. Yes, he was singing residuals and I said it was distasteful. Mm. Because it is distasteful.
Jesus. Me and Lex going to play birthday sex edition of Unwrap It or Return It. Ooh.
Wake up head before you even brush your teeth. Return it.
Return it. But you... Shay! Wait, what? Y'all gonna return the wake up head?
Unwrap it. No, I don't want wake up head and you ain't brushed your teeth yet. Why? That's on Fat Ma. That ain't got shit to do with it. Yeah. We don't have to talk. You talking to her. I don't know. I feel like... I'm not gonna lie, like, in the morning, like, if I know I'm finna get freaky sometimes, I do, like, sneak off and do a little quick rinse.
Good morning to you. It's breakfast. Oh, I was thinking that. Good morning. It's breakfast. Breakfast. A massage with oils that ends in a happy ending. I love massages. I think massages are sexy. I'll unwrap it. I like a little massage. But with my man. Not that, like, I'm just at a... You don't like getting... You be getting faps. No.
I know who. I already knew who he was going to say. Yeah, I don't do that. No, but if it's a massage from my man that ends in a happy ending, cool. But not at some random, like, massage parlor. If it says massage parlor on the outside, you know what they up to. You know what they up to. Or if they say free massage. Hardly. I don't know.
I feel like if you like to get happy in them massages, you are a freak.
It ain't stop nothing, though. It didn't stop nothing, but why would you do that? That's crazy. I feel like it's behind us now. It is, but why would you say that? Because he said what he said. Freaky ass man. He said what he said.
Word to Nene. All right, what's number three, Dre? Him booking a suite just to bend you over in every corner. Unwrap it. I love hotel sex.
And I'm going to distance myself. Because I feel like when I was younger, I was way more apprehensive and was... A people pleaser. Yeah, yeah. So, yeah. So, do you feel like from 33 to 34, like your goals last year that you, you know, wanted for the past year, do you feel like you did what you were supposed to do? I feel like I exceeded my goals for 33.
It's nut. Them babies got to go somewhere.
And he shaved it into the shape of a three and a four? His pubic hairs? Yes. No. I would run for my life. Okay, Dre, let me ask you this. Because why the hell... Would you date? Would you even... Like, to me, that's like serial killer type shit. Like, why would you... How did you take the time out to shave your pubic hair in a three and a four?
Have you ever been one of the men... One and a two and a three and to the... Have you ever been one of the men who had a Brazilian wax? No.
Oh, I do like that. I have dealt with, like, I've had a man, like, be hairless. That's what I'm saying.
It wasn't a way. Well, not a Brazilian, but y'all know what I mean. It was, like, nothing. Yeah, I prefer that. You like that? You like no hair? Yeah, get them hairs out my way. That holds more of the saliva and stuff down there and more odor. Yeah, get it out of here. Okay. And it looks bigger. Ooh, okay. I didn't know that.
I have been with one man and it was like I went down there and I was shocked because there was no hair down there. And I was like, oh, wow. I wasn't mad at it, though. I like it. You know, I feel like that's cool. A wax though is crazy. But like a little shave. I don't know if he waxed or shaved. I don't know. Yeah. Because it was just smooth.
Because when you say Brazilian, I also think, are they getting that booty too? Yeah. Yeah, I didn't mean that. I didn't mean Brazilian. Because honestly, I don't know. I didn't see his butthole. Okay. But I did see the balls. Yeah. And it was clear. I don't know if it was a wax or a shave, but I was like, oh, I'm not mad at it. But it took me by surprise.
Then if you put the balls in your mouth, you don't get, like, hair in your teeth or anything. We do some tricks. You know what I mean? I'm more willing to do a little bit more. Okay, we're going to unwrap it. We're going to unwrap that. Yeah, a 3-4 on the deep is crazy. I don't even know what that... Auntie don't know what that means.
She was saying, like, if he shaped... Oh, in the 34, because you're 3-4. Yeah, like, surprise, it's your birthday. It's deep. Shay. I don't know how I would feel about that. I just understood the three and the four. It's my dick in a box. What'd you say? That song Justin Timberlake. It's my dick in a box. My dick in a box. I don't know how I would feel about that. But like a clean shave.
I'm cool with that. You know? Okay. Okay. Him bringing a friend for your birthday. Fantasy threesome. A nigga? Him bringing a friend for your birthday. Okay. No. Me? Yeah, no. Because I don't trust him and his type. I got to bring a friend. I don't like threesomes. So it's going to be a no for me. I'm a little freaky. Because I know he ain't finna bring a nigga.
Like the things that I'm doing, the things that I've accomplished in this last year, because a lot of the goals that I accomplished was stuff that I had on my list and things that I wanted to accomplish in life, but I wasn't necessarily thinking that I was going to accomplish it last year. So I feel like God exceeded my expectations of what I thought was going to happen last year. That's amazing.
Because the only threesome I want would be with two niggas. I would rather threesome with two men. And see, that's not what I want. No, thank you. I like the dick. Two dicks is crazy much. I want the dick in my mouth. Exactly. Two dicks is too much.
If we talk about threesome, you want your threesome, well, let me get the kind I want. One rolling the blunt, one cooking the crack. That's too much. Dick in the front, dick in the back. That's too much. I got enough holes, and I can take it all. And that's wild as hell. But Javi said, yeah, black hoochie do matter.
And to be honest, I haven't had a threesome in a really long time, so maybe I might do that for 34 months.
I'm going to unwrap it. That's fun. I love role play. Role play is always fun. I feel like if you can't role play with your man, y'all missing out on some fun. Like, role play, it don't even matter. It don't even have to be a delivery man. It could be anything. Like, I had one time when me and my man, like, we... Went and acted like we were just meeting each other at a restaurant.
And it was so much fun. It was like we was acting. It was just like, oh, hey, how you doing? It was a ball. And we got fucked up. It was a time. So I think role play should, everybody should try role play at least once. I think role playing is cool. I like role playing. Yeah. Unwrapping. I agree. Unwrap it. Okay. Recorded birthday sex, but only you get the footage. I'm going to do that anyway.
Period. It don't got to be a normal baby. Yeah, that's what I was like. It don't got to be birthday. It ain't got to be the birthday. Okay. I think you should do maybe number nine. I can't see birthday. On this side? Mm-hmm.
I like getting spanked. Do y'all like getting spanked? You don't like getting spanked? My boyfriend, well, my man, who's not my man, but he is my man, but not my man.
He always smacks my ass, which I get. Like, that's a thing for men, but I just... Because it's real time. And it's heavy now. Okay. Okay. But I don't like that. Oh, I love... I just don't like, like... I don't know. I'm talking about during sex, during anything. Like, I love smack. And I want you to smack it hard. Like, really? I want it to be hard. Oh, I don't... I want it to hurt.
He was talking to me. That's your song? Smack that all on the floor. I love getting my ass smacked. Oh, yeah.
And I'd be like, oh, I'm in trouble. Or if I would do something, I'd walk off from him, and I would come back, he'd be like, that's two. Like, I'm being bad tonight! Do you like to be dominated? Oh! I like a little domination.
You know, I feel like I agree with you on that. I think a lot of times people don't ever stop and smell the flowers for themselves. And you don't want to look up and you were just always trying to reach something and you never clap for yourself. You know, you've had an amazing year. Like I just told you, like 75 days of doing anything consistently is hard.
It was like, it got to the point where I would, like, start purposely cutting up, because he'd be like, oh. And then when we would get to the house, he would be like, go upstairs and take your clothes off. I'm like... I love a little paddle.
Well, not a paddle. We ain't never did it with a paddle. I like a paddle. But I was like, okay, yes, like, I had to go upstairs and take my clothes off, and he would be like, yeah, get on the bed. You cut up six times tonight. You're finna get six spankings. Wow. A time. I love a spanking. Let me put this down. All right. On me spanky. I'm just playing. All right. Let's move on.
So now let's do the item of the week, Muse Beauty. What you got for us, Raelle? Of course. MuseBeautyCollection.com. Make sure you get your lip glosses, matte liquid lipsticks, lip plumpers, lip liners. We have jelly blushes. We also have mascara and liquid eyeliner now. We're also doing a sale right now, 20% off of the entire site for my birthday. Birthday sale, 20% off of the entire site.
We also have a birthday edition tab on the site where it's already marked down. But then you also get 20% off of the entire site. No code needed. It's my birthday. Make sure y'all shop MuseBeautyCollection.com. And right now I have on the Chestnut lip liner. I have on the Rosé lip gloss. And then I also have on the... Lip plumper. Period. Love me some Muse Beauty down. You want to be a bad bitch?
You're not a bad bitch if you ain't got on Muse Beauty. And that's on God. Oh, yeah. And of course, I do have on the mascara and the eyeliner. I can start saying it now because it's on sale. Period. Lashes. What they used to say? Lashes on fleek. The fuck? The fuck? Oh, my gosh. I wonder what happened. We used to say on fleek. The fuck? What does on fleek the fuck mean? What's up, y'all?
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And a black business at that. But I mean, we don't discriminate. Any business is welcome. Now it's time to get into the bop. Hey. The bop. About. About. About. About. About. All right. The bop this week. My bop this week. Y'all know I love a good R&B song. Destin Conrad. If y'all don't know Destin, like, he used to be, like, popping, like... on Vine and the Vine days and stuff.
Shout out to the 409. The Golden Triangle. The Golden Triangle, period. Nothing but stars come out the 409. I feel like when you talk about 409, you got to talk about Pimp C, You got to talk about Lex P. And you gots to talk about... And Bun B. Bun B is from Houston. He is? Yes. I thought he was from Port Arthur. Is he from Port Arthur? Oh, he is from Houston. I think that you are wrong.
No, let's look it up. Because I know niggas from Houston. But I thought people used to say Bun B was from Houston. Bun B and Pimp C are both from Port Arthur. But Pimp C... No, it's a Houston... Port Arthur, Texas. Oh, he was born in Port Arthur. See, that's a damn shame. No, I... Because I've got, like, five people that's with me.
So you were working out, not drinking, you know what I'm saying? On top of the other things, I know you had probably added to your morning routine and things like that. So I have to clap for you and give you your flowers because the only thing I'm doing for 75 days straight is drinking.
He was born in a Houston hospital, but he is from Port Arthur, Texas. Okay, so that's what... No, I only say that, and that's no disrespect to Bambi. The only reason I say that is because people always had that argument. But I guess that's the same thing they do with Meg, because she was born in San Antonio, but she was raised in Houston. So he was born in Houston, but he was raised in Port Arthur.
So he's from Port Arthur. Bun B. Shout out to Bun B. He is. I knew that. Right, right, right. Shout out to Bun. We would love to have him come sit on the couch now. You gotta know where he from.
So, yeah, he from Balmain. So, yeah, so my bop of the week, Destin Conrad and T-Zo Touchdown, they have a song called The Last Time. It's a bop. Go stream it. I just, like I said, I love what R&B is looking like right now. It's just, like, it's fire. It's on fire. I don't have no complaints. Like, I've been being fed. Fed, fed, fed. Love that. Right. What you got?
So, my bop is Use Me by Bow Wow and Chris Brown. I said, oh, my God. I love... Why are you looking like that? Have you listened to the song? No, that's what I'm saying. Go ahead. I hate when you do that, by the way. I didn't do anything. You be looking like, what? And I feel like when you be having your vibes, I could look like that, too. Because some of your vibes, I be like, hmm, questionable.
But I don't say anything. No, I just was not expecting Bow Wow to have a new song. He does. He have a new song. But you didn't let me finish what I was saying before you started. And you didn't let me... Let you finish looking shady. I wasn't looking shady. But I'ma finish what I'm saying. So, anyway... You know how she do me?
No, it's how you do yourself, because you was already looking like that.
I was just like, what? But the point that I was making is Bow Wow and Chris Brown have a song, and I really like it. I said, Bow Wow, you was talking a little freaky deaky. Okay. You know what's so interesting about child stars? You be like... You're really grown now. And I think it's still hard for me to see Bow Wow as like a grown person because he was a child when he first came out.
Like he was a child star. But yeah, he was like a real freaky on the side. I'm about to listen to it. And I think it's real cute. Like it kind of gives me vibes when Chris Brown and Bow Wow used to collaborate back in the day.
Oh, that was Omarion. Yeah, that was Omarion. Only thing that keeps me, yup, when I'm coming down. I don't know what about you, but I got to keep mine. That was a good song. Oh, Chris Brown was on the song, though. Yeah, he was.
Shawty Like Mine, Chris Brown was on it. So I feel like it's a great song. And then y'all know right now the Millennium Tour is going on. And I'm so sad that I can't go because I wanted to go two times, but we had something to do for work.
When they had the Atlanta show and the Houston show. So yeah, shout out to the Millennium Tour. Shout out to Bow Wow. And I'm not going to lie. I said something about like, damn, I wish I could make it to the Millennium Tour. One of my homegirls was like, why would you want to go see Bow Wow perform? Because I know every single song.
For sure. So I applaud you for that, my sister. Thank you. And me, along with the poor crew, we are very proud of you. You know what I'm saying? And that's something that I think, you know, 75 hard? Will I try 75 hard? Probably not. Maybe I'll do a 30. Maybe I'll do a 10 hard. You know, I feel like you can do 10. I feel like you have to push yourself. I don't know.
Why do y'all want to be at concerts where you don't know every single song? Right. If you go to the Millennium Tour, you will know every single Bow Wow song. He made hit after hit after hit after hit. Let's stop. Don't do him like that. And honestly, he been killing it. The clips I've been seeing, a lot of energy. Them knees still work. Let me hold you.
I did listen to Freshers on Me is in the car. You ain't ride, you ain't ride, you ain't bumping like I'm bumping, you ain't saying nothing, homie, you ain't Freshers on Me. Because he was like, I'm 18, nigga, make it more than your dad.
Imagine your niggas talking shit like that and your daddy can't say shit. That's the type of shit I like. I don't like that. I don't want no nigga making more than my daddy. But I'm saying. Personally. But I'm saying he could do that.
He was making more than your dad. He was. Well, yeah. Yeah. But she was making more than my daddy, too. My daddy was dead. I know he was making more than him. Your daddy wasn't making nothing. He wasn't making shit. R.I.P. R.I.P. He just killed the club. R.I.P. Oh, my God. Why I was about to say that, too? That is so crazy. We be having mental telepathy. Y'all supposed to say, R.I.P.
That's not funny, though. I did not laugh once.
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She added a photo to y'all. Keep me anonymous. I'm 23 and been dealing with a 35-year-old man for two years. It's been a lot of ups and downs. I think it's a trauma bond at this point. I just started nursing school, so I'm seeing him less, and honestly, I'm starting to feel the distance. He has two kids, doesn't help with my hair, nails, or weed, and says all his money goes to his BM.
He buys groceries, but that feels like bare minimum. I'm not scared to be alone. I actually hate niggas, LOL. But I'm a people pleaser and hate hurting feelings. I'm scared he might spiral if I leave. How do y'all build the courage to leave someone who isn't a bad person? Just not right for you.
I'm not saying that because you don't... When I say you don't look 23, it's not, like, offensively. It's just, like... They just got... Like, when I was 23, I was just... They active. You outside, baby. This looks like a grown woman. Maybe that's why the 35-year-old likes her, too.
I think that I just always been a person where it's like I really like to push myself because I feel like every time I push myself and I challenge myself, God rewards me on the other side of it. Like I have a lot of amazing things that have happened to me while I've been doing these challenges and stuff too. Like I done got a new career. A lot of good, good upgrades.
Ty, I need you to walk around here and see this picture, or maybe Dre can hand it to you so you can understand what I'm saying. She's beautiful, but it's like, that's not giving 23.
And not in a bad way. I'm saying it's like, you look... That is very... Polished. A mature look. A mature, yeah.
I feel like if it's a trauma bond, if you know it's a trauma bond, then I think you know what to do. Like you need to let it go. Like trauma bonds are not good things. You bonding with somebody over negative, toxic things is not something that you need to hold on to. I feel like there's no sustainability in that. It's no longevity in a relationship like that.
And I feel like you know what you need to do. Also, you're 23 and he is 35. He's 12 years older than you. A lot of the time, I feel like men who are older, they like to date women that are significantly younger than them because they be trying to manipulate you. They know exactly what they trying to do. I think that you need to maybe focus on yourself, explore yourself. He 35, he got two kids.
He clearly still taking care of his baby mama. it's a lot of baggage there. And from what it sounds like, from what you wrote, you don't have any baggage. So you need to focus on you. And at the end of the day, if that man want to be with you, and I'm not saying that you should just write a man off just because he has kids and he's you know, he has like a situation or whatever.
But if he wants to be with you and you want to be with him, he's going to find a way to make you feel comfortable and y'all are going to find a way to make it work. If he is doing things that you're not okay with and then on top of that, you think that it's a trauma bond, I think you should walk away. You 23, you don't have nothing to lose. You have nothing but time. Agreed. So, that's my advice.
But he giving all this money to his baby mama. But he's not doing that because he doesn't want to. Because he's thinking, I'm going to date a 23-year-old. She's not going to ask me for nothing. That's why he's not doing it. He's thinking that he can manipulate you. But you just seem, you know, a little smarter for him. So, girl, move on. He'll be all right.
He going to move on to the next 23-year-old. Because any 35-year-old man dating a 23-year-old, I'm questioning his thought process anyway, Chad. He a little weird. He a little weird, so. Okay, where do I even start? I'm 30 and my now ex, the father of my kids, is 31. We were together for seven years and I finally told him I can't do this anymore. I've been through it all with him.
Multiple cheating situations, physical fights, emotional abuse. He even slept with another woman in our bed while I was pregnant with our third child. After I took him back for getting me locked up, I know. No judgment zone, right? No. After I had our son, I lost my job and he became the only one working. But he instantly stopped helping with the kids.
2025 is the year of the upgrade. We just upgrading. All we doing is leveling up, continuously leveling up. And I do feel like if you want to level up in life, you have to make sacrifices. Yeah, I agree. You know what I mean? So I'm all about sacrificing for the greater, the greater good.
Like I wasn't still healing and caring for a newborn, a toddler, and a school-aged child, plus keeping up with the house. He's always angry and miserable, and I finally hit my breaking point. After a failed engagement, he sent me on vacations and had our kids with another woman. I broke it off. The problem, we still live together and I can't afford the place alone.
I know he won't leave me out to dry, but I also know I can't heal until he's gone. And seeing his face every day is driving me crazy. What should I do? You know, it's hard for me to relate to these type of situations because this is a judgment-free zone. But it's hard for me to understand because I feel like you on child number three.
What's up, y'all? It's your girl Lex P. And it's your girl Zraya Nicole. And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Minds.
I don't know how that feels because a nigga can't even get one out of me after he done showed me his true colors. And that's just coming from... Because you already in there. You three kids deep. You have to lock in and get laser focused. That's the best thing I can tell you because we don't have children.
We've never been in that situation because y'all be... Stop letting these men play in y'all face. I know it's a little late to say that, but when somebody shows you who they are, believe them, okay? So all I can say for you now, because you're already in the trenches with them. Y'all got three kids. It's too late. You got to deal with this man for the rest of your life.
All I can tell you now, get you a job and lock in. Save up your money. Hopefully you have some friends and family that can help you out. But you already in there. You asked for advice. Three kids too late, baby. The mistake has been made. So sometimes you got... You made your bed, you got to lay in it.
And I don't mean to say that harshly, but I literally... I cannot give you any advice because I don't know that life. And I'm not saying that to be mean, but... Um, I just hope that you can understand now that this is your chance to really move on and let him go. He's not going to change. He's moping around with a sad face because he's trying to manipulate you.
So I hope you can see that before there's a number four on the way. You know what I'm saying? So I'm praying that you can really lock in and save up your money and get some help from your community to get out of that house. But it's hard. Because I think of, like, if I have a friend that has a child and if she needed to come to Atlanta and stay with me, baby, we good. What you finna do?
What we finna do? What we finna figure out? But if my friend had three kids... Yikes. Yeah. So all I can tell you is to lock in and try to do the best that you can to get out of that situation. But the best thing is for you is to not let him fool you because he's fooled you a lot. Focus on yourself and trying to get out because he's sitting around there moping. Girl, he's not sad.
He's sad that he's not manipulating you anymore. All he's trying to do is reel you back in. So the best advice I can give you is stop falling for his lies so you can really move on. Because it ain't too late to move on. There's plenty of men out here that will date you. Plenty of people. You can move on. You can have a life after him. I mean, look at Cash Dog. Cash Dog got her a good one.
Two kids. Mm-hmm. She outside having a ball, so it can happen. But you have to really lock in and focus on. I think when Cash Dog got out of her relationship, she locked in. She was working. When she met her dude, she was talking to Kiki Palmer. She said, oh, he just walked up to me, and I was outside. I'm hosting a party.
So sometimes you just got to lock in and focus on yourself, and that moving on will come to your child.
I don't know if you have any close-knit family that you can go stay in, go stay with, but I feel like that's a situation where you need to, like, rely on your family. Community. and community because you have three kids already.
And if you don't want to be with him and you don't want to stay with him, which I completely understand because that seems like a very toxic, unhealthy situation for you and especially to be bringing up three children in. So I feel like you need to try to see, like, what are your resources? And, like, try to rely on the people around you. Rely on, like Lex said, community.
And try to get yourself out of that situation because I feel like living in that same house with him and being there with him you gonna fall back into the trap. It's inevitable because y'all there. Y'all in the same household. You looking at him every day. Like you say, you looking at his sad face and it be driving you crazy.
I feel like you need to try to get yourself as far removed from that situation as you can. I know that if you don't have enough money to live on your own, which is what you were saying in the letter, then you need to try to rely on your family so that you can stack some bread up and make enough money so that you can get a place for you and your kids.
But I don't think you need to still be in that space, in that house with him. Figure out what you need to do to get away, as far away from him as possible. Because I feel like a nigga that will go cheat on you while you pregnant and get you locked up, he don't give a fuck about nothing. He don't give a fuck about nothing. Y'all stop making me cheat you out your womb. Stop believing these men, man.
We got to be smarter. To me, I... You know, to me, it's not even so much about tricking you out your womb because Cash Doll, speaking of her, she did an interview, too, or maybe she was on live where she was just saying, like, people be like, oh, so now you stuck with two kids. And she was like, I'm not stuck with two kids because I wanted my kids.
No, I wasn't talking about... I was talking about her situation because she was saying, like... Well, I'm... Well, you will not let me get to my point. Yeah. But what I'm saying is, like, she was just like, yeah, she was like, I wanted my kids and I love my kids. She was like, so I'm happy that I had them. They're not a mistake.
It's okay to have kids, but like when the situation don't work out, know when to move on. And I think the problem be, it's not about a nigga tricking you out your womb because some women want to be mothers. Some women want to have children. And let's be real, you have a cutoff age when it comes to you having a child.
It's not like, oh, we just turned 30 and we're just trying to figure out things. Like, we're in our 30s. Mm-hmm. So with this topic today, we're going to talk about shit that was cute in our 20s, but not anymore. Because sometimes I give people a pass for even in their late 20s or their early 30s, because I'm like, a lot of shit changed for me when I turned 30. Yeah.
So it's okay if you want to have a child or you was in love with this man and it didn't work out, but know when to walk away. Know when the time is up. It's okay that y'all had these beautiful years together and y'all created these beautiful children. But when it's over, it's over.
And you need to know when to walk away with grace and dignity, especially for your child and for your children, so that you can raise them to be strong, independent people and know to set boundaries themselves. You have to know how to set boundaries first to set that example for your kids. So, you know, girl, that's what I think.
That's what I think. Can I just say something? Sure. Y'all are not stuck. Like, I know that that and again, Lex said, we can't really relate because we don't have kids. But like, you can start over at any moment. Lock in, focus on yourself, figure out if you need to get a job, whatever you need for you and your kids. That is your priority now. F these niggas. For real, for real.
You are never stuck. There is always a way. Where there's a will, there's a way. But there's always a way to get out of your current situation. You just really got to want that shit for real. That's all I'm going to say.
That's great advice. You got to know.
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But who I was at 30 is not the same woman that I am at 35.
So, I want, we gonna talk today about, like, shit that was cute in your 20s, but you can't, you don't get a slide no more. Mm, okay. You don't get a pass. So, what's something that you used to do in your 20s that honestly kind of made you cringe? It's a lot of stuff. Where do I begin? Where do I begin? I did a lot of cringy things in my 20s for sure.
I feel like, number one, some of my fashion choices. Some of the stuff that I used to wear, I be looking back and I be like, ew, can't believe I wore that. Because I think that as you get older, you got to be like... Class can't be bought. You know what I mean? You can't buy class. You either have it or you don't. It's something that you can learn, but it can't be bought.
And I feel like when I was younger, the type of woman that I know deep down inside that I always wanted to be, I feel like I didn't present myself in the way that I really wanted to be addressed. And I think that had a lot to do with, like, wardrobe choices. Like, it's just certain stuff I just be like, yeah, I would never wear that now.
And it's nothing wrong. If that's certain people's style, that's cool. But I think that for me, I just have, like, a certain life in mind that I want. And I think that that just, certain aesthetics just doesn't attract the type of people or men that I think that I want to attract. Okay. The future me. Okay.
Um, I think for me, one thing that I used to do in my 20s that I definitely don't do anymore, because I know I joke a lot, because, you know, I like to get my drink on, but honestly, I used to drink every day in my 20s. Like, every day. It was like, wake up, where the party at? Where the happy hour at? Where we going to eat dinner? And where are the drinks at?
Like, if I'm being 100% honest, I don't keep liquor in my house anymore. I drink whenever I film. Mm-hmm.
Or, you know, I'm in church on Sundays. Like, I am not, and I wish, honestly, not saying that you shouldn't drink in your 20s because you're supposed to turn up, but I think that I truly probably would be further in life if I wasn't spending every... I mean, I used to buy a bottle of Ciroc on a Friday, a big bottle, and by Sunday it would be gone between me and my homegirls.
Like, that's the type of drinking I used to do. So I think that shit that was cute in my 20s was like drinking all day, like being the turn-up girl, like being the fun girl. It was cool in my 20s, but being the fun girl in your 30s, like, there's no benefit of being the fun girl that's outside all the time. For me and my goals. Yeah. I'm not saying this for everybody.
Like I said, this is no shade, no tea, because there are some fun girls that drink every day in their 30s, and maybe that works for you. But for me... Can't do it. Yeah, I feel like I just, I've always been a binge drinker. Like, I've never been a person who drink every day. Like, I've never been a girl that's going to drink every single day.
But every day, that never really been my thing. What's something that you feel like was cute in your 20s that's not cute no more now, Ty? I feel like the over-hustling. Like, we always, like, we're go-getters. And sometimes we're going to do everything that needs to possible. But now, being over 30, over 35, I want to relax. I want to nap.
I think we talked about this before, but, like, living a life of luxury. And luxury is waking up when I want to, making my breakfast if I feel. Go for a walk. Slow morning. A slow morning. Taking a nap in the middle of the afternoon. Just those simple pleasantries that we often like in the 20s was just going and going and going. No. Take it easy. Relax. Enjoy it. What's up, y'all?
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I told you, I live my life like a rom-com. And I always pretend like I'm doing something important. Like even if I'm walking to the bathroom, I'm like... Everything has to be drama. Girl, okay. You know what I'm saying?
I need somebody to drop me off at the airport and be like, I'll be back. I'll be waiting for you.
But if we're being realistic, the amount of men in this world that are, you know,
We had a ball that night. We did. I still have the clips from that. Maybe I'll send it to Javi so he can enter it in the episode so they can see.
So, yeah, I was at the bar and I'm like taking my shots. I'm just like wiping my tears. And I'm like, somebody's going to walk up to me like, hey, beautiful, do you need anything? And I was just going to look up and it was going to be like dancing. Yes.
I agree. I'm interested to see y'all's opinion on this. So y'all let us know in the comments because this was a good topic. This was.
Okay. See. You. That's too. No more. No. Sing the song, Liz. I don't know it. What song? No, you trying to get me canceled. That is all I want to see. Baby, show me. I love the real sexy style. Yeah, we not finna do that. We not finna bump, bump, bump nothing. They was bumping.
It's too much. It's too much. You gotta step back and get a clear mind.
I'll be right here. I'll be waiting on you. What the fuck was that? Hey. I'm not done. I'm not done. This is what I have to say.
Come on. Come on, beautiful. I was. It's all right.
I was just saying how when you suck the dick to cover up the real shit, that ain't going to be it.
I be Snow White walking through the forest with my seven dwarfs. Going to get that dick. Feeling good. I'll bite that apple. I'll die and wake up and bite it again. That's how good the dick be feeling.
And you're in your relationship, you're happy and say like, you know, y'all end up not making it. Mm.
Because I be pussymatizing them. And we both just be in this hypnosis state of mind. You know?
Oh, hold on. Oh, yeah. Put it up to the mic. You got to. Hold on. Go ahead.
I mean, who else going to watch it? Girl, fuck you! Who else going to watch it? It's going to be between you and my baby daddy. I ain't finna be with her.
Bamba Claude. All right, Drayonce. Give it to them, Drayonce. We warming up for the Christmas performance.
Get your ass up off that goddamn floor.
But the world know that. She don't count, though, because she literally makes a living from being funny. You need to say somebody that don't make a living from being funny.
Well, no, I'm saying, like, I do feel like some girls do be funny, but I don't feel like... Ten, yeah.
Over 33 years? Absolutely. Now...
But I don't think that girls be funny a lot of the time because they just be like, I'm so goofy.
I'm so silly. And they don't say nothing silly.
I think if you have to make fun of people all the time, you're not really... But how do y'all feel about people?
Yeah, yeah. They be doing skits, too.
Like, she was like, oh, do you mind if I take a picture with Marco?
And we just see Dave Chappelle and he just want a picture?
Then it's like, okay, he want to take a picture with Marco. I wouldn't see nothing wrong with that. I agree with that. But if we're at a baseball game or if we at a sports bar and he see you, he like, hey, Marco, bro, can I get a pic?
Like about a picture?
I'm trying to get in bed.
I don't know what my mama was doing.
Well, you gotta realize, too, we was both in long-term relationships. Now we're in a... Transitional phase? We're in a transitional phase. But with the transitional phase, it's still like you still trying to, you know?
But he should come on the show because we know their song. I thought my money up. See, that's my decision.
You don't want to say it? No, I'm fine.
I love you, too. Yes, it's all love on the couch. So we're going to play a game, but before we get into the game, we'll be drinking today, Ty.
Oh, my God. No, you didn't.
16 niggas. Canceled on me while I dish my ass to the water.
Not them. Do you want another drink?
Okay. Would you rather show up to a date looking fire, but your breath is funky, or show up looking regular, but you're smelling fresh out the shower?
So you feel like your mama was a porn star.
Because if I have to tell you that all them things wrong, like you musty, you got duck butter, your breath stank, why are we talking?
I can't. We can go pussy, though. You're like, yeah, I can't.
I didn't think about that. It's the heart.
That's really funny. And that's what I'm going to do until it's over.
I'd be like, damn. See, that'd be... Y'all should try that. That's funny. Who's calling my phone? Who calling that shit?
Well, I can read really well though. Okay. And I don't read stuff backwards. So I don't think I have... I don't think I have these licks.
And I did it for like three months.
Do I still have? No, I don't have to move somewhere.
Right now? Are you fucking kidding me?
What do you mean? I did it when I was like eight, y'all.
I don't really remember anything else. What you saying?
I mean, not discipline.
I feel like I was good night. I feel like you got to be... It's like she was smiling. Because you got to think about it like this, y'all. When somebody ejaculates, it's so many spurns.
So why do you feel like you could keep a job?
And you the one that fought through and made it.
And like ballet and shit, that was Drake.
I don't give a damn, because she don't watch it. She don't know my name.
But if you watch every week, you would know I'm Drea and this is Licks. I could even respect if they was like, hey, Licks. Because at least I know you watched the show. You just got the names confused.
You don't know who Ulysses S. Grant is?
Let's pull it up. Let's pull up Ulysses S. Grant.
You wouldn't have met him because he was alive in 1877.
Like, uh... She looking like, nah, I'm talking about the girl.
It's also a car. I'm not taking no more shots.
He served the purpose.
He hopped off that helicopter.
That's what I'm saying.
Yeah. But we talking about Ja Rule, though.
I don't think people do crack every now and then. I think they be addicted to crack. Like, how do you do crack one time and be like, I'm cool with this.
I thought she was going to say, when I got my first pair of dreams.
I think you need it. You can't stop. And I feel like with crackheads... So what are the things that you're addicted to? Me?
Oh, yeah. So I think Nicki is more influential in general. I'm not thinking about, like, Her and the other rappers. Yeah, yeah.
The girls be. That's what I'm going to say. The barbs be barbing still to this day.
So, y'all, we didn't even do topic number one.
What am I addicted to?
Any business is welcome. Would you say that you laugh your way into girls' hearts or into their draws?
Okay, so... Okay, elaborate.
Nah, I feel... Nah, because I feel like...
Pudgy, pudgy. But if you lose weight, you're not going to be pudgy no more.
I think if you're in a relationship, if I'm being honest, I think you should be having sex every day.
The queen. He just drank the whole bowl.
Except for when you on your period.
Are you going to go back tomorrow?
But I'm cool with that. Like, if it's three times a week, I would be cool.
He said, what the fuck going on? Look at the dog. Look at the dog.
Well, she took two shots before Pudgy got here, though.
I took two shots on the first episode.
I haven't had it like that.
You got a good point.
Or we can go to like, let's go to Hell's.
Is that what Bussie is?
Do you want Ty to read the definition?
I feel like I said it earlier. I'm so goofy. It's corny.
Do you feel like girls be wanting to date you because of, or wanting to date other men because of you?
You be pulling them like that?
We be happy. We just be.
So what type of girls do you like, Pudgy? We're going to hook him up with somebody. I have a perfect girl for you. So what type of girls do you like?
Wait, Dre, who you got that's for him?
I got somebody in mind.
Walking past the cell and hearing a moan and an all-men prison is wild. Yeah, I agree. A little what, Grant? Like what?
Oh, Mark. Oh, what the... But what do he say? But what do he say?
Do you have like a signature line?
Like, the girls will be like, oh, yeah, you fucked Marco because he be saying it.
Well, he do that, though.
Oh, God. Okay. That's a good ending, though. Let's not... Uh-oh.
You did. You gotta... I might. But, yeah. Okay, so that was great. This was great. I love you guys. This is a good combo.
Ain't I funny? Ain't I funny? Marco is funny, though, but so are you, Pudgy. You should be funny, Pudgy.
Ooh. Because that's how I be feeling about my biscuits, too. Where the jelly?
We should be listening to... Oh. I feel... Okay.
So, Pimmy has a song called Over Freestyle.
So then how can you read it in a day?
Well, let me... Okay, so...
I want to see if Pudgy can speed read. Okay, that's exactly it. So I'm going to let him read my question.
But if it's you and somebody on Twitter... But it's still... You really don't got no money.
So it's the first page of Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone. Okay.
We know. And I talk really slow, but I can read fast. Just letting you know. I thought...
He did not. But why you didn't read Harry Potter like that? He didn't even read the whole thing.
You said that right, but I'm trying to figure out why you thought that was funny.
Why are you making that face? I'm listening.
One of y'all curls up.
On that picture. That was a little shady, Pudgy.
Keep it cute. Pudgy. Pudgy. Where can I find you? Pudgy.
Oh, you want to be like me. She got three E's. I got three E's on it.
I think I see the way you're doing, baby.
No one. No one. It's all right.
But you know, I think that's a good trait to have when you're a comedian. Would you consider yourself a comedian?
That's all right. I deserve that. Y'all, I was just saying. All right.
Until you told Shannon he looked like Miss Netta.
I said, I know this right. Oh, no.
True, yeah.
That's why y'all got them kids.
Not Hitch, Ditch.
That's not the one.
Talk about it.
White women, yeah.
Yeah, yeah.
You know what I'm saying?
Okay. Okay.
She got you right now.
That's why y'all got them kids.
Karen just finished her doctor.
We're just trying to figure it out.
Y'all are. How old are you, Lexi?
That's crazy.
Whether this is your last stop and you growing with us or you move on to do something great. We shaking it up up here.
Men who use dating apps, they don't have that walk. Honestly, a nigga can walk in front of me right now. Oh, you on hinge, huh?
fuck y'all, I don't need to be on there anyway. Because it be some people that I know that's in there. I'm like, how you get in there before me?
Nah, all these niggas been released. And they are in the wild.
That's what I said. I'm a beautiful, bodacious woman. Yes. I got my bustier on my spank.
I be looking like a dirty slut. Me too. Do you know, like, you just be laying on a bed with nut all on your booty? Mm-mm. Just a whore.
It be your stomach, because then it fall in your belly. Well, I got it.
That's why I say, a lot of times we got to, we going to go to the bathroom together. You know what I'm saying? That's sweet. Yeah. I love a group trip. Well, I love a group trip. I be looking like, I put that thing on you.
And then I be like, ooh, I left a little spot. I be...
But honestly, y'all don't be having crust because that coochie be dry. That's why y'all don't be cleaning it.
That's how I be doing. You got to put that dick all up in here.
I'm sorry. You're going to eat this coochie and kiss me all up in my mouth. No mouthwash needed. All right. I like that. Yeah.
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I don't even know if it was a burp, a sneeze, or a fart. Gripping him. gripping and farting, gripping and farting.
It definitely do be gripping and farting. It do be gripping and farting. Oh, God.
I am. That's just because you know me.
Never. Yeah. Mm-hmm. Right. Okay. I like that. Dre, how you feel about it? No.
Pride, greed. Okay. So, pride, wrath, gluttony, greed, sloth, envy, sloth.
Dust yourself off and try again. Try again.
That's all I know, that's all I know.
It's different.
That's a long time.
She made him zip up.
And to see now... They coming to see him now. They coming to see him now.
Oh! Real, hey, I gotta get, come on now. Real nigga. I fuck with the real niggas.
I love Bruce Almighty. Come on now.
I have an engineer too. Is it Tim?
He been looking. I did not.
I'm excited. I'm excited, too.
Why did you ask him that? Because I want to know. Why did you ask him that? Because I want to know what he would be.
Hi. How are you? When you coming on the show? All right now.
You did a video yesterday?
Yeah, that duck butter back there. Go wash them balls up.
Come on, Love Wellness. I know this right.
You know he got too many bitches.
Hold up, hold up, hold up, hold up, hold up, hold up, hold up. What's up, Odie?
No, you right though. People who can sing. Yes. Who like never reach their full potential of singing definitely do that all the time.
Like, make them accountable for, okay, you get a paycheck every two weeks. Every two weeks when you get paid, you need to put... $500 into a stock account. Right, right. Because in 10 years, it's going to be quadrupled that amount that you put in there, that you invested in there. Like, teach them the importance of things like that.
I just think putting responsibilities like that on them, sometimes in a lot of ways, I think parents try to use their children to help them grow.
overcome struggles and stuff that they have going on just like when parents be using their kids social security numbers to put bills in their name and stuff like that oh because I couldn't get it in my name now I'm gonna put it in my child name and then when your child turn 18 and they're trying to get their first credit card or get their first apartment or whatever the case be maybe they credit is shite
and they can't get shit in they name because you fucked they shit up.
So I definitely just used to do what I wanted with my money too. And I feel like it didn't teach me any type of responsibility.
But if you think you're just about to be in my house with no plan, doing nothing, then yeah, you're going to have to contribute some kind of way because you're grown now.
If you are always counting on other people to help you, you're never going to learn the importance of saving, investing, all of these things yourself, or just not living above your means.
And so as soon as all of them turned 18, they hauled ass and got the hell up out their house.
That is concerning because I only know Kali Park, Bubba Sparks.
Shout out to her. Shout out to the thick queen in Midtown. I'm weak. Oh my goodness. What?
I be trying to knock the... We gotta stop cussing so much. We never gonna become... Legit.
And then so when I think of butter, see, I think of something that stains.
Just like girl is boy and girl mixed together.
We're going to be spilling a little tea. Oh, my God. No, you didn't.
And when we really think about it, and we're not, maybe we'll get into this for the bop segment, but Trey Songz, you done said a few questionable things.
But after a certain period of time, I just don't want to hear the shit no more because I am that type of friend who I'm just going to let you vent to me. I'm going to let you talk to me.
And if I tell you that stuff and then you still choose to stay and you steady keep coming back to me talking to me about the same stuff. I just don't got the energy no more.
You do be hating on Eminem. You be hating on him.
He keep cheating on you and you think you about to keep calling me, talking to me about it? Absolutely not.
I'll just be wanting better for my friends. And I think sometimes that can come off judgmental. And that's okay. I'm cool with looking judgy if that's the reason why I look judgy to you because I want you to do better.
They never gonna leave the woman who let them... Is he making that sound like... But no, you're right. But they never gonna leave the woman that is gonna let them have their way. It doesn't have anything to do with love. That was a word. Yes, and I feel like as a woman, you have to know that. You have to have that sense of self-worth. And I feel like we're getting too old for this stuff, too.
I know that... We shouldn't try to use age because age is just a number.
I do believe... You picking the wrong men, it ain't they fault no more. It's yours.
When I pulled up to the function and I seen him, I said, ugh.
God is the type of person. God is the type of God that if you ask him for a specific sign, he will literally send a specific sign. And people still ignore the specific sign that you asked for. You be like, oh, my bad. I didn't mean that with Jesus. Hold on.
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How we let these niggas get between us. A word.
So, yeah. Okay, okay. Shout out to Future. Big Feud. Because that was a hit, I must say. Big Feud. Good times when they came out. We was young and reckless.
Like, I'm not even being funny. That was really her cousin. What is she doing now?
Shout out to her thick ass. But she was definitely in that video. And then she was in that video with Webby. And bun B, she 5'7". Give me that. Yeah, give me that. She was in give me that because my friend was so proud. She was like, oh my God, my cousin. She was in still tipping and now she in give me that. And she couldn't wait to show me the video.
You know we was juking for it. They was mad at us. Mad at us. And it's a letter for my dogs how we let this money get between us. How we let these bitches get between us. How we let these niggas get between us. Yeah, I got love for all my savages with itchy fingers. I got love, but it ain't like the love I got for India.
It's a love from my fans got me still here.
Give me some codeine and sip nigga. Big bass hand wiping nigga nose. Big bass hand wiping nigga nose. My girl done tried locking her dolls. Before this shit pulling up a fall. Ain't falling in love with no hoes. I hate to fuck with any of you niggas. That's my only regret. Drag the mink on the floor. The Cuban links on my hoe. Ten whips in a row. Who would have thought we was poor?
Who would think we was poor? Money laying on the floor. Got some hoes on some hoes. That shawty with me, she a pro. No, she never met another nigga, not another nigga like me. Even if he got a billion dollars, he can't make her come like me. Who compliments you like me? I don't know. My app list was fire.
No, because you about to offend her.
What if she was in Shaky Lake Assault?
But the beautiful thing about our generation is a lot of it was not documented. I feel like the newer generation, everything on the internet.
About the importance of community. Mm-hmm. Because I know everybody says, oh, you need to learn how to be by yourself. You need to learn to be alone. But one thing that I've realized, like living in Atlanta... I don't have community out here outside of you. I'm talking about real community. Whenever I'm going through shit, I don't have nobody here. I don't have family here.
And like I said, outside of you, I have friends here that I'm cool with, that I'd be like, hey, I'm kind of going through something. Can we go talk or have drinks? So they'll get me out the house. But to say I have somebody where I can just go lay on the couch and just stay for a couple of days and just cry and be in my feelings and they cooking and making sure... I'm straight.
I really don't have that. So it's so important whenever you're going through these seasons of change and seasons of things, like, I don't care what anybody says. Being alone is okay to a certain extent. Like, sometimes you need people to rally around you and pick you up during those dark days. I agree. And it be hard. You know what I'm saying? I think I've learned to isolate myself so much.
So when I go through things, I tend to isolate and just, like, depend on myself to get out of these... Yeah, but you can't do that. You know, that's why I always feel like I call to check on you and stuff. So if I don't hear from you for like two days or so, then I'll be like, oh, let me call Licks and check on her. Because I always know when you be upset too.
Like, I feel like we just know each other. Like, whenever you come up here, because one thing about you, when you be having shit going on, you be very disheveled. I be scatterbrained. Yes. I be all over the place. You can't focus. Your mind just be in a million different places that you could like see it on your face. You be moving real fast, walking real... Well, you walk fast.
You know, they used to say that when I worked at my restaurant. What? They used to be like, Lex, are you in the weeds? Like, when you work in the restaurants, that's a question you ask when somebody's behind. Uh-huh. They be like, are you in the weeds? And they would always ask me that because I walk fast. I walk fast. You do. You do. You walk fast normally. You be mad. You be...
walking real fast and you know I'm pigeon-toed like that three times you know I'm a little pigeon-toed now what was the name of that movie little feet happy feet that is you for sure but you just be disheveled though you just be all over the place you can't find nothing you be like oh my god where did I put this where did I put this and I just be knowing you be having a hard yeah yeah that is how I am but
But I'm working on it, like I said. And you be short, too. Yeah. Like, I don't want to be on the phone. Y'all don't want to talk. I be wanting to get... But I will say... Like, you'll be like, okay, are y'all ready? Okay. What's up, y'all? It's your girl, XP. It's time to get to it. But then you turn it on for the camera. I think we both like that, though. Oh, now, one thing about me...
Y'all, and I love the poor crew, y'all will never know what I'm going through on this. Unless I tweet something or I get on live and I say something. When y'all watch Poor Minds, y'all will literally never know I'm going through it. Yeah, same. I think I'll talk about it. Like, I feel like now what I've been going through, like I'm on the other side of it.
Okay, so they be having twerk songs where like, you know. I can sing on a bridge.
Like my little bouts that I go through, like I'm on the other side of it now. This morning, I took too much espresso today. So if y'all know, I'm just a little like... I took too much espresso this morning. How many did you take? I think he asked me. So when I ordered the drink, I ordered an extra shot.
I don't know what I put on there, but he was like, you said you wanted four shots of espresso, right? And I was on the phone. I think I said, yeah. And I think he put four shots of espresso in there. That's a lot. It's a lot. Yeah.
Greg over there like... You know crazy. I'm so hyper already. So anyways, we're going to get really quick. Ty, sorry, let me get to it before we forget. I haven't even tried my drink yet. So Ty, before we get into the drink, you know what I've really been considering? I think we have to do an episode where Ty is on the couch.
Because the people have been asking. I think we're going to do that pretty soon. They have been asking. Where we have you on the couch, give you a mic. It's time to chat with Ty. Because the people have been asking. And one thing about it, I love to listen to the audience and what they want to see. And Ty, you got some ride or die.
Like, remember that song we was talking about the other day? What song? Remember the Big Bank and Candy? Oh, baby girl, won't you fuck with my... Javi, you got us. You got us, my bad. Okay. Try it out, try it out, try it out, yeah. So, we was mad when we seen that clip, too. Shout out to Big Bank and Candy. Because they performed that song at 21 Savage's birthday party.
Taking Star Tender to a new level. I'm telling you. Bernice and Gracie don't know about this Star Tender now. Nothing on you. So I think we are going to do an episode with Ty. I just got to figure out what that looks like and how we want to do it and things that we want to talk about because I know people do want to get to know you, but I think it'll be fun. I do too.
Because there's another episode that we're working on that's a little more personal for us. It's another episode, yeah, that we're working on. We don't want to say it. That we're going to drop before the new year. I thought you had to warn me. Yes, because you get so chatty, bitch. It's another episode, yeah, that we're working on that we're probably going to drop before the end of the new year.
But it's going to be very personal and it's going to be like a really good episode. I think y'all are really going to enjoy it. And I think it's going to be the same thing when we do an episode with you.
You know real good. I smoke with Ty. We'll have to have, what's the girl? I'm sorry. Y'all can really get to know her.
I should go bartending. So we're going to have Ty. So y'all been asking, y'all been getting. So anyways, Ty, what are we drinking today?
It's good. I love it. I really like this. I love drinks that, like, step outside of the box. Because I feel like, you know, every time you go out to have a drink, they have the same typical stuff. You know, I feel like this is something different. Like, this is something that if I ordered it on the menu, I'd be like, I never tasted anything like this before. I drink the same thing when I go out.
And, y'all, I messed up. I found a bar by my house that has $5 Tito's. Ooh. I be going getting slithered. She do, and she don't ever invite me. Because I just go real quick. I don't stay long. I stay for like 30 minutes. I get drunk. I say, bring me two double Tito's. So I be having two doubles, $20. Oh, no, that's okay, baby. You can leave me at home. Never mind. I be walking home like this.
So, yesterday. And I know exactly what place she talking about, too. So, yesterday, I tried to go and try to get drunk. Yeah. You know why I couldn't go? Why? They had an active shooter in the area. Oh, yeah. Yeah, it's so crazy because I started to go on a walk yesterday. And then I had ended up seeing the post on Instagram on ATL Scoop. And I was like, oh, never mind.
Because, you know, I be going on my little walks around the neighborhood. Yeah, same, same. I had actually went, you know, I was outside.
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Get 10% off of your first month. That's betterhelp.com slash poorminds. I always wonder this with shooters and I don't want to offend anybody. I don't want to be insensitive. I always wonder why when shooters go out and they do what they do and then they do themselves, you know, you could have just skipped that part and just did yourself.
Like, why you got to take, do all this and then you're going to, you know what I'm saying? Because I think it's just, they want people to suffer with them. You know, they want to take people down with them. It's so weird. I mean, but that's just how people are by nature. You know, we talk about this all the time.
I think that that's why when people are going through things, they spew negativity and spew hate online. Okay. Because of what they're going through internally. And they want other people to feel that. And they want other people to feel it. So I feel like it's the same thing with that. Because for you to go and be an active shooter and you out shooting niggas for no reason.
They be all shooting. This is like, okay, so I've been living in Midtown for a really long time. I've been living in Midtown pretty much the whole time I've lived in Atlanta. Yeah. So like seven years, because the first year I lived in Atlantic Station. But it's right there. Right. So pretty much the same area. So I have been living in Midtown for like seven years.
And it's been like an active shooter in Midtown like three, four times while I've been living there. And see? That's crazy. That's a lot of time. And when I lived on the east side, I was safe over there. Remember that? No, you was not. I never had an active shooter over on the east side, though. Yeah, but they used to be breaking in. I didn't feel it. They used to be robbing.
My car did not get broken into until I moved to Atlantic Station.
Well, I ain't going to say nothing because last time I said something, you got mad at me. What? When I talked about... Oh, I did? Yes. But, yes. I was poured in, so I probably got offended. You did. Because stop talking about where I live. I wasn't talking about where you live. I said what happened, and you got so mad at me.
Yeah. And I was like, what? About what? And that's when we used to really get drunk.
Yeah. Don't be talking about the east side. But I wasn't. I wasn't. I was just saying my experience. You live with me for a little bit. We used to have a ball, okay, in my little apartment. That's why I was only there for a month. Girl, fuck you. I had to get the fuck on. Girl, fuck you. That was a nice accommodation. Your apartment was beautiful.
Your apartment, the actual apartment, like when you walked in the apartment, beautiful home. Beautiful gown. I remember when my mom came over for the first time, she was like, oh, God. Yeah. She was like, where are you living? And she walked in, she was like, oh, okay. That's how I feel sweat clutch my pearls.
girl you fixed this up real nice you did but anyways like i was saying i've been living in midtown for a long time and it's been active shooters in midtown a few times like last year around this time it was an active shooter in midtown last year around this time and then about six months ago it was a shooting at the martyr station somebody got shot oh lord What we gonna do? Move.
Do you think they should make guns illegal? Move. It's all for us to go on the... Girl, speak for yourself. Unless I buy a house, and I really don't want to buy a house in Atlanta. I want to buy a house in Houston first. I want a farm. I want a farm. I just want a small farm. In Atlanta? Wherever I build a house. Like, I need a garden. I need, like, three chickens.
And I need like... I don't need a cow because I don't drink milk. And I don't... I'm not a big... But you can sell it. I'm not into that. I'm not into that. I'm not trying to get into that business. I want to do things that I want to do. I want a few... But agriculture is a big market. It is, but I'm not... You make a lot of money. I get it. But if I do anything where I start to sell something...
I'll give me a cow. You know, I always talk about him. Jason Mraz. A1 Wagyu. I got that in my pants.
Yeah, I ate that. I nibbled. I nibbled. I nibbled. Baby Dwayne. I nibbled. I got that A1 Wagyu. But no, I'll say this. I always talk about Jason Mraz all the time. Jason Mraz was a popular singer. You remember that song? Ah. I'm yours. You don't remember this song? Okay, so anyways, Jason Mraz, he was a singer. He probably still makes music. I'm not sure.
I'm not doing nothing. I'm singing with a great song. No, I mean, you know what I'm saying. But change the world. When I think about songs that change the world, I think about, we are the world. Right. I think about, what's that song by Whitney Houston? Hmm.
Basically, long story short, he has an avocado farm. And if y'all know how hard it is to grow an avocado tree, it's very hard. It takes seven years for you to grow a tree and for it to even have the fruit of it on there. It's very hard to grow an avocado tree from scratch. Most of the time, people get the plants and they already have one that's already growing. Anyways, fast forward.
Jason Mraz, he has an avocado farm and he supplies avocados on like... The West Coast, so basically like all the Chipotles, a bunch of farms out there, a bunch of grocery stores, and he's like a multimillionaire off of avocados. So if anything, y'all might catch me with like a tomato farm, an avocado farm, but like animals, mm. That's not true. No, but I'll sell some herbs.
I done sold a little weed before. I'll sell some sage. When the fuck did you sell weed? I mean, it wasn't like I was selling it, selling it. I had some, and I was just like, hey, you want this? I ain't finna smoke it. And I had a crackhead that I worked with. And she was like, I need that. And you was comfortable selling drugs to a crackhead? How do you know she wouldn't have robbed you?
And there was some reggie, too. I know she was mad. She was smoking straight boo-boo. Lex, you've lived so many different lives. This is when I worked at TGI Friday. Because I never lived with a drug dealer. I was a drug... I was a drug dealer. You was a drug dealer. Wait, let me open my... Okay, so y'all, we trying this... So, I found... I remember this candy. Yeah, so it's the Warheads.
Shout out to Warheads. War? War. War. War. War. War. You said Warheads. It's War. We... I started War. I started War at War.
at war that's wrong no i think no no but anyways um this is extreme sour the extreme sours so i used to eat these as a kid but like i haven't ate these in ages long what's other old candy if it's still as sour that i used to eat um ring pops rolos do y'all remember rolo i used to eat Oh, my God. Rolos were so good. Ring pops, the sour punch straws. I used to do, they were nasty, but it was fun.
The Pez candy. Oh, I never liked those. I never liked it, but it was just fun. Sweet tarts. Bubble tape. The bubble tape. Now or later. But that's still candy that's still available. I'm talking about candy. People, they still have pets. They still have pets, for real.
Now, one candy that I used to eat all the time that's still available, cookies and cream. I used to love the cookies and cream candy bar. The Hershey's? Yes. That's something I used to eat all the time. But you know what's crazy? As I've gotten older, y'all, this is how I know age thing is real. I love crossword puzzles. I love paydays. I love a good payday. My mom loves paydays.
Because me and your mom are damn near the same age at this point. No, y'all not. Close enough. My mom is 40 years older than you. So let's try these. Cheers. Black cherry. You ready? And I have watermelon.
Mmm. Mmm. Mmm. It's sour. Lord have mercy. But you know what? It ain't that. It's tolerable. But, like, I feel like it burned my taste buds off. I think for me, I still, I eat Nerds a lot. The Nerds clusters. I'm not going to finish it. Yeah. My eyes started watering. It's all right. It's not good, though. It's not a good candy. Warheads aren't good. This is definitely for the kids.
I feel like it's good. Yeah. Like, to me, it's good once you get the sour off. But that sour is, like, lingering. But anyways. Let's get to these topics. We haven't gotten to the first topic, but. Can I go ahead and get another shot? And I forgot to talk about, and I didn't even finish talking about me being sick. Well, talk about your detox. I was sick. Let's talk about that.
And then, now I feel a little better. Good. Because I was in Houston, and, you know, I was outside. Mm-hmm. And I just feel like everything be outside in Houston. It be all type of stuff in the air. So I called something and came back. Thank you. I don't think it was contagious, though, because I've been around numerous people and nobody got my cold or whatever.
Those are the songs, when I think about songs that changed me, I think about those songs. I'm telling you, man. I'm telling you, man. Okay. Anyways, bro. Back to what I was saying. So I brought that song up because I feel like that's how our song would be. Yeah. Like it would be somebody rapping and then you would be singing. We need Zaytoven.
But yeah, I've been doing a detox for the past seven days. I really was going to try to do 30, but clearly I failed. That's all right. That's all right. Well, you look good. You look good. Thank you. I normally always do like a little 40 day. Is this the first time you record? No, you recorded with the Bob for Halloween. Yeah, I did. Thank you. The bob is bobbing. It is.
This is going to be the last episode with it, though. I'm switching it up. I'm about to get my hair done. I might go to... I might... By the time y'all... By the time this episode drops, which I'm kind of happy that we're kind of behind on episodes in the can, because this is dropping very soon. So by the time y'all see this, I might possibly be in Barbados with Killa next week.
Or by the time y'all see this. So I'm thinking about getting my hair braided real quick. Um... He's going to get boho braids. Yeah, I'm going to do the Bob again, the Bob bohos. The Bob was eating. Yeah, I need my eat, pray, love moment for a second. I feel you on that. We need to move. I told Lex, I said, we need to move somewhere for like a month.
But I'm trying to think of where I want to go because I want to go somewhere where it's about wellness and mental health and eating good, exercising, and just tuning in with oneself because for a while, I did want to do the Miami for a month. Or, yeah, I would like to go there. But even if we do something domestically, maybe like an Arizona, like Sedona or something. Where I'm at?
Yeah, like somewhere that's just like I can just relax. So I've really been thinking about like where I want to go because wherever I want to do, like I want it to be intention. It's not like an outside thing. It's a more like internal let me focus and get myself together type thing. So I'm still definitely thinking about it because I still want to do it. I think we both should. Yeah.
But I just want to be intentional about wherever I go and make sure I have the resources to do the things that I want to do and need to do. I just feel like, you know, we're not getting any younger. You might as well. I'm here for it. We ain't got nothing to lose. And we got places in Atlanta we can always come back. Facts. Facts. All right, let's get into these topics today.
All right, all right, all right. So I wanted to talk about this today. Obviously, this is a hot topic that's going on right now. And I wanted to discuss it. One thing that I say, me and Dre are not TikTokers. We don't be on TikTok, but I love, because TikTok be on us. There's always, you know, I searched poor mind on TikTok the other day.
There's so many videos of people like breaking down poor minds. Like, oh my God, the poor minds girlies responded. Oh, the poor minds. Oh, if I work for PR for poor minds, this is what, let me tell y'all, I'll be seeing y'all. Y'all don't be thinking I'll be seeing y'all, but I'll be on TikTok. So anyway. The budget's small, but.
But anyway, so basically there's a discourse on TikTok because Ray Monte and Aaliyah J had a little spat. Now, if you're a makeup girly and you're into the makeup, and obviously I'm just going to run down the situation, but there's another topic that I want to talk about that's more broad. But basically, Aaliyah J is an OG YouTuber.
She was the it girl at one point doing makeup, vlogs, all of that. I'm still a fan of Aaliyah J. Love her content, loved her content, all that good stuff. So Aaliyah J had this friend named Justin and he used to always appear on her YouTubes and appear with her when she did her blogs.
So recently, I guess they were doing like a makeup tutorial Q&A and they were talking about influencers then versus influencers now. And Justin got... He went on a little... tangent about how being an influencer then in like 2015, 16, you had to actually be talented. And versus now, you can walk up to people at Walmart and be like, oh, you look cute, ma'am.
You look beautiful today and get a million views on TikTok and now you're viral. Obviously, that was shade towards Ray Monte. And Ray Monte responded and he went off. So I love Ray Monte. Again, and I want to touch on that a little bit. Come on the show. I love Ray Monte. And so I love him and his friends. I love him and his friends. But I also love Aaliyah J. I'm not, I'm not going to lie.
Girls, Zaytoven is not about to come to no studio with us. Why not? Because... I think he would. We are amateurs.
I'm not too familiar. I like Aaliyah J too. I love Aaliyah J. I'm not too familiar with Justin and that's no shade because I never watched Aaliyah's vlogs. I would more so watch her makeup. Like the girl taught me how to be the face. Her and Jackie ain't up. Yeah, same. That's how I learned my makeup. So I'm not too familiar with Justin, but I will say this.
I want to talk about Raymonte first because what I do notice online, and like I said, I am a 35-year-old auntie, okay? I have nephews. I am a grown, grown woman. Not to raise the generation. I didn't raise the generation, though, because I was never an it girl back then. I think I am a little bit of an it girl now, but it's because I have wisdom and knowledge and I can spread it.
So me being somebody that is in the space of content creating, I'll say this. And I'll tell y'all why Ray Monte bothers y'all. And I'm not saying he bothers Justin. I'm talking to everybody. And this is going to lead into the topic.
Ray Monte bothers a lot of people because he is one of the very few that are in this circle who can do whatever the hell they want to do and major brands still love them. Because a lot of people told Cardi, oh, you're going to have to clean it up. No, she didn't. Glorilla, oh, you're going to have to clean it up. No, she didn't. Ray Monte, clean it up. No, he don't.
And a lot of, it's a select people in this life who were chosen to walk that path, but that path is for them. We are not going to see too many people that have to move like a Beyonce and everything's perfect, like a Kim Kardashian. Not in 2024. I mean, well, I don't think Kim Kardashian is a good example, though. I think she is. Because to me, she's another person who moved How she want to move.
Yes. I told you I had a song with B-King R.I.P. I mean, that somebody heard. My mama heard it. My sister heard it.
But I don't think she does. I do. But everything that Kim Kardashian posts now is strategic. I think with age and becoming a mother, I think that she cares way more now about how things look. Right, right, right. But I think at one point in time, she did not care and she did exactly what she wanted. Right. I mean, that's fair, but back on the topic.
So how do you feel about how Ray Monte is perceived and how other people perceive him? I like Ray Monte, but I also like people who are authentically themselves. I agree. I like people that don't... Conform. Conform, yeah. People that don't conform to society. what society thinks that they're supposed to be. If you have an opinion and this is how you feel, you stand on how you feel.
This is what I said and this is what I meant and this is what it is. And whoever don't like it, you don't like it, but I appreciate the people that do. I like the fact that he... lives and thrives in who he is and people either have to accept it or they don't. And that's the thing about it. Like I always say, you don't have to follow people. You don't have to watch them.
You don't have to look at their content if you don't like it. All of the outrage that people be having when it comes to him and when it comes to other influencers that are like him, I think it's just ridiculous because at the end of the day, you don't have to consume content that you don't like. I think he is a breath of fresh air.
I think he says a lot of controversial things that a lot of people won't say, but he be telling the truth. Yeah. It'd be what people be thinking. They just ain't bold enough to type it. And I feel like the audience that is meant for him is always going to gravitate towards him. And I feel like the opportunities that are meant for him are always going to gravitate towards him.
Because what's for you is for you. I think a lot of people don't like people who are bold. Yeah, that's true. I think that makes people feel some type of way when people are so bold that they can just... stand strongly in who they are and what they believe in and their opinions and not give two fucks about what other people think. Because most people care. And I think we're in this whole era of
influencers wanting to model after other influencers who are already successful so it's like oh well let me try to be more like and i'm not gonna say any names but like let me try to be more like this person because they give a soft life aesthetic let me seriously let me be more like this person because they're a little more docile and submissive that's a good word
Let me write that down, nigga girl, shut up. But no, for real though, it's like, I think we live in this era of people trying to water themselves down to be what they think they- Think it's going to get them the brand deals. Because they see what other people are doing to get the brand deals. And I think Raymonte be like, fuck that, I'm me.
Oh, you know what? We were talking about dark humor. They gonna be in the comments like, these hoes don't take nothing serious. So, I was talking about dark humor the other day with my best friend, Killer, right?
And the brand deals, that's for me, I'm going to get them. And if I don't get one, I don't get it. But I'm still going to be me online and I'm still going to say what the fuck I want to say. I'm still going to do what the fuck I want to do. And I'm proud and loud about who I am. And let me say this too.
I want y'all to stop trying to make people that are special and know they're special feel like they're not special. Because I hate when people even see us or see another influencer and be like, they're not doing anything special. It doesn't matter what they're doing, though. Well, if we ain't doing nothing special, then why you not doing nothing?
Well, let me say, it's not about them not doing anything special because maybe I'm not. I've been on the internet for the past month because I spit out a fucking cookie. Was it anything special? No, but people found it funny. Some people were mad at me. I mean, but if they would have spit out a cookie, it wouldn't have gotten that amount of views.
So stop trying to make people feel like they aren't special when they are. Raymonte is special. And that just is what it is. Some people are just special. And I'm not saying nobody is better than other people because you can find somebody who works a nine to five job and they are special in that field.
And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Minds.
So, because we had saw somebody on Facebook, they made a dark joke, and it reminded me of that time, like, this guy, not this guy, like, my ex had came to my house, and I lived in my old apartment. Mm-hmm. And obviously my mom, I have my mom in an urn or whatever. So I have like this thing where you walk in. It's like my decorations.
And they're going to work their way up to be very high in this company because they are special at what they do. Nobody is better than other people, but some people are highly favored. Some people are chosen in certain fields. In their calling. In their calling, exactly. That's what I'm saying. Yeah, but at the end of the day, I don't know. I don't know.
I hate talking about this because my opinions on certain things are very controversial. Well, no, I feel like everybody has something special about them, but what I'm saying is... Yeah, but I don't think it's necessarily what's going to... I don't think it's going to necessarily set you apart or make you rich. I think some people, what makes them special is what's going to make them rich.
Yeah, and that's what I'm saying. Everybody has something special about them. And since we're talking about Ray Monte, what makes him special is why he's so successful. Some people are special in other ways, but I say all that to say- And it's not going to make you successful. Right. I say all that to say, stop trying to take away from people. We are in a different era.
So that's going to get into the topic of influencers in 2015 versus influencers now. What is the criteria? Do I believe that in 2015 and 16 and before that, you had to do something different? Yes. Right. But that was just the times then. That doesn't mean you aren't talented. I think it still takes talent to be an influencer now. I think back in the day, people were more authentic.
Honestly, that's the difference back then and now to me. People were way more authentic. People were doing what the fuck they wanted to do with their content and just posting. Right. Posting because this is what I want to do. This is my vlog. This is what I'm doing today. They wasn't thinking twice about it. Oh, let me post this makeup tutorial. Not thinking twice about it. Yeah.
People now, everybody is trying to be like the people that are successful.
Nobody is original anymore. All they do is copy off of what they see popular influencers doing. And it works. It's a lot of people who copy. People's content. I'm not going to lie to y'all. I be scrolling TikTok all day, every day. There is this content creator. She has like 16 million followers. Not kidding. They caught her stealing a smaller creator. This girl has like 10,000 followers.
They caught her with like three or four videos. And I'm not talking about copied like, oh, word for word, bar for bar. They literally have videos side by side. She memorized the girl's videos type shit. Like that's how bad it is. But nobody cares because she has the bigger following. It's the same thing in the music industry. But how did she get the bigger following?
Did she get it from copying the other person?
Probably from copying other people, but they can't find them. Because it works now. It does work for some people, but that's why it's people who are jumbled in, who are the people who are actually talented and the people who ain't. And everything gets mixed up. Yeah. And I can say that, but what I think about Ray Monte, I think he's different.
I don't think he copies off anybody, but y'all are trying to bunch him in with these people who do that fake shit, and I don't think that's fair to him. Because at the end of the day, we can't lie. He's funny. He's witty. He got it. So stop trying to take that away just because other people...
They do stupid stuff or make copy of somebody or there's a little boy who got shot because he was trying to do a prank on somebody. You can do anything to go viral nowadays and everybody wants their viral moment. But I don't think Ray Monte tries to go viral. I think he just. No, I think he just says stuff online and it go viral all the time. He can't help it. Ditto. He can't help it. I get it.
And she's just like, you know, she's sitting right there with her picture and like things that people sent me, you know, sitting all around it. So like when he had walked in, you know, he just walked in and we were just talking. I was like, damn, you're not going to speak to my mama. He was like, what? And I was like, damn, my mama's sitting right there.
So stop. I just feel like, stop it, my drink. And like I said, I don't know, this is not shade towards Justin or anybody, but I see, and this is not only, I see a lot of people coming for Raymontay online. And a lot of people just coming for people who are special. Like some people just have the gift of gab and they can sit with their phone in their face and people are interested.
And people are just interested. So I think the difference between influencers then, influencers now, influencers then, it wasn't as competitive. Not a lot of people were trying to do it. So you had to stick out. You had to be different. Now, not so much. You can do anything. People literally sit on their camera eating. And make a living from just eating.
I seen a girl, she made... And mind you, no shade to the mukbang people, but shade. I don't want to see nobody eating their food. She ate a chipotle bowl in seven bites, bro. I saw that. Seven bites. And washed it down with some Doritos. Well, that was a little intriguing. Just like that man who eat that Popeye's biscuit in one bite. Oh my, now I like him. I like him.
He be like, hey friend, come on, come on, come on. Come get some. I like him. He ate a taco in two bites. I like him too, but it's very few influencers that do like the mukbangs and the eating content that I actually like because I feel like it's just such low-hanging fruit. It is. I mean, if you make money off of it, cool, but it's such low-hanging fruit.
It's like, oh, let me set the tripod up and eat every time and smack real hard and slurp real hard. I do think, obviously, it is an audience for that. That's why a lot of those people become really successful, the ASMR and stuff and, you know, smacking and whispering. What's the name? We got to credit the originator, though. That lady. Yes, with the wig. Yes, that's my favorite.
Y'all stole her flow, word for word, bar for bar.
Y'all stole it from her. She used to be like this. And I wish I could remember her name. Yes. What is that lady name? We need to get for her pretty. I used to use her memes all the time. I know, me too. She used to be typing. Yes. I don't know exactly who you're talking about. Because she was the OG Love. No. Well, B. Love is one of the OGs. She's one of the OGs, though.
Because she was the first person I seen breaking down crab legs. And she made her own sauce and everything. Made her own line. To be lovely. But yes, I think that's what I was saying. Some people that have gotten in that lane, they have done very well with it. But now in 2024, because B. Lovely, she started getting poppin'. I don't know, maybe like 2018, 2017, even before that.
I think right now it's such low-hanging fruit is what I was getting at. Like, I think everybody is just trying to do it because they've seen the pioneers, they've seen the OGs, the people like them. A pioneer in ASMR. Okay, but But are you not if you've made millions of dollars from it? And you have millions of subscribers on YouTube? Like, hey, I can't hate on you.
I think we're pioneers in talking shit. No, we are. We talk that hot shit. We do. We do. And that's why people don't be liking us. Damn, people don't like us. They don't. Oh, my God. But guess who don't give a fuck? Me. Okay, okay, okay. So, yeah, let us know what y'all think. Shout out to Ray Monte, Malik. And Aaliyah J. And Aaliyah J. And Justin. Shout out to all y'all.
We just had to use y'all for a little example. You know, we be trying to be in the know with what, you know, the streets got going on.
Oops. Don't tell me to take no shot than be taking all day to take that shit. But I be trying to be in the mood. Holding it and talking. You know, it's that espresso. Yeah, it's that espresso. And I was about to be that Tito's too. Topic number two. What's up, y'all? It's your girl, XP. And it's your girl, Joy Nicole.
Like, I hate when people cannot pick up on the joke. Like, literally, those are the worst type of people. Yes. When you're making a joke, and then people can't pick up on it, and they make it like a serious moment. So awkward. Clearly, I'm kidding. He was like, you need to work through these emotions. Okay. And you need to work your ass out my door. And he did. You need to go home. And he did.
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Like, I think that, you know, when people be feeling in other lanes, then they want to get all spiritual.
Like if you genuinely have had a come to Jesus moment.
Yeah. If you genuinely have had a come to Jesus moment and you really are trying to grow closer in your walk with God and closer in faith and, you know, walk the right path, then I'm all for it. But if you're doing it for a come up or if you're doing it for money because you know. Or even worse, a man. Yeah. They doing it for the men. That too.
Like, if you doing it for the wrong reasons, then I'm just not... We getting messy. I had to chew my gum. If you doing it for the wrong reasons, I'm just not here for that. Because one thing, I play about a lot of things. I don't think you should play about God. For real though, I really don't. Like to me, that's not something to play with. Religion is not something to play with.
And I feel like it's preying on people's weaknesses. Like influencers who are doing that now are no different from pastors who we have found out about back in the day who were like laundering money. Stealing money. It's a pastor from Houston. Popular pastor. Remember we saw that pastor in the club?
I'm going to tell you after because they can relive. Oh, we saw him at the party? Yes. Girl, you know we did because I was like, uh. He said, came to the party for the photos. He was like this, bow, bow, bow, bow. Okay, he was. He was not.
You got to poke your lips out. But no, I feel like the pastors, I mean, not the pastors, the influencers that be going there are no different from the pastors who be stealing money from the congregation. Agreed. It's like, it's the same thing. Same thing, different game. This is what's so hard. So, I never talk about this on the show.
We ain't got no guests today. We ain't got no guests today. I know they be happy when they hear that. I kind of be happy a little bit, too. We need to get in the studio. We do need to get in the studio. You know what? That studio reached out to us, so we're going to do that probably like in the next couple weeks. Yes. Well, that's for a real rap song, though. Oh, I thought it was just for fun.
Because, yeah, no. I feel like we both kind of got like a little... Dark humor. Yeah. I think our humor is so bad that if people... We be laughing at stuff that I think people typically would not... We can't talk about it on the show. It's a lot of stuff that we laugh at that we can't... Yeah, talk about. Talk about.
I never... I've mentioned it before, but I've mentioned it to you. I have gone on, and it's still going on, a very personal, private, spiritual journey. I don't talk about it to nobody except my therapist. I just... Because it's not y'all business. And... We talked about this on the episode. We were talking about desperation in your 30s. A lot of times, these middlemen are messing up your journey.
And when I say a middleman, it's because you're trying to connect through God. You're trying to connect to God through somebody. You need to go directly to the source, okay? Sometimes y'all are listening to people who are not God sent to preach this word to you. And y'all are listening to people who have ulterior motives. And it gets scary to me because it was one particular person.
I'm not going to say no names. But I remember when she posted this shit. I remember I called Dre because at the moment, unbeknownst to a lot of people around me, I was going through mine. And I'm just, you know, I'm seeing things. I'm noticing things. I'm just like, I just remember being so vocal about it to my friends. I was like, this is so crazy.
And I'm interested to see how this is going to turn out. And it turned out exactly like I thought. And I just think it's so crazy because I am afraid of people like that. Yeah. I am afraid of people who can get on. Like, I understand the responsibility of poor minds and that we have, and we've created a safe space. That's why I try to be on here and be as careful as I am.
And I know we get on here, and I say jokes about church and about God, but I always say God gave me my humor. So when I make jokes about church or God... I don't care what y'all have to feel because I went directly to the source for mine. I mean, but we've also never tried to capitalize off of our relationship with God.
Like we've never tried to make money off of the fact that we have a relationship with God or like our spiritual journeys. I think it's so crazy and it's scary. Now, do I want to mention names or not? I don't care. That's up to you. You got to take that up with God. You right. You right. I was interested in this person's journey because I have a different view than everybody else has.
And since we're talking about TikTok and influencers today, that's going to be the theme of today. The TikTok.
So there's an influencer. She's extremely popular on TikTok. Her name is Imani. So Imani has a podcast. I don't personally know Imani. We've met her before. And Imani... is someone who talks about relationship topics a lot. She used to talk about dating. Oh, we met her. Yeah, that's what I said. I don't know her personally, but we've met her before.
She was somebody who used her platform to talk about dating and dating somebody who is on your level or higher. You know, kind of the content that we used to do. Same thing. I was never mad at the things she said. She was another person who had controversial opinions and she stood on business.
Now, Imani's kind of changed her tone and she's kind of talking about religious things and people are like, oh, but you were just a bartender last week and you were just this last week and you're... I'm not going to yai. I might... This might hit me in the ass later on. I don't think Imani is... I don't think she playing. I think this is really like her word and what she believes and who she was.
How you been? I've been good, but I was sick. You were sick. I was. I mean, I feel like I'm just kind of like getting it back together, like getting back to myself. But I don't know. And I hate when I get sick because I never get sick. Like when I say I never get sick, I never get sick. I heard it in your voice when I called you. I feel like you could still hear it a little bit. A little bit.
You know what I think was fake? I think what's fake was her trying to speak on the dating shit. I think she was trying to do something in that moment to feel like... Okay. I'm not saying, and this is just my opinion because I don't know her, but I think she was trying to conform to what society thought they could see from her because she's a beautiful woman living in Atlanta.
She may be dating certain type of men to live a certain type of lifestyle, but I think this might be what she really was because she was like, I was raised in the church. This is what I really knew. And sometimes you get caught up in shit because I know me, I'm another example. When I first moved to Atlanta, I got lost in the sauce. I lost myself.
I was like, yeah, get you a B-D-D, go outside, smoke the hoops, eat the lamb chops.
Why are you shaking like that? Because that's how I used to do it. I used to be in the club popping that Wagyu beef. But I don't know, though. Like, see, the thing to me... What happened? The thing to me is I don't necessarily think that that's lost. Like, I think being in your 20s and finding yourself and exploring different versions of yourself is normal, but...
Like, me partying and being outside and, like, dating some of the people that I dated when I was in my 20s, smoking hookah, eating lamb chops. I think that was a part of my— When was the last time you had a lamb chop, by the way? Ooh, it been a minute, honestly. Ty, when was the last time you had a lamb chop? This weekend. I knew it. I knew it, Ty. I knew Ty was going to say it.
If in a minute, I haven't had a lamb chop in... If you eat a lamb chop, I know you've been outside. Yeah. Because if I ask you like, oh girl, what's your favorite lamb chop? If I ask you... If I ask you what's your favorite restaurant, and you be like, oh, girl, they got good lamb chops. Bitch, I'm not going. Yeah. A lamb chop in Atlanta is a staple. Like, if you having lamb chops, you outside.
Don't talk to me about a good restaurant. You outside. You are. You at the lounges. You at the hookah lounges. Because that's where they be having the best lamb chops, mac and cheese, little broccolini on the side. You know, I loves me a good plate. But what I'm saying is. Sorry, go back to the topic. My bad, my bad. It's okay. I just feel like that is a part of your journey.
You know, like I had an outside moment when I was younger because, and it's okay because to me in your 20s, that's what you supposed to do. But did that outside dick keep them hoes sick? It ain't keep me sick. No, I'm talking about like when you was outside, you used to make them niggas mad. Well, when he said that outside dick keep them hoes sick, I thought he meant like it gave hood.
No, I thought he meant like that outside dick, like my dick outside is making you mad because I'm giving it... See, this is why we interpret... This is why I love having conversations with people because it's so interesting how the human brain works. It's crazy how we can hear the same thing and interpret it too. I took it as I'm outside and I'm giving other hoes that dick and you sick because...
You think I belong to you. No, I thought that it meant that outside did keep them all sick because he be fucking everybody raw and then he be bringing it back home. Not everybody got to take them antibiotics. Get a little penicillin shot. I don't know. Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe we both wrong. We need to have Juvenile on the show. Because we can't ask the other one because he up there with Annie.
A little bit because I still was kind of coughing a little bit this morning. You're like... I was.
Who? Michael Jackson? Soulja Slim? Ain't that his name? Wait, what?
Annie, are you? She fine because she with the Lord. I hope so. Because she was a motherfucker. She went on to be with the Lord. I thought she was talking about Michael Jackson because he had that song. Annie.
She not okay. I didn't think he was talking about your mama though.
What if Michael Jackson... What's my daddy? That's why I can... No. He came through. Michael... No, your daddy was Teddy Pendergrass. Ooh, my daddy... Y'all, my daddy look exactly like Teddy Pendergrass. He do. That's crazy. It's really crazy. My uncle look like... But when I be looking at you, I don't know who you look more like. I don't know if you look more like your mama or your daddy.
I was just sounding real stuffy and real nasally. It was. Yeah, like, I don't know. So I had went to Houston for my mom's birthday. No fights this time. No fights with who?
Because... You like a good mixture. I'm a good mixture. Now, my sister looks like my dad. It's crazy because... Really? Yes. People see my sister, they be like, oh, she looks like her mom. My sister has a very chiseled face. So my sister has almond-shaped eyes. So the almond-shaped eyes, that's a trait that my dad had. I have like the big face, the stuffed face. My mom had that.
So my sister looks like my dad. I look like my mom. Both dead, though. Anyways, bro. Amen. Crazy. Shout out to them people. Didn't I used to do that back in the day? That's what the track stars do.
Look, y'all be slow as hell talking about... Shout out to my daddy too. He right there. He is. Did I ever tell you one time my man was like, it makes him uncomfortable because he feel like he be looking at him. Why you be beating at me? I ain't going to lie, though. I try not to beat it with this hand. But you right-handed. Yeah, I try to do it with my left hand. I know. He be mad, man.
You was the right-hand bitch. No, but that's why I feel like now I probably could do a lot of things with both hands. Not you. What's it called?
Yeah, that's me. Not you had to learn. I did. But anyways, how we start talking about beating dick if we supposed to be talking about the Lord? This show is horrible. Horrible. Horrible. Back to what I was saying. Okay, my bad, my bad. I feel like people, religious people will spend a lot of money on religion and on their beliefs. And I want them people to stop. And so that's why, yes.
And so that's what I was about to say. I feel like that's why so many influencers are like, following that pipeline and going that way because they know, like, if I can convince people that I have changed my life around and I was just a sinner and I'm born again. You can do it too. And I got back up again. You should... What's that ad? You should be here? Yeah. Remember that? It's giving that.
And they will give their money to you because they feel like you are a changed woman, like you have been saved. I just think it's so... I just think it's so messed up to take advantage of. It's predatorial. Predatorial? Yeah. You can be a predator for many different reasons. Yeah, you can prey on the weak. That's what it is to be a predator. You're preying on the weak.
Oh, but I've been to Houston again a hell of a time since then. I just had to make sure that you wasn't out there scrapping. I wasn't with the people I was fighting with. Although I didn't fight. Right, right.
And there's very few people that I believe their journey... There was another event that went on this past weekend, and I didn't get to make it. And I saw a lot of clips from it. But this is another person who I have always loved from a distance. And I see... everything that she's going through. And I'm like, man, I think that's why a lot of people resonate with us.
The people that really follow us and see how we talk on lives and they see how we talk on a daily basis. Like I get online. If you're not a part of the poor crew, I really don't want to talk to you because I'm not here for you. I have a message to send about feeling good about yourself, about mental health.
And those are the people I need to reach about being a black woman and being unapologetically you. that's who I'm trying to talk to. I'm not trying to talk to the people who don't like me and don't understand me and they feel like, oh, Lex and Drea, all they care about is being bad and being cute. I'm not for you. Because if you know me, you know it.
I mean, that's not all I care about, but it's a good portion. I mean, either way, I don't get, I'm not here for you, but this person's journey, you ain't wrong. If I wasn't bad and cute one day, I would be very upset. Like, if I woke up and I was not. See, I was trying to preach the word and give a message.
Taking advantage. And God. He did that on purpose to wake your ass up. Wasn't his name Pastor Kearney Thomas? I don't know, but he was selling holy water. Bro, you know you out of line. He was selling the water.
They sell water in the stores. No, but you know what you try to attach to it. They sell water in the stores. But don't try to sell. Don't put holes on it. Selling water. Just sell water if you're thirsty. But if you really think about it, selling water, period, is fucked up because water is free. Come on now. Come on, capitalism queen. I'm just saying, water is free.
You need to start a series called Capitalism. You can go down to your local spring. And fill up your jugs.
How about that? Now it's going to taste like minerals. It might taste a little... You might need to boil it. No, you got to boil it. You need to boil it. Burl it. Burl it. You need to boil it. Burl it. But, I mean... Paying for water is fucked up. Paying for water is crazy. Paying for a lot of things is messed up. That's why I'm finna get some chickens. My man, his, um...
Having chickens off of 11th Street is crazy. I'm not going to have my chickens on 11th Street. Yes, you are. No, I'm not. I'm going to get my chickens when I move. Now, don't come over my house asking me for some basil because I got my basil grown. I am going to ask for basil. I'm not going to ask for chicken. I don't eat chicken. Anyways.
Getting back to the point of the lady I was talking about, I was talking about Megan Ashley because I be in the know of a lot of things that's going on. Who's Megan Ashley? She had the podcast with B. Simone and, you know, everything. Oh, okay, yeah. And like I said, I like B. Simone. I like Megan Ashley. But like I said, with my spiritual journey...
I follow a lot of people, and I just like to see what people got going on. And like I said, the only reason I felt this way to speak on it because I wanted to go to the Act 242 event that happened this past weekend, and I saw clips of her speaking at the event. And I'm just enjoying watching her journey. You know what I'm saying? And I feel like their paths...
you know, obviously separated and, you know, B. Simone is still successful doing the things that she wants to do. And so is, you know, Megan. But I'm just glad because sometimes when you depart from somebody who is like that huge, it's like you feel like, where do I go next? So I always be interested in looking like kind of like at the underdog and what they're going to do next, because
I've had situations where I split from people, things, companies, anything where I felt like, oh my God, I dropped the ball. How do I pick up the pieces? But she's one person that I feel like she is true and pure in her spiritual journey. And like her words are interesting and they can give you a perspective. That's kind of like true to what she knows she really feels.
So I say all that to say is just be careful who you follow. And I always say when you trying to get the word, sometimes y'all just really need to sit down and just read the Bible directly. Yeah. I mean, I feel like that's the best way to do it. That's why the Bible is there. The Bible is literally the blueprint. It's literally instructions. It's literally direction.
Oh, my God. Like, get me out of here. But, you know, I had to ride for my people, though. But don't get me wrong, though. About that action. We know. We know. About that action. You're like a chihuahua. Who, me? Yeah. I do. I think I'm like a little pit bull. Yeah. And I'm like a great name. I'm like big for no reason. Because I'm not giving up.
Anything that you have any questions about, it's all there in the Bible. Anything that you need answers for, you can get on Google. Oh, I'm struggling right now with faith. Oh, okay. This is how I know God is real. Yeah. I'm struggling right now with faith. It will tell you what scriptures you need to read. I'm struggling right now financially. It will tell you what scriptures you need to read.
Let me... I'm sorry. I'm struggling with betrayal. These are the scriptures you need to read. Like, the Bible is there for a reason. So many people don't want to dig deep into it because at the end of the day, I think the problem with people is a lot of people don't want to dig deep into the Bible and into religion because... They cool with living their life the way that they live in it.
So it's like they'd rather just not know. Because it's like once you know, you being disobedient. Right. It's holding a mirror up to you. Once you know what you want to do, you being disobedient. So it's better to just not know. And people don't like when that mirror held up to them. I had to hold that mirror up to me and it felt very uncomfortable. But you were talking about faith.
So I literally sent this to one of my closest friends this morning. It's a scripture. And then we going to move on. Because the first thing you brought up was faith. And this is one of my favorite scriptures. It's very short just because of the underlying meaning, right? So it's Matthew 8, 26. And it says, he replied, you of little faith, why are you so afraid?
Then he got up, rebuked the winds and waves, and it was completely calm. Because one thing I know, if your faith is stronger than your doubt, you know everything is going to work out in your favor and you know everything is going to be okay. So sometimes you need to just be still and let things be. Because if your faith... What's stronger than your doubt? You wouldn't worry. You wouldn't stress.
You wouldn't feel this way. You wouldn't feel the need to get on TikTok or you wouldn't feel the need to go through these people to give you the word. Sometimes you have to go directly and get the word. And look, I'm not going to get too deep into it. We're going to get ratchet again. But like I said, you have to be very weary.
And just have discernment when it comes to the word, because you have to be careful. And a lot of these influencers are, you know, just trying to get a quick check. And it's very scary what people will do. Money is the root of all evil, and I truly believe that. I agree. Damn. That's a good point, because it is the root of all evil. People will do anything for money.
Yeah, we just need to delete that part. No, we need to keep that in. They need to see that. See what? Me coughing? No, they need to see it. I done seen Carmelicious Cream in the strip club do some dirty things for a piece of change. Who the fuck is Carmelicious Cream? The strippers? Because sometimes, you know what I'm saying? You know what I'm saying. I don't.
We done seen people do some evil things and mean things behind money. So that's what I'm telling people. The consumers, just be weary and use your discernment. Now, that's all I'm saying. Yeah. That's true. I mean, people definitely be doing weird stuff behind my knee. What's the strangest thing you did for a piece of change? Me? Me? Yeah. I don't really do nothing weird for money.
Yeah, like I'm definitely, I'm the one who be ready to fight. I be ready to fight about legs. Something happened the other day, and I was so mad when we was on the phone. I can't remember you was telling me about something, and I was so mad. And you was like, calm down. Oh, my God. I don't know what it was. I think, was it, I don't know. But you know what?
I ain't going to lie. You ain't never done one little thing where you was like, maybe I shouldn't do this. Bro, I know one thing that people hate about me sometimes is that they feel like I just try to like separate myself. But I really don't. Like, I really feel like for a long time, I've just known who I am. And like a lot of shit just don't.
Like you ain't never sold, even when you worked in the club, you ain't ever sold a bottle that wasn't really yours to your section. And you was like, yeah, I'll give you this little bottle. What do you mean? Like, you know how you working in the club and it's not your section, but they may want a bottle from you, but it's another girl's section. You maybe just sell a little bottle.
You ain't did nothing or brought a nigga a drink. Bro, but to me, that stuff is not evil stuff. Like, when I think of people doing... I didn't say evil. I said strange for a piece of trash. To me, that's not even strange. To me, it's just like, oh, you want to buy a bottle? Yeah, I'm going to sell you the bottle. But they not in your section. Slow feet don't eat.
See, that's not in your section, though. It don't matter. No, it don't. Don't come to my section selling no shit. Well, you should have been there. What the fuck was that? I was, but it's just because... You wasn't, because if you was there... It's not about no. I'm there. You just finer than me. That ass fat and that Wagyu beef poking out the front.
Well, if that's the case, bitch, you would have sold the bottle because your Wagyu beef is poking more than mine. Maybe I got a little tuner. You said you got wet, Gooby. I'm not talking about me. I ain't never, we ain't never been in that situation. I'm talking about you ain't never sold a bottle. I just said yes, but to me, that is not true. You did it. You did it. We caught you.
We fucking got you. To me, that's not strange for a piece of change. I didn't say it was strange. To me, that's just like, you know. You did a little one-two, though. It's okay. It's really not, though. Because a real bitch would have been like, hey, this nigga want to buy a bottle from me in your section? I'm going to sell it to him, but we can bust it out.
To me, that's a prime example of preparation meeting opportunity. See, this whole here. Stop using the BS word. I don't. Stop agreeing, Harvey. I think it was preparation meeting opportunity. I'm not wrong. At the end of the day, this the club. It's about who the quickest. Whoever the quickest is going to make the most money. It ain't my fault, bitch. You don't know how to get no money.
It's not about quickies. I'm talking about a situation where you were finer. And I'm supposed to feel bad for her. I didn't say feel bad. All I said was if the girl walking around and she like, and all you had to say was, hey, this dude want to sell me a bottle because he trying to talk to me. I'm going to sell it to you.
Bro, but you asking me this dumbass question because you already know the answer because you used to do that shit too.
Okay, all right, you got me. Unless it's your friend. If it's your friend, that's different. Then they walk back to the section, who you got this bottle of Hennessy from? It's going to be a fire. And it's going to be a fire. Ha, ha, ha. I sold it.
I think we were talking about that old situation that had happened. We was talking about that weird girl. Yeah, that weird girl. And it made me mad. Because she had came up on my page. Yeah. And I was like, damn, I haven't heard that name in years. But, you know, I've realized, like me, I just don't like fighting. I don't like confrontation.
Hey, but that meant a lot. It did back then. I needed that $75.
I didn't say evil. I said strange. You, but you was trying to correlate the two. No, I wasn't. Yes, you was. You trying to put them in the same category. I wasn't. I got a random thought. I said, have you ever done something strange for a piece of money? To me, that's not strange. That's leveling up.
And they there. They still getting their $75 commission. All right, now it's time to move on. But no, for real though.
You know, get my little commission. I got bills. What did you say earlier? I got bills to pay. You said that on the phone earlier when you talked to me. I do. I do. Y'all got me fucked up. So, I'm going to take my little $75 and I'm going to flirt a little bit and get a little extra $150.
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So this topic actually came from, I'm not going to say her name because, you know, she's a great employee of ours because she's going through a personal situation. The topic today is, I like you, but I'm not sexually. I don't think you should have said that part either. I mean, we have a lot of employees and people that, you know, they can't pick them out. Okay. You want to take that out?
So she said, I like you, but I'm not sexually attracted to you. Well, then I don't like you. Oh, wait. Hold on. Let me present the situation so we can talk. You presented it already. But we got to give them... So we can... This is a talk show. Bro, I'm... We got to talk. If you want to give further context, do that. But I'm still going to say what I said. I said what I said. Yeah, go ahead.
Shout out to Nene. Come on, y'all. So the context is, it's this guy... They vibe. Conversation is there. Cute guy. She likes him. She really likes him. But she said like sexually they messed around and she just wasn't into it. And she said they had a conversation. He was like, I don't know. I just feel like you pulling away from me. And I don't know what it is.
And she was just like, in her head, she's like thinking like, I'm just not there sexually with you. So do you think you can really like somebody like they check off all the marks, but sexually they're not meeting your needs? No. Like, how do you feel about that? How does that happen though? It don't. It does.
So say you went on four or five dates with a guy and you like, man, I'm really vibing with him. He's cute. He got money. He can dress. Beautiful home. No kids. He checks off all the marks. Y'all three months in, you finally decided to give it up. You finally decided to give that wag you up, that hot and gushy, sticky, icky, icky, icky. You decide to give it to him and it's not good.
What do you do? This is what I'm trying to say. Did I decide to give it up? Because you just said from the example that you gave, she have not gave it up. No, she gave it up eventually and she said sexually she wasn't satisfied. But up until they got... Was she not satisfied or was she not sexually attracted to him? Because giving somebody pussy, you're like, okay...
Like, I like you and I'm sexually attracted to you and then I gave you some pussy and it wasn't good. That's completely different from not wanting to have sex with somebody because you're not sexually attracted to them. Okay, so I'll say this. Maybe I worded it wrong, but this is what she said. Maybe you did.
If I hear some gunshots, I'm going to run. I remember one time, shout out to my best friend, Lynn. Because I remember one time we had went out and it was like gunshots and she ran towards it. Because she was like, Drea, wait, my friend is over there. What are you going to do, get shot too? Come on, Wonder Woman. Like, why would you run over there towards the gun? Listen. Listen. Lynn is crazy.
Well, she said she had sex with him and it wasn't good, so now she's not sexually attracted to him after the fact, but she really does like him. But the sexual chemistry she knows for a fact isn't there, but she likes him. Mm-hmm. So what do you do? Like I said, in your situation, like I gave you an example. Stop talking to that nigga. But what if he checks off all the marks?
You don't feel like, what music soul child say? Teach me how to love. We are not 23.
Yeah! That's the song, now. So, do you feel like you can teach a man? Or it's just like, I'm not saying... No. You fucking strict. What? Bitch, I feel like I'm too old to be teaching a nigga anything. I'm not going to lie. Because I typically date guys that are older than me. I don't know how to beat it up.
And I'm like... Okay, that's fair. Yeah, like... I just feel like I'm too old to teach the old dog new tricks. If you don't know the tricks, then you is not my trick. Okay, that's fair. Like, you just not for me. We too old for that. Like... If I'm 33 and you 40, you don't know how to eat pistachios? You don't have a good stroke game. I don't know what to tell you. You don't know how to foreplay.
You don't know what you need to do. I'm just not interested in that. I think good sex is universal. I think that different people have different kinks that they might like. You might be into something a little... For example, obviously this would never happen, but me and you might have sex with the same dude. And I might like it a little softer. You might like it a little rougher.
Like maybe you would like, yo, maybe I like my nipples leaked and fleeked. And maybe you want him to bite yours.
Every time. Every fucking time. Every time. You know, maybe I might like a soft choke. Like, maybe I might like a little caress. I like that Michael Myers. Yeah, right, right. So, that's what I'm saying. It's like, but...
You just might like a little more pain than I like. I might like it a little softer, a little more, you know, sensual. But I think if you got good sex, you got good sex. It's universal. Okay. I just think that, yeah, I really do. I see what you're saying. I feel like you can kind of mold and shift certain things to fit the person. That Play-Doh. To fit the person.
You can kind of shift a little bit, you know? But if it's good, it's good. If it ain't, it ain't. And I don't think I could teach you that. If you haven't figured that out in 15 years, because just hypothetically speaking, if you 33, you've been fucking since you was 18.
Yeah. Yeah. Hey. I'm just saying, if you 33, you probably been fucking since you was like 18. So 15 years of experience and- Oh my gosh. You don't know how to fuck still? I can't teach you that. I'm not trying to be funny. This is not okay. I've been fucking for 20 years. I be wanting a nigga who's trying to get up in there. I've been fucking for 20 years.
Marinating. Have a nigga on his knees, no? I already know.
Anyways. No, but this is what I think. Now that you put it that way, I do agree with you, right? But I also feel like sex now is different, though. Wow. I'll say this, though. I'm not even now. Back in the day, you used to get that thing. What do you mean? Like, I used to be like, okay, I'm going to give you a little something, something, just because we had a good time. I'm young. I'm dumb.
I'm just doing whatever. And full of cum. No, I didn't want to take it there. Young, dumb. That's what the old people say. Young, dumb, full of cum. But I say that because now at this age, we're not even getting in the— I'm playing. I'm playing. We're not even getting in the bed unless I have some kind of emotional feelings for you. So I will say this.
I feel like if I have feelings for you and emotions for you, like the sex, this is where I differ. I feel you and I agree with you. You don't feel me then. But I do though. But at the same time, if I have feelings for you emotionally and we have connected, I'm going to feel it anyway because I just like you. No. No. Absolutely not. I think it's a real thing. I have seen the tweet.
This girl has said... Whole time, I thought something was wrong with my coochie. I started taking Slippery M, Makaroo. Goddamn. All that shit. She was like, but whole time, I just didn't like this nigga no more because I started fucking a new nigga and I was wet as fuck. It's the same. Ain't nothing changed. But that nigga needed to change. But I'm not going to lie.
Yeah, but I'm shit. I feel like if we going to do it, we might as well do it. Like you want to do a real song? Yeah, I want to do a real song. Ooh-wee. You think I just want to be up in there wasting time? I don't know. I didn't know you wanted to go to the studio. I feel like we can make a hit. I honestly feel like it would be my dream if we went into the studio. If we was one hit wonder.
Do you believe that? You know what? I think in my, as I've gotten older, yes and no. Because on one end, I believe in waiting till that person is ready to talk because I've realized don't force me to have a conversation. But also you can't avoid the conversation forever. Now, if this person wants to wait to have a conversation, cool.
I haven't had bad sex in so long. I haven't. Me either. You know why I won't have bad sex? Because I will not allow it. But that's all I'm saying. But what if it happens? It's not going to happen. But yes, it could. Like I said, in this scenario, she's dating this guy. She likes him. They had sex and it wasn't good. You don't know. I have good dick discernment. Come on now, dog. I do. I know.
I just know. I know. I'm not going to lie, friend. I haven't had just like bad dick ever in my life. I've had great dick, and then I've had, like, mediocre. You've never had bad sex? Probably in my early 20s, yeah. But I'm talking about, like, I haven't just had, like, okay, not you. I ain't going to put your business out there like that. Now, why me and Wagyu in it?
Because you told me, never mind. But I have another friend who told me, like, she had some really bad sex with somebody. And she was like, but I knew it was going to be trash.
You know, it's going to be. Devour is nuts. Yeah. I'm not going to lie. I've had situations where I've had good sex with this person, and then I ended like, I'm not going to lie, the last time me and my ex had sex, it was so bad. But it was because I stopped liking him. I was turned off, and I hated him at that point. I don't even know why I did it. Yeah.
But I'm saying, like, sometimes that be happening. I feel like when you don't like people no more, and that's what I was going to say, going back to what I was saying about the girl, the initial tweet. Mm-hmm, mm-hmm. If you don't like somebody no more and the sexual chemistry is not there, it's going to be hard for you to get turned on by this person.
And if you're not easily turned on by him, then the sex is not going to be good. If your pussy not getting wet for him off the rip. then it's not going to be good.
I do. Good dick discernment is a thing. It is. I feel like I know when a nigga, I just, it's like, you can tell by the way a nigga talks to you. Give us three things. Give us three things that's... Y'all take notes. Give us three things that is good dick discernment. Go. You was about to say you said the way... Is he emotionally intelligent? That lets you know a man got good dick?
If he... Yes, if he emotionally caters to your needs. Okay. Ooh, that means he gonna cater to you. You right. Because if he cares about you outside the bedroom and he can't... He gonna eat that coach up. Off the bone. Word to Jeezy. I'm finna text... Beat it up. Yeah. All right. That's a good one. Number two. Okay. Um... Can I add one? Yeah. If he's chivalrous, that shows a lot, too.
When I say chivalry, I'm talking about traditional things. But I feel like that's kind of the same, though, is this first one. Oh, no. Emotional intelligence is very different from chivalry. I'm talking about basic things. Opening the door. You know, you trying to take your shoes off. He helping you take your shoes off. He making sure, you know what I'm saying?
Pulling out your chair, pushing it in. He's like, let me cater to you. That's an old...
That was going to be my next one. Catering to your needs, how he talks to you, how he handles you, how he treats you, the things he say. You got it? Do I? Like, even if he just, because don't get me wrong, just because I have good dick discernment don't mean I got good nigga discernment. Hey, because it's two different things. Because just because he got good dick don't mean he's a good nigga.
And they're telling you, hey, I'm not in the mind space to talk right now. But eventually, yes, I do want to talk about it. Just give me some time. that's okay. But if they're just avoiding it and they're like, hey girl, what's up? What's tea? And they're trying to act like nothing happened, then that gets a little weird.
Don't make him a good nigga. Speak on it! Because sometimes niggas will cater to all of those things that they know you need to hear so that they can get We're going to talk about that next episode. We're going to talk about how men will be a good man today, and he's courting you and treating you, but that doesn't mean he wants to be your boyfriend.
Because a lot of times women be like, you took me out. You treated me sweet. You did this. Why don't you want me? We're going to talk about that next episode. But I said all of that to say, yeah, it's just all about how a man caters to you, how he treats you, how much effort he's putting in. If he's putting in a lot of effort before y'all have sex...
Mm. And I just feel like men that work real hard for it, they ain't going to... They know they finna come fuck your world up because they got that good dick. Yeah. And they pants hanging, waiting to creep on you. The niggas who be, like, trying to, like, do the bare minimum and shit, that's because they got bare minimum deeds. And they know it ain't finna hit for shit.
They know. That's why. Or they overcompensating financially. Mm. This is a good topic. It is. Or they're overcompensating financially. Good dick discernment. Good dick discernment. The niggas with the good dick, they're going to do a little one too, but they ain't feeling like they got to overly prove themselves. They just being themselves though. They just being smooth. They're like, wait.
Because if you're trying to tell me how good your dick is, I know that shit, poo. Boo-boo. When I tell you boo-boo ass dick...
Yeah, girl, I'm going to turn you out.
I think I used to avoid conflict and confrontation, but now I've learned, hey, I got to give me some time to calm down. I need to think about things so I can approach the situation logically because I am very sensitive and I am very emotional. So I don't think they're the worst. I think they're just people who don't understand how to approach conflict.
Ah! That's how that be. And you'll be like, oh, fucking brother. Just give me 10 minutes. Just give me ten minutes real quick. Oh, fuck. I hate... Every time, but the niggas that don't say nothing. You know. Oh, my God. You know what? The quiet assassins. Those are assassins. The quiet assassins. I should have known my man was going to do me bad.
Because the first time... Not everybody's sipping their drink. I know. We all know who you're in. And Shay, if you see this, don't cut this into a clip. Please don't. This is for the poor girls because y'all deep in the episode now. I should have known my man was going to turn me out because... It was like our third date. This is when we was in D.C. for the D.C. show.
And remember, I stayed to hang out with him. And that night, you know, I got so drunk and we had a great time. And we was like in the hotel room. I feel like I am imposing. No, but listen, but nothing happened that night.
I am not supposed to hear this conversation. Nothing happened. So, you know, it's nothing nasty. But I'm saying I should have known because that night, you know, we drunk.
we you know finally we get in the bed we talking we laughing and then you know we start kissing and you know like you know when you start when a man start kissing you usually what they do they be like come on come on they try to slide off your pants and you be like no and they come on girl like and then you be like yeah you know what happened you know what happened we start kissing I was like no stop he was like okay and he stopped and he roll over and went to sleep he was like alright I should have known then yeah
I should have known then. I ain't going to lie. That ain't what happened to me the first time I had sex with my mom. Well, I didn't have sex with him that night because he was just like, I'm not tripping. No, I'm talking about like our first encounter. Because that was our first sexual encounter. Yeah, like that was the first time like we actually kissed, kissed.
And like, you know, we was feeling on each other and things like that. And I was like, he was just like, all right. Because it's been situations where like men, you know how men be like, come on, like, you know, you want this. And they be trying to convince you. He was just like, all right.
Okay, let's move on. You want to tell your story? No, because I don't have a story. The first time I had sex with my nigga, he ate my coochie off the bone. Same. I'm finna text him.
So you eat my coochie. Okay, let's move on. So now, so let us know in the comments, what is y'all's good dick discernment? Like, how do y'all tell? Because that was a good one, Tyra. That was a good one. That was a good one. So now it's time to get into the bow. Hey. The bow. Bow. The bow. Bow. Bow. Bow.
This is definitely a Give and Wind Down Wednesday episode because we... Yeah, we finna wrap this up now.
Yeah, that's what they basically were saying, though. They were like, non-confrontational people are the worst because they don't know how to have the conversation, and then it ends up creating a lot of resentment and built up and pent up frustration. turns into, like, passive-aggressiveness. Oh, 1,000%. Yeah. Versus people who are just like, look, bitch. Right. You got me fucked up.
I said I was going to keep this at an hour. I feel like this was 2019. It is given 2019. Okay, so now it's time to get into the bops. So, obviously, y'all know I usually do, like, low-key bops. I can't do it this week. Meg Thee Stallion dropped Act 2, right? So, fire project per usual. Y'all know I'm a hottie. I'm a stan. Love my girl. So, everybody is talking about... Let me dismiss that.
They use the Sierra Goodies beat. And when I tell you her and Flo Millie just floated all over this beat, and it's so good. And Rocksteady is also the name of one of my favorite restaurants in ATL. Shout out to Rocksteady. Shout out to that snapper. Oh, my God. And shout out to me. And shout out to that collard green dip. Two snappers. Oh, my God.
We finna wrap this shit up. Don't you fuck. We finna wrap this shit the fuck up. The snapper is bussy. Both of them, as you said. Hey, that's what they said. The people said. But anyways, yeah, Rocksteady featuring Flo Millie. I love the fact that Meg can make good music with anybody. Just shows her versatility. And let me also say, y'all be talking about, oh, Meg Flo sound the same.
First of all, no, it don't. She has a song. Now we got affinity. Because stop it. She has a song with Spirit Box, which is a Canadian rock band. And they did the remix to Hiss, which was fire. But it's a rock song. It's literally a rock song. She's on there screaming like a fucking rock star. And it is so fire. Mm-hmm. I mean, Meg, she did a Mamouche remix with twice.
That's what I was going to say. Mamouche itself should have showed people that she can switch her flow up. Because y'all get, let me tell y'all something. Since everybody on TikTok and Twitter is an A&R, there's a difference between cadence and flow. Her cadence stays the same because that is her accent, okay? That is how she approaches a track in XYZ. Flow is completely different.
Learn the difference before you get online. Y'all are not A&Rs. Talking about what you don't know. Y'all don't know nothing about music. Now, you can have an opinion. I'm not mad at that. But to sit here and listen to this woman's music and say, oh, it sounds the same because you don't like her. And that's okay. You don't have to like somebody. But don't discredit them.
That's what we were talking about earlier. Stop discrediting people because you don't like them. It's a lot to say about Meg. We all know whatever, however you feel. But to say this girl isn't dropping hit after hits... It's crazy. I agree. Meg Thee Stallion, act two, rock steady. You did your thing. Ate it up. Go ahead, Drea. All right, so my bop of the week is Summer Walker. She did it again.
You're a twin. Twin. You know that's what they say.
Well, apparently I'm a triplet. Oh, yeah. It's you, Jada, and Summer. Y'all need to do a project together. Mm-hmm. Can we all sing? I think some are the only one that can sing. It don't have to be a singing project. It could be y'all do a cooking episode. Something. Y'all just all three need to do something where y'all just sit down. I think that'll be fun. I need to rap. You can rap.
You're going to have to write it, though. You're going to have to be my ghostwriter. I got them bars. Yeah. Yeah. The Trio featuring Toni Braxton. Because everybody say you like Toni Braxton. But anyways... Your bop. Yes. So, My Bop is Heart of a Woman by Summer Walker. She did it. It's giving Brandy vibes.
Or whatever the issue is. I don't like people who are like, okay, let's talk about it. No, we need to talk about this now. No, wait, wait. Like, we don't got to talk about this now. Let's just wait till I've calmed down, you've calmed down, and we can both have a logical conversation. That's real. I did that to my mama, like, a few weeks ago. You made her talk? Yeah.
Oh, my God. It's giving Brandy. When she stacked the vocals. And you know, nobody be doing them runs. Vocal Bible. Yeah. Vocal Bible. Nobody can stack the harmonies. Nobody can out-sing Brandy. I don't care who your family is. Well, no new generation, personally. Because, I mean, like... Patti LaBelle, Anita Baker. I know, but we're talking about stacking harmonies and vocals.
Nobody does it like Brandy. Brandy learned from the best. That's why Whitney Houston, out of her own mouth, said Brandy is the best singer of the new generation. No, she is. Like, Brandy... And it's so crazy to me because I've heard people say Brandy can't sing. And I'll be like, what? Are you kidding me? Because these are the A&Rs I'm talking about. You don't know music. You can't hear.
You don't got that ear. But you know, I would... I have an argument. I think that Summer Walker might be our Brandy. I can hear that, though. I can, too. I'm not mad at you for saying that. Because at the end of the day, let's chat about it real quick. Let's talk about how Over It was a masterpiece from front to back. Top to bottom. Still Over It. Masterpiece. Front to back. Both albums.
So, I have no doubt in my mind that this new album is not going to be a masterpiece. Like, it's going to be no skill. Like, Summer Walker... She just never fails. This is what I have to say about Summer Walker, right? A lot of people feel some way about Summer Walker because of the decisions that she's made personally. That ain't our business. Exactly. But this is what I go back to saying earlier.
Some people, their personalities make them different. Summer Walker is one of them people that she needs to have her team run her social media. And she just needs to, you know what I'm saying? Yeah. Because you don't have to do the extras. Your talent speaks for itself. You don't need to let us know who you're dating, who you're pregnant by, what you're deciding to do. Because you don't have to.
Your talent is making the music. And she she needs to have one of those Beyonce approaches. And she's one of them chosen ones. Like I was talking earlier, Ray Monte is one of them chosen ones who can do whatever with his personality. Summer Walker is one of the few chosen people. You don't have to show us your personality or whatever. All you got to do is, you know, sing and give us that.
And there's not a lot of people who can do that because there's a lot of people who are talented, but they have to get on social media and entertain us so we will listen to their music. Yeah, I don't know. I was in my house with my little wine, swiggling it around in my little wine glass and my robe and my first slippers. And I feel like I was back in 1996. Yes. That was a great vibe.
And I felt it. I felt it. Gun in one hand, wine glass in the other. Period. You know who else makes great music? Ready to shoot some shit up, but also ready to cry. I want to talk about two other artists, too. I recently saw Mariah, the scientist. She did Carisha, Please. I did. And I was so pleasantly surprised to see how eloquently she relayed her message that she wanted to send.
And it was so articulate, and it was so intelligent, and it was so beautiful to see. I wasn't surprised. I'm not, I wasn't surprised. She seems really emotionally intelligent. Right. But again, she is somebody that's like, her music is so good. But I was happy to see that side of her so she could talk because a lot of people feel like, oh, she's not smart for dating young thug.
He may not get out and this and X, Y, Z. But she was very just like vocal and it was good to see that side of her. Another person on the other end of the spectrum. Is your nigga getting out? No.
who cares what I'm saying no I'm just saying but like for her it's like that's her business let her do her you know what I'm saying Ari Lennox Ari Lennox dropped a new song called Smoke and the song is amazing but she just had she went on live the other day and she had a whole instance she like had a breakdown she was like She tagged them. She said, I want out of my contract.
Because she had called me while I was out eating. And she was like, I need to talk to you about something. And then she was like, wait, are you out? And I was like, yes. And she was like, well, I'm going to just call you when you get. She was like, call me when you get home. And I was like, no, what's up? What's the problem? Now she wanted to smoke while you're out having lamb chops.
And she tagged Interscope. She tagged Dreamville. People's in the comments like, J. Cole, what's up? What are you doing? Ari Lennox is another person where she just needs to give us our talent and she needs to have a team around her to, you know, be on social media for her.
Because I just think it's so sad when we have people these days who are so talented, but the social media stuff has to, it overwhelms them. And I hate that we are in this era because we just have to do better. Not we, these labels need to do better. Y'all aren't taking the time for artist development anymore and doing what y'all need to do for these artists.
Because if Ari Lennox was surrounded by the proper team, there's no reason that she shouldn't be going down as a legendary like Erykah Badu. That's how we should be viewing Ari Lennox 20 years from now. Seriously.
Like, y'all supposed to put teams around these people who y'all know that are special, but y'all being so fucking cheap and don't want to spend the budget because y'all worry about a TikToker. Well, one of our friends is a A&R. Yes. In the music industry. Yes. And I was just having a conversation with her last week. She works with a lot of popular artists too.
But she was just saying like right now in the music industry, it's just really hard for the artists. It's extremely hard. Because if your music isn't going viral on TikTok, it's considered a flop. I'm not going to lie to you. I'm not looking for no TikTok hit. Now, I do find some TikTok hits. that I like that are R&B songs or like, you know, eclectic type music.
But a lot of the times the best music is stuff that you can really vibe to. And that's why we're missing out on so much great music because the labels have... put money in shit that doesn't really have longevity. That's why artists are dropping singles and they're not dropping albums. And that's why I'm so glad even Cardi has taken the approach of, I'm going to do what I want to do.
Because guess what? You're supposed to drop an album every now and then. Artists shouldn't feel the pressure to drop an album every year. Build up that anticipation. Let me tell you, when Cardi dropped this album, it's going to go crazy. I wouldn't be surprised if it hit a million in a week. Because people have, I'm waiting on it and I'm going to listen to it front to back.
And better because Cardi, bitch. Exactly. Love you, sis. We've been waiting.
What a mean one. All right. Okay. Now it's time to get into our favorite segment of the show. Because we about to go on tour. I thought you was about to say we about to go on tour. Because we is about to do this. But I said I was keeping an eye on that hour. You lied. Again. Okay. Now it's time to get into our favorite segment of the show, which is Pour Your Heart Out.
I said, I can step outside real quick. So I stepped outside. I remember last time we kind of had a little tiff and I was like, I was at my man house. I was just trying to relax. Oh yeah, I remember that. You was like, hey, what's up? Yeah, because we need to talk about yesterday because obviously, yeah. I was like, obviously you wasn't going to call me. And you was like, yes, I was. I was.
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Me and this girl, we'll call her Jay, have been mutual friends since high school. About five years ago, we became really close and started doing everything together. We meshed well because we already were in the same friend group and circles. Recently, she's been falling out with all of our friends over some real petty shit. And no lie, she's been in the wrong a lot.
There was even a time she had an issue with me But I had to dead it real quick. I told her that since we're grown, we're going to talk out our problems around here. There was yet another situation she was venting to me about and she was dead ass wrong. I'm always willing to listen, but if you ask for my opinion, I'll tell it. I told her she was not doing the right thing.
After I said that, she basically rushed off the phone and it's been a week since I heard from her. Side note, there will be several times where her attitude just switches up so quickly when we're on a trip or she would be standoffish, not wanting to interact, etc. I'm at the point where I'm not apologizing for saying how I felt, but how she's been acting, I don't see her reaching out.
Sometimes I feel we just might be growing apart. Any tips? Is she giving me bad vibes or is it just me? So I'll say this. Obviously, we don't have her perspective. And there's always two, three sides to a story, whatever saying you believe.
But I feel like if y'all are falling out over kind of like little shit and petty shit, I knew, for example, not trying to make it about me, but I had a situation where something happened and I called Drea for advice. She didn't say what I wanted her to hear and I hung up in her face and I got mad. Why? Because I wasn't in a mature space.
Stop asking people's opinion if you don't want to hear from it. And that situation taught me I have to grow as a person. So I took that as once Drea said, yeah, bitch, you were being a fucking weirdo. I was like, yeah, you right. I'm being a weirdo.
So a lot of times you may be growing apart because if she can't recognize that and you can't recognize that, I think sometimes people need to realize... If things are happening between you and somebody, it doesn't need to be a big situation for a blowout. Sometimes it's just God showing you, hey, y'all don't need to be in each other's lives. It don't need to be a huge blowout.
There's friends that I have been friends for for years and nothing happened. We just had different interests and we grew apart. So don't take this as you have to force a friendship just because y'all have been friends for so long or, oh, she's acting this way and looking at it as a bad thing because she may not be doing anything wrong.
You just may not be perceiving it well because y'all are just growing apart and that's okay. That's how I feel. Yeah. I don't know. I don't like people that can't take, like, constructive criticism. Right. That's not a friend that I want. Exactly. Especially if you ask me. Right.
Like, if you ask me about something and you want me to give you my opinion and you don't take it the right way, I don't have to say something that you agree with. If you want to know how I feel, I'm going to tell you how I really feel. I just feel like that comes with emotional maturity. Sometimes...
And sometimes it don't come with emotional maturity because sometimes you and people are not meant to be in each other's life. Like, it's some people that I'm not cool with no more who, when I was in, like, my early 20s and stuff, I might have said something to them that made them feel some type of way. But our paths misaligned for a reason. Mm-hmm. Because they was never meant to be on a path.
And so I think that... As a younger person, you just have to be okay with that. And if it's meant to be, you and that person will cross paths again. I have a best friend right now who I stopped being friends with her for over a year. And now we like thick as thieves again.
Yes, I was. Like three days later. Okay, but I needed that time. I just wanted to have a good... Sometimes... It's always on the floor with me. She was like, if it's on my mind, I got to get it off my face. It's so funny because you code switch. What you mean? Like, you know how you hear your mom when she's on the, like, your mama talk to you. She be like, hey, what's up?
Let shit be what it is. If you feel like it's bad vibes, it's weird energy... Let her go her way. You go your way. Y'all focus on the things that y'all need to focus on in life. And if y'all are meant to be friends again, y'all will find y'all way back to each other. After y'all have both healed, then the relationship will be even better.
That too. Because me and Lex did not like each other.
Because everybody took it as shady when Joe was like... Because you don't talk about... Because obviously we did an episode with Melissa. And Melissa was like, yeah, it's good to see people who get along and they're actually friends. And Joe was like, no. And everybody was like, ooh. I mean... But we've said it. But we talk about it all the time. It ain't no tea there. And we love Joe, too.
But, like, it's not... He wasn't being shady. I don't know. I don't think that's why I said that's why I felt the need to say we love Joe because I don't feel like he was being shady. Like he was around us at the time. He knew we wasn't getting along. So he's seen it firsthand. He's like, well, they get along now. Like they built their relationship now.
And since we're talking about it, because I've been name dropping a lot today. Maybe it's the T.O. I don't know what. Or the espresso. I don't give a fuck. Don't blame that shit on Ty. Blame that shit on that damn espresso. I have something to say, though. So y'all make sure y'all share the content, like, subscribe, follow, all that good stuff. And let me say this before we close out.
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All right? And we got a hella fake Facebook page. Oh, the Facebook page. The crazy thing is our Facebook page actually have the least amount of followers. The one that's ours got the least amount of followers. The one that's not us got like 250,000 followers.
But y'all know it's fake if you actually look at the content because the caption is like whoever it is don't speak English because their captions are like Should men pay bill?
Check answer below. Block, block. Booyah, booyah, booyah. Like, that's literally what the captions mean. I like that DDG's Bamba Claude. Bamba Claude.
All right. Question number two. I just had to address that. Go ahead. All right. Hey, Lex and Drea. I've been watching you guys' channel on YouTube. And first off, I just want to say you ladies are absolutely stunning. Very beautiful. And watching you guys really makes me laugh and smile during the difficult times when I don't want to smile. So thank you. I'm 28. I've been single for seven years.
But throughout those years, I have had a lot of failed relationships and situationships.
I know having a man doesn't validate me however always being seen as good enough to have sex but to have sex with but not good enough to settle down with has really taken a shot at my confidence and I don't know what to do or how to feel I don't know what I'm doing wrong and as a grown woman I just want to know how to get my confidence back and feel like a bad bitch can you help me
Stop having situationships. Come on. If men, if you desire a relationship and you desire commitment and men are letting you know that that is not the same thing that they desire, don't get them no pussy. Don't take it further than the date. That's where you've been going wrong, sis, because I'm sure you're a beautiful girl. I'm sure you have a lot to offer.
And then she get on the phone with her. The bill company, hi. I need to call about my bill. But you code switching away to where, like, I know when you mean business and you ready to talk, you be like, hey, what's up? And it's your body language. So, you know how you walk when your booty be twisted? That's just how I walk. So, like, I know, I can look at your body and tell when you're mad.
But at the end of the day, men are opportunists. Men love pussy. Men love pussy and men need sex. Unlike women, a lot of the time, I feel like people say, oh, women need sex, women need sex. We can live without sex, though. I really truly feel like... There are men who can live without sex, too. Monks? Okay. I think it's certain men who don't put it on a pedestal, but it's very small.
It's certain men who don't put it on a pedestal for sure. However, though, I feel like most men, like, okay, I'm talking about men who value relationships. Yeah, yeah. Who want to be in relationships. Okay. Because if we're talking about, again, like I said, monks, people who have taken a vow of celibacy, obviously that's different.
But a man who is longing to be in a partnership, a man who is looking for a wife, men want sex. Men, literally men in relationships, it has been statistically proven, men that are in relationships, men that are married, they need sex to thrive and to be able to go out into the world and do what they need to do. They look to their woman when they come home to work. Refuel them.
You be giving it up. Girl, shut up. Sorry, sorry, sorry. And recharge them. So I think that
You have to be the person that's like, okay, if he not making me feel like he wants something serious from me, I'm going to cut this shit off and I'm not going to give him sex and I'm not going to give him that satisfaction.
Knowing that you want commitment and not standing on commitment, that be the problem. And I'm not trying to be hard on you. But I'm just saying, if you want to settle down and that's what you want, then you have to move like somebody who wants to settle down and who knows what they want. Because men be getting tricky. They going to trick you up a little bit.
I would love it. Me too. Imagine if we did a one hit wonder so good and just like won a Grammy and never made a song again. I know. Goals. I feel like we could do it. I feel like if anyone could do it, it could be us. We got to do it. So poor crew, when we drop this song, y'all got to support it. But I want to make like a shaking ass track. Me too. I want a twerk song.
I can agree with that because being somebody like, I was in a situation with this guy that I had dated before. Mr. Cabo. I was in a situation where like when we first started going out, he was like, okay. He asked me like, okay, well, what are you looking for about a lot? I was like, honestly, I knew at that time I was like, I did want a man.
I wanted partnership, but I was trying to be the cool girl. I'd be like, oh, I'm just having fun. I'm outside. And he took that literal. So when shit played out, I was like, damn, you hurt my feelings. He was like, but this is what you told me. He was like, if I would have known you wanted this person, I would 100% gave it to you. Like, that wouldn't have been a problem.
So I think a lot of times women are so afraid to say what we want because we trying to be so laid back. No. First date, if y'all have this conversation, what are your intentions? What are you looking for? Say what you want and be very vocal and hold out until you get that. And then they're showing you that they want the same thing. And she said it took a shot at her confidence.
I just feel like it shouldn't take a shot at your confidence. Because a lot of the time, what people want in the space that they're in has nothing to do with you. It's absolutely about their own past and the type of time in it they own. It shouldn't take any shot at your confidence because I'm sure you're beautiful. I'm sure you're smart.
I'm sure you have a lot to add value to a relationship and to the right man. That just ain't the right man or the right situation. How a person feels about you says nothing about your character and how valuable you are. Yeah. Because one person will treat you like shit and the next person will be like, oh my gosh, I just struck gold. Well, sometimes they do because people ain't shit.
Well, no, I agree. People feel the way they feel about people sometimes because... You really trash. It doesn't matter. Not her, though. But your confidence should be within yourself. How people feel about you shouldn't have an effect on how you feel.
Because, like, you already walk with that little booty twist.
Because even though, yeah, some people may be right about certain people that they are trash, but they don't feel that way because they're confident within themselves. Yeah. So you don't need to look for any outside sources to make you confident. But I do have a question. So that was our advice. But I do have a question. You don't feel like trash people should just know they trash? No.
Let me tell you something. That's the problem. So many people be like, oh, well, a person's opinion of me, it shouldn't matter. But what if you really trash, though? I have something very important because I have went through something that made me realize... Um, I got out of a situation because this person had did me so dirty and so wrong. And I finally was able to open my eyes and see.
And I was so stuck in a place of, you know what? Karma's going to get him. Karma going to shut him down and he going to see. And I was so wrapped up in the world and the universe getting at him so hard. And I'm not going to lie. I don't know what's going on with this person, but somebody had updated me on him, which had pissed me off.
but they were like, oh girl, he on vacation and he doing this and X, Y, Z. So I'm like, you know what? Maybe that person didn't get their karma. Maybe this person has moved on and they are extremely happy, but that's okay because that's a part of the healing process. Sometimes people do get their give back, but sometimes they really don't.
Sometimes trash people, they will hurt you and they will move on and live happy lives. The true thing about healing is that you cannot care and you cannot be concerned with But I didn't say nothing about the get back. I was just saying. Letting them know? Yeah, I let them know. But what does that do? Not letting them know.
Because, and then you walk, like, with your nose in the air. Hey, y'all, what's up? Yeah. What's up? It's very like, hey. I be like, oh, fuck. Like, when you walk through them double doors, I'm like, let's see what we getting today. If it's like, hey, y'all. I be like, yes! Hallelujah! When you be like, what's up? Hey, hi. Hey, Ty, what we drinking?
I'm just saying, do you think that that's a problem that like people be trash and they be feeling like they're not? It's not about you getting back at them. Because at the end of the day, like that's stupid. That's childish. That's petty to waste your time on. But what I'm saying is... But, like, it's so many people who go through life feeling like, well, I'm a great person. You know why, though?
But guess what? Different things bring different things out of people. So this person may have been trash to me, but he may be a great person to that girl or that person. I don't know. But that's the part that I'm saying that's why it's important to heal. Mm-hmm. Because I don't know how he's treating her, and I also don't care. Mm-hmm.
Because maybe this person was bad to me, but he could be a great person or a friend. I had a friend who was trash to me. Like we were talking about her earlier, but maybe she's a great friend to this other person. But the beauty about healing is I don't care. I let you know what you did to me and I let you know how much of a fucked up person you were to me.
everything else, I'll just let go and I'll let God. So yeah, you got to tell people that they trash sometimes, but maybe that person was trash to you. I don't know, different things, but you have to be okay with not caring as well. I think that's what it is. The best thing you can do, let a person know how you feel. And move on and heal. I agree. You know what I'm saying?
Because sometimes people want this karma. Oh, the world going to get you. But sometimes the world doesn't get that person. Sometimes it does. But the beauty about healing is I don't know if the world got back at you, but I also don't care. So that's what I was getting at as far as like, yeah, you got to let people know they're trash. Sure. But that's more for you.
they not going to learn nothing because they don't care. They know how they did you. That person that did you wrong, they know what they did. They're not oblivious to, oh, I didn't know. They very much know. That's why I'm to the point now is I don't really tell people like, oh, you did some ho shit unless I really care about you.
Because sometimes it'll be a situation where you hurt my feelings and you really did not know. Like you were talking about earlier, I was just saying my car got broken into. You didn't know that made me mad. Them people don't need to know where I'm living at. Well, I didn't bring it up. Well, you just let it go. No, but what I'm saying is your intention wasn't to hurt me. Yeah.
That's what I'm saying. So I say all that to say. I'm saying I didn't even. Shut the hell up. You know what I mean. Let me cross the T and dot my I. Well, I was saying maybe you might want Javi to delete that part. Because I didn't ever say nothing about the car you're broken into. Oh, it don't matter now. I mean, people know my come up. They know. And you don't know my struggle.
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My goodies, my goodies, my goodies, not my goodies. I got a sick reputation for handling bras and all I need is me a few seconds more and then my leg. Tell Belay to bring my leg and I ain't coming back and you can put a car right there on the troop. I ain't got nothing to prove and you can ask anybody because they seen me do it. Barricades, I run right through them. Used to them.
Throw all the dirt you want. It's no use.
You may look at me and think that I'm just a young girl, but I'm not just a young girl, baby. This is what I'm looking for. Sex and pin it down to spit it. That's getting it. I'm not being too dramatic. That's just how I gotta have it. I bet you. Hey, bet you thought about it. Got you all hot and bothered. Cause I talk, if you're looking for the goodies, keep on looking cause they, hey.
Oh, oh, oh. Come on. Just because you drive a Benz, I'm not going home with you. You won't get no nookie. All the cookies. I'm no rookie. Sexy, independent. I ain't with all you already know. I'm not being too dramatic. That's the way I gotta have it. You think you're sweet trying to hit, but I'm not dumb. I'm not being too dramatic. It's just how I gotta have it. I bet you want the goodies.
Oh, my God. You be like. And then Lex so annoying because she'll be like, I didn't get a hug. Bitch, I know. But sometimes, even when we not mad at each other or not, you just still don't be hugging me. But I think that's my fault, though. Yeah, because I feel like you're not an affectionate friend. No, I used to be. I feel like I'm different. I will say this.
Bet you thought about it. Got you all high and bothered. Because if you're looking for the goodies, keep on looking because they stay in the jar. Oh, oh, oh, oh.
So damn hot, but so young. Still got milk in your tongue. Slow down, little one. You ain't got it all. Hey, shawty. You don't, no, no, no, no. You think you bad, but you ain't bad. I'll show you what bad is. Bad is when you capable of beating the baddest.
Ain't that shit, girl. I hear that I can't have. Ba-da-boom, ba-da-bam-ba-boom. You're insinuating that I'm hot. But these goodies, boy, are not. Just for many of the many minutes trying to get on top. No, you can call me later. And I don't want your number. I'm not changing stories. Just respect the play I'm calling. I bet you want the goodies. Bet you thought about it.
Got you all hot and bothered. Oh, we got to get in the line.
I feel like I'm different with my different, like with different people, but it's because I've learned to accept what different people need and what they're okay with. Like me and you, I think it's an unspoken thing. We know we love each other and we know that we care about each other and stuff, but we just never really been the type of friends to like...
be like get off the phone and be like okay love you bye we say every now and then I mean we do we say it every once in a while but like I have some friends where like every time we talk they say you know like with me and Jordan every time we talk he say yeah every time or I say it first you know what I mean or same thing with Lynn me and Lynn every time we talk she say it first or I say it first before we get off the phone
And some friends are like very much huggers and stuff. You just never really been that way. So I feel like over the years, it's been like a conditioning type thing. I get it, yeah. So it's like, it's almost sometimes kind of weird to me. Whenever I do. Or I don't, like, right. Like sometimes I guess when I come in and I hug, because sometimes people will hug me first, if that makes sense.
Yeah, yeah. And so then I'm hugging people and then you be right here. And I'll be like, oh, hey, girl. But I know it's something I consciously try to work on because I'm that way. Like Lauren and Belen, those are my two friends. Like we get off the phone, we say I love you. With Killa, me and Killa barely say I love you. And I think that's how we are.
But I'm learning to be more emotional because I told you, not emotional, more saying I love you to my friends and being more physical because... That was something that I let somebody break me and I stopped being that way because I was in a horrible relationship where he just wasn't. And I was like, well, maybe I need to be that way. And so that's something that I'm trying to get out of.
Yeah, like because I mean, but twerk songs win Grammys. Yeah. Look at Savage. No, I agree. I'm not saying that they don't win Grammys. I agree with you 100%. I feel like we definitely have to make a twerk song. Because what other type of song do we make? I mean, you be singing and shit. I guess, my bad. Oops. I cussed. But I be singing. But I be singing and shit. I be singing.
And I need to be more affectionate. I need to tell people I love you. It's like I said, Lauren always says I love you before we get off the phone. Belen is the same way. So I'm learning to be more like, okay, I need to tell my people I love them. Even like little shit like sending people like cute memes and stuff on like TikTok or Instagram.
That's like just send this to your best friend if you love them or little stuff like that. Like I'm just learning to like be more affectionate and tell people that you love them because that's something that I do struggle with. No, yeah, I know. And I feel like because I've been knowing you for so long, like, I guess for me, it's just become like, you know, a part of our relationship.
Like, I don't take it personally or nothing. Because I'm like that with everybody. Yeah, because you like that with everybody. But I think that's why. But I'm going to do a better job because now that you said that, that kind of sound rude a little bit. No, it's not rude, but I'm saying it's sound.
I don't think you think it's rude, but I'm saying like, you know how you say stuff out loud and you be like, oh, they kind of sound rude a little bit. Because they actually do. Like, I hug everybody else, but I don't be thinking of it. But also, I'm glad we're talking about this because I was talking to B. Lynn the other day. We're actually going to have her on the show soon, too. Yeah.
I'm like, I don't get it. I want to laugh.
Like, I have not skipped a day working out in 27 days. That's too long.
Yeah, she go to the gym every day. I do.
We got two 205 princesses in the building today. Shout out to Shay, too. Okay. You can't forget Shay. She gonna be mad.
I love an all-black mommy.
I do love a high bun. Very demure.
She said, okay, now.
Yeah. Yep. It's manual.
Oh, yeah. Let's look.
And I think on the other end for me, too.
Like, I used to be an ass-ass a lot. I did. But my phone and stuff, too, especially once I got a phone in school.
I remember one time.
Oh, probably when I slipped and fell on my back in the club.
I know that's right, Legs.
Oh, it's banned in your state? And motherfucking Alabama. Oh, my God. Now she got to use a VPN.
No. Yeah. You still need that man sometimes.
I need it. Now she need another shot, y'all.
I'm going to come with you these Sundays.
Then he did a lot of crossovers with, like, other women on the album and stuff because he has, like... Yeba on this album. Yeah. Pim.
I get what he was trying to do.
When did you know that you was on to something? Like, when was you like, okay, I should keep doing these?
Can I go on my drink? Oh, you want a shot?
Oh, a drink. Oh, okay.
Okay, y'all. Question number one. Hey, Lex P and Drea Nicole.
Damn. Mm-hmm. No, this is D. That's because she put your girl D, D. You wrong for that.
I get it. But like MeLynn said, the dick being good, is it worth that nigga becoming your baby daddy? Probably not.
He wants something consistent, but he live with his baby mama. He consistently live with his mother.
You shouldn't want to get in the middle of that. You need to leave that family alone.
Hey, hey, hey, hey, don't you violate me, cause I'ma make you hate me. If you decide to mess with my chop, you down to size.
It do say it back on my passport. I said orange wear. Don't do me. None of them from the back. Yeah. Leave me alone, you fucking bully.
With extra truffle. Au gratin potatoes. Bitch, I don't even know what an au gratin is.
Not knowing that everybody paid me, but I was doing that the whole time in Turks.
Schnitzels. I used to go to Wiener Schnitzel when I was little.
Fuck no. No offense to them Orange bitches either.
Hmm. But you mean the people. Girl, the people need to stay their ass on the ground. Oh, my God.
You better get that college education. Don't play with us. I see D.C. Girl, thank you.
You don't help a little bit with the direction? Hell no.
Ha, ha, ha, ha.
What does that mean?
On this day, we just hold on. I said, man, put a beat behind that shit, man. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Yes.
You know they have that website. I know.
Exactly. For two people.
Stop doing her like that.
Okay, thank you. Appreciate that. So, like I said, the 4B movement won't work because women be sneak dicking.
Yeah, I feel that shit.
Other than that, we don't give a fuck about that.
We used to know the words. It was a long time ago. Memory foggy. I'm too legit to quit. Yeah, I did it. Yeah, that was my song.
Okay, that's a good one.
White tan bricks.
I was doing straight liquor.
Yeah, it was. Jewel Santana. It was.
We got the Vicious and the Whistlers. We back. Y'all wasn't ready?
And another thing that I feel like really separates y'all too is like how y'all highlight the difference between how black women and white women are treated. I mean, with, you know, the justice system. Because I feel like that's something that a lot of other podcasts don't do in the true crime space. Yeah.
The Menendez brothers. Yes. You don't see that with black women. Like, we're trying to research a case right now, and she has a book. And I can find the title of the book. I can see the cover of the book. I cannot find that book anywhere. And it's like, but I can find... I can find any white murderess's book on Amazon, but I can't find her book anywhere, anywhere.
And I'm like, I want to hear her side of the story so that I can properly tell the story or get details that don't exist. And it's very, very difficult. Yeah.
I know who you're talking about. I can't remember the lady name either.
I'm excited for this episode.
You know, the R. Kelly case is honestly so triggering for me because he had a victim profile, just like a murderer. He was looking for young black women and
that were estranged from their families that wanted to uh that wanted to have a musical career right yeah and I just think about myself like I was estranged from my family fresh into college at an HBCU really wanted to get my career off the ground and I'm like wow like I fit his victim profile like it that one that's the one where it's like that one hits so close to home that I I think I watched the first documentary when the other ones came out I just literally can't because
People don't realize that just because it's not murder doesn't mean that it wasn't a crime. Right. It's a serious crime. So, it's hard. Yeah, it's very cringy online when people get online and they like, well, I don't care what R. Kelly did. I'm still going to listen to his music. You sound crazy as fuck because if this was your daughter, your niece, your sister, you would be raising hell.
But because it doesn't affect you, you don't care. Oh, let's still listen. Let's step in the name of love. Right. Like, no.
I agree with that for sure. And then y'all are best friends. We love having besties on the coast. Have we ever had besties on the couch? I think we have before. Ooh. I'm trying to think. I think... Well, I guess I was thinking about cocktails. Yeah. They're not best friends. They're friends, though. Okay. Yeah. But anyways, you know, I love having friends on the couch, shall I say.
I mean, I feel like we have to put it out there because if we don't, nobody else is. I remember I was reading an article. This was actually a few years ago, so the numbers have probably changed now. But I remember I was reading an article and it said like 300,000 women are missing in the United States. And 30% of them are black women. But we only make up 14% of the population.
That's really insane if you think about it.
A lot of these local... a lot of local governments and, like, states have to make up their own rules. They have to make up stuff like the Ebony Alert because the federal government is doing nothing to help find these black missing women and girls.
Yeah, it's similar to... The Amber Alert. The Amber Alert, but for black women. I never knew that was a thing. And the thing is, since the federal government isn't doing it, like, It's state by state. Some states don't care.
They do not care. They don't care if you are a victim. They don't care if you're missing.
They don't care unless you have the money to give to them. And some states are... They have the people involved that are doing... But a lot of these red states still do not care. And they won't lift a finger for you.
Just to know that there are platforms out there.
People are doing that as well. And even in our discussion group, we have like 25,000 people in there, and all they do is discuss true crime. So they're constantly keeping up with cases.
My family member. Your family member went missing? One of my little cousins went missing in Texas, and so I was just in... I was just like, I have this platform. My little cousin is missing. Oh, my God. And then one of our fans reached out to one of her friends that lived in Texas in Dallas. And he was like, oh, yeah, I've seen him. and was able to reach out.
So I was able to reach out to my aunt that lived in there. Yeah, yeah. So they all were able to reunite and find him. So, yeah, we found him. Oh, wow.
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Yeah. I'm Drayna Cole. And I'm Lex P. And together we are Travel Queens.
I love having friends on the couch. But y'all happen to be besties just like us. So could y'all tell us a little bit about how y'all met and how y'all decided to start a true crime podcast?
Yes. The anniversary of her death just came up.
And I always ask myself why. And I think part of it is the lack of coverage. Like people just don't care. The government entities don't care. And I think another part of it is that it's really fun on these white true crime podcasts because you have a lot of witnesses. Black folks don't want to talk to the TV about their crimes or their cousin's crimes or their mama's crimes. And I think that...
It's something in the culture that we have, which I think helps us in some ways, but it also hinders us in other ways. Like, we did a case... Because you're snitching, if you say. I was just about to say that.
We did a case in... No, in St. Louis. And somebody was like, dang, y'all finally did a case in St. Louis. Like, we always... There's always crimes. And I was like, yeah, but all the crimes are gang-related. And this crime, somebody killed somebody because somebody was a witness to this crime. And it was because of... The reason that it came out is because people were snitching.
Nobody wants to tell the crimes because nobody wants to end up being the next victim. So I guess the question is, how do we bring light to these stories while also bringing peace to the community? Because people don't want to talk.
Oh, my God. Oh, yeah.
And now they smoking on somebody in the lyrics because he died 10 years ago. So then he retaliated with this rap dance. Oh my gosh. It be so much. And it's so alarming how young they are. Young. They be like 12 on the block. Yes. Wet net blocker. 12 and already got a couple bodies. And I'm like, I didn't even know what that meant. At 12.
Not steal the team.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
And I was trying to figure out who this girl was that was always hanging out with my man. Okay.
Thank you.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Thank you. Thank you very much.
Right, and then ruins the friendship on his own, so... Okay. And so we weren't friends at first. But high school, like, I was kind of the new kid on the block. I made some friends that actually weren't really cool. And it was a lot of drama. And then one day Taz came up to me when we were in class together. She said... I know we not cool like that, but them girls is not your friends. Yeah.
Thank you.
They are talking about you right now. And I was like, what? She was like, we love a real. She was like, I know we not cool, but like.
Yeah, she was like, I know your business and I should not because we not cool. Right. And then ever since then, I was like, you a real.
All white bricks. A little fraud would have been a little better than that. Is he cleaning his money properly? Like, is he going to be, am I going to be set for two years?
I mean, people do. They open in restaurants and shit. People clean their money.
You can find women, too.
Yeah. We have... We just did a case, and the girl is in prison for the rest of her life, and she has a man. They... They fell in love. They met in a Christian group. And even though she has life in prison without the possibility of parole, she is hoping.
Murder. Of course. It's the only time you don't get no parole. She is hoping to get out so that she can actually get married to this man that is a... He looks like an old deacon. Oh, my goodness. But, I mean... The men do it too. I mean, men get desperate just like that.
Like, what if y'all was in Louis and, like, he just bought you a purse and... And he swipes the card. And what if this card has an alert on it? And they say, please stay here. And now you're stuck with him in the store with your Louis and your Chanel. But they about to take you too. Girl, I didn't tell you nothing about me. I don't care about snitching.
Because I damn sure would have been like, I ain't know nothing about that. This ain't got nothing to do with me. But something like that never happened to me before. But I was dating this guy back in the day when I was probably like 24. And he was a scammer. And we had went to a club. He had got a section. Bought like five bottles. The tab was like $1,500. Having a good time. They come out.
The waitress come out. It's time for him to pay the tab. Cars. The pieces is not hitting. He goes through like four or five cards. Pieces is still not hitting. And I'm like, I hope you're not looking at me because I'm not about to pay this shit. I'm about to dip on your ass. I ordered the orange juice.
Girl, luckily though, he ended up finally, like he was with a few of his friends and one of his friends had a little piece that hit. But yeah, I definitely not seen it happen.
She was like, we need to start a podcast.
Why did you do that? And that's what I don't understand. There's a lot of people that have money that like to steal. There's lots of people that have money that like to rob people. And I'm like... Why not make it honest? Yeah. It's so fun to make it honest. I was going to say maybe it's greed, but no, some people just love the thrill. Yeah.
And crazy enough, too, a lot of the time, people don't think that they're going to get caught.
I mean, he didn't. Yeah. He didn't, essentially. Are you sure?
Isn't it bad? I'm sitting here like, I need a friend like that that can find me some miles. Right.
I have an ex that's in prison for life. Oh, what do you need? Oh, wow. Murder.
It was dumb, too. Do you feel like the signs was there? You know what? Okay, so I did not date him while he was on a murder spree.
It was a spree. I was going to say. He was on his spree and everybody. I dated this guy. He actually was like my summer camp, middle school summer camp boyfriend.
And I remember everybody was like... Mariah, you're such a goody two-shoes. Like, that's not the person that you want to be with. And I was like, what are you talking about? Like... I'm going into the seventh grade.
And so obviously we broke up because the summer ended and I had to go back to school and he ended up going to high school with us. And we're actually going to tell the story on our Patreon, but now he's in prison for the rest of his life for murder. And all my friends are like, remember when you used to date him in middle school? And I'm like, yes, he's a murderer.
Oh, my God. But he passed away long after I stopped fucking him, though. All right. That ain't have nothing to do with me. R.I.P. R.I.P. Yes, R.I.P.
We have a brand new show dropping. Yeah, so we have a brand new show dropping, y'all, on Patreon. It's going to air on September 2nd, and it's called Porn Chronicles. We're going to be doing so much stuff on there. We're going to be doing challenges. If you can't go to Bill and O'Shea, where the hell could you go? If you can't go to Bella Noche, where the hell can you go?
We're going to be doing talk to me, chit chat with me. We're going to be spilling a little tea. Oh, my God. No, you didn't. Oh, my God. Everything y'all been wanting to see, we gonna be doing it right here on Patreon.
What I put on the list, y'all, is never settle. And if you're an avid listener of Poor Minds, then you probably have heard me say this.
numerous times like i say this all the time i've always felt this way don't ever settle for anything in life if it's not exactly what you want don't let people tell you that you cannot get what you want out of this life because it's absolutely possible i had so many people when i was in my 20s telling me that the things that i wanted was unrealistic
unreasonable and if I had listened to those people I wouldn't be where I am today it's not for anybody else to understand that as long as you know what it is and you willing to put the work in to get the things that you want you don't have to settle and don't let people convince you that you have to settle it's usually people that are settling in their own life that try to you know make other people feel like oh you can't do this or you can't make that happen you're thinking too far outside the box how you gonna do that
Uh, no, boo. You can't do that. I can do whatever I want to do, okay? And I will. So, yeah, don't ever.
I mean, crimes of passion have been going on since... biblical times. So I definitely feel that. Who did that in the Bible? Who did that? Lex, please. No, I know. What? Is that in the book of Revelation? Goodbye. But I feel like, seriously, though, like, this has been going on for a really long time. Like, women are the number one reason for wars. Boom. If you really think about it.
So absolutely, I think it's connected. I mean, not recently, but in probably the past five years, it was an Atlanta rapper who passed away. Oh, yes. Who ended up getting killed because somebody's boyfriend came home. He was at a woman's house and her boyfriend came home and the boyfriend shot her. I mean, shot him and killed him. So it happens all the time.
You know what? That's the whole show. Surprisingly, not a lot of our cases are like that. But I think we also try to separate them out. But you would be surprised how many people killed just because... Their lover is acting up or their lover decides that they want to start taking the money away. We had a case, it's a very, very popular case in Atlanta called, the lady's name is Dionne Ball.
And she was dating this guy, super, he was like super big businessman in Atlanta, very well known. And he had multiple women. Like, at his funeral, his secretary was getting credit cards from all these women that were authorized users on his account.
Because the women were like, he's dead and we don't know what to do with his credit cards. Oh, I would have kept mine. Well, they didn't want to, they didn't know who the murderer was at the time. So they were just like, we don't want to be thought.
I think we told the line about when to laugh and when not. And I think we do that really well. But we've honestly, we've made mistakes. Like, we've talked about a case where it was too soon and somebody reached out and was like, hey, so we just put them in the ground. Wow. Do not tell this story. And I think because we were so caught up in the fact that, like, it's a hot story.
And he wanted to cut her off. And so she got very upset and in the middle of the night came to his house and bludgeoned him to death. Oh, my God. The craziest part about this story for me is everybody talked about him being a clean man, but they couldn't figure out which woman did it because this was like a while ago before waxing was very popular.
When they went into his bed, there was like multiple women's pubic hair. Oh, my God. And so they were like, we don't know which woman did... So they're contacting all the women that he was sleeping with based off of the pubic hair. The pubic hair? In his sheets. Oh, my gosh. And... She had a husband, but he was cutting her off financially, and so she was very upset about that.
She's out now.
You can't just say, I got mad. There's more excuses when you're young. Like, if you're late teens, early 20s, I'm like, okay, you're still figuring out how to do those things.
But she been up for parole a lot of times, though. get out.
And if she does, that's wild.
If I was her, I'd be like parole board. Because she much safer. Can I have a couple more years? I need a few more years. Because I can't do this.
Everybody's talking about it on TikTok right now. We need to tell this story. We've definitely made those mistakes. And also, all of our cases are about black women. Right. And so it's very hard because the media does not represent black women in the best light, no matter what. Right.
I feel like she's truly... She's much safer because them Selena stans... Hmm.
But I feel like... They're probably going to have her in some type of witness protection program. Yeah. I mean, well, not witness protection, but, you know, some type of, like, protective custody. Yeah. They might as well keep her in the prison.
Because they got to know letting her be free and just roam around is not going to be safe for her. That's the cards that she dealt for herself. Yeah. That's true.
Exactly. And everybody don't take hurt the same way.
They don't care. You know what I mean? They be like, yeah, we both finna be hurting. And there was a time where I didn't have things to lose, so... Ooh.
Um... I... How do I want to tell this story? Once upon a time... Don't confess me. Don't cry. Don't confess me. Don't cry. We already told you. We're bitches. Once upon a time, I was dating my ex, and her and I, we had a very tumultuous relationship. And when we were together, I mean... I'm constantly arguing. I mean, Taz has been my friend for a long time.
So one day, like, things really hit the fan. And we got into, like, a big, big fight. Like, very physical altercation. Calling the police. She got arrested. And so I called. See, I ain't shit. And this was my early 20s.
first i did thing was call him i'll be like your daughter in jail go get a click and then i called her best friend and i was like your friend is in jail fuck her and if she ever come back to this bitch i'm gonna kill her ass and her friend called me back and said so you know i have a voicemail saying that you're gonna kill my friend if you ever do something right and i was like period probably shouldn't have said that probably shouldn't have said that and i am almost sure that she probably still if she was me i'm sure she still has that voicemail saved i was like 23 yeah but i meant it
So it takes a lot for us to take the information that's available and then kind of pick apart what part is the media sensationalizing, which part is like, Her real life. Mm-hmm.
I don't mean it now. I don't mean it to a girl no more. But, like, I'm sure, like, if... Lord, nothing ever happened to that girl.
They're going to be like, 10 years later, Mariah's come back.
Yeah, for sure. Some people, that's the fantasy that they're paying for.
And a lot of people, the fact that they're selling, that's what, yeah, you're paying me to make you feel like we're together. Right. Even though you've never seen me in person, you're never going to see me in person. But I think with that, it's boundaries. And I don't even know.
You may know the LLC, but when you look it up on the website, it's going to go to the P.O. box. Right. To this house. Right, exactly.
Oh, yeah. Everything is a delayed post. Everything. Everything is a delayed post. Everything. There is this TikTok. It's this white man that, like, used to work for the government. And his job, what he does on TikTok is try to teach people how easy it is to be found. So people will be like, hey, come find me. And they'll just do this in their background. And he'll say, okay.
I can tell by... I saw that street sign. I enhanced the image. Okay, that street, I can look how many times that street is in America. Okay, I also saw that there was a Dollar General. So now I need to find out how many times this street intersects with a street where there's a Dollar General. Oh, I saw that there was rocks here in construction. So now I get to look up construction zones.
And then he can pinpoint exactly where you were standing on the corner. It's scary. It's scary.
How old or young was she?
Yeah, she was like 31, 32. That's so interesting because we came up with the age like, we all know floppy disk. And, you know what I'm saying? Like, we all know that. And so I also remember the scare of the internet. Like, my mom was terrified of the internet. We used to have assemblies in school about your footprint on the internet. And we used to scare the shit out of people.
And I think a lot of younger folks, they don't get that anymore because, like...
And I remember people used to think that Google wasn't going to take off. And now Google is this huge entity. And so people aren't even taught that you are vulnerable.
She was... She wasn't scamming him. He was paying. She was on OnlyFans. She was... filing her taxes every time we were here for that money. And he grew an attachment to her.
But would you consider a situation like that like a crime of passion? Because I think when I think about crimes of passion, I always think about like people in relationships. Yes, that's not a crime of passion.
And they did something to the person because they felt some type of way like, but then I feel like it's no getting away from it because a crime of passion could be, okay, this person found out she was cheating on them. But then sometimes, even if you're honest with the person and you tell them, hey, look, this relationship no longer serves me. I don't want to be with you anymore.
Even in situations like that, people be snapping and wanting to kill you. So it's really not avoiding it.
Really? And so they listen to other podcasts that represent them. Okay. I dare say we're one of the larger ones, but... Y'all are, for sure. But they definitely exist. There are some smaller ones that do cases that we haven't done yet that I still listen to them and use them as sources. So they exist. But I think everybody's style is different. Everybody's research is different.
And crime of passions aren't always about love. Sometimes they're about hate. So a lot of times, things are categorized crimes of passion. When there's things like overkill.
It could be a mother's boyfriend. It could be the daughter's boyfriend to the mother. And the fact that the mother was killed instead of stabbed in the heart once, she was stabbed twice. 87 times, that then becomes a crime of passion. And that also lets investigators know, okay, this is probably somebody that this person knows. It's probably not a random robbery gone wrong now.
And so I think with crimes of passion, when it comes to, like, couples, it usually... it usually is something that hasn't been addressed over time. Like it's a gradual thing. Build up. Yeah, it's a gradual build up for sure.
And she was the first person he was talking to.
Because she was cared about. There probably were more victims of his stalking. Even if they weren't, like, any victims that he actually put his hands on, there's probably other women. There's probably plenty of restraining orders. Yes.
And you see that snap sometimes because like mothers, when it comes to their children or if somebody's threatening to take their children away, that usually is like. people don't know how they're going to react behind their child until they're in that situation. Like, oh, you're about to take my child away from me? No, I'm about to take you out of this world. Right.
Like I said, it's always something. And it's usually a gradual buildup because it's probably something like, you're not a good mother. You're not a good mother. You need to take care of your children more. Okay, I'm going to make sure that your children get taken away from you. Oh, I'm calling defects on you. Okay, now I got to kill you.
It's that instant snap where... You probably could have thought logically, got a lawyer, petitioned the court. Right, right. But in your mind, it's like, it's me and these children against everyone. So you see it in any type of relationship.
Some people just watch... For my man, and they report just for my man. Taz and I take a lot of time to deep dive and pull records and interview people if they're available, read books if they're available. So everybody's research and their style is different. Right.
Especially if you are a licensed carrier. That is illegal.
What's the time that I thought I was getting set up? Maybe when that girl was trying to figure out if I was dating him.
But my thing is, did she really think you was going to tell her that I was talking to him? Like, bitch, Lex is my friend. She was like, Lex, tell me the truth. I don't care how long y'all be... Because, I mean, y'all was kind of cool, I guess, a little bit. But you had just met her. So it's like, why would you think Lex is going to tell you anything that I don't want you to know?
I definitely felt like she was trying to set me up for sure. She was. Yes, because at the time, you know, I was single, so I was talking to, like, two different people. Right, right. And she went and asked the other dude that I was talking to if I was talking to the other dude.
Like, she was really trying to get to the bottom of it. She really was.
Thank you. Thank you.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Like, I would say even... We've had to set the record straight once or twice.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
This is what I said. We have so much going on, and we do so much research. I promise you, I'm not calling the next podcast and saying, hey, what episode are you dropping this week? Right. Oh, yeah, we're thinking about dropping this one, too. And then, no shade, no tea, that's not a podcast that I listen to, because I listen to a lot of true crime as well.
Thank you. Thank you.
I said, I just, I was like, I pulled up their episode. Their episode's an hour. Ours is two. It took us three weeks to research this episode where it usually takes us a week to reach. I was like, leave me alone. And then we've had some times where fans of two different podcasts will try to put us against each other.
So we've had somebody call us up and be like, so we heard that in your discussion group, your fans are saying this and you're allowing them to say this. And I was like, hold on, wait. We be going down. I promise I don't. I can't. I'm not finna police grown folks. Yeah. I promise I'm not. So, it's been drama, but... I can't say it's frequent.
You didn't think to call me before. Here I sit, trying not to cry. Asking myself why you do this to me.
I'm writing you this letter, and this is what I have to say.
You said you told me lies when someone else was on your mind.
Everybody tries to stay in their own lane. Right, right. How do y'all stop y'all selves from becoming paranoid? Because that's my thing with true crime. I feel like if I watch it all the time, I start to become paranoid. And I feel like people are just out to get me. Like, I don't even want to leave the house. Keep that strap on you, girl. Yeah. Keep that strap. Girl, but exactly.
So it's like with y'all doing all of this research and watching so many documentaries, reading so many books all the time, how do you stop yourself from not being paranoid every time you leave your house? Keep that strap.
Yeah. It would be different if it was fiction. But it's like, no, this shit really be happening to me. The scariest parts of the thing are the cases where they... unalive somebody random. Yeah. Like, I can keep myself out of situations. Like, I am going to make sure that my insurance policies are in people that I really trust.
I'm going to make sure that my friends around me are people that I can really trust. If I feel like I'm getting into a heated situation, I'm going to probably just go to the car and get away from it. But the scary ones are definitely the people that you don't know.
No, yeah, you right. Because I was definitely doing my research, and I was looking at y'all page, and you was talking about some lady. This is, like, from a year ago.
She was talking about some lady named Willa or something like that. And she killed that old white man. And I'm like, she was really staking the place. Like, she was really preying on this man. She did not know him. She didn't know nothing about him. Found out he had a whole bunch of money, and then you just decided, I'm just going to kidnap this man and unalive him. Mm-hmm. But you know what?
That man was paranoid. Exactly. And that man was like, nope, because he was a little old man. He was like, this woman is staking my house. Nobody was listening to him. And that man was trying to tell people. And it was because he had like a pen pal that he wrote to that he sent. Because you know old white men send emails to their pen pals.
And they stopped getting their pen pal letters and they started... knowing to look for him. And he was saying, there's this lady that just keeps popping up in my house, and I don't know.
Sometimes I think it's sheer, like, naivete. Like, I don't really know much about sports ball, so, like, I honestly didn't know that story as much, so I kind of went into it very curious. So, and that helps us have a different perspective.
We have a couple of cases like that that are super popular that some I've heard of before, and then some of them I'm fresh to it, and I'm like, oh, my gosh, I'm so happy I have all of this information, and so I can consume it, and that week I'm...
Right. Right. Like, if we told that case, I know I'd be like, and we all know that it was the brother. Right. And we'd go into it a little bit different. And everybody usually, like a lot of true crime cases or storytellers, black, white, indifferent, whatever, they usually start with, and we open our scene and it's a murder. Mm. Now we're going to go back.
And we're like, no, no, no, let's start with her. Let's tell her entire lie.
Before we get to the crime. So by the time we get to the crime, you're either like... She was set up from the start or it's like, this bitch really just decided. She had it made and threw it all away.
If you laying in the bed with your lady and something is smelling like a fish fry on a Friday night, you may be thinking it is her, but you probably threw her P.H.
Honestly, I've been, that's something I've done for a long time. I'm not going to lie. Every now and then I'll clap back, but I always make it funny. Me too. Because I like, I mean, if you don't get a laugh, bitch, we all finna laugh. I'm finna show up as Eddie Murphy in this motherfucker. But I will say I always respond to the positive comments.
Because that's what fuels me. And I'm like, I'm here to serve y'all. The people that uplift me, make me feel good, consume my content, laugh, enjoy. That's who I'm really here for. You have to. You got to show appreciation for that.
Don't give them no shine.
Yeah. I know that's right.
Like, yeah. And I think that's what they be wanting you to feel like. They really, like, you really feel something. Like, you really, really upset. You know what?
No. You know what? In sales. Yeah, like... My thing, too, is the thing that's scarier about that is, like, there's a man who's on the Internet arguing with women under the shade room comments, talking shit, but there's somebody who is actively dating this man. Laying in a bed with him every night. Laying in a bed with him next to him. Like, I'll be thinking in my head. I'm not trying to be funny.
I know this sounds horrible, but when I see a man just talking about me or always in my comments, I'll be like, who is fucking... Yeah. Like, God damn. You in the trenches, baby girl. I'm not even worried about him. I'm worried about the lady who is laying next to you, if there even is one. Yeah, because why you even got time to do that? You know what I'm saying?
I'm going to slide in people's DMs. Yes. I'm a DM slider. Like, I don't care. If I'm, like, a fan of you and I feel like we'll vibe, I'm like, I'm going to slide in their DMs and ask. Because the worst you can say is no.
As a man, why are you in the shade room comments talking about, oh, she looks so tacky. Where's her stylist? Yeah, that's insane. You know what I'm saying? Okay, so anyways, we're going to move on. We're going to play a little game. Yeah, let's play the game. What's the game?
It's a good game. Okay, so we're going to throw in random words and phrases, and we're going to sing a quick lyric. A hook off the top. Like a freestyle. You know what I'm saying? So we're going to give... Everybody going to get a word.
Okay. So I'm going to give you a word and you have to come up with a quick bar. No. Okay. I don't want to go first.
So I'm going to do a freestyle. Okay. Okay. And my word... Original composition? An original composition.
The word is blocked. That nigga blocked because he won't stop calling my phone and this is off the top. Yeah. Take the top, do my dance.
He's trying to give me romance. Okay. And I don't want to make no plans. Yeah. Get your hands off of me. You can rip what? What? How is he going to lie to you if he blocked? You know what I'm saying? Because that's off the top. That's fire. You know what I'm saying? That's a fire. You got to think. You got to think about it. I won't be doing any freestyle. Okay. Okay. Who want to go next?
Yeah, so I slid in your DMs like a long time ago. And I was like, y'all, I mean, I shot my shot. Maybe she'll respond. And I swear, you were up like late because you responded like 3 in the morning.
You can sing one.
You got to be creative, Dre. Okay. Ty, give me another shot. Already over there. I know that's right. I love a woman that's on her job. Thank you, Ty. You're welcome. Okay, Dre. Which word you going to do? I guess you should just throw it at me. Okay. Gaslighting. Because you smart. Nah, bitch, you would. Okay, okay, okay, okay.
Okay, gaslighting. You going to sing or you going to rap?
I thought we had, look, Queen won, obviously, though. No, I want to turn around. The voice is beautiful. Broke my heart to preach. Yeah, ooh, hold on.
Mm-hmm. I'm going to give you a little hook.
It's going to be free, girl. I'm going to show up on time. Yes. On time. Get credited. Okay. I don't even need that. I just want to be in the video. Okay. You know what I'm saying? Just show up. Okay. What's up, y'all? It's your girl, XP. And it's your girl, Dre Nicole. And we're about to tell y'all about Rocket Money.
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So I didn't know people was asking me to come on. Oh, yeah. They love like we have the girls on because it's like a girls talk show. So and I'm not gonna lie. We've had a lot of male guests lately. And they're like, bring the girls back. Where the women? Yes. But I mean, is it like harder to get girls? I was just about to say that.
I think it depends, to be honest. I think there's certain things that I've gone through that I feel like if I talk about it publicly and I let y'all in, I think I kind of, not that I owe that, but... If you've seen me going through something and I'm, like, all open about it and I'm talking about it, I think I can at least be human and let y'all know, hey, this is what's going on.
So, and that's with a breakup. Like, even when my mom passed away, I let y'all know what I was going through. I was very open about, you know, different journeys. But I also think, as women, I hate that they do this to us. Every time we said it's not to do with the man. Oh, hello. Every time we are in our feelings, they be like, oh, what he did. He must have made you mad.
I have other things going on in my life that stress me out that have nothing to do with the man. Yeah. So sometimes I think that is aggravating because I want to share what I'm going through, but it's like, it makes me mad because I can just be like, oh my gosh, I'm so tired. Today was stressful. What do you do, girl? Mm-hmm. It's not about a man.
So, how did you feel? Because I know, like you said, like, your relationship with your ex, obviously. It was public. Very, very public.
So, going through, you know, y'all's split, it was just, like, shocking for everybody. Because y'all were, like, relationship goals at one point. Yeah. Everybody was looking at y'all, like, oh, my gosh, I want that. I want that. So, talk about, like, how, because you were so young. Young, going through that, and you had a child.
It was stuff that you were going through at that age that I'm 35, I can imagine going through at this age. Yeah. So how did you handle that? Like, how did you get through that? How did I get through it?
And then it's like when you're trying to heal, because like you said, now it's like you're probably still healing and still learning things about yourself.
How does that feel, too? Because I think with, like, an average person healing with a normal, like, person with, like, a normal job, I guess I'll say, we don't necessarily have to see our exes or hear what they think about us or them, like, kind of poking at us.
He be kind of messing with you a little bit. Yeah. A little bit still, yeah. Yeah, he always, like, saying your name or saying he wants you back or be like, oh, come home and, you know, doing kind of funny things like that. Whether it's genuine or not, it's more so for a reaction.
So how is that because, you know, you're actively trying to heal, have a healthy co-parenting relationship, but then also having to deal with the antics?
A little side note, because I remember when that whole breakup with y'all happened. Because, look, I be in everybody's business. Y'all know me. I live chronically online. But I remember seeing a picture of you and you were like on the top of the Capital One Records building. It was right when you signed your deal.
It's something about a woman going through a breakup and rough times and just coming out on top. Oh, yes. And I just remember just clapping and being so happy for you. Yeah. Because there be a lot of breakups that break people and they don't get through it and they don't get on the other side. So I just remember seeing that, like, announcement that you made.
It was, like, a drone picture or something. It was, like, that you had announced. And I was just like, oh, my God, I am so happy for her.
It's a little crazy. Because I felt like, you know, if you have something to promote, it's going to help the both of us.
It's going to help if you got something going on. I agree. But sometimes people will just straight up flat out be like, no. Yeah. And be like, because I feel like there's a way to say no. Yeah. Or leave you on read. Yeah.
Yeah, so going back to what you were saying. Yeah, what was I saying? What you were saying between, you were answering the question about... She got distracted by this. Yeah, I was like, let me not chew into this mic. That's why I feel so bad, because Graham was bringing up my mom, and I'm like, mm-hmm, girl, you died, and I was sad as shit, girl.
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Yeah. Like, just to be like, you know, unfortunately right now is not the right time. You know, we'll let you know. We'll circle back. It's just a professionalism. Like, we had somebody email us back and they was like, she not interested. Yeah.
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Answering the question about healing publicly and healing privately, and you were talking about how you give it through your music with some things you keep to yourself. Yes, yes. It's relatable for people to heal through your music. Yes.
And I think that's something that I can't, because a lot of times, like, people look at us and be like, oh, my God, how can you do it without your parents? But at the same time, like, I look at, like, you being a mother, a young mother, and I'm just like, I, oh, my God. Yeah. Sorry, the person who was FaceTiming her was just crazy. I hope the camera didn't see that.
Hopefully not. Okay. Anyway, sorry. What was I saying? Oh, look at young mom. Young mom. You being a young mother because, like I said, I don't have children yet. Yeah. And I'm not going to lie if I'm being honest. Like, I haven't had children yet because I'm selfish and I'm not ready to.
Have you ever had a situation where you reached out to somebody to do a song with and they hurt your feelings? What happened? You don't have to name drop.
okay period yeah I'm just not ready to be a mother I'm not ready to give up my time in the morning yeah I'm not ready to give up a lot of words my money I'm not ready to give up a lot of my time I just I want I'm experiencing life right now still so when I see people you know who have you know gotten married or having kids and you're going through all of this and you're still being a mother I commend you for that yeah because I'm like I couldn't I couldn't
Yeah. Yeah, so. So how do you feel, too, like, because I know you see the comments that people have about your relationship now.
And they're like, okay, y'all should be married by now. And people trying to put you on a timeline.
And they don't realize, like you said, you're not even 30 yet. Yeah. And people are putting you on what they think and their timeline is. And like you said, y'all don't know these people's relationships. They don't. They don't know what go on. So how, does that get to you a little bit?
No, they're not.
Yeah. And, like, just even talking to you, obviously this is the first time we met, but just, like, the way you carry yourself, I can tell. I can read people.
But you're so, like, I can tell, like, the growth. And just because, like I said, I used to follow you on YouTube and seeing, like, take your time.
Because them people, they don't even have what they want.
So, they can't feed into that. And just, I don't mean to get churchy. Y'all know I'm in my church.
So, I'm going to tell y'all. So, Sunday when I was at church, my pastor, shout out to Pastor Mo, he was talking about his marriage. And he was talking about his wife. And he was talking about, I know y'all hate this word, but how his wife, you know, she follows the Bible, obviously. Submit. And she, submit. Submit, submit, submit. But she...
Submit to God, which, you know, she submitted to her husband to trust him and to be able to, you know, take that backseat and trust him and not have the responsibility of a lot of things. And sometimes that takes a lot of, not sometimes, that takes a lot of. It does. That takes a lot of trust in your partner. You have to be able to go to sleep.
And let somebody drive you and know they're not going to crash that car. You know what I'm saying? And he has to be led by God. And he has to be led by God.
Right, yeah. So he knows me. Yeah, and that's why I said, I think you have to figure things out on your timeline.
when I would talk about my relationships and how happy I was and I'd be like, ooh, I don't want to talk about the breakup. But yeah, it happens.
Y'all, nobody's life is perfect. There's no such thing as a perfect love story. You know what I'm saying? And one thing I can appreciate about me is I'm going to keep it real with y'all. I don't give a damn. Y'all not finna embarrass me because you know why? I am where I want to be right now in this moment. I'm here because God allowed me to. I'm able to share my story and I'm able to
express myself and I'm able to have an outlet to I always say this Lex P went through that so you ain't got to go through that I let y'all know my mistakes I'm growing and I'm figuring shit out with y'all you know what I'm saying so I feel like if we were more if we gave each other more grace man That'll never happen. You know what I'm saying? Like, give people grace, man.
Y'all act like y'all ain't never been there.
All right, okay, so we're going to get into the second topic. You know, we getting chatty, girl. I love when episodes just flow. It's just flowing, you know. It's flowing. That's why they love the girl gets. I just be feeling so relaxed. With the men, I be like, what you finna say? Sit your way.
Thank you, girl. How are you? Thank you. Okay, so topic two. Can you be soft and still be taken seriously? Now, I can definitely relate to this topic because I always say this. I am a bitch, but I have the nerve to be sensitive. And, you know, a lot of times I'm very, very soft. I have a soft heart. I'm like, oh, I don't want to let this person, I don't want to do this. And I'm like...
But I'm like, at the same time, I have to run a business. I got to be a boss. You know, you have to be a mother. You know, you have to run your business. You have to run, you know, your household and things like that. So I want to know, like, do y'all feel pressure to, like, be hard or guarded, especially as, like, women navigating, you know, yourself in this business?
Because we are in, like, the entertainment industry, but you in the music world. Yeah. Which is a whole nother beast. It is. So, you know, you... Title yourself, you know, as a good girl. You are soft.
You could have just said, yeah, and I would have respected it.
I am a softie, yes. You're friendly. So how do you carry yourself as, you know, queen, the business woman, but also being true to who you are as being like a soft, nice woman?
But dang. And it's like, that's my issue because I have to choose between being personal or, like, just being professional.
You have to learn it's not personal, it's business. I think with me, I say this, I've said this in the past. I take the Nicki Minaj approach to business. I do. I seen a documentary on Nicki Minaj probably when I was in college, I think. I can't remember if it was like a true life. Something she was doing and she was recording an album. I remember she was sitting in the studio.
And sometimes, like, especially with an interview like this, because when we're in the DMs talking, I'm like, girl, I'm not going to ask you nothing crazy. We don't look for viral moments.
And I still say this. Drea can attest to this. I say this all the time. She said, when I walk into a meeting and I say I want it this way, oh, she's a bitch. She's rude. She's this. She's that. But if a man walks in and he says the same thing, oh, he's assertive. He's a boss. He's this. So she's like, I don't give a fuck what y'all say about me at this point. I'm going to these meetings.
and I'm saying what I have to say. And for some reason, like I said, when I saw that interview, I was probably like 20, 21, 22. And that stuck with me so much because I know sometimes I go in meetings and I'm probably like... A little... Some things that I say I know can come off a little harsh and I have to clear it up. I'm like, no, I didn't mean it like this. This is what I'm trying to say.
But I'm glad I'm letting you know because stop playing with me. Yeah. Stop playing with me. It's a lot of times that people will say things to us because we're women. But if y'all walked across there and went on 85 South, y'all wouldn't have that same, you know, demeanor because, oh, it's Carlos. I'm not going to talk to DC like that. I'm not going to talk to Chico like that.
We just like to have a good time with our guests. Yeah. So, sometimes I be wishing, like, when I DM people and they leave me on read or they don't say nothing, I'm like, I should have just sent Shay to you. Yeah, so you don't have to deal with the... Yeah, of, like, feeling embarrassed because I'm sick of it.
I would rather be known as a bitch and I got my money straight than somebody soft who I'm just at home sad because I can't pay my rent.
Take advantage. They're happy. They're grateful.
And I think sometimes, like, as women, especially, like, if we go in a meeting and we're just, you know, being straightforward and this, some people are like, oh, she's emotional. She on her period. She on her period. And I may be, because I'll be in a meeting and I'll be like, this and this and this. Then I'll call Dre, I'll be like, this shit piss me off. Because they fucking rude.
Like, why would they talk to us like that? Dre be like, legs, it's okay. I'm like, but still. But in the meeting, I'm like... You know, but at the same time, like I said, I feel like a lot of times people just try to take advantage of especially women.
Yes, they see how, because they feel like, oh, well, she going to be soft and she going to be cool. It's okay. I can say this to them. So I do feel like as women, we don't get the luxury of being soft in the business, unfortunately. I got a question, though. So, like, what is it that people be trying? Well, you probably don't want to. Well, no, I'll say it.
Like, I think it's like a lot of times people will, they want to lowball you on pay. Okay. You know what I'm saying? They want, they think that they can just show up whenever. You know what I'm saying? Like, they'll just not have respect for your time, respect for anything.
And I just, like I said, I see this because it's certain way that they will treat, you know, our counterparts that things that we have to go through that, you know, they necessarily don't have to go through. You know what I'm saying? Right. Like I said, the big thing for me would just be, like, payments.
Like, of course, I don't expect to be getting paid the same amount as Carlos, but y'all ain't finna pay me $3 to show up somewhere either.
I got a resume too, hoehead. Yeah.
Yeah, yeah. And I think they have some extra time. A lot of us to be just so grateful.
You like... A fish fry smells... This can't fish fry to be delicious. It is, but that's not how you want your vagina to smell. I mean, facts.
Like, no, I'm not grateful. I want to get paid. Right. You know what I'm saying? Like, I don't want to have to, like, come in these meetings and y'all just expect me to just be happy to be here because y'all feel like, oh, she's just a podcaster that's on YouTube. No, I worked really fucking hard. You know what I'm saying? And like I said, I think they expect that for all women.
You should just be grateful. Because women, you know, y'all don't get to... Y'all used to not be able to be in these spaces, especially as a black woman. You should be grateful. No, we deserve to be here. Yeah. Like, it's not like I should be, oh, my God, thank you. Like, yes, thank you, but I earned my right to be here.
Do you feel like people kind of still try to treat you like your road to success was different because you started out on YouTube?
It's the truth. I think sometimes people don't like to hear stuff because they don't necessarily maybe like the messenger, but the facts are the facts.
You don't want to hear it because maybe you just don't like me or how you feel about me, but people will, they love to try to humble people. Queen is so sweet. We be over here like, fuck y'all hoes. Yeah. Because it eat what it eat.
You know, I try to be a little more considerate a little bit sometimes. Sometimes.
I mean, but I think we've been doing this for so long. Like, when we have things that go viral, it really be accidents. Yeah. Like, I'm never going to be like, oh, queen.
I feel myself slowly stop, like... You will because then you get to a point to where, I'm not saying because you are a confident, beautiful woman, but you get to a point to where you realize, you know what? This is who I am.
This is who I am. I can't change this. I can't change this. This is who God made me to be. And you're either going to accept it or you're not going to like it. So let me focus on the people who accept it and love it.
And you'll learn to cater to those people and love those people and... you know, feed into those people. Because that's what I started doing. I'm just like, I've become happier. It was a point where we were doing Poor Minds where I was just like unhappy because I felt like every week I'm showing up and I don't know what to do to make y'all like me. People are being mean. Because they're so mean.
Yeah. You got to cater to them people that love you.
Like they DM, like you said, people DM you and stuff. Like people who've lost a parent or they're grieving or something. We get DMs like that all the time. So I don't mind being vulnerable and being open. I'm talking to y'all.
Tell me the tea about this. You know what I mean? Yeah, yeah. It's never given that.
Yeah. So I think like you can still be soft and taken seriously because I think there's beauty in being vulnerable. Yeah. Because it shows, like, I'm still human. Yes. I'm still going through the things that you're going through. Right. You know what I'm saying? Like, just like I used to be living on the east side, crying in that apartment. Bitch, I'm in my high rise still crying. Yeah. It's life.
You know what I'm saying? Keep it real, yeah. Yeah, you have to. You have to keep it real. But I think there's beauty in keeping it real and being soft. For sure. But there's also, you know, like you said, you have to have that balance. Because you got to be hard sometimes.
Especially as a woman. Like, you know, being... in this industry? Because you don't want to be looked at as being, like, passive and, oh, queen not going to care. Because you're really not going to make a decision on my behalf.
So let me ask you this, because I saw a few clips of you on DD Streams. DDG. DDG. Yeah. What did I say? DD Streams. DD Streams. His Twitch. DDG Twitch. DD, what is it, DDG? DDG. DDG, you were on his stream. It's them shots whooping your ass.
I ain't no lie. Some people don't have media training, though. They don't. We done had a few people sit on this couch and get buck wild.
Absolutely. So, I saw a few of the clips. I didn't get to watch the whole stream. Yeah. But they were kind of saying like, you know, oh, Queen was being quiet. She was kind of bothered. She didn't like the atmosphere. What really went on? Is that just people assuming?
But I think your personality is so good. And I think people kind of, like, miss seeing that from you. Like, we love the music, but we love your personality. Yeah.
If you do something crazy, they be like, oh, she tripping. Yeah, bro. Yeah.
Because you know what?
Yeah. She's trying to be noticed. Yeah. She's trying to be outside.
I mean, yeah, because I feel the same way. It be sometimes, like, our management, they'll come with us, and I'll be so happy that they're there. It's just nice to have men around. It is, especially men that you trust, that you know if anybody try to get a little, you have protection there.
Because one thing about me, I will talk some shit, but as soon as somebody fuck with me, I'll be like, I'm finna text, chat, and run.
I be like, hold on, let me text Chad and Ryan.
Yeah, so I'm glad that you had him there, too. Like I said, I know situations like that can get rowdy and get crazy. Because I didn't get that vibe. I'm like, I think she's just working.
Like, I just... I'm just a little bit more calmer. And I think that's what she was saying, too. Like, People expect you to be the old you. And I'm not that old. They be saying that a lot.
You see what's going on, right?
That is funny. Hey, but it be so many people in and out of there. Yeah, you never know. If somebody would have said, yes, I was grabbing my purse, bitch, I don't know these people.
I'm keeping my shit close to me. And the thing is, like I said, I think his streams are entertaining. Like, I love his streams. But he do have a lot of people in and out, and you don't know who they are. It be like a lot of, you know, young girls, young women. People, and people do things for clout.
So how good would it be somebody who trying to start up a stream, they be like, ooh, I'm in queen purse. They could just take it and go to the bathroom and do something weird. I don't trust people. You know what I'm saying? So you was doing right. You don't need a reason of why you was clutching your purse.
You can clutch it whenever you feel like it. Clutch it.
How you clutching me clutching my purse? Okay, woman. Let a gay name herself Ming Lee. And you ain't from China. I don't know if I can trust you. People, because y'all put pregnancy on me. All I, and all it was, was I ate a can of beans and had a few shots of tequila, bitch. I had just got back from a little happy hour at Papa Cito's. And y'all was like, you pregnant, like pregnant.
Congratulations. She pregnant. Oh, she pregnant. And baby, I had just ate. So the only reason I'm being very, oh, he don't play about me. This nigga is swinging on the swing set right now. Swinging on the merry-go-round, baby. Oh, he playing all day on that PS5 Mario Kart, okay? That's crazy. That's like you having a sexual assault case and R. Kelly being like, oh, yeah, bro, I support you.
Hey, I'm good. I'm good, bro. I don't need none of that support. I don't want none of your prayers. Somebody sent me something on my phone and said that a hog tied her.
Um, one thing that I wish that they really understood is, this might be a little too vulgar, but I'm going to say this. Men, y'all can throw a woman's pH off. Oh my God, bro. Okay? Yeah. So sometimes if you laying in the bed with your lady, and something is smelling like a fish fry on a Friday night...
I mean, have you ever went through a fish fry? A fish fry smells... This catfish about to be delicious. It is, but that's not how you want your vagina to smell. I mean, facts.
Mm-hmm. I'm dead. Yeah, so I feel like a lot of times men should know, like, if you are in a relationship, a long-term relationship... and something is going on with your lady down there, you could be the problem. You are not doing something down there. You might be cheating.
You're not washing your balls good enough after you go to play one-on-one basketball at the rec center or whatever you're doing. Something is off about you that's possibly throwing her off.
Yeah. That definitely throws a lot of things off. I think another thing is stop trying to have one move sexually for all women. Mm-hmm. Just because this woman likes you to do that doesn't mean the next woman that you're with is going to like that. I think we have to take time and learn each other's bodies more. And that's for women, too, with men. Y'all be trying to be one-trick ponies.
Oh, this, she like that. I'm finna turn this. I'm finna turn this. Turn her out. And I'm like, what are you doing? Yeah. Weak as fuck. I'm like, get the fuck off of me. You know what I'm saying?
Weak ass moves. So I think men, they be like, oh, they be thinking that they have the best penis in the world because you used it one time on Brenda down the street that was talking shit on Twitter.
Brenda down the street was getting that dick, talking shit. But just because it worked on Brenda don't mean it's going to work on me.
So I think that men need to learn that every woman's body is different and take your time and ask questions. There's nothing wrong with asking questions, learning what she's like, and just taking your time.
So, how do you feel now? Because being that you started off on YouTube, and, you know, we... Being that we started off on YouTube as well, we still on YouTube, it's like, but it's different. Because when you first start out, you just say whatever, you're doing whatever, and it's so many things that come back. People will clip old things that you didn't say and do.
I don't have to say anything.
I'm telling you, when a man is thoughtful, it just goes a long way.
So I think they need to realize that women, a lot of our sexual stimulation comes from a mental connection. Hello. Yep. An emotional connection.
And theirs don't.
Yeah. Yeah. Another good point I think men need to understand is a lot of times when y'all be having sex with women, y'all be thinking, oh, I'm just finna fucking go about my way, and you keep having sex with the same person over and over again, and it may be just a nut to you. Women are not wired that way. I don't care.
I don't speak for all women, because some women can have sex a lot with the same person and not develop feelings, but as a man, And a woman having sex a lot, I don't care. Something is going to start happening, feelings-wise. So, men, y'all need to understand, you cannot have sex with the same woman over and over and over and over again and not expect her to have... Feel something.
Something or have some type of expectation. I'm telling you, if you have sex with a woman four times, you ain't never took her on a date, I bet you after that four times, she's going to be like, well, why don't we do something? Yeah, like... Why don't we go somewhere? That's true. Booty call?
So if you just want a booty call, you don't need to have sex with the same woman over and over and over again. And that's just... If you just trying to get the dick wet, you need to have a little roster.
Because y'all don't like to wrap that little peen up.
So how do you feel now knowing that it's like,
I got another one. I just read it on there.
I forgot. We gonna get a little vulgar again. Men, stop forgetting about the click. That is where the stimulation comes from.
I think, because my friend calls it a click, but she does it to be funny. That's different, though.
Click it, bop it, twist it, touch it. The fuck? I don't give a damn. Stop passing it up. It's right there. It's a button. Press it. It really is a button. Bust around, told y'all. Touch it, bring it.
They don't. They don't be knowing. Clitoral stimulation is how most women have an orgasm. Mm-hmm. Penetration. Now, you can have an orgasm. Some women do, yeah. It's a small percentage. Those are the blessed, blessed, blessed women that can have an orgasm just off of penetration. But most women have an orgasm from clitoral stimulation. Men, please.
A little touching and penetration. Everything. You got to rub on her, caress on her. Like she said, it starts in the morning.
I'm not finna waste my time.
I agree. I agree. Anything else y'all want to add? Before we move on? Look, first of all, we just put y'all on game, fellas. So I hope y'all took some good notes. You know what I'm saying? All of them. All of them. I'm like, which one do I look at? So really and truly, this is your camera. No, this is my camera. This is Queen's camera. Three is hers. Seven is the wide shot. Three is your camera.
And six is yours.
Yeah, so if you want to emphasize something or something, you got to say it to three.
You do. I love to make a face.
I always look at my camera. Always. Okay, now... I feel like this is such an awkward space. Like, y'all over here.
Well, I think sometimes when somebody is a guest and they sit right here and they say something crazy, I'll be like this. You do. Let's think we on an episode of The Office. That's how you know I watch The Office too much. I love The Office.
I'll be like, okay, alright. y'all. It's your girl XP.
Y'all know we have a segment on Poor Minds called Item of the Week, but do you have a product or something that you want to promote and you want it featured on Poor Minds? Your opportunity is here.
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It's time to get into the bop. The bop. Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. So you're going to love this thing. It's the bop of the week. So we're going to give like whatever music that we've been jamming, but we are also going to talk about your album that you wrote. You know what I'm saying? So first, I want to give my bop of the week. My bop of the week, y'all know it's summertime, it's springtime.
It's time to get in the clubs and ducky wine and have fun and just, you know, have that feel good music again. So my bop of the week is by Afrobeats artist Rima. He has a new song called About You. And it's just a really cute song. It's just about a girl that is something about her. And I just, I love, love music.
I think we need to bring back when men are talking about being in love and, oh, girl, you special. Like, let's bring that back. Let's bring back the good vibes. They were talking about Tee Grizzley the other day and how he be rapping about his wife. Let's do it. I love men that like to be married. Yes, that like to be with one person. Let me tell you something.
The smartest men on this earth know the value of having one woman that's valuable on his team. They know it. Smart, very smart. Very smart men. I'm telling you, every successful man, I promise you, either has a woman running his whole team or he's married.
But again, I'll tell you, the men that aren't married, I guarantee you, there's a woman behind him who runs... Everything.
His assistant, whether it's his executive assistant, whatever, I'm telling you, it's a woman very close by handling everything. I promise you. Every time. So even if he not married, ask him who his right hand is. Uh, Brenda. Brenda.
Okay. Yeah, no, he didn't talk about that. He was talking about the Blood remix.
I like Leon Thomas a lot. Me too. I like him a lot. His voice is very soothing.
He has a soothing tone.
Yes. I'm telling you, I told y'all R&B ain't dead.
A little insider.
Okay, so talk about the new album. Like, what should we expect? What collaborations you can tell us, you guys?
She's starting. She's about to get straight. You heard this. Somebody... You know, in the background, I be trying to whip that.
Yeah, I'm very proud. So you don't have to give us the TT, but... If you don't, do you have somebody that's like a legend on the album? And if you don't, is there a legend that you would like to have on the album? Like a legendary singer.
Yeah, I remember that song. That was a good album, too. It's a flex.
Because then you... I want to say, did you get a Soul Train Award? You performed at the Soul... It was something I seen you at the Soul Train Award. I performed.
I did perform. I know you did. I know you did. I was just trying to... Queen, hey, I be so booked and busy, girl.
I said that because it's like, you don't get to just do the Soul Train Awards. Like, that is a legendary show that our parents grew up watching. Like, the Soul Train Awards is not like, and you gotta, if you doing a Soul Train Awards, you can't sing, you gotta sing.
You know what I'm saying? So I think that whole narrative, if people do still say that, they definitely, definitely got to let that go. It's fine.
Thank you. Yes. Yes. I'm so happy for you.
I appreciate it. Yes, I have been having a ball today. Beautiful girl, beautiful spirit, beautiful voice.
I'm telling you, if you have like a no makeup day.
Yes. When I tell you when I have my no makeup day. Yes, you get that cute sunburn look. Oh, my God. When we was in Turks, baby, I got the jelly blush in my damn purse.
We've said some crazy stuff, too. We understand. But I always say this, too. Like, being on YouTube or just being an entertainer, anybody in this industry, we are taking a risk, and we're living our lives in front of the camera, and we're being vulnerable and honest. So if you can't accept, like, the bad parts, because y'all get to grow up and become women or men behind the camera.
Okay. But real quick, do you have a title of the album yet?
It's like a hint. Okay.
I know they ready. I know that we are so ready for new music.
Yeah, but you know what? I really want artists to get back to that. Sometimes I think that people be dropping too much music. Too much, right? You got to think, well, when you drop the album, it'll be some years before she dropped another one. Yes, I want people to digest it. Yes, you got to really take that music in.
I don't think that as an artist you should be dropping two, three albums in a year.
That's just too much. You should drop one album, let it marinate, go on tour a little bit, let people rock with you for a little bit. It got to marinate. It got to be memorable.
People still, somebody out in the world right now is waiting for her to get on stage. Mm-hmm.
But also, TikTok is good because that's where I find a lot of, like, my undiscovered artists and low-key. Like, I have fixed my algorithm so good. When I tell you, I find so many new artists all the time from TikTok. Yeah.
Yes. It be some good, some really, really good songs on there. So I'm like, there's always like a good and a bad side to the internet for me.
Y'all aren't doing it in front of the camera. And we got to do it in front of everybody. We're doing this in front of everybody. So the mistakes that you made, they're just not on you forever. Because y'all be saying some crazy stuff too.
Why? Girl, I know. Well, why would they be saying it on TikTok? It's just the bullshit I was asking her about. It's like a lot of times her ex will go viral or they'll take clips Of, like, her and Clarence. Clip farming. Clip, clip, clip. You know, stuff like that. I'll be back on air, though, once I got to promote something. Yeah. They just be doing stupid stuff.
Because there be stuff that I be seeing. Because it's stuff that we go through. Sometimes somebody will clip something of us. They be like, Drea hates Lex.
They do that. Oh, my God. I don't say that. Vice versa. Yes.
That's what I'm trying to say.
I'm like, do y'all not have, like, sisters or best friends that you've been friends with for 10 years? No, y'all don't.
But no, but that's what I'm saying. I be seeing all that shit. Like I said, I'm an avid TikTok squirrel. But like I said, look, I'm 35. So TikTok is how I keep in the know of what the kids have got going on. But I do see, like I said, I see all of this stuff about me, Drea, you know, whatever is going on. That's how I stay in tune.
So like I said, TikTok has a good side, but it also has a bad side.
Girl, Tanner Adele had posted this picture of herself being funny and she was like, oh my gosh, y'all, look at this picture of my great-great-grandmother that I found. It was a picture of herself. And everybody was like, you are such a liar. You're just like SZA. It was like... What? Now, why says any? That's what Brenda said. That's what Brenda said. I'm just repeating what she said.
But I'm telling you, it was a thread of people calling her a liar, stupid. We can tell. This is lashes. You got... It's clearly a picture of herself and she was, like, trolling, being funny. Yeah.
And that's why I said it's a lot of people. TikTok is different. So you got people that make money off of clipping your stuff. Oh, my God.
Oh, they're rich. DDG actually said this. He said there's a guy who said, like, he's paid off his house. He bought a brand new car just from clipping DDG's stuff. There's an account, and I'm not mad at it. No, we love the account.
They always create videos of us. But they always flip stuff from poor minds, and they go back, and they put a bunch of stuff together, and they go viral a lot.
Before you walk. Yeah. I realize I'm not like a good vlogger, what I'm doing, but like I can do stuff like this. Like I have a show called Love Legs P and I just prop my camera up and I talk and I do all my hot topics and things like that. I can do talk show stuff, content, but I just can't, like, a day in the life stuff. Especially if I'm in the moment. I be trying to have a good time.
Yes. Oh, my God. So, yeah. I'm just like, let me just stick to what I know. Let me just stick to what I know.
Do you give good advice? You think you give it? I believe I give good advice. Okay, I think you do. I can see that. Okay, so we are about to do Pour Your Heart Out. If you want your question answered on the show, make sure you email us at askpoorminds at gmail.com. If you're a Patreon member, make sure you put that in the headline. You get to skip the line, of course, okay?
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I always think it's so silly, though, when I see people, like, pulling up old tweets. It's stupid. Or something. Because I'll say the best thing.
I think we kind of touched on that this episode, honestly. Yeah, that's why this is a good question. Yeah.
I think like survivor's guilt is real. And I think a lot of times you have to understand forgiving yourself is the biggest, is one of the hardest things. I'm personally going through that honestly right now if I'm being vulnerable and honest. And I think you just have to give yourself grace and you have to give yourself time.
I think a lot of times we get mad at ourselves for not getting over something so quick. If you go through something and it's like a month later and you're still crying, you're like, why am I still upset? And you're getting mad at yourself. It takes time to heal. You know, you have to be easy with yourself. The world is already hard on us individually as people, as women.
So the best thing that you can do for yourself is just go easy on yourself. And give yourself time to heal. Give yourself time. Healing is a journey. And I'm not talking about six, seven, eight months. It takes years to heal. And you have to be willing to have your good days, but also be willing to have your bad days. It's okay to cry. It's okay to be angry.
I think sometimes when we're sad and we're angry, we feel like we're not supposed to be feeling these things. You're not supposed to be happy every day. That's not normal. Mm-hmm. Being sad is normal. Being mad is normal. Being happy is normal. So I think going through the emotions of actual... Healing is rough. It's hard.
But you have to acknowledge that and you have to be okay with not being okay. And I think that's the hardest thing. People are not okay with not being okay. Give yourself the grace. Yeah, give yourself grace, man. Like, you really have to give yourself grace and, like I said, just time to heal.
And you have to understand, not everybody is going to clap for you for doing things that people are like, oh, I'm not going to applaud a fish for swimming. You got to clap for yourself. Hello.
You do. You know? Yes, ma'am.
The best thing that ever happened to me was my Twitter got deleted. It did. And I was so upset because I had like a lot of, a big following on there at the time. And I was so upset. But now like where the show is and how it's gone, I'm like, that was the best thing that ever happened. It was so crazy because it got deleted because I said OJ Simpson got a long head.
Right. I agree. And I'm glad you said that about doing something little. Sometimes it's all you need to do to show up. Because I was talking to my friend about that. Because we both kind of deal with depression and stuff. And she's kind of going through it right now. And I was like, man, be proud of yourself. Because you looking at it like, oh...
Yeah, I got out the house today, but I just went to my friend's house, but I was still sad. I said, but you got out the house. Like, when you were depressed... You could have just stayed in bed all day. You could have just stayed in fucking bed, because I'm telling y'all, I am a very, like, I'm a very clean, clean person. Like, I am very kind of like OCD when it comes to my place. Yeah.
And, but when I, like, I got really, like, depressed, like, around, like, December and January, and I just let my apartment, I was like, oh, my God, I can't believe I have so much shit everywhere. And I just could not get out of the bed. I just could not do it. And then I remember I just spent a whole week, and I was just taking it room by room. And I just organized everything.
And I would just get up, and I was like, one day, I did my closet. Then the next day, it took me, like, a whole week.
But you did. But I was like, you know what? I did it. You did it, though. And I feel so much better. And I was like clapping for myself. I was like, bitch, I cleaned my closet today. Amen. You did that, bitch. I don't care if it's like something small or big. Clap for yourself. That's all you need. You did it.
Do you know what I'm saying? Like, even when Dre was doing 75 hard, I'll use this for an example, because I'm like, ooh, damn, I need to get my ass up and go to the gym. And it's like, even though, like, I was still going to the gym, but I would, like, get on a treadmill, and I'm, like, walking for 20 minutes. I'm like, bitch, you got up. You still did it. Bitch, you got up.
You know what I'm saying? I'm like, okay, and now I'm, like, back, and I'm, like, lifting weights. And, like, because even with that, you don't know what's motivating people or what's, you know, getting them through to, like, you know what, let me get up and move my body and do something. Because I'll say this about working out, too. Or going to church or anything.
And now he not even alive no more. He wasn't even married.
It's like your journey is your journey. Because I never post when I go to the gym. And I posted myself in the gym like a day or two ago. I don't know what made me do it. But I was like, it was like four or five people who had reacted to my story and was like, oh, I see you finally back in the gym now. I see you finally.
And it's just so... But this is why I don't post. Because why would you say that? But it doesn't matter. Bitch, I done lost 30 pounds since January. Yeah. I don't need to document everything. Oh, I got you, girl. But I just feel like that's why it's so hard to be open about, like, even with me going to church.
I was on cocktails talking about how I'm going to church now, and people was in the comments like, oh, Lex... You go to church, but it's like, that's why you, you know what I'm saying? But I don't need, I don't talk about it because I don't need those applause from y'all because I've been clapping for myself.
And I've been getting through my battles that y'all don't even know about behind closed doors and I'm doing it. So I think to answer her question, like you said, you 100% have to clap for yourself, even for the small thing.
Well, come to the gym and then show me. You know what I'm saying? Exactly. And I think, like I said, with working out, it's a hard journey. Like, I was going to the gym so consistently. Then I kind of fell off. Then I started just doing cardio because I wanted to lose weight. Now I lost the weight. And it's like, okay, I'm back lifting now. Everybody's story is different.
Everybody, let people do what they do. Right.
And then when I go to your page, it seems like you ain't never been to the gym.
And look, I'm the same way with church. Sometimes I be having to go to that 5 o'clock service. Yeah. Because I've been laying in bed all day.
This was so much fun. I had a good time. So, obviously, I mean, the girls know who you are, but let them know where they can find you, all the good stuff you got coming up, where they can catch you and all that good stuff.
This was so fun.
Now I'm ready to eat. Hey, me too. All right. We'll see y'all next week. Bye, y'all. Y'all make sure y'all share the content, like, subscribe, follow, all that good stuff. And let me say this before we close out. Y'all, there is one Twitter account that is connected to Poor Minds. It's P-O-U-R underscore M-I-N-D-S. Y'all are tagging the wrong poor minds page.
If you see at poor minds with no underscore, that is a fake page. Do not follow that page, okay? They blocked me, Andrea, and the poor minds page on both. So we only have one Instagram left. One Twitter, one TikTok. It is P-O-U-R underscore M-I-N-D-S. All right? And we got a hella fake Facebook page.
That's not us. Got like 250,000 followers. But y'all know it's fake if you actually look at the content because the caption is like, whoever it is, don't speak English. Because their captions are like, Bamba Claude. Should men pay bill? Should men pay bill? Yes, no. Check answer below. Blah, blah. Booyah, booyah, booyah. Like, that's literally what the captions are. I like that DDG. Bamba Claude.
I don't know what it is that you've done to me but it's caused me to act in such a crazy way
Hit it, Drea. Because my heart starts beating triple.
I get so weak in the knees. I can hardly see.
I want you to stay with me.
It knocks me right off of my feet. Oh, I can't explain why your love, it makes me. Hold on now, queen. You better sing it now. Next.
What's up, y'all? It's your girl Lex P. And it's your girl Dre Nicole. And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Minds. Where a drunk mind speaks sober thoughts. We got a guest today. We got a guest today. So... Y'all know, y'all have been asking for this guest to come on for a long time, first of all.
Resistance is down when you're around Christ's feet. In my condition, I don't want to be alone.
I get so weak in the knees. I can hardly speak. I lose all control. And something takes over me in a daze. And it's so amazing. It's not a phase. I want you to stay with me. By my side, I swallow my pride.
It knocks me right off of my feet. Can't explain why your loving makes me weak. Give it to them, Queen. Don't hold back. Give it to them.
And something takes over me in a day. And it's so amazing. It's not a phase. I want you to stay with me. By my side, I swallow. My pride, your love is so sweet. It knocks me right off of my feet. Because I wasn't going to hit it.
You don't know. It's just like... It was just something that happened one day.
You know who they do that to as well? They do that to James Charles on TikTok a lot. Really? They just start like random trends of like... And it's low-key bullying. It is. No, it is, but...
At least it don't vibrate. But I think, you know, it's so crazy because in one breath, these same people want to talk about mental health and, you know, looking out for people and being nice because you never know what somebody's going through. And then at the same time, it'll be something so different going on. They'll be like, oh, my gosh, where's Queen Naj at?
Yeah, they pick and choose who they want to like.
I can't get on this bitch and say nothing. I just seen this today. Drea tweeted. She says, one thing about a flight, a cheese tray going to have to see me. And somebody was like, Drea tweets like she just got new money. Bruh. Bitch, was I like a cheese tray on a flight?
In real time. It's awful. They had to write letters. Yeah. Hate mail. I mean, the worst thing you would get is like Joan Rivers talking about you on E! News.
You know what I'm saying? Like, that's how you would get, like, people talking about you. But you never really got the hearsay of what Brenda, who lives down the street, thought of you. You know what I'm saying? So, it's really toxic.
And second of all, I don't even know how to give this introduction because a YouTube star turned into an R&B sensation that we have all jammed her music and been going through it. This ain't our love. We got sweethearts in the building! Hello, hello, hello. Thank y'all for having me. Thank you for coming. No problem. Because one thing about me, like, I do not care who it is.
Yeah, because they feel like... We talked about this before. Somebody will say something negative to you, and then you'll respond. They were like, oh, I didn't even think you was going to see this. What you doing, girl?
Yeah, but they don't realize that we're humans. I watched this documentary a long time ago. I can't think of the name of it. I'll put it in the description when I think of it. But it was talking about people who have had viral moments. Mm-hmm. And celebrities and things like that.
But they were saying, like, when you're a consumer of, like, content, entertainment, you don't look at these people as people. You look at them as a thing. Just like you use your radio to sing along with music. They're using you as entertainment. We are here to make them laugh. We're not people. We are a thing to them. Yes. So they feel like, oh, I can say this. You signed up for this. Yeah.
Yeah. It's like I get body wave or something. Yeah, I had straight. No, I had curly.
Yeah. I'll be like, damn, bitch, you look good. She's like, I'm depressed. I was like, bitch, you look good to me.
It be sticking up. You just like giving half afro, half braid. You be like, I don't care, I'm living. I be having a
That's a black queen right there.
Like, what? Do you, Ty? This is from our Midwest queen, okay? Miss Cash Doll herself. This one is called The Cash Commandment. All right. We're going to give it a little smoke because who wants the smoke? All right. All right. So in this one, you can have your spirit of choice. You have a little lemon juice, a little grapefruit juice.
I used an ube syrup, which is made from sweet yam, like a purple yam. So it gives like fig, vanilla, a little flavoring to that. And then we added just a little pinch of butterfly pea droplets. So before we use the butterfly pea powder... And now we've used some droplets for it. And then I have some pomegranate seeds floating at the bottom.
And then we just lit a smoked rosemary sprig just to kind of top it off and added a little bit of champagne to Drea's and Ms. Cashaw's.
We literally need ice. We almost there.
So I was about to say, do we got butterfly pea in it? See? Just a little bit. Yes, you learned it there. Wow, yeah. Because I knew it was the purple. Well, no, I knew it was because of the color. Just a little bit. The ube syrup is also purple, but the butterfly peaches gives it, like, more of that enhanced heat to it.
Yes, you can get really jiggy, like, with some food, too. Oh, yeah. So I have a couple other recipes we're going to try out with the ube. Okay, I like that. Well, thank you, Ty.
Yes, it's definitely a game changer. And it was created by OBGYN. And it gets in all those cracks and crevices, all the places that you needed to get to. Because, you know, you can't be out here looking good and smelling musty.
I'm going to tell you the truth.
Right, right. You know what I'm saying? I feel like we the same way. We had a clip, right? It was an episode we did, and they cut the clip.
And we were just like, oh, we feel like because it, like, makes black women look bad to a certain extent. And they was like, well, what y'all talk about when y'all used to be doing y'all show?
So, they was like, well, it's the same stuff y'all used to be talking about back in the day.
And one thing about Build, they're going to give you some points. So yes, the thing about Build, you can get access to 500 plus airlines with all of the points that you accumulated with Build. Same thing with hotels, except 700,000 plus. You know how many any hotels that is all over the world. Go wherever you want to go.
But see, I think that's what it is. When you go where you're not from, they show you way more love. No. You don't think so?
Yes, absolutely. So I definitely want to show some gratitude to my therapist, Keri. She's been my therapist for probably the last eight to nine months. And she is amazing.
Yeah. You know what I'm saying? I'll be at home rubbing them little curls. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
So how did y'all meet? Like in high school?
And I remember that. I don't think I ever crashed out. I'll never do it again.
But yes, I was saying, I crashed out one time on the internet over this dude that I was going with, but he lied to me about some stuff.
Like, I'm not even the type of person that move like that. I don't like people in my business. I'm super private. So the fact that I let that situation take me to that place, I regretted it. I was like, why the fuck did I do that? Because I gave you power.
Just because I didn't... Just because I didn't like... Because I used to curve him at first, but it wasn't like, I don't know, mean shit. It was just you wasn't interested. I just really didn't think I was interested. Then I finally was like, okay.
And that's just flat out.
I do think some men like that, though. Like what? They like women who don't. Yeah, because they get to take advantage of them. Yeah. Because they like to see that, too.
So now we're going to get into the second topic. We wanted to talk about women who want to have a kid, but they fear being a single mom.
Because regardless of what happens, if you really have the desire, and that's really a desire of your heart to be a mother, regardless of what happens with that man, you going to be okay with your decision.
And you just, and a woman, too. Like, I just feel like as a woman, we're supposed to be, like, we're meant to be nurturers.
It's after, no, it's after 35.
Like, did you feel any pressure to have kids as you was getting older? Because, like, I'm 33, and I be feeling that way. What she said about being 35. Like, I'm like, oh, I got to have a baby before I hit 35.
Oh, she spit him out back in the day.
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So now it's time to get into the bed. Bow. The bed. Bow. Bow. Bow, bow, bow.
You gotta go. You gotta go.
I'm about to go get my body done anyway. They be like, what you doing next week? I'm probably going to deliver. I'll get my body done.
Because, like, I think so many women, right after they have kids, they be so consumed with this new life. And then they just be in the house. Give yourself grace.
I got, my tummy tuck got healed, baby. Go with your daddy. When you gonna get your tummy tuck? When I, when, yeah.
What'd I tell you? The same day.
She's like, y'all friends. She want to tell me what I told you.
I was in a relationship for the past two years, and we just broke up, like, in May or June. May. Broke up. It's kind of...
You've been throwing it back again?
And that's what I took it as. He would be the perfect dad.
And it wouldn't be no weird energy. And we would be able to healthily co-parent our child.
No, we girls. We girls. I didn't drop a doll. I didn't drop a doll.
I might give you a little extra. You come give me some of that dick. Ladies, what is up? See, I'm about to go.
Why does she be crazy? People always say that in the comments. They be like, Drea just be egging like, oh, she love it.
All right, now, if me and my man break up, I'm coming knocking on your door, Keisha. I need somewhere to stay. Give me the damn baby.
Y'all really are. I'm not even gonna yai. I'm not gonna yai.
Not with a girl like me. That's why you mess up.
I'll leave the babies at home.
But can't y'all be coming out with them bops though? You be having the women empowerment anthems. Cash commandments. Thank you.
And you giving the girls games.
Well, because I feel like one thing about you, you don't bother nobody. You don't bother nobody. In your own world.
I thought that shit was fire. And it wasn't ghetto. Because first of all, they wanted you to have the baby shower. They asked me.
Looking crazy. Because you spend so much money.
It is really nice. Nothing about it was getting ghetto.
Because the cashier at Rainbow asked me to have mine there, and I was like, yeah.
I personally like mine separate because when that song go off, guess what song coming on after that? Which one? Pop Yo Coochie. Bitch in the Club. I don't know. Who's song is that?
It's the cash command. I just like it separated.
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I ain't gonna lie. You right. I'm done. I pushed it myself.
I'm in a situation where I've met this dude back in March around spring break in Miami. Turns out we are from the same state, just two hours away from each other. After Miami, we kept in contact and met up on several occasions. After the third link up, we became real acquainted. If you know, you know. And it was going good, so I thought.
And that was my last link with him.
Oh, baby, I'm a troll. Baby, I love you. Oh, baby...
Oh, my God. It's time to go with Drake.
I mean, my lingo. What up, dog?
You know, I might have like a cat fart. I don't be putting that shit on like that. Cat litter. Like a little cat poot.
It's relatable to so many women, though. It is. Especially now, too, that you're a mom.
I think you had, like, the belt, the headband.
You got to play it for your nigga when you got to tell him what it's time for him to do.
Better chic. Chicken side. DJ. Jam tonight. Spotted me. Tender thing. There you are. Come on, baby.
Destiny's kids. We Keisha's kids.
Were you ever a Dooney and Bart girl?