Ed Mylett

Everyone's got great friends.

Everyone looks amazing.

Everyone's happy.

And then there's you in your real life.

That's one way that people compare.

Maybe you compare to the version, the mask that most people wear in front of you of how happy and successful and confident they are.

And you're comparing their confidence and success, the mask they're wearing, to how you really feel.

You know what's the most unfair thing you can do to a relationship that's mature where you've been in it for four, five, six, seven years or 10 years or 20 years?

One of the most unfair things you can do is to compare that time that you're in currently in your relationship to the first six months or the first year when everything was new, everything was blissful.

You were getting to know one.

Everyone was on their best behavior.

You had no negative memories at that time.

And you compare your current relationship with someone to the exact same relationship you had with them except when it started.

Or worse, you compare the relationship you're in to a previous one you had with another person.

It doesn't even need to be another person.

It could just be another time with the same person.

None of that is fair.

Maybe you're comparing your life right now to five years ago or eight years ago or when you were in this or that or this career or that job.

Comparison is the thief of joy.

Don't compare yourself to other people.