Eddie Pinero

Yet I exhaust my energy dancing around and around with my thoughts about them.

You cannot change the future.

You can change right now, which ultimately becomes the future, and there's a difference.

I had to, you know, pull that back in.

See, I think most of our problems are derived from anger or emotional attachment to the immovable, the unchangeable.

One of my favorite sayings is, you can't change the direction of the wind, but you can always adjust your sails.

And see, when you remove the self-tormenting you have going on about your past, things you wish you did or didn't do,

when you remove the concern that the future won't be exactly what you want it to be, which tends to be where I lean of the two, you're left with one thing.

The present, right?

Clarity.

You have officially empowered yourself because the things you allocate your energy to can be changed, can be made better or adjusted.

And that's really what it's all about.

You can't change the fact that someone you loved or cared about let you down.

But when you dwell on it, you're now giving up the present as well.

You're preventing yourself from doing what is required of you now to make your life better.

You can't control the fact that your company's reducing its size and your department is being eliminated.

Can't control the fact that

8% get accepted to whatever you're applying to.

Can't control the fact that you will be criticized for doing the unpopular thing.

The thing that you believe to be right.