Elisa Ben Shalom
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Infamous
Why Do Influencers Want To Be Trad Wives?
My husband's best friend said, oh, I have somebody. She's amazing. And I think she wants to be a matchmaker. It was like, okay, so it's my husband's best friend. Like, I'll talk to her. So we started to talk all about matchmaking and what makes a healthy relationship and
Infamous
Why Do Influencers Want To Be Trad Wives?
Cami came from a place of understanding what makes a healthy relationship, but also what is really detrimental in a relationship. And she has it from firsthand experience. It sounded to me like she was completely blindsided. And then all of a sudden, when she figured it out, she just came to a place of acceptance, figured it out, figured out what to do, and was able to, I'll call it gracefully,
Infamous
Why Do Influencers Want To Be Trad Wives?
or as gracefully as possible, move on with her life. And when she came to that place, she, for me, I could see that she just had this passion that she just wanted to help other people do the same thing.
Infamous
Why Do Influencers Want To Be Trad Wives?
Cami has been successfully coaching and matchmaking singles with our organization and she is a natural. It's not, you know, some people you could fall in love with matchmaking, but if you don't have a knack for it, like it's nice that you like it, but it might not be good for you. She loves it and she is so good at it. Such an organic and natural fit.
Infamous
Why Do Influencers Want To Be Trad Wives?
It's like, oh my gosh, how come you only came to this now?
Infamous
Why Do Influencers Want To Be Trad Wives?
I think that heartbreak is very normal. And we see it so often that I created a program that's called Dating Detox. It is something that everybody can relate to from the most extreme examples like Kami's to even the most minor where like I just had a heartbreak. I thought that this was going to be my forever person and they didn't agree. They didn't think it was going to be the same way.
Infamous
Why Do Influencers Want To Be Trad Wives?
It doesn't take an extreme example to have a broken heart and before somebody can move on, they need to rebuild.
Infamous
Why Do Influencers Want To Be Trad Wives?
In very wealthy circles, clients are often financially motivated and concerned. So we talk a lot about things like a prenup, about family or inheritance, and if they're coming together, how that would work. With one of the couples that I worked with, The wife signed a prenup that basically said the business is his, everything is his.
Infamous
Why Do Influencers Want To Be Trad Wives?
Even moving forward, doesn't matter how many years you're together, if you separate, you will never get anything that exists from this family business. It was like sign this or don't marry me. Those were the two options. She did get married. Thank God they're happily married.
Infamous
Why Do Influencers Want To Be Trad Wives?
But often with financials comes a lot of lawyers and a lot of paperwork and a lot of concern that somebody's after them for the wrong reasons.
Infamous
Why Do Influencers Want To Be Trad Wives?
I find that first-generation immigrants in the U.S. are more marriage-minded. They usually grew up more traditional. Even if they're secular, they still have a traditional aspect to them and their families. And so there's often a stronger sense of, I need to get married, I want to get married, and I want to make it happen now.
Infamous
Why Do Influencers Want To Be Trad Wives?
And often the timeline is shorter, like longer than the religious couples, but shorter than the secular couples. And they're more motivated to make something happen at a quicker pace. Culturally, singles from around the world are traditional. The U.S. itself is not very traditional. There's just a melting pot of people. There's a lot of secularism.
Infamous
Why Do Influencers Want To Be Trad Wives?
And so the traditions were lost and people are just finding their own way and figuring it out and just taking time to do that.
Infamous
Why Do Influencers Want To Be Trad Wives?
I think being less traditional gives less structure to the desire of what I want. When you are traditional, you have certain values that have been passed down from generation to generation, and you have a little bit more of a clear vision of what makes sense for you. When a person doesn't have tradition, then the question is, well, what's important to me? The entire world is open to you.
Infamous
Why Do Influencers Want To Be Trad Wives?
So how do you narrow it down and say this type of a person with these type of values would be appropriate to me? Because really anything could go. There's no limiting factors. You have to create those limiting factors. And I think creating limiting factors can sometimes be a challenge.
Infamous
Why Do Influencers Want To Be Trad Wives?
in figuring out who am i who will i be what do i want and how is that going to look when we don't have any roots from our history to carry us forward i think it presents more challenges that's it for this episode and for our series on cammy verney thank you for listening