Elisa Donovan

Yeah.

So what is one myth about narcissism or gaslighting that you really want people to stop believing?

That narcissists are attracted to weak people.

They are not.

They are attracted to very smart, successful, attractive, strong people.

And the reason for that is because, and this still to this day gives me chills on the back of my neck when I explain this, but a narcissist's whole aim is to gain power and control over somebody else.

Their primary goal is to suck this person dry of their entire sense of self until they are nothing, which is why suicide rates are oddly higher within these types of dynamics because the person is just vaporized, so to speak.

You can't get all of that from somebody who starts out with low self-esteem.

There's nowhere for them to fall to.

And so they take everything that this person has that they want.

They take everything, their success, their intelligence, their energy, all of it, and just suck them dry until there's nothing left.

If they start with somebody that has low self-esteem, they don't get anything from that.

Their goal is to watch them fall.

By the time the relationship has progressed or is at the end of the relationship, now we see somebody who has no self-esteem, no sense of self, no identity.

But that's because of the relationship.

That wasn't the initial.

That's not how they began.

No.

They are drawn towards people that are empathetic.

Yes, absolutely.