Elisabeth McKay

Jealousy often becomes incredibly destructive because the other person isn't seeing themselves clearly.

They're quite literally building a whole projection field around them and they can be living in a very delusional, psychologically distorted life.

And they may, especially as we're toward the right hand side of the brain pattern spectrum, they may really believe that delusion.

And this is why ultimately, even when others have tried to harm me in this way, I still have empathy.

I understand.

I actually feel bad.

I cannot imagine how much they must be hurting and divided within themselves to do something like that.

So even when hypothetically I should be sad, mad, whatever that emotion would be, I still feel empathy for them.

I quite literally still pray for people who have tried to harm me because people are just broken.

And I'm...

My whole life's work is committed to helping people like that get better.

So I would be a total fraud to just be mad without understanding.

I still have compassion and understanding.

People that get stuck in this jealousy route often end up becoming very divisive.

They start to triangulate, try to break apart their friend groups.

There's resentment.

They can be very accusatory, manipulative.

Another thing that can often happen here is they

In a similar way to cult mechanics, if you go back to my episode on cult mechanics, they may actually try to separate you from other people.

So let's say that they think other people are actually giving you reasonable sound advice or feedback or maybe know who they really are.