Elizabeth Bernstein

Sleep shame is the subtle and not so subtle ways that we and other people shame ourselves about our sleep.

It doesn't matter if you're an early bird, a night owl.

No matter what we do, it seems like we're not doing sleep right.

Sleep trackers are a big problem.

They're tracking all these metrics that the average person doesn't really even understand.

In sleep, one size doesn't fit all.

Everybody's been told forever that there's eight hours of sleep.

Well, that's not actually the case anymore.

Now scientists understand that we need between seven and nine, but some people actually can sleep with a lot less.

So there's solutions to this, thankfully.

The first is to own your sleep needs.

And then secondly, you have to accept that this is innate and biological to you.

Research shows that couples with different sleep needs actually have more conflict.

The experts say that when couples have different sleep needs, it's important that they go to bed together, spend some time in bed.

And then when the early bird wants to go to sleep, then the night owl gets up and continues on with their evenings.