Elizabeth Day

So you are trying to forge your own identity at the same time as you are still part of your family unit.

And your family unit will still encourage you to see yourself in that way.

So I'm the youngest child of two.

That will forever be my role in my family.

I'm going to be the youngest.

I'm going to be the baby.

I'm going to be the one who, in her own head, doesn't have enough agency to be herself almost.

And I think your teen years are the first time that you start experimenting with those boundaries.

And actually, how much do I think I'm part of this family unit?

And how much is it important for me to forge friendships outside of that?

And who am I within that soup?

And at the same time as that's happening, you're going through school, which by the way, is so tough.

I still wake up today and think I'm so grateful I'm not at school.

And I was of a generation, honestly, yes.

School is hell.

It's like prison.

It is so regimented.

You have to get up earlier than anyone ever wants.

It's often dark.

Either you're at boarding school where you're questioning everything, like, does my family love me?