Elizabeth

But we have built our marriage around...

Basically, me working around his dysregulation.

And I've learned how to anticipate, regulate, adjust, and hold things together.

So I guess my problem is I don't know how much of my identity is me versus who I needed to be for our relationship to just function.

I am.

And I'm a people pleaser.

Yes.

Yeah.

So part of me is afraid that when he gets better, I won't know what my role is anymore.

Yeah.

I am.

Yeah.

And I'm kind of worried about being left behind.

I kind of equated it to what you just mentioned about weight loss, like two best friends, one loses a hundred pounds and the other one's still heavy, you know, been there, done that too.

One goes on with a happy life and then you get kind of get left behind.

And I don't mean left behind, like I think he'll leave me, but I feel like

We're going to be building a life around, instead of me managing things, it's more built around mutuality.

Yeah, super hopeful, but also very scary for me.

Does that make sense?

Right.