Elizabeth

Whatever I suggest, you guys just do it, do it a different way or because I'm just so used to like just doing and being, you know, and, and so I guess I discredited his thought processes a lot because they were

brought on by anger or fear or his experiences.

And I thought that they were not as good as mine, maybe.

And so now I'm, I'm finding myself like backtracking and having more patience for his thought processes and initiative, which I've never done before.

And it's hard.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And I've never been able to say those things to him because he does get really defensive and yeah.

So I've found him lately being more open to hearing me.

And if I'm curious about something, he'll, he'll say, Oh, I understand why you thought that, but that's not what I was meaning.

Or, you know,

something like that.

So that's probably good if I just am totally transparent with those things.

Yeah.

Yeah.

He just, I think he just, at this point is, you know, if I, if I question too much, he gets, he gets really defensive and, and that type of thing.

But I see him coming out of that.

Yeah.

I see him being more interested in, in why I'm questioning it or, or,

trying to work with me instead of against me.