Ella Mills

And it can involve, and as we said, I think having just sort of slightly easing that pressure to like,

do a good job, but doesn't need to be perfect.

I think that's really important.

And I do think, you know what, the other thing I'd say, and there's so many different ways to explore this and so many different people you can talk to, but

It's probably worth as well, just doing exercises and things to really support your self-esteem.

Like it's interesting on the weekend, I did this on Substack every Sunday night, we have this kind of meditation and breathwork group that I teach, which I love.

And we did this exercise on how we talk to ourselves.

And so kind of inspired by this love and kindness meditation, which is that kind of comes from it's two and a half thousand year old Buddhist tradition and interpretation of, but

you know, in it, you actually like really visualize yourself and you wish yourself, you know, may I be happy?

May I be safe?

And you say all these things to yourself.

And it's so interesting.

I started, I had very, very low self-esteem and I started doing these sorts of things about 10 years ago.

And, you know, I remember doing these

affirmation meditations being like, I love myself.

I'm being like, oh my God, that's the most uncomfortable thing I've ever done.

Anyway, I had all this feedback from people on Sunday.

People were saying that that was so emotional for me.

I'm so self-critical.

And I think we are.