Emily McDonald

We don't really want the things that we want.

We actually want the feeling that we believe the things that we want are going to bring us.

And this is something that I live by.

And I also have all of my students that I coach.

And this actually happened to me maybe a couple of weeks ago when I was in Dallas for Easter.

I was sitting there doing my thing where I was stressed that the goal wasn't happening fast enough.

I was like, why isn't it happening on my timeline?

And it made me, you know, stressed and anxious because that's what it does.

And then I was doing my morning pages as I do.

I had gone and did my workout and I was sitting on a park bench next to a tree, just journaling my morning pages.

And I was like, okay,

Well, if what like this thing that I want, this goal that I have, what what is the feeling that I believe that this goal is going to bring me?

Because that's like what I really after is the feeling.

And I identify that feeling is, you know, I want to feel like I'm growing.

I want to feel like I'm expanding.

I want to feel confident.

and I want to feel successful.

That's how I want to feel.

And I was like, okay.

And I have a sort of process for this because yes, I mean, living in the feeling state of your desires or living in the feeling state that you desire is really what it is.