Emily McDonald

Discipline creates a sense of safety inside of yourself where, you know, let's say you had a friend that was always coming up to you and telling you they were going to do something and they never did it, right?

What would you—

you wouldn't really be able to trust their word.

Like, what would you trust, their actions or their words?

Like, you would trust their actions.

And so they're always telling you one thing, and maybe now you don't trust them, and now you're around a group of people like that where your head is going to be kind of on a swivel, like making sure, you know, you're good.

And so what happens is when you're always telling yourself you're going to do something and then you never do it, or you set these goals and you never work on them, or you say you're going to be consistent and you're not, well, now your brain is on a swivel with you.

like your brain doesn't trust you.

And so, and that lack of self-trust, that's dysregulating, right?

And, you know, life, like you said, in this overstimulated world is by nature dysregulating.

There is so much going on.

But if you can have a super strong sense of self-trust and trusting and knowing that you got you in any moment, like I got me, like we're good.

Like,

I'm not trying to say that nothing bad is ever going to happen, but I trust that if something does happen, I will be okay.

Like I can make it through.

And that's really regulating to be able to trust yourself in that way.

So, and trust and self-trust is built through, you know, showing up for yourself and following through on your word and doing the things that you say that you're going to do.

And consistency, right?

Because again, kind of making the relationship analogy, if somebody wasn't consistent, if you're trying to develop a relationship with someone and they text you every once in a while and they're not consistent, they don't show up consistently for you, you're not really going to feel like

I don't know about like safe with that person, but you're not going to feel like they're reliable, right?