Emma Grede

But we know that many women do want to have kids and we're putting it off to a point where it's just no longer our choice.

Age kicks in and we're left with too few options or completely heartbreaking, or in my case, both.

I had a baby at 31 and at 34, and I had my twins by surrogate at 39 after multiple IVF attempts.

I have countless friends and colleagues who left it too late.

IVF isn't a safety net.

Live birth rates using your own eggs drops from 55% when you're under 35 to 41% when you're 35 to 37, down again to 27% at 38 to 40%.

and to 13 to only 4% at 41, 42 and over.

As a result, so many women I know are miserable.

Now, as someone who has done it the hard way and the easy way, I want to tell you, and I want to help women navigate the three big reasons that they're choosing not to have kids.

And I wanted to use my book to help dispel a couple of really big myths that are out there.

Trust me, your career will recover.

Finding a perfect partner that ticks every box is impossible.

Newsflash, people.

There is no such thing as a perfect partner or someone that can meet all of your needs.

There is just a bunch of stuff.

you will need to provide yourself outside of your romantic relationship.

That's a conversation for another episode.

Parenting has lost the plot, yes.

But trust me, as a mother of four, it's just not that deep.

It's not that hard.