Emma

I'm going to give you the honest answer. I grew up in a house that was very angry and very like chaotic. And so I promised myself I would never feel that. And I don't. Anger is not an emotion that I struggle or experience. Do I get frustrated? Do I get annoyed? Do I get struck? Of course I do. I'm human. Like, of course I do.

I'm going to give you the honest answer. I grew up in a house that was very angry and very like chaotic. And so I promised myself I would never feel that. And I don't. Anger is not an emotion that I struggle or experience. Do I get frustrated? Do I get annoyed? Do I get struck? Of course I do. I'm human. Like, of course I do.

The anger thing is just a very separate, you know, a very separate thing. But of course I get annoyed. Do I snap at my wife who I adore? Yes, of course I do. Is she really forgiving and tolerant? Yes, she is. Like, you know, have I been in a mood and a strop and, you know, been irritable and agitated? Of course. Like, yes.

The anger thing is just a very separate, you know, a very separate thing. But of course I get annoyed. Do I snap at my wife who I adore? Yes, of course I do. Is she really forgiving and tolerant? Yes, she is. Like, you know, have I been in a mood and a strop and, you know, been irritable and agitated? Of course. Like, yes.

I grew up in a house where I saw that every day and it was just a promise I made to myself that I couldn't do it because I didn't see value in it. I just didn't see benefit in it. What I'm trying to say is there's a difference between aggression and frustration and stress. I feel lots of frustration and stress. I don't feel aggressive.

I grew up in a house where I saw that every day and it was just a promise I made to myself that I couldn't do it because I didn't see value in it. I just didn't see benefit in it. What I'm trying to say is there's a difference between aggression and frustration and stress. I feel lots of frustration and stress. I don't feel aggressive.

What are your tips? And by the way, of course, and I don't want to, I don't want to D like, I don't want to make it out like I don't get upset. That's not the point. It was the aggression.

What are your tips? And by the way, of course, and I don't want to, I don't want to D like, I don't want to make it out like I don't get upset. That's not the point. It was the aggression.

Um, For me, I need, if I'm going through something that feels unfair, if I'm going through something that I don't understand, if I'm going through something tough, I need to switch off all outside noise and be alone. Because my take is if I can't figure out how I feel about it, hearing everyone else's opinions is not going to make me feel better.

Um, For me, I need, if I'm going through something that feels unfair, if I'm going through something that I don't understand, if I'm going through something tough, I need to switch off all outside noise and be alone. Because my take is if I can't figure out how I feel about it, hearing everyone else's opinions is not going to make me feel better.

So even if my friend goes, oh, but you're fine, like you're doing great, not going to make me feel better. If my mom says to me, remember how strong you are, not going to make me feel better. I need to go into complete silence, complete isolation and complete seclusion and figure out how I feel about it. That means going to the darkest place in my mind and heart.

So even if my friend goes, oh, but you're fine, like you're doing great, not going to make me feel better. If my mom says to me, remember how strong you are, not going to make me feel better. I need to go into complete silence, complete isolation and complete seclusion and figure out how I feel about it. That means going to the darkest place in my mind and heart.

It means feeling the anger and the stress and the pain and the frustration and everything else it is, and then figuring out what I'm going to do about it. And it all has to be on me because that's how I know how to move through tough moments. Then I can go out and say, all right, let's check in with this person, figure it out.

It means feeling the anger and the stress and the pain and the frustration and everything else it is, and then figuring out what I'm going to do about it. And it all has to be on me because that's how I know how to move through tough moments. Then I can go out and say, all right, let's check in with this person, figure it out.

But I need that complete seclusion of step one, because I think so often we're angry and we talk to someone and you kind of use that as a crutch to get over it, but you haven't processed it. And for me, processing my emotions and my feelings is my number one priority.

But I need that complete seclusion of step one, because I think so often we're angry and we talk to someone and you kind of use that as a crutch to get over it, but you haven't processed it. And for me, processing my emotions and my feelings is my number one priority.

Well, step one is I just feel the pain. I allow myself to feel sad. I allow myself to feel upset. I allow myself to feel stress. I then ask myself the question, is what I'm feeling a fact or a feeling? What is the fact and what's the feeling? I have to get to that point. So after feeling the pain, is it fact or is it feeling? Then I realize if I actually focus on the facts,

Well, step one is I just feel the pain. I allow myself to feel sad. I allow myself to feel upset. I allow myself to feel stress. I then ask myself the question, is what I'm feeling a fact or a feeling? What is the fact and what's the feeling? I have to get to that point. So after feeling the pain, is it fact or is it feeling? Then I realize if I actually focus on the facts,

it's probably not as bad as I think it is. There's something to be able to, that I can solve here. If it's a feeling, okay, there's something, there's healing required. The second question I ask is, do I need an affirmation or is an action going to solve it? An affirmation could be just, I'm here for a reason. I belong here. I deserve to be here. I'm doing the right thing.

it's probably not as bad as I think it is. There's something to be able to, that I can solve here. If it's a feeling, okay, there's something, there's healing required. The second question I ask is, do I need an affirmation or is an action going to solve it? An affirmation could be just, I'm here for a reason. I belong here. I deserve to be here. I'm doing the right thing.