Erica Komisar

On this point of stress and the link with ADHD, I was looking at some research from the injury.com research education group.

It says that children with an ACE score, which is the trauma score, where I think it goes up to 10 different sort of questions, with an ACE score of four or more, so four experiences of trauma or more, have nearly four times, which is 400%,

more chance of having parent-reported ADHD compared to children with no ACEs.

And some of the factors that have big impact are socioeconomic hardship increases your probability of having ADHD by 40%, parental divorce by 35%, familial mental illness, so a parent having a mental illness increases it up to almost 60%, 55% I believe, and neighborhood violence almost 50%, familial incarceration, so if a parent goes to prison,

then that increases your probability of ADHD by about 40% as well.

And that's published by the, I think it's the New England.

Or the National Library of Medicine, National Center of Biological Information.

So if my kid starts screaming in a supermarket...

One of the prevailing pieces of advice says just walk off or start screaming yourself as the parent to show them.

Am I supposed to just ignore my child when it's screaming and throwing a tantrum?

Am I meant to drop what I'm doing and go and cater to them?

What am I meant to do in these situations?

You be careful because if you make a promise like that, I will call.

You don't want to drop your career and focus on raising my children.

So if my kid says, I want that pack of sweets, and I go, you can't have that pack of sweets.

And then they start screaming and crying.

I mean, that's what all the relationship experts on the show tell me.

They say if you want to be successful in a romantic relationship, then you first must make your partner feel heard and understood.

Even if you disagree in an argument, first acknowledge what they said, maybe repeat it back to them, and then they'll feel heard and understood, and it kind of stops the broken record.

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