Eugene Khoza

So when I think of that loss, whether it's a watch or a loved one, I think of what do I miss about not having this person around? Grief is an extended phase of regret. Yeah. Things that we never got to do with that person. I got to do all I could do at the time that he had.

So when I think of that loss, whether it's a watch or a loved one, I think of what do I miss about not having this person around? Grief is an extended phase of regret. Yeah. Things that we never got to do with that person. I got to do all I could do at the time that he had.

Had I been absent for three months and he passed away in three months, I would have been so distraught because I would have nothing to miss. But now I miss him, the person that he was, because I knew him. If I lose my watch, I miss my watch. I don't miss the things that the watch did for me. It's an object. It told time. Another object can tell time.

Had I been absent for three months and he passed away in three months, I would have been so distraught because I would have nothing to miss. But now I miss him, the person that he was, because I knew him. If I lose my watch, I miss my watch. I don't miss the things that the watch did for me. It's an object. It told time. Another object can tell time.

If it was about our money, I can buy another one. But him, there's no more time that I could have extended with him. It ran its course. I'm not dealing with guilt of something I did wrong or something I could have done better. But I was going, I wish we could do more. But when I look at my daughter, I go, we can do more. She's here now. Oh, wow. If I look at a watch, I go, there are more watches.

If it was about our money, I can buy another one. But him, there's no more time that I could have extended with him. It ran its course. I'm not dealing with guilt of something I did wrong or something I could have done better. But I was going, I wish we could do more. But when I look at my daughter, I go, we can do more. She's here now. Oh, wow. If I look at a watch, I go, there are more watches.

I can go buy another one. But I can't cry for things that never happened.

I can go buy another one. But I can't cry for things that never happened.

She became my parent. We have this running joke, her and I, where I say, in our life before this one, she was my mom. And then now I get to pay her back. But it looks like she still has to do it again. She was just a happy person every time. I would look forward to the day she comes back from school. And then she would high five me and tell me all sorts of stories. She had no time for my sadness.

She became my parent. We have this running joke, her and I, where I say, in our life before this one, she was my mom. And then now I get to pay her back. But it looks like she still has to do it again. She was just a happy person every time. I would look forward to the day she comes back from school. And then she would high five me and tell me all sorts of stories. She had no time for my sadness.

Like I would be like, today is just like, let me tell you. Then she would go on and on. Then it became my exercise to remember her friends' names. Because now I didn't want to be left behind in a story. And I was like, this person is laughing. She's smiling. And she only met her brother the day he passed away at the hospital when he was certified dead. Damn.

Like I would be like, today is just like, let me tell you. Then she would go on and on. Then it became my exercise to remember her friends' names. Because now I didn't want to be left behind in a story. And I was like, this person is laughing. She's smiling. And she only met her brother the day he passed away at the hospital when he was certified dead. Damn.

So this kid who faced that, what I had, I had three months of seeing him because he was incubated, but he couldn't have contact because he was born too early. So obviously a child would have brought germs into the house. So he couldn't be in the same room with her. So the only time you saw her was then. So I compared our losses. And in retrospect, you must think of it this way.

So this kid who faced that, what I had, I had three months of seeing him because he was incubated, but he couldn't have contact because he was born too early. So obviously a child would have brought germs into the house. So he couldn't be in the same room with her. So the only time you saw her was then. So I compared our losses. And in retrospect, you must think of it this way.

As a sibling, she would have had more time with him than I would have ever had as a parent. He would have outlived me. So she has never had that three months with him, but I had. So what right did I have to wallow in self-pity when all I could be doing now is telling her about how great this person was? Because she's telling me about strangers at school and about how great they are.

As a sibling, she would have had more time with him than I would have ever had as a parent. He would have outlived me. So she has never had that three months with him, but I had. So what right did I have to wallow in self-pity when all I could be doing now is telling her about how great this person was? Because she's telling me about strangers at school and about how great they are.

And here we are. And then she was there teaching me how to be strong. She was my mom again with that wad of cash saying, yeah, spend it on things that matter. And if someone comes and asks for it, give it to them generously. Don't ask questions, just share. She was that person for me and she still is for me. When I was walking down now to come into the car, she was like, do you have your phone?

And here we are. And then she was there teaching me how to be strong. She was my mom again with that wad of cash saying, yeah, spend it on things that matter. And if someone comes and asks for it, give it to them generously. Don't ask questions, just share. She was that person for me and she still is for me. When I was walking down now to come into the car, she was like, do you have your phone?

And I was like, yes. Do you have something for your lips? Yes. Do you have a power bank? Yes.

And I was like, yes. Do you have something for your lips? Yes. Do you have a power bank? Yes.