Farnoosh Torabi

But that was also a time when I was nine and I didn't have agency and I didn't have control over what was happening with the money. And so my parents' fears became my fears. I inherited that and I never let go of it. And maybe even just maybe that helped me for a while as I got older, having that fear of losing money made me a super saver.

But that was also a time when I was nine and I didn't have agency and I didn't have control over what was happening with the money. And so my parents' fears became my fears. I inherited that and I never let go of it. And maybe even just maybe that helped me for a while as I got older, having that fear of losing money made me a super saver.

But now I still have this anxiety that I'm gonna lose it all, but I have savings, I have a job. And yet, so this is when the fear is no longer serving you and you need to kind of go down memory lane, find its source and make the adult decision that, this ends here. This ends with me right now. Um, and I'm going to rest this fear.

But now I still have this anxiety that I'm gonna lose it all, but I have savings, I have a job. And yet, so this is when the fear is no longer serving you and you need to kind of go down memory lane, find its source and make the adult decision that, this ends here. This ends with me right now. Um, and I'm going to rest this fear.

But now I still have this anxiety that I'm gonna lose it all, but I have savings, I have a job. And yet, so this is when the fear is no longer serving you and you need to kind of go down memory lane, find its source and make the adult decision that, this ends here. This ends with me right now. Um, and I'm going to rest this fear.

I'm going to thank it maybe for how far it's taken me, but now it's not serving me. Looking at the facts of your life that you do have. I mean, I remember this woman, uh, this woman wrote to me. She said, Farnoosh, I'm in my fifties. I'm a single mom. I've helped my boys get through college. I grew up in scarcity and poverty and, uh,

I'm going to thank it maybe for how far it's taken me, but now it's not serving me. Looking at the facts of your life that you do have. I mean, I remember this woman, uh, this woman wrote to me. She said, Farnoosh, I'm in my fifties. I'm a single mom. I've helped my boys get through college. I grew up in scarcity and poverty and, uh,

I'm going to thank it maybe for how far it's taken me, but now it's not serving me. Looking at the facts of your life that you do have. I mean, I remember this woman, uh, this woman wrote to me. She said, Farnoosh, I'm in my fifties. I'm a single mom. I've helped my boys get through college. I grew up in scarcity and poverty and, uh,

it actually, that fear led me to be very financially in charge of my life. I started a business. I bought my house. I single-handedly raised my boys. And I just fear like I'm going to lose it. I'm going to lose. I'm one bad decision away. I don't trust that this is going to endure. And so what I said to her was, first, let's trace this. Everything I just told you, this is your mother's fear.

it actually, that fear led me to be very financially in charge of my life. I started a business. I bought my house. I single-handedly raised my boys. And I just fear like I'm going to lose it. I'm going to lose. I'm one bad decision away. I don't trust that this is going to endure. And so what I said to her was, first, let's trace this. Everything I just told you, this is your mother's fear.

it actually, that fear led me to be very financially in charge of my life. I started a business. I bought my house. I single-handedly raised my boys. And I just fear like I'm going to lose it. I'm going to lose. I'm one bad decision away. I don't trust that this is going to endure. And so what I said to her was, first, let's trace this. Everything I just told you, this is your mother's fear.

This isn't you. And this is real. I mean, not to say that this is a fabrication. It happened. You were once this young girl experiencing lack. Now, is that true? Look at everything that you have. Take inventory of your life. You have done amazing things with your money. You have not exhibited a pattern of making bad decisions with your money. And so sometimes you need that wake-up call.

This isn't you. And this is real. I mean, not to say that this is a fabrication. It happened. You were once this young girl experiencing lack. Now, is that true? Look at everything that you have. Take inventory of your life. You have done amazing things with your money. You have not exhibited a pattern of making bad decisions with your money. And so sometimes you need that wake-up call.

This isn't you. And this is real. I mean, not to say that this is a fabrication. It happened. You were once this young girl experiencing lack. Now, is that true? Look at everything that you have. Take inventory of your life. You have done amazing things with your money. You have not exhibited a pattern of making bad decisions with your money. And so sometimes you need that wake-up call.

You need someone else to tell you, here are all the things that you've done, or you need to take a really honest look at all of your accomplishments. I say... is taking inventory of all of your accomplishments and all of your assets that no one can take away from you. Like, yeah, maybe the market will tumble and you have no control over that and your investments do dip.

You need someone else to tell you, here are all the things that you've done, or you need to take a really honest look at all of your accomplishments. I say... is taking inventory of all of your accomplishments and all of your assets that no one can take away from you. Like, yeah, maybe the market will tumble and you have no control over that and your investments do dip.

You need someone else to tell you, here are all the things that you've done, or you need to take a really honest look at all of your accomplishments. I say... is taking inventory of all of your accomplishments and all of your assets that no one can take away from you. Like, yeah, maybe the market will tumble and you have no control over that and your investments do dip.

And that may mean that you don't be able to retire at 65 as you were planning. But does that mean you've lost it all and you'll never regain it? Because you are who you are at the end of the day. You've gotten to where you are for a reason. And that is not something that can be taken away from you. When people get laid off and they're afraid of never getting a job again, I say, okay, that's scary.

And that may mean that you don't be able to retire at 65 as you were planning. But does that mean you've lost it all and you'll never regain it? Because you are who you are at the end of the day. You've gotten to where you are for a reason. And that is not something that can be taken away from you. When people get laid off and they're afraid of never getting a job again, I say, okay, that's scary.

And that may mean that you don't be able to retire at 65 as you were planning. But does that mean you've lost it all and you'll never regain it? Because you are who you are at the end of the day. You've gotten to where you are for a reason. And that is not something that can be taken away from you. When people get laid off and they're afraid of never getting a job again, I say, okay, that's scary.