Father Stephen Gadberry

My dumb ass went right, right after she told me that. And golly, she flipped a switch and it wasn't good there. But that was kind of a fun thing. I just wanted an adventure. Yeah, it's about military. I went down that little bunny hole. I just wanted an adventure. I found it. There was a lot to do there.

So when that happens, like... Like immediately I had to start providing for the family. I was an eight-year-old boy, so I didn't get a childhood. So one of the ways that I'm struggling with it now is like all the, it's kind of like the shrapnel of the bomb. I didn't get a childhood, so I had to grow up like overnight almost. My mom has zero income, like a very little income.

So when that happens, like... Like immediately I had to start providing for the family. I was an eight-year-old boy, so I didn't get a childhood. So one of the ways that I'm struggling with it now is like all the, it's kind of like the shrapnel of the bomb. I didn't get a childhood, so I had to grow up like overnight almost. My mom has zero income, like a very little income.

So when that happens, like... Like immediately I had to start providing for the family. I was an eight-year-old boy, so I didn't get a childhood. So one of the ways that I'm struggling with it now is like all the, it's kind of like the shrapnel of the bomb. I didn't get a childhood, so I had to grow up like overnight almost. My mom has zero income, like a very little income.

She didn't have a college education, so she doesn't make a lot of money. So as soon as I start working, or as soon as I could start working, I had to start working to make money for the family. I just had to provide. As a kid, a little kid, you can't do much to provide, but I babysat, helped mom a lot of stuff in a lot of ways. As I got older, I started working.

She didn't have a college education, so she doesn't make a lot of money. So as soon as I start working, or as soon as I could start working, I had to start working to make money for the family. I just had to provide. As a kid, a little kid, you can't do much to provide, but I babysat, helped mom a lot of stuff in a lot of ways. As I got older, I started working.

She didn't have a college education, so she doesn't make a lot of money. So as soon as I start working, or as soon as I could start working, I had to start working to make money for the family. I just had to provide. As a kid, a little kid, you can't do much to provide, but I babysat, helped mom a lot of stuff in a lot of ways. As I got older, I started working.

I helped a lot financially and doing more to take care of the family. The way it's messed with me is currently now with boundaries, like not telling people no. It's hard to say no. It's hard to stop working. It's hard to turn off because I didn't really have a choice as a kid. And...

I helped a lot financially and doing more to take care of the family. The way it's messed with me is currently now with boundaries, like not telling people no. It's hard to say no. It's hard to stop working. It's hard to turn off because I didn't really have a choice as a kid. And...

I helped a lot financially and doing more to take care of the family. The way it's messed with me is currently now with boundaries, like not telling people no. It's hard to say no. It's hard to stop working. It's hard to turn off because I didn't really have a choice as a kid. And...

How does it affect my ability to say no? I'm not naive to the tight situation that we grew up in and the fact that mom couldn't do it and so someone had to help her. We had family that would help. But, like, in my mind, I was like, well, that's my job to do. I've got to stand up and do it. And so anytime I see a problem now, I feel— You feel responsible. Yeah. Yeah.

How does it affect my ability to say no? I'm not naive to the tight situation that we grew up in and the fact that mom couldn't do it and so someone had to help her. We had family that would help. But, like, in my mind, I was like, well, that's my job to do. I've got to stand up and do it. And so anytime I see a problem now, I feel— You feel responsible. Yeah. Yeah.

How does it affect my ability to say no? I'm not naive to the tight situation that we grew up in and the fact that mom couldn't do it and so someone had to help her. We had family that would help. But, like, in my mind, I was like, well, that's my job to do. I've got to stand up and do it. And so anytime I see a problem now, I feel— You feel responsible. Yeah. Yeah.

And so I feel like I've got to fix it for people. And I'm good at it. Like, I'm really good at what I do. And that's part of, like, the superpower. But then one of the ways that it's not good is, like, people come to me just for an easy solution, and I'll fix it, and— Man, I just started this therapy stuff in January, so I'm working through all this right now. It's tough. Why do I do it, though?

And so I feel like I've got to fix it for people. And I'm good at it. Like, I'm really good at what I do. And that's part of, like, the superpower. But then one of the ways that it's not good is, like, people come to me just for an easy solution, and I'll fix it, and— Man, I just started this therapy stuff in January, so I'm working through all this right now. It's tough. Why do I do it, though?

And so I feel like I've got to fix it for people. And I'm good at it. Like, I'm really good at what I do. And that's part of, like, the superpower. But then one of the ways that it's not good is, like, people come to me just for an easy solution, and I'll fix it, and— Man, I just started this therapy stuff in January, so I'm working through all this right now. It's tough. Why do I do it, though?

So as a child, there were a lot of moments whenever I didn't have a voice. Like I would want to go play or something, but I couldn't go play. The answer would always be no. I just felt like it... If I wanted something, I just had to do it. If I wanted something done, I had to get it done. If there was something fun that I wanted to do, I didn't ask.

So as a child, there were a lot of moments whenever I didn't have a voice. Like I would want to go play or something, but I couldn't go play. The answer would always be no. I just felt like it... If I wanted something, I just had to do it. If I wanted something done, I had to get it done. If there was something fun that I wanted to do, I didn't ask.

So as a child, there were a lot of moments whenever I didn't have a voice. Like I would want to go play or something, but I couldn't go play. The answer would always be no. I just felt like it... If I wanted something, I just had to do it. If I wanted something done, I had to get it done. If there was something fun that I wanted to do, I didn't ask.

I learned pretty quick to not ask to do much stuff because most of the time I couldn't. I don't know. That's just trickled in now to what we're doing.