Fearne Cotton

When we're people pleasing, we're constantly proving to ourselves that we don't care about ourselves because we're putting other people first.

And that doesn't mean that you never help anybody ever again, or that you say no to

every party invite or even people asking you to do them a favor.

If you feel like that goodness is in your heart and you want to do that good thing, beautiful.

That's a lovely thing to do.

But equally, if you know that you're saying yes, but in your head, you're screaming no, you're proving to yourself constantly.

And I'm not giving you advice like I'm some fucking guru.

I'm saying this to myself.

I need to hear this more than anyone.

that you're proving to yourself constantly that you're not worth it, that you don't deserve to say no or to go, my plate is full, I actually can't do any more right now.

So I think the opposite of that is doing nice things for yourself

For me, that means like getting under my electric blanket, having a bath, reading in the bath.

I bloody love reading in the bath.

There is nothing better than reading in the bath.

Or buying yourself a little treat.

And I think the new Happy Place edit box is a very good place to start.

Just a box of goodies, all for you.

So I conclude by saying heated blankets are in.

I'm on the fence with skipping and mansplaining is in the bin.

OK, it's a big one to mansplaining.