Fearne Cotton

And it's definitely on my mind at the moment because I've got a new book coming out in March called A Likeable.

And it's all about how so much of my life has been completely centered around and informed by people pleasing.

And some of it, you know, is whatever.

It's everyday stuff that we all do.

We say yes to parties we don't want to go to.

We say yes to doing a job for someone we don't want to do.

But actually, the extremes, I think, are quite severe for many of us and we don't take it seriously enough.

And the extremes for me have led me into some real like dark patches of having extreme anxiety because I'm frazzled and overwhelmed and dipping into self-loathing because I'm sort of resenting the people around me.

It's some serious shit in there that I want to really, really get rid of.

So that means that for the year of the horse and for 2026 in general, I need to be more assertive and I need to say no more

And I find saying no so hard still, even though I know the implications, even though I know that saying yes a lot is going to lead me down a really tricky road.

So I'm practicing it at the moment and it's uncomfortable.

And I think that's the thing I need to talk about is the discomfort we feel

is fine.

We're allowed to feel uncomfortable and recognise it, but we shouldn't then go back on the no that we've just said.

And that is the big test for me.

And it might be for you too.

For example, I'm going to do a disclaimer before I say what I'm about to say, because I feel a bit nervous saying it.

The disclaimer is I love men.

I've got loads of great men in my life.