Frances Fry

But when people arrive on campus, they just think, did I get the right answer or not?

And don't control for how long we are into the discussion.

Yeah, and what I notice when I interact with you, because you do sometimes have this distortion field after some meetings, and I never know what's going to trigger it.

It's not the volume of good and bad.

It's something triggered the distortion field for you.

Maybe we should start paying attention so we can see it in the moment.

I don't know either.

Because I'm always surprised.

It's always a surprise to me.

It's always a surprise.

But if what I do with you, which is...

a very high performing person with a wildly high probability of success, but with occasional pebbles in the way, but you distort pebbles to boulders.

I don't do anything to distort pebbles from being pebbles.

Like I don't pretend they don't exist.

I talk about them as the pebbles and I talk about all of the accelerants that happened and then you get an accurate report card and then you let go of it.

So I think it's important that we don't distort reality to handle it.

We just show reality.

That's all people with imposter syndrome need is an accurate view of reality.

Yeah, I think the most prominent cousin of imposter syndrome is the perfectionist.

Super common.