Frances Whiting

And the waiter was very deferential towards him.

And then we went to leave, the waiter wouldn't let him pay.

So then we parted ways and he said, lovely to meet you.

And he said something like, this has been very refreshing.

And I was like, oh, okay, goodbye forever.

And then I walked away and I kept thinking, what a lovely man.

He was so handsome.

And then about three months later, I was in my flat in London and my friend brought home a magazine and she put it down in front of me.

And I just looked down and I went, oh, that's the guy I had coffee with in Paris.

She was saying, well, you're an idiot.

Definitely, Sarah.

And I think that it's a particular thing that happens to women.

This idea that you're not married in your 30s, you haven't had any children in your 40s.

I think for men and women, then it's the career thing.

Where's your career going at 40?

But for women in particular, I think that idea of marriage and children, it's still something that women very unnecessarily feel pressure about.

I felt it.

I had relatives saying to me things like, oh, you better hurry up, you know, and then being such a late mum, I had other people saying to me, you know, things like time's a ticking and it's such a shocking thing to say to a woman and I would never say it to a woman in a million billion years.

Because, you know, we, none of us know what's going on in a woman's life or biologically or what her choices are.

Many women don't want to have children.