Gabor Maté
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
I tune out.
as a way of protecting myself from the stress.
So that dissociation and tuning out is simply a defense.
But when am I doing this?
When my brain is developing.
Attunement is essential for healthy brain development.
So that the tuning out then, when there's no attunement, there's tuning out.
And then...
That gets programmed into my brain.
And then later I'm told in my mid-50s, you've got this genetic disease.
No, I don't.
I have a coping mechanism that got wired into my brain that's not creating problems.
Because that's the issue with these early coping mechanisms is that later on in life they can become sources of problems.
Now, does it take a Second World War?
to make a mother stressed?
No, it doesn't.
In this society, a lot of mothers, a lot of parents are stressed.
Not their fault.
I'm not blaming parents.
They do their best.