Gabriel Mizrahi

And then she said that afterwards, she's never felt so small and stupid and worthless in her life.

Those are powerful words.

Yeah.

So I'm with you.

I mean, it sounds like Stacey's the main problem.

And I'm kind of getting the sense that Stacey's behavior lands with our friend here in a certain way.

And our friend here's behavior might land with Stacey in a certain way that produces particularly painful and destabilizing feelings.

This fear around the hair, the activation around conflict, and then, of course, most importantly, this diminishment, this feeling of worthlessness when someone she is close with doesn't have good feelings toward her.

Where Stacey's difficult words and behavior end and our friend's feelings and reactions begin, I do think there's a ton of information in there and that would be good stuff for our friend to understand.

Yeah, that's more or less what I'm getting at.

Look, our friend here might just be more sensitive than the average person.

Some people are.

I also suspect that she's not very comfortable being in conflict with people.

Like she said, she was so proud of herself for standing up for herself at the salon, which suggests that this was very new for her.

She hasn't had a lot of practice with that, which by the way, that makes me proud of you too.

That's a very big deal.

Good point.

So I get that.

But so much of the story is about what it actually takes to accept that someone else just doesn't like you right now, doesn't have positive feelings toward you.

And then what do you do about that?