Gabriel Mizrahi

I could still hear his booming voice all those years ago screaming, move your hands, as my siblings and I tried to protect ourselves from the blows. Then we would limp off crying and be consoled by the others. My god, this is awful. I had tears of rage in my eyes as I realized that this fact was so unimportant to him, he doesn't even remember it.

That's just too distressing for him to live with.

That's just too distressing for him to live with.

That's just too distressing for him to live with.

It's not that he doesn't remember. It might be that he remembers too well.

It's not that he doesn't remember. It might be that he remembers too well.

It's not that he doesn't remember. It might be that he remembers too well.

Now I have a dilemma. I feel I can't have my dad leave this world thinking he never laid a hand on his children and being proud of that. I want to write him a letter outlining what I felt as a child and what it's done to me since. Every emotion, the fear, and the damage that followed.

Now I have a dilemma. I feel I can't have my dad leave this world thinking he never laid a hand on his children and being proud of that. I want to write him a letter outlining what I felt as a child and what it's done to me since. Every emotion, the fear, and the damage that followed.

Now I have a dilemma. I feel I can't have my dad leave this world thinking he never laid a hand on his children and being proud of that. I want to write him a letter outlining what I felt as a child and what it's done to me since. Every emotion, the fear, and the damage that followed.

But my dad has a million pound business, zero debt, lots of land, and even in retirement has a few hundred grand a year rolling in. In an ideal world, I would tell him I don't want a penny from him. But unfortunately, I am one of life's talent voids, free of any useful skill or trade. I work hard, and always have, but I'll never be anything but a head-above-water type.

But my dad has a million pound business, zero debt, lots of land, and even in retirement has a few hundred grand a year rolling in. In an ideal world, I would tell him I don't want a penny from him. But unfortunately, I am one of life's talent voids, free of any useful skill or trade. I work hard, and always have, but I'll never be anything but a head-above-water type.

But my dad has a million pound business, zero debt, lots of land, and even in retirement has a few hundred grand a year rolling in. In an ideal world, I would tell him I don't want a penny from him. But unfortunately, I am one of life's talent voids, free of any useful skill or trade. I work hard, and always have, but I'll never be anything but a head-above-water type.

This would mean the difference between us buying our very own home one day and never having a home of our own. We've moved nine times in the last four years due to the UK housing crisis. My daughter deserves so much more than a loser for a dad. She has one hope of ever being left anything by her mom and me. And that's my dad. A home could be hers when we're gone.

This would mean the difference between us buying our very own home one day and never having a home of our own. We've moved nine times in the last four years due to the UK housing crisis. My daughter deserves so much more than a loser for a dad. She has one hope of ever being left anything by her mom and me. And that's my dad. A home could be hers when we're gone.

This would mean the difference between us buying our very own home one day and never having a home of our own. We've moved nine times in the last four years due to the UK housing crisis. My daughter deserves so much more than a loser for a dad. She has one hope of ever being left anything by her mom and me. And that's my dad. A home could be hers when we're gone.

My dad has threatened to write people out of his will before for far less than what I want to do. He takes any criticism of his parenting very badly. Like, he goes nuclear. Should I pull the pin on this grenade, say what I want to say, and almost guarantee that my inheritance gets split between my siblings and then I die in poverty?

My dad has threatened to write people out of his will before for far less than what I want to do. He takes any criticism of his parenting very badly. Like, he goes nuclear. Should I pull the pin on this grenade, say what I want to say, and almost guarantee that my inheritance gets split between my siblings and then I die in poverty?

My dad has threatened to write people out of his will before for far less than what I want to do. He takes any criticism of his parenting very badly. Like, he goes nuclear. Should I pull the pin on this grenade, say what I want to say, and almost guarantee that my inheritance gets split between my siblings and then I die in poverty?

Or should I keep my mouth shut and let my father swim in the undeserved glory of being the gentlest, kindest parent in history? Signed, write this unfettered letter standing up to my begetter? Or better to let the past settle so I don't end up a debtor?