Gabriel Mizrahi

I have to say though, like we said during the letter, her husband's process around his parents is extremely encouraging.

I think it's fantastic that he threw himself into therapy.

He's engaging.

He's showing a lot of progress.

Same.

That gives me hope.

I feel for him, though.

It can be very painful to confront this kind of thing about your own parents.

You know, it's not just making the intellectual leap to, oh, my parents are narcissists.

Wow, just didn't realize it.

It probably means confronting a lot of difficult facts about

his own childhood, including his father's abuse, contending with sadness, anger, all of the things.

Probably also some shame around how their upbringing influenced his own behavior with their son.

Good point.

This is a big deal for him.

It's a very big deal.

We all have the impulse to protect our parents, you know?

We want them to be mostly good, kind, effective.

It hurts to realize that they might have done some real damage.

And his parents have done some real damage.