Gabriel Mizrahi

Yes. And as for how to talk to him when he accuses you, I really like your rule about only talking to him when he's sober. Although I can't tell how successful that's been. You said you tried. I'm not sure if that means you tried and then gave up because it wasn't doable. I also appreciate, though, that you're trying to listen without judgment. You're not just like, hey, stop it, Adam.

Yes. And as for how to talk to him when he accuses you, I really like your rule about only talking to him when he's sober. Although I can't tell how successful that's been. You said you tried. I'm not sure if that means you tried and then gave up because it wasn't doable. I also appreciate, though, that you're trying to listen without judgment. You're not just like, hey, stop it, Adam.

You're crazy or whatever.

You're crazy or whatever.

You're crazy or whatever.

Yeah, come on. He is a little crazy. That's true. This is not reasonable behavior, and it's okay to say that. Okay, fair point. But part of me is also going... Are you being clear enough with him that he's out of control without calling him crazy? Are you giving him too much latitude? This is a delicate line to walk. But beyond that, what you guys really need to talk about is this deeper stuff.

Yeah, come on. He is a little crazy. That's true. This is not reasonable behavior, and it's okay to say that. Okay, fair point. But part of me is also going... Are you being clear enough with him that he's out of control without calling him crazy? Are you giving him too much latitude? This is a delicate line to walk. But beyond that, what you guys really need to talk about is this deeper stuff.

Yeah, come on. He is a little crazy. That's true. This is not reasonable behavior, and it's okay to say that. Okay, fair point. But part of me is also going... Are you being clear enough with him that he's out of control without calling him crazy? Are you giving him too much latitude? This is a delicate line to walk. But beyond that, what you guys really need to talk about is this deeper stuff.

Why he's using in the first place. Why he can't seem to stop. Where this fear and paranoia come from. Why you respond the way you do. What trusting you brings up for him. What his chaos is doing to you. Otherwise, You're just going to be playing out the same script over and over again. And obviously, that's only possible when he's somewhat calm.

Why he's using in the first place. Why he can't seem to stop. Where this fear and paranoia come from. Why you respond the way you do. What trusting you brings up for him. What his chaos is doing to you. Otherwise, You're just going to be playing out the same script over and over again. And obviously, that's only possible when he's somewhat calm.

Why he's using in the first place. Why he can't seem to stop. Where this fear and paranoia come from. Why you respond the way you do. What trusting you brings up for him. What his chaos is doing to you. Otherwise, You're just going to be playing out the same script over and over again. And obviously, that's only possible when he's somewhat calm.

When he's upset, I would not try to have this conversation. I probably would not even engage, honestly. And maybe you say, look, I can see that you're worked up right now. I can understand why. cocaine, other stuff too. Why don't we take a little time to breathe?

When he's upset, I would not try to have this conversation. I probably would not even engage, honestly. And maybe you say, look, I can see that you're worked up right now. I can understand why. cocaine, other stuff too. Why don't we take a little time to breathe?

When he's upset, I would not try to have this conversation. I probably would not even engage, honestly. And maybe you say, look, I can see that you're worked up right now. I can understand why. cocaine, other stuff too. Why don't we take a little time to breathe?

And we'll talk about this when we calm down because fighting back or trying to have a deep conversation when he's activated and potentially intoxicated, that's probably only going to make things worse.

And we'll talk about this when we calm down because fighting back or trying to have a deep conversation when he's activated and potentially intoxicated, that's probably only going to make things worse.

And we'll talk about this when we calm down because fighting back or trying to have a deep conversation when he's activated and potentially intoxicated, that's probably only going to make things worse.

Honestly, I just don't see your relationship improving until he gets sober. He clearly can't kick this addiction on his own and getting cold turkey. Look, some people do it and more power to them. It's incredible, but it's hard at a minimum. I think he needs to be working some kind of program, whether it's a 12 step program or a smart meeting or whatever it is.

Honestly, I just don't see your relationship improving until he gets sober. He clearly can't kick this addiction on his own and getting cold turkey. Look, some people do it and more power to them. It's incredible, but it's hard at a minimum. I think he needs to be working some kind of program, whether it's a 12 step program or a smart meeting or whatever it is.

Honestly, I just don't see your relationship improving until he gets sober. He clearly can't kick this addiction on his own and getting cold turkey. Look, some people do it and more power to them. It's incredible, but it's hard at a minimum. I think he needs to be working some kind of program, whether it's a 12 step program or a smart meeting or whatever it is.