Gabriel Mizrahi

And this is when you should do it.

And this is when you should not do it.

That's not fair.

It's tough to accept that our friend here is paying the price, not just for a fight that isn't his, but for a dynamic that he is not responsible for and cannot influence, which is kind of insane.

But it might also help him remember how much responsibility he ultimately has here.

Right.

It might not lessen the sadness, but it might alleviate the guilt.

And maybe in some way help him empathize to some degree with a brother who is probably equally clumsy at managing conflict if the family way is any indication.

Even if you don't resolve every single aspect of this conflict, even if you don't get the gals to make up as well, it's definitely worth trying to get to a good enough place that you're at least invited to the wedding.

That would be a win for me.

Yeah, and probably with a way worse gift from the registry, which is one upside.

That's right.

That'll show him.

it's interesting that he's asking if we're at a point now where family members are just cutting one another off for no reason.

I think it's probably rare for people to cut one another off for no reason, but that obviously doesn't mean it's always for a good reason.

And it's like, all right, whatever.

I've actually been very happy to see the articles taking down that approach because yeah, obviously sometimes you have to cut somebody off.

you know, in a ridiculous situation.

I think those situations are pretty extreme, fairly rare.

But yeah, there is this line of thinking out there, and especially online, where the advice is just so overly simplistic.