Gabriel Mizrahi

Early in our relationship, I learned the hard way that people don't change unless they want to, no matter how much you try to support and inspire them. So I tried to change myself. Everyone absolutely loves my husband, my friends, my family, my colleagues. So I told myself that I had to be wrong about this. Hypnosis did not work.

I tried telling myself that I was the problem and was just being petty. I gave into the notion that sex and a physical connection wasn't important because that typically wanes over time anyway, right? If he'd rather stay in and watch TV every weekend, I could still go outdoors on my own with friends, ride my bike, enjoy walking the dogs, and tend to the yard by myself. But these didn't work.

I tried telling myself that I was the problem and was just being petty. I gave into the notion that sex and a physical connection wasn't important because that typically wanes over time anyway, right? If he'd rather stay in and watch TV every weekend, I could still go outdoors on my own with friends, ride my bike, enjoy walking the dogs, and tend to the yard by myself. But these didn't work.

I tried telling myself that I was the problem and was just being petty. I gave into the notion that sex and a physical connection wasn't important because that typically wanes over time anyway, right? If he'd rather stay in and watch TV every weekend, I could still go outdoors on my own with friends, ride my bike, enjoy walking the dogs, and tend to the yard by myself. But these didn't work.

Even when health concerns loomed on the horizon, it still wasn't enough to get him to change. A diagnosis of prediabetes resulted in him running toward becoming diabetic like a running back making the winning touchdown in the Super Bowl. No lie.

Even when health concerns loomed on the horizon, it still wasn't enough to get him to change. A diagnosis of prediabetes resulted in him running toward becoming diabetic like a running back making the winning touchdown in the Super Bowl. No lie.

Even when health concerns loomed on the horizon, it still wasn't enough to get him to change. A diagnosis of prediabetes resulted in him running toward becoming diabetic like a running back making the winning touchdown in the Super Bowl. No lie.

As a former healthcare provider, I was astonished that he was unable to hear any amount of warning or advice from me or his doctor about the real potential for adverse events if he didn't change his diet and exercise habits. He gained about 100 pounds over the years. To be fair, he's recently lost 75 pounds since starting a diabetes medication similar to Ozempic.

As a former healthcare provider, I was astonished that he was unable to hear any amount of warning or advice from me or his doctor about the real potential for adverse events if he didn't change his diet and exercise habits. He gained about 100 pounds over the years. To be fair, he's recently lost 75 pounds since starting a diabetes medication similar to Ozempic.

As a former healthcare provider, I was astonished that he was unable to hear any amount of warning or advice from me or his doctor about the real potential for adverse events if he didn't change his diet and exercise habits. He gained about 100 pounds over the years. To be fair, he's recently lost 75 pounds since starting a diabetes medication similar to Ozempic.

But my attraction to him has not returned. On top of all that, we're mismatched sexually. I'm a side, he's a bottom.

But my attraction to him has not returned. On top of all that, we're mismatched sexually. I'm a side, he's a bottom.

But my attraction to him has not returned. On top of all that, we're mismatched sexually. I'm a side, he's a bottom.

Yeah, this was a new word for me, too. So a side is a man who finds fulfillment in every kind of sexual act except penetration.

Yeah, this was a new word for me, too. So a side is a man who finds fulfillment in every kind of sexual act except penetration.

Yeah, this was a new word for me, too. So a side is a man who finds fulfillment in every kind of sexual act except penetration.

Sorry to all the parents listening right now in the car now have to explain what tops and bottoms are to their kids on the way to school.

Sorry to all the parents listening right now in the car now have to explain what tops and bottoms are to their kids on the way to school.

Sorry to all the parents listening right now in the car now have to explain what tops and bottoms are to their kids on the way to school.

Oh, I'm sorry. So he goes on. After my husband's bout with prostate cancer, he was left with erectile dysfunction that is not relieved by the little blue pill.