Garrain Jones

You must become the kind of man that matches that high valued woman. So if you're not a high valued man, you don't stand a chance.

When, you know, some of the toughest men I've ever met in my life are so strong that they're not afraid to shed a vulnerable tears. So that's number two book. Number three book is by Napoleon Hill. You've heard of Think and Grow Rich, but he wrote another book that's less popular because people took Think and Grow Rich out of context. And it's called Grow Rich with Peace of Mind.

That is one of the most powerful books that I've ever read in my entire life on giving you the whole spiritual context of of bringing your full embodiment while experiencing the wealth of life and maintaining peace simultaneously.

Yeah, that's a great one as well. I would have... Every man and every woman read that book because not every man harnesses the masculine energy and not every woman harnesses the feminine energy. So if you think in terms of masculine and feminine energy, everybody deserves to read that book thinking in terms of energies, not the structure of man and woman.

And then a lot of women can understand themselves even more by understanding their energy.

Thank you so much for having me on. It's always, whenever I'm hearing somebody do an introduction, I try to pretend like I'm not me so that I can be a neutral party listening. And I was like, I would probably want to listen to this guy.

Because the man who doesn't know where he's going will never lead a prosperous life. So it takes the right kind of mind to know who you are, how you are, and where you're going. That is a leader. And if you don't know how to lead yourself, no one's gonna follow you, not even your dreams. And so you will always get and attract your level of worthiness

Not what you show people, but when you look in the mirror and the truth shows up and nobody else is around. You will always, because we're the most powerful magnets in the world, and so you won't attract what you want, you'll attract who you really are. So if you cannot stand what you keep attracting, It's an opportunity to take a good look in the mirror.

And if you want to keep shying away from that, well, then the riches of life and money with money being the least of all value is going to keep shying away from you because you're repelling all the things that you want because you're not able to pour into your own cup. That's why mindset is important because mind. Body, soul, you can't be embodied unless you embody your full self.

And I can tell you this from personal experience. No high valued woman wants a weak man who doesn't know himself. You can pretend all day long, but she'll snuff it out. And if she doesn't get it from you, she's going to get it from someone else.

Yeah, and if you're being really, really, really honest. You know, I tried to be the overly, overly masculine person. That shit didn't work. It was like, I feel like you're hiding something. I'm like, yeah, there's this really sensitive side of me that I don't want it because it's associated with soft. And then, you know what I realized?

That sensitivity is the same sensitivity that has had me inspire millions of people because I'm sensitive to how broken the world's heart is. And so I have a sensitive to the world suffering. And so that same sensitivity has my intuition at a very high level.

So all of the non-physical world things that are so, so like wizard-like and magical, I have a sensitivity to pick up on those things to be able to utilize and feel when I'm walking in a room and you can feel the energy bodies of everybody around. So if I don't embrace that, what's naturally inside of me, I can't be authentic.

So it's not necessary for me to overt myself to be this overly masculine person when I'm not. You know what people tell me now? I love how safe I feel around you. I've never felt this safe in the presence of another masculine man who didn't want anything from me. And, and, and In a drop of a heartbeat, I'll protect and provide my family. That's easy for me.

And in a drop of a heartbeat, I can be so soft with my daughter who's three when she's crying and she's just like, she's redlining and I'm just holding her and holding her and being the space that can hold for all of her tears and being the space that can hold for when my wife is angry to be the space to hold for all of it.

That takes a special kind of man who knows himself that won't get lost in all these other identities. But the true self, when fully accepted, oh my goodness, you have sweetness of life on the horizon for you.

Yeah. Well, I mean, we got to, anytime I talk about something, it's important to talk about the context. You know, it's hard to blame out the, when we talk about adults or deteriorated children, if you take this suffering or people lacking confidence, or let's just say the number one fear in the world, even more than death, is public speaking. Okay, I can hear that, but why?

Okay, let's take it all the way back to when I was five, trying to sing and express myself when there's parental intolerance. It's like when parents are just sleep deprived and everything, can you please just shut up? So when you tell a child you're too loud or too much, they turn that impact into the same thing that they turn the impact of the beginning state of language.

ABCs turns into words, sentences, paragraphs, essays, books, libraries. All right, cool. The beginning of impact of language, shut up, you're too loud, you're too much. Me singing in front of my whole family. And they're like, oh, Garen, you can't sing, you can't dance. I wonder where my lack of confidence came from.

It's possibly because when I was learning how to express, I didn't even know what puzzle pieces were in this box. I was learning. Maybe it was a little messy, but I was five. So when we're little, Unconscious parenting will try to, they even have a song, Hush little baby, won't you cry? Think about what that's actually saying. Your expression, I don't want to hear.

If I could rewrite it, I would do it just like this. Cry little baby, won't you cry? You get to express what is in your heart And if no words is still your truth So no more hushing what's real for you Cry little baby, won't you cry Cry little baby, won't you cry I would sing that and this is what I sing to my kids. No, keep crying because we don't know what that is.

So I'm not going to put my parental intolerance off on your precious new expression where we don't even know what that is. It's got to come out. That's where it comes from.

Thank you. I really appreciate it. This is why I do inner child work. There's work for everyone out there, but for me, the reason why we're able to get so deep Because I never take my eye off the kid inside of the adult. They're like, damn, I feel like you can see me. I was like, you want to know what I'm looking at? I'm like looking at little Garen. I'm looking at little Connell.

I'm like looking at little Brady. And I'm just zoning in and saying, hey, you have a friend. You're not alone. What is it that actually makes you happy?

Yeah, well, the thing about it is that child is inside of you already. We just let it, you know, we say, oh, be a man. What exactly does that mean when we have been groomed? Boys don't cry. We don't share tears. We don't express our feelings. And I wonder why the rate of men committing suicide is growing every year. I wonder where that comes from.

possibly because they don't know who to share or feel safe enough to share their deepest, darkest, most precious, vulnerable secrets that maybe a tear or two could probably just have cleared your nervous system. So this is a very deep conversation. And the best way I know how is to remember something that you used to love as a child. Just remember anything.

It doesn't matter, GI Joes, building sandcastles, looking up at the sky, running, jumping, singing, dancing. Even if it's really small, you think it's really small. And I want you to once a week. I don't have enough time. For yourself, that's probably the issue. You have not carved out time for the most important thing in the world, which is the self. So let's just say five to 10 minutes.

If you can't, Carve out five to ten minutes a week for yourself and your heart. You probably deserve everything that's currently happening in your life. Five to ten minutes a week and take yourself on an inner child date. Yourself alone. Don't bring anybody else. Whether it was the playground, the seesaw, playing football, whatever.

and just allow, imagine what it was like whenever you used to hit that baseball or go swimming and just be in the energy of that and allow yourself to just feel that and be like, ah, I love you, little G. That right there can radically transform anyone's life. Why? Because the EKGs of the heart take the most powerful frequency in the world. So when you use it,

It just might have special gifts for you. And what I learned was, oh my goodness, the little kid is the one with the boundless energy. The little kid is the one with the endless creativity. The little kid is the one that always had these big aspirations of life. Where did it go?

Yeah, no, that right there. Easy. Like me and my wife, that's it in the beginning. we were like wrestling. I'm like, so hot. And she's like, he's so hot. And that's when we had the best sex. And I didn't even know that was going to happen. This was like a thing that I fumbled upon, but it was something about this act of play that heightened the frequency.

Yeah. And then one thing I want to tell men, just make sure that you have range, because if you always stay in that, then it'll be the point where when the dynamics of because the dynamics of the woman is always changing. You can never grasp what that is. That's like trying to.

really contain the waves of the ocean if you just stay in that and she's in a different mode yes then over time she'll be like oh i just feel like you're my i'm mothering you or something and and so like make sure that when you're in the play you also have

and you work on having a range where like say for instance you're walking down the street and there's like it's like a dark alley and there's like three other men and they're drunk like literally baby hold my hand to the right look down straight ahead boom I got you like that's not a time to play so she also wants to feel that oh this man can also protect me as well So play, protect, persevere.

I love that. Because I never thought about it in a way where you think about songs that have range. One of my all-time favorite songs, as far as musically, is Bohemian Rhapsody by Queen. And the level of range of where that song goes, I'm like, what? The first time I heard it, I was like, what is this? And it just takes me on an entire journey.

Well, I didn't know that that was rock bottom. I just knew that it felt at that time... I tried everything and for some reason, I could not move forward in my life. And meanwhile, I would see less talented people than me flying all over the world and and doing extraordinary things, I'm like, this is not making sense.

And so I love now you gave me something to think about, something that I embody every day inside of my marriage and inside of parenting and leadership as it pertains to business.

Oh, that's good. That's really good.

I'm in. Whatever question you want to ask.

So interesting because a girl in seventh grade rejected me named Ashley Bostrom at the skating rink. She led me on the whole year and I was deathly afraid to ask her out. And everybody's like, just ask her out. She's going to say yes. I asked her out and she said, no, because I'm in love with Roswell, which happened to be one of my best friends at the time.

And the level of crush, my soul, the level that my soul was crushed in that moment, I said, I will never in my life put myself in a position to be rejected like this again. So in some weird way, I developed all of these skills to be able to position myself to be seen so that they can see me.

And so women, I would find a way for women to always find attraction and come to me, come to me, come to me. One time I was in a nightclub and I would never approach a woman. And I was in a nightclub And I brought a book to a nightclub and I was reading the book in the nightclub.

And the most beautiful that every single person in the club was trying to holler at came to me. She was like, she just sat down with this weird look. She goes, why are you reading a book in a club? And I lied to her and I told her, I said, because my friend dragged me here. I don't want to be here. And I said, if I'm going to be here, well, then I'm just going to be here on my terms.

And I was just reading this book. She was like, so what are you reading? And so it was just. Something that was out of the ordinary that they're not typically used to. So I got really good at finding ways to be seen. That's probably why I'm a really good salesman and everything that I do sells out because I know how to position value. So thank you, Ashley Bostrom, because you gave me a great gift.

But in my past, I never approached a woman. They would always approach me based off of what I was wearing, what I was smelling, that I was different than everybody in the room. If I would see everybody do one thing, I'm like, well, I'm not going to do that thing. I'm going to observe the masses and do the opposite. So I get really good at that.

But I would not get really good at picking the kind of woman that I actually wanted to be with.

So I would pick, you know, what I thought was my picky list. Oh, this exotic woman with nice legs. So I get this exotic woman with nice legs, but she'd have a fiery attitude and she wouldn't know how to make money. And I'd be broke too. So we couldn't figure life out. And it was the same thing over and over and over again. I was like, why do I keep attracting the same kind of women?

And at that time, I wasn't doing a lot of self-help and learning interpersonal skills and things of that nature. And so I was like, these people just gotta be lucky, but it doesn't make sense. So in my darkest moment, which I now know is my rock bottom, that's when I remember saying, either I die,

Really beautiful, very exotic, nice legs, and there's nothing else to show for. So that was my past. And I slept with, I had cheated on every girl I'd ever had. I slept with so many women. And there wasn't, you know, in my young boy mind, I'm like, score and count. Like I slept with this many women. This would validate my worth and things like that.

And it'd be like, oh man, amongst the guys, I became cool because I sleep with all these women. I had no idea.

how unworthy i felt i had no idea at that time that i was a broken boy trying to be a man with no real role models on how to actually be a man yeah um because even the men were all doing the same things even when they were married so i had no role models of the kind of man i actually wanted to be like so i just settled for what was there and so that was my dating

In the past, it wasn't good, but it gave me data on when I did find the right one, who I was not going to be, because I then found worthiness in myself. And you often treat people how you treat yourself.

It's a weird question because I would not want to change anything. or alter anything that happened because one degree different then most likely I would not be here. But if I could keep the same life that I have right now and nothing changed, then let's play in that possibility.

If I could go back, because I would not like, I got baby chief, I got soul, I got a relationship with my 23-year-old daughter now, my beautiful wife. I'm like, no, I'm not trading that for nothing. So if I could keep everything I have the way that I have it now,

And I can go back and I can give little Garen, young Garen, broken boy Garen, trying to fill a hole that he didn't know was bottomless, advice. About dating, I'd say, you must learn how to work harder on yourself than you do on anything else outside of you. And then I'd be like, well, what does that look like? All right, so let me give you this book. Yeah.

You know, give me this book called The Four Agreements. Well, let me give you this book called The Power of Positive Thinking, but I want you to read this book from the context of where you're in now, learning about how to love yourself, learning about how to respect yourself, learning about how to honor yourself, because anyone that you attract... You're going to give them what you give yourself.

And if you give beyond what you give yourself, you're ultimately going to lose it because that energy is not a matching frequency and like attracts like. And so over time, you'll lose what you're out of resonance with. And so I would teach him about how to be in resonance with self. I would teach him how to build a strong foundation of self.

In this moment or I do something about it The moment I said do something about it new thoughts Started to enter my brain because typically we're habitual creatures by nature Why does this keep happening to me? Why is this because you probably keep asking the same question? But when I gave myself a new like commanded statement either I die

I would teach him about leadership, because if you don't know about leadership, you're definitely never going to lead a household. And so I would teach him about resonance, strong foundation, self-respect, dignity, honor. And I would get him around some healthy men who are married so that he could just learn. And I'm talking about married is not the end all be all.

who are devotional husbands who are devotional to their, to their marriage and parenting and find a way to get him exposed to that environment. That's what I would do.

I love that. I love that.

Mistakes that men make.

If you are in a professional setting and a student comes in your professional setting and somehow you have fallen for the student and then somehow you end up in her vagina and That is the ultimate no-no.

or I do something about it, it was as if it told the innate nature of my body that I had another option. So in that split second, I'm like, what could I do about it? Well, I can't, I blamed everybody else. I blame my skin color, the news, the weather, the president. I blame everybody for the situation that I was in.

And it's taking advantage of your power. and this happens in music it happens in entertainment modeling it happens in the spiritual communities with facilitators and head coaches and things of that nature because when you're on this pedestal people almost like shrink and it's almost like they'll do what you say and then it becomes this wave of oh no that's leaky sexual energy

And so if you cannot contain yourself with discipline, honestly, you won't be like truly respected. And so there'll be this like lull shadow hanging over what people think of you and then who you really are. And those two are going to eventually bottleneck. And it will never work in your favor because that's how energy works. So that's a major no-no. Were you about to say something?

Okay, yeah. That's a major no-no. I would say that trying to overcompensate and make your life look like something that it's actually not, I'm like, bro, lying... for the sake of approval is a hurt little boy, not gonna work in your favor. And I think one of the biggest things, I wanna speak about what I think all men should strive for. Do your best to live a life of integrity.

And truly, if you truly want to attract the woman that your soul is craving, not the one you settle for. You must become the kind of man that matches that high valued woman. So if you're not a high valued man, you don't stand a chance with a woman who knows herself. So I need you to know yourself. Like, what are you up to in the world?

Like, don't get in a relationship and then be like, oh, can you pay for me? I can't. I need you to take care of me. So baby, it's like an iteration of a baby over and over and over and over and over again. And what women look for, and 94% of my clientele are powerful, driven women. So let me give you a cheat code.

They are looking for, because a lot of women, not all women, but a lot of women, they have this vision of being married, having somebody That can wrap their arms around them so where they can actually just not have to protect themselves. They had to protect themselves their whole life from predators or people wanting something from them their whole life.

So they want somebody that they can feel safe around physically. Mentally and spiritually. So knowing yourself, what you're up to, where you're going, and you can effortlessly communicate that is going to create a notion of safety inside of her womb. And when you are when you have some aspect of physical stature, I'm not saying that's the end all be all.

These are just conversations that I work with women on. And I ask them, what is your dream person? And it's like someone who I feel safe walking down the street with. So you being in your feminine and you want her to be in her feminine, that right there, there's no polarity. So either she's in her masculine, you're in your feminine, or you're in your rightful state.

But what I realized was not one of those people said, hey, don't write that book that you always said that you were going to write. Hey, don't do that. That was all me. So it was in that moment I realized I was the bottleneck to my life because I never blamed myself. I never took radical responsibility for where my life was. So.

And she's in her rightful state. And then you can experience what the what the infinity sign actually represents. This coagulation of this where two becomes one type energy. They are looking for somebody who can hold them.

And all of their emotions, no matter how crazy, no matter how rangeful, because as the little kid who is just learning to get all of the stuff out, women have also had their voices stuffed. So imagine that woman being a little girl that's times 10 crazy. never had an opportunity to really express what's in there. So it might in the beginning come out as rage and why do you have to be so angry?

And women are associated with angry, especially black women. So it's like, if you don't have confidence in yourself to know that and communicate, I can hold for all of it. I signed up for all of it. That right there is what's missing in most men, is they blame the very thing that's actually needed to expand them.

Like a woman's rage, once you allow yourself to hold, will expand you a thousand times greater than you sit right now by yourself.

Every single time I had any point of connection, whether it was text, whether it was FaceTime, in person, there was this energy that just goes... I was like, what is that? I don't know, but it was just so, there was something so alive, like she awoken aliveness inside of me before I even knew what that term was. And it just never stopped. And on our first date,

I saw something I'd never seen in my entire life. With every girl I'd ever dated, I'd never saw past the next week. And how I would just end up, because I settled for the girl, what would happen was I'd end up dating a girl who was trying to be a woman to then need enough evidence outside, outside evidence, and enough time

To then see if she qualifies to be a wife when I didn't even know what a wife material was. So this is just this bottomless pit. With Blair, there was like this portal opened up. This was on our first date. And I saw what I'd never seen before in my life.

We went to, she asked me on a date. She asked me on a date. Nice. She's like, Garen, has any woman ever asked you on a date? I was like, no. Garen Jones, I'd love to take you on a date. And I was like, all right. I was like, well, when you mean date, when you mean like we're going to eat or we're together. She was like, I think it's like, I take you on a date. I pay for it. You take you on a date.

The next time you go. And I was just like, I've never, this was a conversation I'd never heard in my life. And so as I, it was Sadie Hawkins day. She asked you out as I, as I closed. We went to Mr. Chow's in L.A. And we went to Mr. Chow's in L.A. And then I saw because I wasn't thinking about, no, I'll take you. I was like, this is something new, but I'm open to it. I saw my future.

When I took radical responsibility, I started thinking, well, what could I be responsible for? I was responsible for being overweight, responsible for having a negative attitude, responsible for gossiping and trying to tear people down, complaining. I was responsible for all of the things negative in my life. That's when I threw my hands up. And I'm just like, How can I? I'm tired of fighting.

I saw her being the mother of our children. I saw her being my wife. And I told her that night.

That night, on our first date.

But I wasn't like punching above my weight class.

There was something that took over my whole body and I was willing to express it in its full, raw, vulnerable truth. And if it didn't work out, I was willing to take it didn't work out. But at least I was honest.

She did like this. Went to the bathroom, called her best friend, I found out. And told her what happened. And then ultimately, what I saw is what happened.

Yeah, and I'm saying this might not work for the next person, but it worked for me.

So you write three columns. First column, write the attribute that you want in a woman and be as picky as possible.

Typically, I wrote two attributes. This time I decided I was going to be as picky as possible, and I had 62 attributes on there. Loves God, masculine, can easily slip into her feminine, can make her own money, but loves being taken care of, loves to travel, loves personal growth. And I was writing down, if this were a Build-A-Bear, I'm being so picky about I wrote down 62 attributes.

And then right after that, wrote down how I wanted to feel in the relationship. Next column. How you want to feel in the relationship, but how you want to feel is also what you should mirror. If you're going to meet your mirror.

And I wrote down, I want to feel seen and heard and I want people, I don't want to have to communicate things and for people to just like know when I need help and support and love and things like that. So I wrote that down in its entirety. Third column, the top five places where you would meet this person that you don't typically go to, circle and star the one

that you feel the most connected to that has the most attributes connected to it. So if you look at your attributes column and then you look at where you'll meet this person, make sure mine was literally circled and starred personal development seminar. Interesting how I met my wife who loves to read, who loves personal growth, who can make her own money, but loves being taken care of all of.

And that was the one that had the most. And that was the one I circled and starred. And that's where I met. That's where I met Blair. So you have those three components. Now, here's what's going to happen. Just like you put a specific address in a GPS system, you are putting a specific address in your soulmate's GPS system.

And how that works is when you do that in a car, it'll give you five different ways to get there. The long way or the short way. So... When I wrote down my list, I didn't know that I wasn't half of those things on that list. Wow. So it took three years for me to develop into the person that was actually the reflection of that list.

I don't want to fight anymore. I want to be healthy. I want to be happy. I want to be surrounded by nothing but positive people. I just want to inspire people. And I want to make a bunch of money. And I want that money to represent something that I passionately believe in that I would do for free. Just show me a sign. Show me a sign. Show me a sign. And a week later, I'm at a gas station.

When I became the reflection of that list, that's when I met my mirror.

Here's the last thing I want to say.

When you look into the mirror, you're not seeing what you actually look like. You're seeing a reflection of what you look like. In order for you to see what you look like, you literally gotta take a selfie and then turn the photo, flip the photo, you can see what you actually look like. So a mirror reflects the opposite of what you look like.

So sometimes you're like, this person is just like me, not gonna last. Because there's no friction to develop. It'll last in the settling of it, but there's no friction that can help you climb that mountain. So Blair, we're of the similar makeup, but she's the opposite of everything that's my genius. It's her weakness. Everything that's her genius is my weakness, and that's what creates.

So she's my mirror of the opposite part of me.

So the artist is the little kid, the one that I never take my eye off of. And we're all creators. We all started off as creators with big energy, living in your bigness. And when you tap into that energy, it unlocks a power. So that's where my company, Artist Power, was birthed, was thinking about how can I create a world where adults feel safe enough to

to remember who they've always been deep down on the inside, where all their magic is, where all their energy is, where all their creativity is. So everything that I do has an ingredient of an inner child inside of it, whether it be the masterminds or the leadership. I've got a high-level leadership CFOs and founders program that I'm doing starting January for 12 weeks.

And then we're going to retreat in Costa Rica. But I'll be teaching the range of man, leadership, entrepreneur. But then also, all of that is coming from the iteration of the little kid with full permission to be all of that. So I'll be teaching that while... just facilitating, just masterminding and things with the people who are in the container, the right combination of people.

Then we'll go to retreat. And then in June, I have another retreat that is open for anyone that's over 18. And there's a whole interview process. And that is all about play and activations and painting and dancing and singing and drumming and chanting and

and truly activating your soul's permission to full self acceptance so that you can be who you were actually called to be in the world and not part of who you're not part of who you're called to be.

Thank you so much. And thank you for the work that you do in the world as well. And I just... Just want to acknowledge you for being brave enough to create platforms like this. So stories like mine have wings. I know that it's not easy.

With my last $2, and anybody that knows anything about Los Angeles gas, you get a gallon for like $4.59. So I can even get a gallon. Last $2, putting what I can in there, homeless person asked me for money. And I said, you have more money than me. And he said, change your mindset, change your life. So that statement right there took a life that would have gone on.

So for you spreading these messages, may you and your family just be enriched 10 times over in an effortless way for all of the value that you're putting out on the world. So thank you again for this opportunity.

I probably would have been dead within a year. And created a conscious interrupt that made me think, wait a second, what if my whole life was a lie based off of how I was thinking? Okay, so let me start thinking the opposite and doing the opposite in every area of my life where I'm not happy.

And there started the trajectory of the man, of the devoted husband, of the devoted father, of the extraordinary businessman that you now see who did not grow up with any model of who I'm representing standing here as a man right now.

For me, yes. I don't think that everybody needs to hit rock bottom if they know what to look for. I didn't know what to look for, and I was hard-headed, and I wouldn't listen to somebody. And so rock bottom is what I needed to hit because as soon as you can bounce on the – then all of a sudden it's one of those things where I just needed something to just slap me up.

And in the past, I've always been hardheaded. But again, I want to say, you don't have to do that. If you know the book to read, the mentors to have, the podcast to watch. I didn't know that at that time. So it was like basically me against the world.

That just kept giving.

The thing that I didn't realize was as valuable as it actually is is a community of forward-thinking, goal-driven people who are living in the direction that you want to live in. I had no idea just how powerful being around the right combination of people, because I was a lone wolf. And I had friends, but in my mind, I was a lone wolf, and I was selfish, and it was just my ego.

I allowed my ego to just take over. And I would say... which would make sense why just even our, our government tries everything they do to try to separate us from actually coming together as a community, whether it's black, white, gay, straight, like man, woman, the trans, cis community, that everything is like, pull them apart, pull them apart, pull them apart. You can clearly see it.

And I'm a gamer, so I can see games played all day long. And, um, When somebody is really wanting to evolve or avoid hitting rock bottom, I'd say accountability is one of the single most things that you can sort out. You don't even need money for it. There is accountability groups all over Facebook. Your energy is worth more than your money.

You just got to know what to look for because it wasn't until I was overweight. I was negative. I didn't have any money. I wanted to make a difference in my life, but I didn't know how to. I... Went into a community that was, they focused on health. They did personal development every day. They inspired their community. They were making a difference in the world.

I just stayed in that environment. So naturally, you become the sum total of the people that you hang out with the most. I started getting healthy. I started feeling better about myself. I started sharing that wealth. which is health, I started motivating people. I started reading the same books because it's a form of language, the frequency that you're continuously in.

And when you're around two or more people, it amplifies the frequency. So when you stay in those environments that are continuously growing, you cannot not grow because of how energy works.

It's now 300. I think I'm probably on 367. Okay, wow.

Yeah, well, the thing about it is It's like that movie Jumanji. Remember whenever they were turning the pages and then the pages started growing with the read or things started happening as you were changing. If you read a book properly that is meant to teach you something, you are actually called to apply. And then when you apply, that insinuates you grow.

If you go back to read that same book, you will not be the same person. So every time I kept reading the book, I kept getting these really cool results in my life. So I said, so why would I stop reading the book? And I was going to these free leadership seminars. And they said, if you ever find a really good book, never stop reading it. Always keep it in your back pocket.

So I just kept reading it. And meanwhile, I go to a friend's house. He's got this whole shelf. He's like, look at all these books that I read. Meanwhile, nothing in his life. resembles mainly any of those books that he read. So what that told me was he reads books from memory, and I would read a book from mastery, not knowing what that was.

I would read a book until it started reading me, meaning my life was a replica of the information that was stored. If you see my bookshelf right now, I'm going to show you. I literally have three books on the shelf. One of them is The Power of Positive Thinking. The other one is my book. And another one is called Boiling Energy that has to do with community healing while using music.

And, you know, you come over there like, yo, you only have three books. And I was like, ask me how many times I read that book, though.

For that?

I don't remember the author, but it is a really, really beautiful book that I think every man should read. And it's called No More Mr. Nice Guy. Oh, Robert Glover. So No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover. The magic will start to triculate in the third read. Do not settle for the first read and be like, oh, I got it. No. You want it to triculate.

And so after the third read, all of a sudden you'll start absorbing. And then you'll start remembering things that you didn't even realize that neurons were shut off when you were like five years old. You just keep reading over and over and over. So No More Mr. Nice Guy is a really, really, really good book. And there's three that I would recommend. The Power by Rhonda Byrnes.

She also did The Secret, but The Power, listening to the audio book, was recorded in the frequency of the heart. So even if you're not listening for memory, it's restructuring your being. And so it's all about mindfulness, loving yourself, honoring yourself, and then activating a part of yourself that most men shut off because boys don't cry.