Gary Direnfeld

I have to be aware of it.

That's the practice of meditation.

The mindfulness is catching it in real life and then calming myself.

These are strategies that are taught in dialectical behavior therapy, amongst other strategies as well.

I want to tell you a story.

This person asks the rabbi, what's the difference between Christianity and Judaism?

This one's different.

All right.

This one's different.

So the rabbi says, and by the way, I'm not presenting myself as a theologian here, so I could get this wrong, but here's the story.

I feel like I needed that disclaimer.

Anyways, so the rabbi says in Christianity, you are judged by your feelings.

You are judged by your thoughts, improper thoughts, improper feelings.

Yet, in Judaism, we are not.

We're judged by our behavior.

And the rabbi explained, just as you did, actually, David, in the first segment, that

That feelings can be so fast, thoughts so fast, so fleeting, that in truth, we can't control them.

They come, they go.

However, behavior is always a choice.

And that's why the rabbi said that in Judaism, we're not going to hold you accountable for what you're feeling or thinking, but we or the Lord will hold you accountable for what you do.