Geeta

Katsotaanpa Jill, Karen ja Gita. Hän oli syntynyt 17 vuotta sitten, kun oli ensimmäinen lapsi.

It's also known as an obstetric anal sphincter injury. I suffered my first episode of bowel incontinence the very next day. From then till now I've been incontinent and suffer from pain due to nerve damage. It really just had a huge ripple effect on my entire life. I found it difficult to leave the house. I lost my self-esteem and confidence. It was very isolating. I also lost my career as a lawyer that I'd worked so hard to achieve.

It was very difficult. You're constantly rushing to the bathroom, you're having accidents, and actually things got so bad, I needed to move in with my parents, which wasn't the part of my plan at all for that extra support. But my mum, who was luckily a doctor, she was able to then advocate for me to get the care that I needed. As both Karen and Jill have said, it is very isolating when your friends are going to you.

Baby groups and doing all normal activities. My life revolved around hospital appointments for both myself and my daughter Maya, because unfortunately she was injured as well.

We do not need to be protected from information about childbirth. We need to be given information about childbirth. We need to be told our personalized risks, because then we actually can advocate for ourselves during childbirth. You know, sometimes there's nothing you can do about it. Things do go wrong sometimes. But at least if you've got that education piece of knowledge, you're not left vulnerable. And it's that vulnerability that causes the trauma.

koska se ei ole hänen vaikutuksensa, mutta se on tärkeää. Se on osa hänen elämänsä tarinaa, joten kyllä, minulla ei ole yksiköitä. Ja minun tyttömäteni Maija, hänellä on itse asiassa fysiittinen vaikutus, joten hänellä ei ollut mitään haittaa tarinaa. Ja itse asiassa hän on tullut osana minun perheeni. Hän on todella iloinen siitä, mitä minä teen, jotta pystyn auttamaan toisia naisia. Olen erittäin onnellinen minun lasteni kanssa ja he tietävät koko minun tarinani. Joten kyllä, olisin yksinkertainen siitä, mitä toiset kaksi naisia sanoivat.

Just keen to hear as we end in a couple of minutes time how you all are right now and what a good day looks like, even with the injuries you sustained, what enjoyment feels like in your own lives. Geeta, firstly. I feel like I'm very lucky because first of all I started volunteering with the Mazic Foundation and then a few years ago I was fully supported back to my law firm. But now I actually am in a different role. I purely work in

Advocating and supporting other women in patient safety and maternity safety. So I feel very lucky now to be doing the work that I'm doing. A good day is not having an accident, but that generally doesn't happen. But yeah, things have moved on.