Gemma Speck

The moment really that somebody takes everything that you have given them

Time, kindness, energy, love, trust.

And they say, this means nothing to me.

I'm going to go and do what I want anyways.

It is a pain like no other because betrayal doesn't just change how you relate and how you see that person.

It changes how you see everyone.

It changes how you approach all future relationships, platonic, familial, romantic or otherwise.

And it changes how you see yourself.

There is a science, a psychology to this pain that really helps capture how earth shattering moments like this can be and how they influence our psychology and who we go forward as people.

So today we're going to lay it all out there from the response of your nervous system to

to betrayal trauma theory, betrayal blindness, the role of shattered assumptions, but then also the seven stages of healing from betrayal and the silver lining, the optimism that we're going to end with, that betrayal is something you can recover from.

So we have a lot to cover today.

If you have been through this, if you are struggling with the recent betrayal, I hope this episode helps you even in the tiniest of ways.

Without further ado, let's get into it.

When you truly start to think about betrayal and when you start to look for betrayal, you really do begin to realize just how many forms it comes in.

I think our mind often goes to the typical things, like at least my mind.

When I think of betrayal, I think of cheating.

I think of infidelity.

I think of a friend lying to you, a friend sharing a secret.

Um, there are so many other forms of betrayal that we don't talk about.