Gemma Speck

And that makes relationships in the future really, really hard.

Another big thing is that we don't just find it hard to trust others because of these shattered assumptions.

We find it hard to trust ourselves.

And I actually think this is the more insidious part.

Although you may rationally know, and I will happily tell you, everybody may tell you this is not your fault.

Nobody asked to be betrayed.

It's just not your fault.

no matter how much people say like, this came out of nowhere, we had no idea, there was no signs, because your brain is trying to find all possible ways to avoid this from happening again, eventually it's going to turn that skepticism towards you and it's going to turn it into it's like, it's looking for an answer.

Eventually it's going to think, am I the reason?

Did I do something to deserve this?

Is my intuition just all wrong?

Do I just not know how to read people?

Am I just stupid?

Eventually your brain, it's normal.

It's going to think that.

None of that is true.

Trust me.

You weren't stupid.

You didn't know.

Really, it's just not true.