Gemma Speck

It doesn't suddenly erase this part of their history.

Just because they're a great person doesn't mean that they've always been that way.

The fact that they betrayed you

is just as much a part of their story as it is of yours.

There will always be a part of them that knows, there will always be a part of them that did that act, like that had the capacity to do that.

So I want to wrap up this episode by just saying, by just saying like, don't think that

you as a victim of this betrayal were somehow and I know this is going to sound weird but somehow special it is them through and through it like the people have the capacity to do this it's something in them just really again that quote from the beginning saw your needs saw the respect that you were owed and decided that's just not not as important as my own interests and went ahead with that

That is a completely them situation.

I know a lot of this is just like lingo and words and like whatever, psychobabble theories.

And sometimes like that cannot erase the pain of what you're going through.

But I do hope the psychoeducation and the more scientific perspective on what you're experiencing can neutralize some of the shame and neutralize some of like the grief

By showing you that like, not that this is a normal experience, but this is like, there are things to this experience that every human would go through and that every human would feel pain by because they are so devastating and you are no different.

It's also something that like,

I don't know, time maybe won't heal, but does wonders for.

And I think the fact that you are moving through this with grace, you are looking to learn, you are looking to understand yourself better through the actions of somebody else is really, really powerful stuff.

And I think that there is a lot of healing and amazing things coming your way.

I really do believe it.

I

for every terrible person or terrible institution or terrible situation out there, there is like something equally as gorgeous and wonderful.

And I think that you are 100% deserving of it and it is on its way to you.