Glennon Doyle

His name is Dan Savage.

And he, during an interview, somebody asked him about community and about making it through this time.

And he said, what we do is every day we wake up and we bury our friends in the morning, we march in the afternoon, and at night we dance.

And I think that the answer is in that sentence.

I think that we have to make space to grieve.

We cannot dissociate from it.

If this is a time that is sad for us, we have to sit with that.

There's something about the facing the feeling, the sitting with the feeling, the not dissociating that creates fuel, right?

It's like without that, you don't get to the afternoon.

I know that.

There's some kind of groundedness or directionality or realness that people who grieve bring to the afternoon work, which makes me trust them.

It's like you've got to let your heart break to be worthy of the work.

Otherwise, you're doing the work for different reasons.

And I can't really explain it.

It just feels like not real for show or for performance or something.

So the grieving and then the working, we don't get to abandon the work.

Whatever the work is for you is different for all of us.

But there has to be the work.

And then the work has to stop every day.

And then the dancing.