Glennon Doyle

Yes.

Yes.

Because it's not about the thing. It's the gaslightees becoming more invested in changing the gaslighter's perception of them. That's right. It's not even about the problem anymore. It's about, no, no, no, I don't think I'm that way. And you must agree with me, which you call the urge to merge. So can you talk to us about how the urge to merge gets us into the gaslight tango?

Because it's not about the thing. It's the gaslightees becoming more invested in changing the gaslighter's perception of them. That's right. It's not even about the problem anymore. It's about, no, no, no, I don't think I'm that way. And you must agree with me, which you call the urge to merge. So can you talk to us about how the urge to merge gets us into the gaslight tango?

Because it's not about the thing. It's the gaslightees becoming more invested in changing the gaslighter's perception of them. That's right. It's not even about the problem anymore. It's about, no, no, no, I don't think I'm that way. And you must agree with me, which you call the urge to merge. So can you talk to us about how the urge to merge gets us into the gaslight tango?

So it's the urge to merge a single perspective. It's to merge into a single perspective. We must have this one perspective.

So it's the urge to merge a single perspective. It's to merge into a single perspective. We must have this one perspective.

So it's the urge to merge a single perspective. It's to merge into a single perspective. We must have this one perspective.

Okay, so how does that look in the scenario in which my sister is at a party and she comes back after the party with her ex-boyfriend and her ex-boyfriend says, you were flirting. I saw you flirting. And if she's in her gaslighting phase, she says what, sister?

Okay, so how does that look in the scenario in which my sister is at a party and she comes back after the party with her ex-boyfriend and her ex-boyfriend says, you were flirting. I saw you flirting. And if she's in her gaslighting phase, she says what, sister?

Okay, so how does that look in the scenario in which my sister is at a party and she comes back after the party with her ex-boyfriend and her ex-boyfriend says, you were flirting. I saw you flirting. And if she's in her gaslighting phase, she says what, sister?

And then how does that change your behavior at the party the next time? Oh, you do.

And then how does that change your behavior at the party the next time? Oh, you do.

And then how does that change your behavior at the party the next time? Oh, you do.

Yeah. Yeah. You say in your work that gaslighting is always the creation of two people. The gaslighter who sows confusion and doubt and a gaslightee who is willing to doubt their own perceptions to keep the relationship going. Okay. Let's talk about that because one of the things that makes me uncomfortable with that definition is

Yeah. Yeah. You say in your work that gaslighting is always the creation of two people. The gaslighter who sows confusion and doubt and a gaslightee who is willing to doubt their own perceptions to keep the relationship going. Okay. Let's talk about that because one of the things that makes me uncomfortable with that definition is

Yeah. Yeah. You say in your work that gaslighting is always the creation of two people. The gaslighter who sows confusion and doubt and a gaslightee who is willing to doubt their own perceptions to keep the relationship going. Okay. Let's talk about that because one of the things that makes me uncomfortable with that definition is

Is that for me, I feel like I learned how to be a gaslightee as a child, right?

Is that for me, I feel like I learned how to be a gaslightee as a child, right?

Is that for me, I feel like I learned how to be a gaslightee as a child, right?