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Glennon

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8936 total appearances

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We Can Do Hard Things
SELF CARE: How do we identify our real needs and finally get them met? (Best Of)

blow up my little on the outside perfect family so that I don't have to abandon myself again, right? Do I abandon everyone's expectations of me and honor myself or do I continue to honor everyone's expectations of me and abandon myself, right? It felt like a life or death situation for me. And as you know, I almost decided to go back to my broken life so that I didn't have to rock the boat.

We Can Do Hard Things
SELF CARE: How do we identify our real needs and finally get them met? (Best Of)

blow up my little on the outside perfect family so that I don't have to abandon myself again, right? Do I abandon everyone's expectations of me and honor myself or do I continue to honor everyone's expectations of me and abandon myself, right? It felt like a life or death situation for me. And as you know, I almost decided to go back to my broken life so that I didn't have to rock the boat.

We Can Do Hard Things
SELF CARE: How do we identify our real needs and finally get them met? (Best Of)

But I had this moment with Tish where I looked at her and I thought, oh my God, I'm staying in this marriage for her. But would I want this marriage for her? And if I would not want this marriage for my little girl, then why am I modeling bad love in an unbrave life and abandoning self and calling that good parenting? Calling that good parenting. And the reason for that was very clear.

We Can Do Hard Things
SELF CARE: How do we identify our real needs and finally get them met? (Best Of)

But I had this moment with Tish where I looked at her and I thought, oh my God, I'm staying in this marriage for her. But would I want this marriage for her? And if I would not want this marriage for my little girl, then why am I modeling bad love in an unbrave life and abandoning self and calling that good parenting? Calling that good parenting. And the reason for that was very clear.

We Can Do Hard Things
SELF CARE: How do we identify our real needs and finally get them met? (Best Of)

But I had this moment with Tish where I looked at her and I thought, oh my God, I'm staying in this marriage for her. But would I want this marriage for her? And if I would not want this marriage for my little girl, then why am I modeling bad love in an unbrave life and abandoning self and calling that good parenting? Calling that good parenting. And the reason for that was very clear.

We Can Do Hard Things
SELF CARE: How do we identify our real needs and finally get them met? (Best Of)

The reason for that is that I was taught, trained, conditioned to believe that a good mother, that good parenting is abandoning yourself, right? It's just burying your needs, your dreams, your ambition, your true feelings, all of it, and calling that love. Yeah. Being a martyr.

We Can Do Hard Things
SELF CARE: How do we identify our real needs and finally get them met? (Best Of)

The reason for that is that I was taught, trained, conditioned to believe that a good mother, that good parenting is abandoning yourself, right? It's just burying your needs, your dreams, your ambition, your true feelings, all of it, and calling that love. Yeah. Being a martyr.

We Can Do Hard Things
SELF CARE: How do we identify our real needs and finally get them met? (Best Of)

The reason for that is that I was taught, trained, conditioned to believe that a good mother, that good parenting is abandoning yourself, right? It's just burying your needs, your dreams, your ambition, your true feelings, all of it, and calling that love. Yeah. Being a martyr.

We Can Do Hard Things
SELF CARE: How do we identify our real needs and finally get them met? (Best Of)

And then we wonder why we don't know how to get our needs met, why we don't know who ourselves are. It's because it's not our fault. I mean, it's our responsibility to figure out, but it's not our fault. It's been held up to us as the epitome of womanhood is selflessness. Like, imagine that. Think about that. The way you succeed as a woman is to not have a self.

We Can Do Hard Things
SELF CARE: How do we identify our real needs and finally get them met? (Best Of)

And then we wonder why we don't know how to get our needs met, why we don't know who ourselves are. It's because it's not our fault. I mean, it's our responsibility to figure out, but it's not our fault. It's been held up to us as the epitome of womanhood is selflessness. Like, imagine that. Think about that. The way you succeed as a woman is to not have a self.

We Can Do Hard Things
SELF CARE: How do we identify our real needs and finally get them met? (Best Of)

And then we wonder why we don't know how to get our needs met, why we don't know who ourselves are. It's because it's not our fault. I mean, it's our responsibility to figure out, but it's not our fault. It's been held up to us as the epitome of womanhood is selflessness. Like, imagine that. Think about that. The way you succeed as a woman is to not have a self.

We Can Do Hard Things
SELF CARE: How do we identify our real needs and finally get them met? (Best Of)

That is just, I feel so strongly that in listening to women for so long that the way to speak to a woman is to appeal to her need to love well. Women want to love well. They want to love their people well. And I just have come to the idea that we cannot love our people well if we do not have a self. If you cannot say, I love you, if you don't even know who that I is, right?

We Can Do Hard Things
SELF CARE: How do we identify our real needs and finally get them met? (Best Of)

That is just, I feel so strongly that in listening to women for so long that the way to speak to a woman is to appeal to her need to love well. Women want to love well. They want to love their people well. And I just have come to the idea that we cannot love our people well if we do not have a self. If you cannot say, I love you, if you don't even know who that I is, right?

We Can Do Hard Things
SELF CARE: How do we identify our real needs and finally get them met? (Best Of)

That is just, I feel so strongly that in listening to women for so long that the way to speak to a woman is to appeal to her need to love well. Women want to love well. They want to love their people well. And I just have come to the idea that we cannot love our people well if we do not have a self. If you cannot say, I love you, if you don't even know who that I is, right?

We Can Do Hard Things
SELF CARE: How do we identify our real needs and finally get them met? (Best Of)

And when we pass down this idea to our children or to our partners or to the world by how we live, that love is martyrdom. then it's just a brutal legacy to pass on. So that's when I really started realizing, oh, I see. When I abandon myself, I am also abandoning my children. When I abandon myself, I am also abandoning the world.

We Can Do Hard Things
SELF CARE: How do we identify our real needs and finally get them met? (Best Of)

And when we pass down this idea to our children or to our partners or to the world by how we live, that love is martyrdom. then it's just a brutal legacy to pass on. So that's when I really started realizing, oh, I see. When I abandon myself, I am also abandoning my children. When I abandon myself, I am also abandoning the world.

We Can Do Hard Things
SELF CARE: How do we identify our real needs and finally get them met? (Best Of)

And when we pass down this idea to our children or to our partners or to the world by how we live, that love is martyrdom. then it's just a brutal legacy to pass on. So that's when I really started realizing, oh, I see. When I abandon myself, I am also abandoning my children. When I abandon myself, I am also abandoning the world.

We Can Do Hard Things
SELF CARE: How do we identify our real needs and finally get them met? (Best Of)

When women abandon ourselves, we do not offer the gift of ourselves to our children, to our partners, to our world. And that is abandonment of everything else.

We Can Do Hard Things
SELF CARE: How do we identify our real needs and finally get them met? (Best Of)

When women abandon ourselves, we do not offer the gift of ourselves to our children, to our partners, to our world. And that is abandonment of everything else.

We Can Do Hard Things
SELF CARE: How do we identify our real needs and finally get them met? (Best Of)

When women abandon ourselves, we do not offer the gift of ourselves to our children, to our partners, to our world. And that is abandonment of everything else.