Glennon

So give us an example of that. What's an example of not getting your needs met in a proactive way? So you destroy yourself in a way of getting that need met.

So give us an example of that. What's an example of not getting your needs met in a proactive way? So you destroy yourself in a way of getting that need met.

It's so interesting. It's like if you find yourself like a toddler defiantly getting what you need, like if you are a 45-year-old woman and you find yourself Well, I need – behaving like a toddler trying to get a need met, that's a sign that you're not getting that need met in a grown-up way that you actually have the right to do. Right. Right? Because you are a grown-up. Okay.

It's so interesting. It's like if you find yourself like a toddler defiantly getting what you need, like if you are a 45-year-old woman and you find yourself Well, I need – behaving like a toddler trying to get a need met, that's a sign that you're not getting that need met in a grown-up way that you actually have the right to do. Right. Right? Because you are a grown-up. Okay.

It's so interesting. It's like if you find yourself like a toddler defiantly getting what you need, like if you are a 45-year-old woman and you find yourself Well, I need – behaving like a toddler trying to get a need met, that's a sign that you're not getting that need met in a grown-up way that you actually have the right to do. Right. Right? Because you are a grown-up. Okay.

Let's talk about the ways – because when you think about self-care, this is one of the ways that I think about it. If I don't know what something means, I try to think of the opposite of it. Right? So if you're going to care for yourself – None of us know what that means. So what's the opposite of that? What's the opposite of caring for something? Abuse, neglect, abandonment, right?

Let's talk about the ways – because when you think about self-care, this is one of the ways that I think about it. If I don't know what something means, I try to think of the opposite of it. Right? So if you're going to care for yourself – None of us know what that means. So what's the opposite of that? What's the opposite of caring for something? Abuse, neglect, abandonment, right?

Let's talk about the ways – because when you think about self-care, this is one of the ways that I think about it. If I don't know what something means, I try to think of the opposite of it. Right? So if you're going to care for yourself – None of us know what that means. So what's the opposite of that? What's the opposite of caring for something? Abuse, neglect, abandonment, right?

Abuse, neglect, abandonment. If we are abusing ourselves, neglecting ourselves or abandoning ourselves, we know we're doing the opposite of self-care, right? And the tragedy of that is that it's, women are, little girls are trained to abandon their emotions, right? I mean, one way we definitely do not take care of ourselves is that we don't take care of our emotional lives, our emotional selves.

Abuse, neglect, abandonment. If we are abusing ourselves, neglecting ourselves or abandoning ourselves, we know we're doing the opposite of self-care, right? And the tragedy of that is that it's, women are, little girls are trained to abandon their emotions, right? I mean, one way we definitely do not take care of ourselves is that we don't take care of our emotional lives, our emotional selves.

Abuse, neglect, abandonment. If we are abusing ourselves, neglecting ourselves or abandoning ourselves, we know we're doing the opposite of self-care, right? And the tragedy of that is that it's, women are, little girls are trained to abandon their emotions, right? I mean, one way we definitely do not take care of ourselves is that we don't take care of our emotional lives, our emotional selves.

We don't tend to our emotional selves. And that is because we are trained not to, right? I mean, I was a third grade teacher. I was also a small child that was a girl. So I know that I was constantly taught Smile, be accommodating, be pleasant, be pretty. Don't be angry. If you're mad at somebody, just be nice about it, right? Other people's comfort. Don't make her sad.

We don't tend to our emotional selves. And that is because we are trained not to, right? I mean, I was a third grade teacher. I was also a small child that was a girl. So I know that I was constantly taught Smile, be accommodating, be pleasant, be pretty. Don't be angry. If you're mad at somebody, just be nice about it, right? Other people's comfort. Don't make her sad.

We don't tend to our emotional selves. And that is because we are trained not to, right? I mean, I was a third grade teacher. I was also a small child that was a girl. So I know that I was constantly taught Smile, be accommodating, be pleasant, be pretty. Don't be angry. If you're mad at somebody, just be nice about it, right? Other people's comfort. Don't make her sad.

Other people's comfort is more important than yours, right? So don't hurt someone else's feelings, even if it means abandoning your own feelings or self. right? You have this, when you're a little girl, you have a certain amount of emotions you're allowed to feel. And they usually include pleasantness and gratefulness. Those ideas are feminine, right?

Other people's comfort is more important than yours, right? So don't hurt someone else's feelings, even if it means abandoning your own feelings or self. right? You have this, when you're a little girl, you have a certain amount of emotions you're allowed to feel. And they usually include pleasantness and gratefulness. Those ideas are feminine, right?

Other people's comfort is more important than yours, right? So don't hurt someone else's feelings, even if it means abandoning your own feelings or self. right? You have this, when you're a little girl, you have a certain amount of emotions you're allowed to feel. And they usually include pleasantness and gratefulness. Those ideas are feminine, right?

But the ideas of anger and jealousy and sadness and envy and heartbreak, these are not, those are not for feeling. Those are unfeminine. Those are uncomfortable for the world for a little girl to show, right? And so we don't, we learn to We learn that if we feel angry or jealous or whatever, that those are not, that doesn't mean there's something wrong out there.

But the ideas of anger and jealousy and sadness and envy and heartbreak, these are not, those are not for feeling. Those are unfeminine. Those are uncomfortable for the world for a little girl to show, right? And so we don't, we learn to We learn that if we feel angry or jealous or whatever, that those are not, that doesn't mean there's something wrong out there.

But the ideas of anger and jealousy and sadness and envy and heartbreak, these are not, those are not for feeling. Those are unfeminine. Those are uncomfortable for the world for a little girl to show, right? And so we don't, we learn to We learn that if we feel angry or jealous or whatever, that those are not, that doesn't mean there's something wrong out there.