Graham Weaver

Yeah, what's cool about the nine lives exercise is I think people get really intimidated by saying you got to find your passion. And I got one thing and they get in their head and I'm like, okay, let's say you had nine. They can rattle them off like right away. Okay, I'll do this. You know, I'd be a professor and I'd be a law author and I'd start this business. I'd do a nonprofit.

Yeah, what's cool about the nine lives exercise is I think people get really intimidated by saying you got to find your passion. And I got one thing and they get in their head and I'm like, okay, let's say you had nine. They can rattle them off like right away. Okay, I'll do this. You know, I'd be a professor and I'd be a law author and I'd start this business. I'd do a nonprofit.

They could come up with them like right away. And then I'm like, good news. Yeah, good news. Your thing is in there somewhere. And then we try to take those nine and talk about which ones they have the most energy for. Who are they going to meet along the way? How are they going to grow? I mean, a great example is a student of mine. One of their lives is the thing they did before school.

They could come up with them like right away. And then I'm like, good news. Yeah, good news. Your thing is in there somewhere. And then we try to take those nine and talk about which ones they have the most energy for. Who are they going to meet along the way? How are they going to grow? I mean, a great example is a student of mine. One of their lives is the thing they did before school.

They were going to be a convertible bond salesperson. Life number three was run a business. And as they started learning, how are they going to grow and learn? The convertible bond one wasn't as interesting, even though they were going to make more money doing that initially.

They were going to be a convertible bond salesperson. Life number three was run a business. And as they started learning, how are they going to grow and learn? The convertible bond one wasn't as interesting, even though they were going to make more money doing that initially.

You can dig into those nine lives and then it's just a lower stakes way to kind of get them to something they're passionate about. And the secret is you can have all nine at some point in your life, just not all at the same time. And then other questions, we do visualizations, which you go out 20 years and we spend some real time in this.

You can dig into those nine lives and then it's just a lower stakes way to kind of get them to something they're passionate about. And the secret is you can have all nine at some point in your life, just not all at the same time. And then other questions, we do visualizations, which you go out 20 years and we spend some real time in this.

You're meeting your future self 20 years from now and your future self has just been incredibly successful and everything's worked out and you really spend some time on like, what does that look like? And then you come back and say, well, what advice did that future self have for you now?

You're meeting your future self 20 years from now and your future self has just been incredibly successful and everything's worked out and you really spend some time on like, what does that look like? And then you come back and say, well, what advice did that future self have for you now?

The advice is always go do this thing or, hey, relax, it's going to work out or don't stress about these things. We do exercises like that. Some of the key questions are, what would you do if you knew you wouldn't fail? Relaxing the how, not worrying about how to get there, the nine lives, you know, there's a whole bunch of those.

The advice is always go do this thing or, hey, relax, it's going to work out or don't stress about these things. We do exercises like that. Some of the key questions are, what would you do if you knew you wouldn't fail? Relaxing the how, not worrying about how to get there, the nine lives, you know, there's a whole bunch of those.

Incredibly powerful. And I'm curious how you've learned to administer them. Do you personally have to do it one-on-one with the student or is it more scalable than that?

Incredibly powerful. And I'm curious how you've learned to administer them. Do you personally have to do it one-on-one with the student or is it more scalable than that?

It's both. So there's a lot we can do in the class and then they can break out into groups and do some one-on-one stuff. Earlier in the quarter, I have a class just on coaching where they learn how to be like a good enough executive coach for each other. We have a whole class on that. So then throughout the quarter, when they have to coach each other, they have some core skills.

It's both. So there's a lot we can do in the class and then they can break out into groups and do some one-on-one stuff. Earlier in the quarter, I have a class just on coaching where they learn how to be like a good enough executive coach for each other. We have a whole class on that. So then throughout the quarter, when they have to coach each other, they have some core skills.

So I can do that for an entire group. And then I do tons of one-on-one meetings. My one-on-one meetings are typically, they're almost always the same. The student comes in and says, they ask the same question, which is like, what should I do with my life? Number one question I get asked. Great question. And then they say, okay, I have path A and I have path B and I'm torn.

So I can do that for an entire group. And then I do tons of one-on-one meetings. My one-on-one meetings are typically, they're almost always the same. The student comes in and says, they ask the same question, which is like, what should I do with my life? Number one question I get asked. Great question. And then they say, okay, I have path A and I have path B and I'm torn.

I spend a few minutes with them asking some questions. In 10 minutes, it's clear that their heart wants to do B, but their head's talking them out of it. And A is the kind of safe thing. And then we just spend the rest of the time trying to unpack how they can do A in a lower risk way and that sort of thing. And that's the framework I use in the class as well.

I spend a few minutes with them asking some questions. In 10 minutes, it's clear that their heart wants to do B, but their head's talking them out of it. And A is the kind of safe thing. And then we just spend the rest of the time trying to unpack how they can do A in a lower risk way and that sort of thing. And that's the framework I use in the class as well.