Graham Weaver

It was really cool. I just got done reading the stories that Dan Gable, is that the guy's name?

It was really cool. I just got done reading the stories that Dan Gable, is that the guy's name?

Yeah, he's incredible.

Yeah, he's incredible.

What is it about wrestling? Like it seems, we'll talk about rowing too, which I know you did a lot of as well. What is it about, maybe those two are similar, the extreme nature of those sports? It seems like it has a lot to teach, maybe even more so than other sports.

What is it about wrestling? Like it seems, we'll talk about rowing too, which I know you did a lot of as well. What is it about, maybe those two are similar, the extreme nature of those sports? It seems like it has a lot to teach, maybe even more so than other sports.

Dan Gable is one of my favorites. He has a great quote. He says, once you've wrestled, everything in life is easy. I think that's dead on. It's dead on. So I think that wrestling is just the most primal sport. In our high school, wrestling was a big sport in the Midwest, in Ohio. They would turn a mat light on. The gym would be packed. People are yelling and screaming. There's a mat light on.

Dan Gable is one of my favorites. He has a great quote. He says, once you've wrestled, everything in life is easy. I think that's dead on. It's dead on. So I think that wrestling is just the most primal sport. In our high school, wrestling was a big sport in the Midwest, in Ohio. They would turn a mat light on. The gym would be packed. People are yelling and screaming. There's a mat light on.

The lights are off in the whole arena. And it's just you and one other person. And you're trying to defeat the other person. I mean, it's crazy. It's a pretty intense sport. And then the weight loss and the training and everything. Hardest thing I ever did. I think it's something about just the primal nature of that.

The lights are off in the whole arena. And it's just you and one other person. And you're trying to defeat the other person. I mean, it's crazy. It's a pretty intense sport. And then the weight loss and the training and everything. Hardest thing I ever did. I think it's something about just the primal nature of that.

Can you say maybe one degree more about this idea that you can just choose? Sounds so simple, but I've experienced that same thing. And every time I do it, I'm amazed how powerful it can be. But I want to understand the contours of it from your perspective. What does that mean? What does it feel like to choose? What do you choose? What was the process? Whatever else you can say about this.

Can you say maybe one degree more about this idea that you can just choose? Sounds so simple, but I've experienced that same thing. And every time I do it, I'm amazed how powerful it can be. But I want to understand the contours of it from your perspective. What does that mean? What does it feel like to choose? What do you choose? What was the process? Whatever else you can say about this.

The first thing I'd say is that if you watch most people, they're kind of asleep or unconscious. I am too sometimes. Imagine you get up, whatever your routine is, you brush your teeth, you get ready for work, you commute to work, you have a tough commute, you get to work, you have a couple of meetings.

The first thing I'd say is that if you watch most people, they're kind of asleep or unconscious. I am too sometimes. Imagine you get up, whatever your routine is, you brush your teeth, you get ready for work, you commute to work, you have a tough commute, you get to work, you have a couple of meetings.

Some Zoom calls, then you eat, then you return some emails, you have a few more meetings, you get home, return some emails, watch some Netflix, go to bed. There's all this busyness. You're just kind of doing today what you did yesterday. You're doing tomorrow what you did today. And you're stringing together that and calling it a life. So there's this real level of unconsciousness about it.

Some Zoom calls, then you eat, then you return some emails, you have a few more meetings, you get home, return some emails, watch some Netflix, go to bed. There's all this busyness. You're just kind of doing today what you did yesterday. You're doing tomorrow what you did today. And you're stringing together that and calling it a life. So there's this real level of unconsciousness about it.

So the first part is step back. And just make space. And I do this with an executive coach. You can do this with a journal. You can do it with a friend. But just step back and just make space and then ask really powerful questions in that time. My favorite question of all time is, what would you do if you knew you wouldn't fail? I'll actually build it up a little bit better.

So the first part is step back. And just make space. And I do this with an executive coach. You can do this with a journal. You can do it with a friend. But just step back and just make space and then ask really powerful questions in that time. My favorite question of all time is, what would you do if you knew you wouldn't fail? I'll actually build it up a little bit better.

On one of the audio tapes I heard, this guy said, okay, imagine there's this genie that comes out of this magic lamp and he says to you, hey, Patrick, I've only been in here like a thousand years, so I can't give you the traditional three wishes. But what I can give you is that whatever you throw yourself into with your career, your life, vocation, like it's going to work out amazingly well.

On one of the audio tapes I heard, this guy said, okay, imagine there's this genie that comes out of this magic lamp and he says to you, hey, Patrick, I've only been in here like a thousand years, so I can't give you the traditional three wishes. But what I can give you is that whatever you throw yourself into with your career, your life, vocation, like it's going to work out amazingly well.