Harley Finkelstein

I don't know if it's biological.

I'm not sure whether it's my amygdala or my lizard brain, but reflexively, I go into problem-solving mode.

It feels like that's what I'm supposed to do.

And

Eight out of 10 times, it's not what she wants.

And so because I know that I'm bad at that, we've created these, you know, our version of mnemonic devices, which is like, I now ask her, do you want me to solve this problem?

Or do you want me to just listen?

And almost always she just wants me to listen.

So, in the opposite of like, you know, someone asked me a question on a topic and I can go on a tangent about a story, I actually have to spend a lot of time moving from my amygdala to my prefrontal cortex.

Um, often what I realize is my reflex with my, with Bailey and Zoe is often the wrong thing.

Bailey tells me about a problem.

I go in solution mode.

And what Lindsay will often say is that's not what she was asking you to do.

She just wanted to be heard or she was looking for your advice or she wasn't looking for you to solve the problem for her.

So that journey, I think I'm, I am, um,

I'm not at the sort of escape velocity yet with those two things that I want to get good at.

Um, when I was younger, he used to play street fighter and street fighter.

Uh, when you pick your character, you basically pick a character for two reasons.

One is based on appearance.

You want the big character, you want the small character, you want the, you know, the woman or the man or whatever the character might be.