Harley Finkelstein

I was too young to fully have the maturity to know what this all meant.

And I think a lot of people talk about, you know, how trauma in their lives dictate the rest of their lives.

I think the moment, actually, there's an apartment not too far from here on the corner of Dr. Penfield and Peel.

There's an apartment in that building.

I think it's apartment 405.

where there's probably not there anymore, but there was a hole in the wall where after my mother called me to tell me my dad was arrested, I took the phone and threw it against the wall and dented the wall.

We can sort of get into what happened after that, but if you sort of fast forward today, my dad's back in my life.

I have a great relationship with him.

I think like a lot of people that are of my vintage, I'm 41, you do begin around this stage of life to realize

have this epiphany or at least this realization that like the relationship of parent and child flips a little bit.

In some ways, I feel like I'm sort of the parent to my parents now.

I wasn't ready for that.

That sort of came out of nowhere.

My parents turned 70 and it just something to be changed.

But my relationship with my dad is loving and I have deep admiration for the life he's given me.

But certainly, I think some of the trauma he sustained from being an immigrant, from being the child of Holocaust survivors, I've adopted that through his experiences, but also to the fact that at 17 years old, the rug I pulled from me, and I was forced to basically grow up overnight.

I remember we moved to South Florida in 1996 or 95 or so.

I was around 12 years old.

The area we moved into, it was in Boca Raton, Florida in Palm Beach County.

Boca is well known as being a fairly wealthy area, but we were not wealthy.