Hillary McVeigh

People will see it as an expansion.

People will see it as an evolution.

And as well with the weird piece, it's like, you know, what we're talking about here on this podcast, yes, we can objectively say or subjectively based on societal norms that this is different types of conversation.

But the weird ones are the ones that moved us forward and that we look back and think of legends.

In their time, they may have been against the grave and talking differently, but this is the type of person that I would like to be.

And it comes more and more normalized.

To me, it's not even weird anymore.

And so it's not about giving your body a false sense of security.

It's creating safety in your nervous system.

And we need to acknowledge why letting go feels so hard, even when we know it.

If you've known something was complete, but you still couldn't move, it's not because you're weak, it's not because you're blocked, you're human.

Letting go activates the nervous system.

Because to the nervous system, familiar equals safe.

And the unknown equals danger.

So we can love on that part, because even if it feels familiar and it's draining, even if it feels familiar and it's shrinking you, even if it feels familiar and no longer fits who you're becoming, the nervous system will try and cling on.

And the Buddhists say that attachment creates suffering.

Attachment creates suffering, because when you attach, you are no longer in relationship with life, you're in relationship and control with your mind, and you're trying to go against something that is impossible in our world.

And what that sets you up for is disappointment.

Because when you have an expectation of this will never change, or I can never change, or they can never change, or this has to stay the same, or this has to stay the same amount of success.

And when it doesn't, you think you're a failure.