Hillary McVeigh

That's actually your initiation to not be a people pleaser, to have strong boundaries, to be very clear of what your role is for other people and to not self-sacrifice.

But she didn't realize that story meant she was pushing away clients.

I was also speaking with another woman who was saying that they were doing a lot of change in the backend.

And she was saying how she'd had a really slow month in her business.

And I asked her, how would it feel if you actually did have lots of people coming into your business as it is when you're doing all this background work?

You know, she was changing all the systems in her company.

And she said, oh, actually, I wouldn't have liked them coming in because it was all really disorganized.

I really didn't want, I wouldn't want the old onboarding to be there.

I said, exactly.

You were subconsciously, beautifully, saying, like, don't come into this space.

Don't sign up right now.

And so just with that perspective shift, she was starting to realize, oh, there's nothing actually wrong with the business.

We just needed a period to come inward and to reassess and to realign our back end.

And then, you know, within that day, she had eight new people sign up.

All the back end had been all sorted out.

They had all the new systems.

And so imagine if she just knew that while she was going through that, rather than stressing about it, rather than getting worried, rather than being in fight or flight.

And so we could get really clear of like, yeah, is this, are we push pulling with the universe?

Are we saying we want one thing, but then pushing it away?

Because we feel that we don't have the capacity.