Holly Wainwright

This is a result of a natural dynamic that occurs.

But this is why you're, this is exactly what this, this is exactly what Lena Dunham is saying, is that is the correct way to do it.

Is you go, I expect...

Why?

Not like literally, as I say, it doesn't literally mean you have to do X, Y, Z around the house or X, Y, Z for me every day.

But I expect this level of giving.

And the thing is, is that a lot of relationships, you just slip into being the one who's doing that.

Women, and this is obviously we're generalizing in gender terms here, but it is very often women, they go on to say women are almost programmed to over deliver a lot.

So like if you love somebody, you like lavish them with things.

Let me do that for you.

Let me look after you like that.

And a lot of people get a lot of fulfillment for that.

But then sometimes you just turn around and go, but hold on.

No.

Double tricked.

You've been double tricked.

I love it because I reckon I've got a tendency to be an SPS too.

I've got a tendency towards SPS too.

Like if I'm, oh, poor me, I'm tired, I'm busy, blah, blah, blah.

I couldn't possibly, can you do blah, blah, blah.