Inyash Brodsky

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yeah i guess that that was a thing that like it jumped out at me that i i think this is true don't you find this to be the case that sex rewrites the boundary of self especially like i don't know it it seems to loosen the boundary a bit at at the the time of having sex and then it resettles into a place which is often similar to where it was before but sometimes you know maybe maybe not quite um yeah i think so i mean i guess it's not exactly sure i'm trying to skim at the context of it uh

Yeah, it's part of how many sacred ceremonies or initiation ceremonies, at least in the past, I guess probably not so much anymore, included sex.

okay well yeah i guess i guess my question was like but why and we didn't get around to asking because the episode was so long anyway and honestly i don't know if if he would have even had an answer it just seems like one of those things that like has major effects on our on on our psyche yeah and that's interesting and and i don't know why that should be i i mean it doesn't seem like there's any good case for why it should be but it it does seem to

No, maybe that is what it is.

That it is the flow state that you share with someone else and like...

Feeding back and forth between, you know, between her state and your state and and reacting to each other and making something together like that in not in a fully conscious way, but in a flow steady way that if you manage to hit the rhythm just right does harken back to that ancient time.

And oftentimes there's like a flood of hormones afterwards, which also helps resettle things.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

What was the second part?

The second part said, why is this easier for women?

And I'm not sure what this is.

Of getting into that state with sex.

It seems that like women have a much easier time of becoming lost in a sex flow state than men do.

I didn't know that.

Well, okay.

So I have had quite a few women partners that I've actually gotten into flow state like that with.

I've had a handful of, right?

So I have a more than N of one for women, but I only have an N of one for men, which is myself.

And it seems to me that it's easier for women to find that flow state and lose themselves in it than it is for me.