Israa Nasir

If I know what I'm going to get because I'm controlling for it through all of these perfectionist tendencies, then I have a very concrete path. So helping people get comfortable in uncertainty is really helpful in that.

So in the book, I talk about these concepts in discrete chapters. There's like perfectionism, the inner critic, there's social comparison, shame. But the truth is like overlap because human beings are more complex than a series of chapters. And so you're right. These things are definitely very connected.

So in the book, I talk about these concepts in discrete chapters. There's like perfectionism, the inner critic, there's social comparison, shame. But the truth is like overlap because human beings are more complex than a series of chapters. And so you're right. These things are definitely very connected.

So in the book, I talk about these concepts in discrete chapters. There's like perfectionism, the inner critic, there's social comparison, shame. But the truth is like overlap because human beings are more complex than a series of chapters. And so you're right. These things are definitely very connected.

Social comparison is like I mentioned earlier, it's like an evolutionary mechanism that is meant to keep us safe. But right now it's an overdrive because we have access to a lot of information the way we didn't have before at all. So we just have more data points to compare ourselves against.

Social comparison is like I mentioned earlier, it's like an evolutionary mechanism that is meant to keep us safe. But right now it's an overdrive because we have access to a lot of information the way we didn't have before at all. So we just have more data points to compare ourselves against.

Social comparison is like I mentioned earlier, it's like an evolutionary mechanism that is meant to keep us safe. But right now it's an overdrive because we have access to a lot of information the way we didn't have before at all. So we just have more data points to compare ourselves against.

And it's interesting, like the research shows, we don't compare ourselves to people who are very different from us. we actually compare ourselves to the people around us. We compare ourselves to our peers in our community because whatever they've achieved is also likely possible for us because we're in the same community.

And it's interesting, like the research shows, we don't compare ourselves to people who are very different from us. we actually compare ourselves to the people around us. We compare ourselves to our peers in our community because whatever they've achieved is also likely possible for us because we're in the same community.

And it's interesting, like the research shows, we don't compare ourselves to people who are very different from us. we actually compare ourselves to the people around us. We compare ourselves to our peers in our community because whatever they've achieved is also likely possible for us because we're in the same community.

And what that does is it actually takes you further and further away from what matters to you. And so you compare yourself to other people and you see the standard that is set. And if you're a perfectionist, you'll want to meet that standard exactly as is or exceed it. But a lot of times, those standards are not our own.

And what that does is it actually takes you further and further away from what matters to you. And so you compare yourself to other people and you see the standard that is set. And if you're a perfectionist, you'll want to meet that standard exactly as is or exceed it. But a lot of times, those standards are not our own.

And what that does is it actually takes you further and further away from what matters to you. And so you compare yourself to other people and you see the standard that is set. And if you're a perfectionist, you'll want to meet that standard exactly as is or exceed it. But a lot of times, those standards are not our own.

When we define goals based on comparing ourselves to other people, they are not our goals. Those are not our goals, right? We might think that they're our goals, but they're goals that we inherited, that we learned. And one of the case studies in the book is about a man who is really taking this productivity lens to his romantic life.

When we define goals based on comparing ourselves to other people, they are not our goals. Those are not our goals, right? We might think that they're our goals, but they're goals that we inherited, that we learned. And one of the case studies in the book is about a man who is really taking this productivity lens to his romantic life.

When we define goals based on comparing ourselves to other people, they are not our goals. Those are not our goals, right? We might think that they're our goals, but they're goals that we inherited, that we learned. And one of the case studies in the book is about a man who is really taking this productivity lens to his romantic life.

And he's utilizing this optimization mindset as a way to get into a romantic relationship. And eventually in our work together, like we realized that, this idea that he needs to be in a relationship by X time was something that just came from his family. And he wasn't even sure why he wanted a relationship. He wasn't sure what he would be like in a relationship.

And he's utilizing this optimization mindset as a way to get into a romantic relationship. And eventually in our work together, like we realized that, this idea that he needs to be in a relationship by X time was something that just came from his family. And he wasn't even sure why he wanted a relationship. He wasn't sure what he would be like in a relationship.

And he's utilizing this optimization mindset as a way to get into a romantic relationship. And eventually in our work together, like we realized that, this idea that he needs to be in a relationship by X time was something that just came from his family. And he wasn't even sure why he wanted a relationship. He wasn't sure what he would be like in a relationship.

He wasn't sure what his values were in a relationship, what he brought to the relationship, what he wanted in a partner. Like these things were things that he just had never thought about. And he just inherited this checklist because he was comparing himself to other people in his community and his family. So it can really disconnect you from your life.