James Arthur Ray
Appearances
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Creating a Legacy of Hope: Dr. Abraham George on Educating India’s Underrepresented | EP 550
I was supposedly worth north of $20 million. I had a 7,500 square foot estate in Beverly Hills. I had all the accoutrements and they were gone like that. Just like that. And so what value do they have? They don't. Everything in this world is transitory. The only thing that has true and lasting value are those things which can never be lost or taken. And those things are not ever outside.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Creating a Legacy of Hope: Dr. Abraham George on Educating India’s Underrepresented | EP 550
They're inside. If it can be lost or taken, it has use value. You can use them and enjoy them. but they don't have any intrinsic value. I got carried away with all the fame and the success to a degree and I got sucked into the system and I had to step back.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Creating a Legacy of Hope: Dr. Abraham George on Educating India’s Underrepresented | EP 550
When I was standing in the desert, homeless and alone and $20 million in debt in 2013, I had to do a deep dive and say, what's James Arthur Ray 3.0
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
Yeah. I wasn't a real attractive prospect when she met me and we, and by the way, we weren't a couple initially either, but she worked with me for three years before we started to get romantically involved. We have our five-year wedding anniversary next month, which we've been together 13 years though. And so she said, I want to work with you. And I said, well, here's the situation.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
Basically, I was $20 million in debt. I was homeless. I'd just gotten out of prison. I was in horrible physical condition, John. And I was alone. I obviously wasn't with Bearseville yet. And And I was sleeping on mom's couch. So not a real attractive prospect.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
And it's funny because we've done a lot of podcasts and some of them are about relationships and we've had relationship specialists say to bears, but why tell women don't go for that guy. But she saw something in me that I really didn't see in myself at the time. I, I was really broken and I was really angry and,
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
I had been on the brunt end of the weaponization of the legal system, which we're seeing happening in our world now today. And so consequently, I really wanted nothing to do with the industry that I had come from because they were the most hateful, quite frankly.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
The spiritual people, so-called spiritual people, so-called personal development people, were the most hateful, most attacking, most non-accepting group of people, all kinds of horrific comments and stabbing in the back. And everyone that I knew and wanted to share the stage with me or wanted to joint venture with me, you would know the names.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
quote the names and I won't, but none of them even sent me a text message to say how you're doing or any of those things, which is very telling. And so I was bitter. I was quite bitter. And I didn't want anything to do with personal performance or anything even close to that. And so it's been a long road back, John. It's been a very long road back. And yet through God's grace, I've healed.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
And Beersheba has been a big part of that, certainly. And we've healed each other. We've worked with each other. for 13 years now, and it is work. It's work, but it's worth it. It's not something that you can do just quickly and easily when you have a lot of trauma and a lot of disruption in your life. But two things I really learned through my whole situation, two primary things.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
There's a myriad of things, but two primary things I've learned is that you have to have a great relationship with God and you have to believe in that and have faith in that, irrespective. And then secondly, you have to know who you are. apart from what anyone else thinks, that's self-awareness.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
You have to be able to take the hits and take the haters because that's what happens in today's world is haters hate. And it's unfortunate, but you have to be willing to take that and to say, I know who I am, regardless, I know who I am. I'll just say this and then I'll throw it back to you, John. But when I decided to finally come back and start working in leadership and performance,
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
Then I told my mom and she said, son, why would God rest her soul? She's gone now. But she said, why would you do that? After all you've been through, they're going to come at you and they're going to hate on you and they're going to attack you. And I said, I know. And I just was quiet. And she said, so why do you want to do it? And I didn't answer. And she said, I know why.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
You don't have a choice, do you? And I said, no, I really don't. Obviously, we always have a choice. But I feel like God has a plan for all of us. And that to the degree we're going to live a fulfilling life and a meaningful life, we have to follow that plan, no matter how hard it is.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
It's a really great question, John. I feel like I'm a better man today. I'm certainly, I do my best to be a great husband and to be the best human being I can possibly be. My intentions were always good. My methods were not always the best in retrospect, and I got carried away by what I'll call socialized mind. How we're conditioned in our world.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
is that all the, whatever names you named, and I was one of them, is that they're so hugely successful. Well, let me tell you something. I was supposedly worth north of $20 million. I had a 7,500 square foot estate in Beverly Hills. I had all the accoutrements and they were gone like that. Just like that. And so what value do they have? They don't. They don't.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
Everything in this world is transitory. The only thing that has true and lasting value are those things which can never be lost or taken. And those things are not ever outside, they're inside. If it can be lost or taken, it has use value. You can use them and enjoy them, but they don't have any intrinsic value.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
And so I got carried away with all the fame and the success to a degree, and I got sucked into the system and I had to step back. When I was standing in the desert, homeless and alone and $20 million in debt in 2013, I had to do a deep dive and say, what's James Arthur Ray 3.0 going to be? Which presupposes there was a 2.0 and a 1.0, which are different stories. But who is he going to be?
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
What's he going to be about? And I reflected back on my study of the great philosophers, and this is without exception. You look at Plato or Socrates or Seneca or Plotinus, name the name, not one of them. without exception, not one of them taught us how to make a lot of money. None of them told us to make a lot of money. They told us to live moral and virtuous and principled lives.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
And so that became my center. That became my focus. And I decided that's who I'm going to be. And if it brings worldly success, then that's up to God. That's not up to me. If it doesn't, then it doesn't. But I can lay my head down every single night and know that I've done my very best to do what God has sent me here to do.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
And then I've lived a moral life and a principle life and a virtuous life to the very best of my ability. Not to say I don't ever fall off. Of course, we all stumble and yet you get back up and you keep going. And that's my real focus now today. It's not about the fame and the fortune and the recognition and all those kinds of things.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
I ask a lot of our clients frequently, if you could do, and let me back up. A lot of people, particularly in younger generations, say, I want to make an impact. How many times have we heard that? I want to make a difference.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
And so I would ask the question, if you could make an impact, if you could truly make a difference in the world, but you got no recognition, no one knew who you were, you got no fame, you got no glamour, you got no big money, but you knew you were doing God's will, would you do it? Most people shy away from that. And so they really don't want to make a difference.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
What they want is to make a difference for themselves. And that's a very self-centric kind of approach. It's not an approach that wants to make a difference in other people's lives. It's an approach that I want to make a difference in my pocketbook, or I want to make a difference in my life. And maybe if I'm really magnanimous, maybe I want to do it for my family.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
I'll spread it out that far, but it doesn't really go much further than that. In my latest book, God, Money, and Sex, I talk about how we have come to the altar in our traditional world today of money and materialism. And those things have become our God. We worship money and we worship materialism. And that's one of the main reasons we're in the situations we're in right now.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
We're on the precipice of World War III, for God's sakes. How did we get here? We got here because look at all the people
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
who are in quote leadership who are on the take and they're just pursuing money and they're pursuing materialism and they're pursuing fame and they're pursuing fortune and we see it reported repeatedly not so much in the mainstream media because they keep it hush but nonetheless that's what's brought us to this precipice and we've got to get back to center we've got to get back to god and if i had not if i had not had that that incredible crash and burn
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
Which I'm grateful for. Believe it or not, I'm really grateful for it. I don't want to do it again. Don't get me wrong. But I am grateful for it because it woke me up and it got me back to what's truly important.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
I was supposedly worth north of $20 million. I had a 7,500 square foot estate in Beverly Hills. I had all the accoutrements and they were gone like that, just like that. And so what value do they have? They don't. Everything in this world is transitory. The only thing that has true and lasting value are those things which can never be lost or taken.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
There's always, there's a greater power that can come through you. than anything that can come from you. So what we work at, and we work, you ask about a relationship, we work hard at it. I mean, we work on it every bit as much as we do on our physical fitness and health, every bit as much as we do on our business. We make time and we focus on that.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
and like one thing one little ritual we have every single morning i get up at 3 a.m every day merce gets up at 3 30 she's a little bit of a slacker but nonetheless i have my morning prayer and meditation time and i do some stretching and she reads and i read the bible in the morning And then I come down from downstairs and we have our tea time. And it's not we don't have our phones.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
We're not doing have the TV on. We're not distracted. We have a conversation every single morning. We have a conversation every single dinner. We have dinner together. We don't have our phones. We don't have television on. We have a conversation and we make that sacred and we work on that every bit as much as we do on our business or on our health and fitness. It's all important.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
Everything counts. And when you do become that unit that she spoke of, then you are unstoppable because God is coming through you and it doesn't have to come from you. And hopefully that makes sense to you.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
It definitely does. When you hit rock bottom, It's a gift. It's a gift wrapped in pain and a gift wrapped in difficulty, but it's a gift because when you hit rock bottom, you finally are standing on a firm foundation from which to grow. And you get, I had seven foreclosures, which begs the question, why the heck did I have seven properties?
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
I mean, I had justified it all in my mind and it sure seemed right at the time, but I had all these things that got wiped off and my $20 million, I'm sorry, my $10 million went Inc. 500 company got destroyed. It went away. It took me 20 years to build it and it was gone like that.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
And yet there's some real great liberation in that because now, like you said, your friend mentioned brick by brick, I have nothing but blue sky to determine who am I going to be And what am I going to do in James Arthur Ray 3.0? And one of those things obviously includes Beersheba. And I wouldn't, I was a single guy living in a 7,500 square foot estate in Beverly Hills.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
What kind of sense does that make? It makes no sense. And I was on the road over 250 days a year. And I was only there on weekends, Saturday and Sunday, I was in my home and then I was off on a plane Monday. And running around the country and around the world. And so if God wanted me to do that again, then I'm certainly open to whatever God's plan is.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
And yet life is very different now and I wouldn't trade it. I wouldn't trade it for anything. I wouldn't go back for anything because I've been given a great gift and I've been able to rebuild and you have to keep the faith and you have to keep moving forward and you have to realize why you're doing what you're doing. deeply be honest with yourself about that.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
And then God can work through you and you can do whatever you're here to do. And you can find that
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
I think it was inspiration. I really love the word inspiration because the prefix in from the Latin means to be. So in spiritus is to be filled with spirit. And I was inspired with that title. a long time ago, as you mentioned. And yet I'm really grateful. Let me back up and I'll tell you another story that's similar. I visualized being on the Oprah Winfrey show for two decades, two decades.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
When I was home, working from home, I would turn on the television when she had her show and I would watch her asking questions of other people. And I would pretend that I was on the couch and I was answering the questions. I didn't do it every day. But I held that vision for two decades. And then I eventually got on the Oprah Winfrey show a couple of times.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
And what I realized, John, is that if I had gotten on and there was a lot of times when I was frustrated, I was like, I've held this vision for so long. I'm working so hard. And why is it not coming through? And then when I got there, I realized it's perfect because if I had been there when I thought I wanted to be there, I wouldn't have been ready.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
I wouldn't have had the same information, the same knowledge, the same experience. And the same is true with God, money and sex. When I got inspired to write that, if I had written that book back then, It wouldn't have been the same book. That was 2006.
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James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
It wouldn't have been the same book because what I talk about in God, Money and Sex are a lot of current events that have unfolded for us here in America and in the world since 2020. And obviously those things weren't happening in 2006. And so I realized it was all in divine timing. And God's timing is always divine timing.
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And so that's where you have to have faith and you have to just keep the vision and keep moving forward. But it had been burning inside of me and it was just perfect. I mean, when I wrote it, it was truly inspired and it just flowed. And so I'm really grateful that I didn't write it in 2006. My agent shut me down and she was absolutely right in doing that.
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James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
And Harmonic Wealth was a New York Times bestseller that was the right book for the right time.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
Well, I'm a big Joseph Campbell fan, so thank you for bringing him up. Mythology is the history, it's not literal history per se, it's the history of the human soul. And so these great myths that he talks so much about, and he did all this research, as you well know, across many traditions. And I do talk about that. The subtitle of my book, God, Money, and Sex,
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James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
is understanding and mastering the three human dilemmas. And we submit to you that God, money, and sex are the three most major human dilemmas in our world. There have been more wars and more injustice committed in the name of God than any other reason. money, it creates some of the greatest fear and pain. It's one of the biggest reasons that we have disconnects in relationships.
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James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
And sex is taboo for so many people. It's bastardized and it's become completely animalistic. And I say that sex is an acronym for sacred energy exchange. It's meant to be between a married, committed couple, and it's not meant for physical pleasure. God gave us the gift of it being pleasing, but it's meant for two things. It's meant for reproduction, to be able to literally produce a human being.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
Think about how powerful that is. We've been told that we're created in the image and the likeness of God. Well, we can create a human being. with another person, that's pretty powerful, pretty profound. And the second reason is it's a form of meditation and prayer.
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James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
Now, I know that goes against a lot of people's mindset, particularly in an animalistic world where human trafficking and pedophilia and all these things are so rampant, unfortunately. And yet that's what that sacred act is meant for. And so we have totally missed the mark with these three human dilemmas.
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James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
Going all the way back, John, to probably the Enlightenment in the 17th century, which I really believe was in many ways a de-Enlightenment because it got us away from our intuition. It got us away from God. It started to make sense.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
And those things are not ever outside, they're inside. If it can be lost or taken, it has use value. You can use them and enjoy them, but they don't have any intrinsic value. I got carried away with all the fame and the success to a degree, and I got sucked into the system. I had to step back.
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James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
fun in some degree or make it stupid to believe in a higher power and we got all caught up in our rational mind and in our intellect and we're so caught up in our intellects now we want to boast about our sat scores and yet you can be you can have 150 sat score and be an emotional slave There's a lot of very intelligent people who are emotional slaves. And so, yes, back to Campbell.
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James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
And as I mentioned earlier, we have begun to worship at the altar of money and materialism and intellect. And we've gotten so far away from what I call in God, money and sex, this vertical principle, which is a metaphor because Christ said the kingdom of heaven is within us. It's not somewhere in the clouds as we've been conditioned to believe it.
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But this vertical principle is a metaphor for this connectivity to a hierarchy, to a controlling force. And so consequently, all we have now is this horizontal principle that I talk about, which is the secular world. When you don't have a vertical principle, and you don't have a hierarchy of what's moral and what's right and what's true, then where do you learn what's moral, right, and true?
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James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
Well, on a secular world, a horizontal plane, you look at people around you and you say, what are they doing? And that's how I learned what's right and wrong. And that's what Beersheba talked about when she was growing up in gang behavior and in bad neighborhoods. She looked around and here's what's right and wrong. If you look at what's going on in our world right now,
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To tell the truth is not valued, John. You know, how many people have lied under oath in front of Congress and nothing has happened to them? Nothing. And so consequently, to tell the truth is not valued in our current world. In fact, in many cases, it's persecuted. Some cases it's been prosecuted. And that's really unfortunate. And that's where we've gotten so far adrift.
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And Campbell is absolutely correct. And he talks so much about getting back what we call getting back to center and getting back to what these ancient myths have told us since antiquity. And they're all very common. Just like I told you, I mentioned earlier about the great philosophers, very common teachings, but they've become very unpopular, unfortunately.
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Ludicrous.
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I'll take this one. I'm probably more qualified than Baris, but I think we are direly in need of masculinity. Masculinity is leadership. Masculinity is courage. Masculinity has so many different qualities not to fold in the face of fear, to get back up when you fall down or get knocked down. That's true masculinity. And unfortunately, this term toxic masculinity has been misused.
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Now, there is some, in my opinion, if you look at, and I could name some names and I probably won't, but if you look at certain individuals who are attempting to be masculine, they're saying you need to put a log on your shoulder and run up a mountain. Well, that's machismo. That's not masculinity.
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Or you need to become an MMA fighter and mouth off and curse and say all kinds of loud things to your opponent. That's machismo. That's not masculinity. True masculinity is a man who takes care and treats his woman like a queen. Really does. And he looked people in the eye. Look people in the eye when you talk to them.
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And that seems so simple, and yet I can't tell you how many younger generations, when I talk to them, they have no ability to look you in the eye because they have no self-confidence. And get off of your iPad, for God's sakes. Go to the gym. Lift some heavy weights. And that sounds very simplistic, but that's all part of being a man. Eat a lot of meat. No tofu. Eat meat. Eat cheese. Eat butter.
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Yes. Read the great philosophers and study the great philosophers. Read the Bible. and study this ancient wisdom. And that's true masculinity. And we're sorely missing that in today's world.
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Well, it's a great question because our company name is Harmonic Wealth Global. And let me just explain that if I may, humor me for a moment, because most people think wealth is defined as money. If you trace the etymology of the word wealth back to its origins, it literally translates as wellbeing.
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I've worked with so many people we have who make a tremendous amount of money and they're not wealthy because they don't have a lot of wellbeing. And so consequently at our company, Harmonic Wealth Global, one of the things that we're really committed to is creating independent thinkers. So thank you for the question.
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And we have four primary practices that we talk about to become an independent thinker. And Bersaba already alluded to a couple of them earlier, but let me go through them real quickly. Number one, which Beresford talked extensively about, you have to take absolute responsibility for your life.
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When I was standing in the desert, $20 million in debt and homeless, I had to ask myself, how did I create this? So many times I ask people, do you like the way that our country is going right now? And they say, no, I really don't. And I say, well, how did you create it? Well, I didn't create it. I'm not in government. I don't have any power. Oh, yes, you did. How long have you been complacent?
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How long have you been too comfortable? How long have you been asleep at the wheel? Did you vote? Yes, you contributed to it and you created it. And to the degree we take absolute responsibility, it's a hard pill to swallow. But only when you take absolute responsibility can you begin to think clearly. And do you have the power to change anything? Number two.
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is you have to become self-aware how do you become self-aware well you ask yourself some really poignant questions and you have to be very honest about the answers there's no value in lying to yourself why do i value what i value why do i think what i think why do i like what i like why do i dislike what i dislike and if you're really honest what you'll recognize is that most of the things you think you value are not even your values
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Most of the things you think you want or something that's been handed to you from an outside source has been conditioned into you by society. And that's what Verstappen called the controlling narrative. This controlling narrative tells us what we should value. If I were to ask you, if you would rather, if I give you a free watch and you could have a Rolex or a Timex, what would you take?
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Well, most people would say a Rolex, just like that. Well, why? Why would you take the Rolex? Well, it's more valuable. Why is it more valuable? How do you know it's more valuable? Well, it costs more. Well, why does it cost more? Break it down. Well, it's finer craftsmanship. Are you sure about that? Because I've had a Rolex and every time it breaks, it costs a fortune to fix it.
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James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
If you have a Timex, you can either just buy another one or you can get it fixed very inexpensively. And at the end of the day, they both tell time. Well, the reason you want it is because of what you think people are going to think about you. It's about an image that it's going to portray. And so is it really what you want or is it something you've been conditioned into? That's self-awareness.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
Number three, did you want to say something, John?
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
Okay. So we have absolute responsibility. We have self-awareness, asking critical questions. Number three, it seems like a venture from the first two. Clean up your diet. Clean up your diet. Fluoride in the water calcifies the pineal gland. That's a fact. And the pineal gland is the gateway to the divine. We know that. It's our connectivity to God. We have so many toxins and so many chemicals.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
If you go back to the sweat lodge where three people lost their lives, broke my heart, what the medical evidence proved, 4,000 pages of medical evidence proved that it was pesticides that caused the death. But they came after me, even though the property used pesticides. Pesticides in the human system are toxic. Well, our vegetables and all our beef are full of pesticides. Clean up your diet.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
Quit eating garbage. Because so many times we've heard the little memes, John. We've heard change your thinking, change your world. What you think about comes about. Boy, that sounds so nice, doesn't it? But if your brain is toxic, you can't think clearly. You can't change your thinking if your brain is toxic and full of toxins. And so clean up your diet, exercise.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
So that means you're operating on 5% of your cognitive capacity, your conscious mind, every single day. 95% is driven completely out of your awareness. What happens between birth and 14% is that we have these issues that happen, these traumas, these difficulties. We don't have the resources necessary to deal with them.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
And so we power through in some way, shape or fashion, and then we stuff them and we think they're gone. They're not gone. They're still there and they're still running behavior. And so those are the four ways you can become a critical thinker. And until you do those things, and it takes work, as we mentioned earlier, and it takes time, but it's worth it.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
Would you rather work to be free or would you work to be a slave? You're going to work regardless.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
Well, RFK Jr. says he's going to clean house. So hopefully when he gets into the health organization, he'll be able to do that.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
I'd love to. Do you want to take that?
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
Yeah, there's a whole podcast there, too.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
Two billion.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
I love the quote Ephesians 6.12, which Paul wrote to the Ephesians, obviously. And he says, we wrestle not against flesh and blood. We wrestle against principalities and powers, against the forces of evil, against spiritual wickedness in high places. And he could have written that today. We think we're in a war of evil. Republican versus Democrat.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
We think we're in a war of conservative versus liberal. We think we're in a war of communism versus capitalism. We're not in those wars. Those are effects. We're in a war of good versus evil. And every great tradition has told us this.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
has told us this time and again it talks about in the book of genesis and it gets glossed over a lot because our systems have failed us including our religious systems have completely failed us and yet in the book of genesis it talks about the sons of god came to earth and mated with the women of mankind. And they created bastard children called the Nephilim.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
And these Nephilim were giants, and they were evil forces. Now, you can't see these things, but you can feel them. And it talks about it in the book of Revelations. It talks about them in the book of Enoch, which was taken out of the Old Testament because it didn't conform to Jewish orthodoxy. It talks about it in the Gnostic traditions. They talk about the archons, which are these dark forces.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
And so modern science tells us that we live in a 5% universe. This third dimension of visible light is 5% of what exists in the entire universe. That means 95% of what exists we can't perceive because we don't have the sensory acuity to perceive it. And so you think if you can't touch it, taste it, smell it, that it doesn't exist. Well, you can't see oxygen either. It exists.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
Well, what originally drew me in the field, John, was that I grew up a very introverted, insecure, skinny, scrawny, bullied person. young man and I never fit in at school and never fit in anywhere. Quite frankly, I failed miserably at organized sports and those things are very important for a young individual.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
And so these forces of evil have literally indoctrinated us So many people. And there are those little voices we all hear. Oh, what's the big deal? Let's just have some drinks. What's the big deal? Let's just watch some kind of pornography. What's the big deal? Let's do this. Let's do that. Well, it is a big deal because everything counts. And that's the battle that we're in.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
And we have to get up every single day. And it goes back to masculinity. We have to fight. We have to fight against it because it's tempting and it's seductive. And it sucks us into the money and the materialism and everything we've talked about here already today, John.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
Yes, I'm going to have to piggyback on that. It's my answer. I love what's his name? Immanuel Kant says, if the truth kills them, let them die. I love that quote. If the truth kills them, let them die. I think we really need truth. We need to live for truth. We have to study the truth. We have to know the truth. We have to speak the truth.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
And the truth literally will set you free, but it doesn't mean it's going to be comfortable. You're going to have to be able to and going back to masculinity, and it's true for femininity as well, but you're going to have to be willing to take the hits.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
We've been shut down three times on social media because, and during COVID, because I was telling people to take vitamin D, vitamin C and zinc and get lots of sunshine and boost their immune system. And that didn't fit with community standards. And so they shut us down. Okay, that's a very small price to pay. And we came back and under a different auspice.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
So you're going to have to be willing to stand for what you believe in. If you won't stand for what you believe in, then you really don't know what you stand for.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
Well, if it's okay with you, we'd like to give a blueprint, a free gift to your viewers. Is that all right with you, John? Sure.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
Oh, did you? You can go to harmonicwealthglobal.com forward slash freedom. And we have a freedom blueprint there, which deals with these questions about God, money, and sex, and how you can do some introspection and for yourself on where you are with those things and what your opinions are and your positions are. And of course, our website is harmonicwealthglobal.com.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
Well, thanks for having us. God bless you, John. Keep doing great work.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
And so I thought I sequestered myself in my bedroom and thought if I could figure out how the universe worked, that I could figure out how my life worked and maybe I could turn my life around. And that's what drew me to begin to invest in myself and learn about myself. And as that started to unfold, then things started to get better.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
I mean, my career started to grow, my confidence started to grow and so many things started to unfold for me. And then I got a job, my formal career. corporate career was with AT&T School of Business. And I was a national sales trainer first for them. And then I became a C-suite consultant and I was teaching.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
When I was standing in the desert, homeless and alone and $20 million in debt in 2013, I had to do a deep dive and say, what's James Arthur Ray 3.0 going to be? Which presupposes there was a 2.0 and a 1.0, which are different stories. Who is he going to be? What's he going to be about?
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
I started teaching in front of the room and it just felt like it was the right thing to do. It really like I had a God given gift literally to do that. And so consequently,
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
It grew from there and I left AT&T in 92 and started off on my own, my own adventure as a consultant, originally doing culture change initiatives, which Percival and I still do with businesses and then moved into broader and broader arenas, started doing keynote appearances and doing a one-on-one intensive coaching and all those types of things. So it grew organically from there.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
Sure. I was on vision sandwiches and faith cookies for decades. It took me two decades to become an overnight success, quite frankly, John. And it was arduous. It was difficult. As an entrepreneur, any of your viewers will know that it's not an easy journey. And so I struggled and I scraped and I was really fighting and working for a long time and nothing seemed to be coming through.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
And then I was invited. I was part of a mastermind group that I was a founder of at the time. And a producer decided to come to one of our meetings and do some filming, she had a vision. for a documentary, which ended up being The Secret, and talked about the law of attraction. Now, the law of attraction was just a very small portion of everything that I taught and talked about.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
I really built my legs in business and consulting work and those kinds of things. And yet, I did talk a little bit about the law of attraction. I was invited to record, and they decided to only have a few of us be in that movie, and I was... blessed to be one of the ones that was chosen. And from there, everything really blew up in a good way for me.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
I was on Larry King numerous times, on Oprah numerous times, Today Show once a month for multiple months running, and Good morning, America. Everyone wanted a piece of me. And so everything really took off. And that was challenging too, quite frankly, because Napoleon Hill says all the way back in the fifties, there's a difference between wishing for something and being prepared to receive it.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
And I really wasn't prepared. The phone lines, I didn't have enough phone lines. I didn't have enough team members. I didn't have enough bandwidth for my computer systems. My server, my online server crashed when I went on to Larry King Live the first time. And so there was a lot of scrambling once again. Success has a lot of scrambling, a lot of difficulty that comes with it as well.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
And many people don't know that. They think, oh, well, this is great. Well, it's great, but it's also very difficult. And that's one of the things I believe we have to embrace and understand is we grow exponentially in the way we want to grow. Well, our challenges grow with us correspondingly. And so that's really what happened for me.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
And it continued to rise and continued to grow until I was involved in a horrible accident in 2009, which you may be familiar with, maybe a lot of your viewers are as well, because it went gangbusters on mainstream media.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
James and Bersabeh Ray on How to Master the 3 Human Dilemmas | EP 551
How many of your guests can say that, John? You're the third. Oh, really? Well, I'm not the only one. So. Oh, there you go. Yeah.